What is a ghost, after all, but a repressed memory, the past demanding to be heard in the present? What are dungeons and secret passages in fantastic castles if not the places in the human mind where the subconscious hides and our darkest secrets wait to be discovered?
Alfred Mac Adam, Introduction of Jane Austen’s Northanger Abbey
hello! I don’t know if anyone has already made a post about this before, but I just stumbled upon this app made specifically for when you’ve gone into a nonverbal anxiety attack!!!
it was made by Jeroen De Busser who is an autistic computer science student.
the app is really easy to use! all you do is open it and hand your phone to someone you need to communicate with during an attack but physically cannot, and it shows this cool little alert for the person to read, and then it takes them to an easy to use chat (that looks a lot like texting! except both of you are communicating using the same device).
the alert message is completely customizable and you can have it say whatever you need!
the app is called Emergency Chat and it’s available in the Apple Store and google play store.
I highly recommend it to anyone who might need it :)
OH MY GOD?!?!?? BOOST
That’s so bootiful!
thank you so much for this because i never know what to do when i cant talk to people and they just start trying to ask me questions and its really hard to force myself to say i cant talk and stuff. im definately getting this right now
to all my friends who need it
Yes! I have this on my phone :)
This really happened between me and my mother in my early 20’s.
Mom: So,what have you been doing?
Me: Well, I discovered a great massage place.
Mom: Massage? Well, isn’t that decadent.
Mom: Yes. You’re too young to get massages.
Me: Too young? It helps me be healthier.
Mom: Mmmmhmmm. But you don’t deserve it.
Me: Deserve it? You have to deserve massage?
Mom: Well, you’re just to young. You haven’t lived long enough to earn the privilege.
Me: Massage isn’t a privilege, it’s a kind of medicine that benefits the health of anyone.
Mom: Well I never got a massage when I was your age.
Mom: Well, you just don’t deserve them yet. You have to earn them by living longer.
Me: You’re just going to keep repeating yourself, aren’t you?
Mom: Don’t you talk to me that way.
*I laugh and she looks more offended than ever*
Me: You’re aware I’m an adult now, yes?
Mom: You still have to respect me.
Me: Tell you what, I’ll respect you when you’ve earned it.
She didn’t think that last part was funny or amusing in any way. But I’m still cracking up. 🤣😂🤣
Using my mother’s own logic against her and knowing I can do so because I’m an adult is one of the most satisfying feelings I’ve ever experienced
I did this with a family relative once.They were not happy that I can think for myself.
Me: Am I still cracking up?
Also me: Why yes, yes I am.
This is still one of my favorite posts on tumblr
I am so proud of you for doing this
It’s an important message for parents too. If you want your kids to respect you, earn it. Be someone worthy of their respect. Otherwise, when they’re older, they won’t anymore.
Under no circumstances is it okay to call your kid stupid
Under no circumstances is it okay to call your kid lazy
Under no circumstances is it okay to call your kid ugly
Under no circumstances is it okay to call your kid worthless
Under no circumstances is it okay to call your kid idiot
Under no circumstances is it okay to call your kid fat
Under no circumstances is it okay to make fun of your kids gender
Under no circumstances is it okay to make fun of your kids sexuality
Under no circumstances is it okay to make fun of your kids grades
Under no circumstances is it okay to make fun of your kids hobbies
Under no circumstances is it okay to make fun of your kids mental illness
Under no circumstances is it okay to make fun of your kid or call them names
Delusional is a neutral descriptor.
Psychotic is a neutral descriptor.
Narcissistic is a neutral descriptor.
The only reason you see those as inherently negative descriptors is because society demonizes people who fit those descriptors. There is nothing inherently threatening about delusional, psychotic, and narcissistic people.
Seizure First Aid.
Learn it. Share it. Know it. Use it.
100% correct medical information on tumblr for once; also consider calling 911 if you don’t know how often the person has seizures and ESPECIALLY if the seizure has lasted 5 minutes or more (which is why the watch is critical)
I have epilepsy so making sure the word is out on how to help people who do have seizures means a lot to me.
Has it ever occurred to empaths that people who have NPD and ASPD have endured abuse involving being yelled at, mocked and hurt for lacking empathy or showing their symptoms and attacking us for showing those symptoms reminds us of our abuse?
Do you idiots think we came out of the womb antisocial or narcissistic? Do you think we have low empathy because we want to?
We have it because all the pain and suffering we endured caused our brain to shut down, it said “no more hurting” and compensated for all the pain. Read a fucking book.
Reblog if your page is a safe space for anyone of any nationality and ethnicity.
Reblog if your page is a safe space for anyone in the LGBTQ+ community.
Reblog if your page is a safe space for anyone with a disability or disorder.
Reblog if your page is a safe space for anyone who has experienced or is experiencing trauma.
Reblog if your page is a safe space.
i’m seeing a lot of people reblogging suicide hotlines and this is just a reminder that this is a suicide help line that works like a text-based instant messenger for people who may need to talk to someone but have trouble/are uncomfortable making phone calls
Never don’t reblog this.
There are so many people who have such bad anxiety about phone calls.
This can save so many lives
i see the word manipulation get thrown around a lot in the bpd community and while thats understandable i just wanted to give you all a small reminder
things that ARE manipulation are things like
things that are NOT manipulation include
- never accepting responsibility for hurting others
- guilt tripping others to get what you want
- harassing others for not agreeing with you
- intentionally diminishing other’s problems/difficulties by comparing them to your own
- using other’s insecurities against them
- expressing negative emotions to someone when you are hurt or distressed
- not expressing emotions for the fear of bothering others
- disagreeing with others and explaining your side of things
- expressing your needs to those close to you
- not socializing due to lack of energy or spoons
unhealthy behaviors (such as bottling things up, ignoring your problems, etc) definitely make situations harder and are things that need to be worked on asap, but unhealthy behaviors are not automatically manipulative just because someone has bpd
throwing around the wrong words can be extremely counter productive in this community, especially when there is already so much stigma and misunderstanding surrounding this disorder (not to mention that carelessly calling people manipulative and/or abusive for small things can end up devaluing what abuse and manipulation really mean)
TL;DR: do your research and get to know the actual meaning of strong words before using them - words like ‘manipulation’ or ‘abuse’ are not for you to take lightly and use against people you just disagree or have a problem with
This is SO important and not talked about enough. Thank you for this post.
so I got into grad school today with my shitty 2.8 gpa and the moral of the story is reblog those good luck posts for the love of god
okay so i just got my dream job??? a week after applying to it?? and now i’m thinking….maybe this is the good luck post
…..not even six hours later i got an offer of a well paying full time long-term job with free room and board in queens in nyc, allowing me independence and a way to escape an abusive situation and an unhealthy environment
likes charge reblogs cast, folks, this is the good luck post
Gonna try it. Need me some good luck.
Fingers crossed gonna kill it as I start college 🤞🏾
some bpd things i don’t think i’ve seen people discuss:
- being quiet when you first meet someone so you can work out what kind of person they are and then tailor your personality to what you think they’d prefer
- choosing a personality for a date/meetup/interview/whatever is even more important than choosing an outfit
- tfw neurotypicals interpret you saying “i’ve been good” as “mental illness who? never heard of her” when in reality it’s more like “it’s been 2 days since our last abandonment scare”
- having a fight with someone due to mood swings and then it being awkward 20 minutes later when they’re pissed off and your mood has swung back up and you don’t care for what you just fought about
- cutting someone off before they can, then dissociating for the next month straight because you don’t know who the fuck you are without them
- forgiving someone. then un-forgiving them. rinse and repeat.