The condescending and defensive reaction of white people to the idea that maybe something we like is harmful and that we should consider this in any way
(“omg tee hee only on tumblr!! Purity Culture gone mad!! You can’t cut out everything ”“"problematic”“”“ !” 🤪)
and the BREATHLESS way that we rush to say “Dont worry!!! You can still enjoy everything, consume anything you like!! Just be AWARE of its FLAWS! 💁♀️ (And anyone who even suggests otherwise is simply an asshole with no sense of nuance! I’m very intelligent!)
it makes me think of this essay I read once about the whole question of “should white writers not write characters of color?”
And the author was talking about all the white writers who ask her advice about how to write characters of color—and how those questions are almost always just a veiled request for her “permission,” or for her to provide an easy checklist of “50 obvious stereotypes to avoid.”
And she was basically talking about how white people always get super offended when told they CAN’T do something, and the conversation on Twitter became about censorship and blah blah blah
And she was like, ok but it literally doesn’t matter what I say or how hard a line I take on this issue; white people are just going to do what they want to do regardless (… after screaming in rage and writing reams of hot take thinkpieces about freedom of expression.)
I’m really sorry that I can’t find the essay to quote and credit them directly; it’s a great essay and I think about it all the time.
I want to say it was the author Jaymee Goh? but I don’t remember for sure.
Edit: I still can’t find the essay but since I mentioned Jaymee Goh I thought I’d link a conversation between her, Justina Ireland, and K. Tempest Bradford-
Okay thinking about that one deleted scene from The Wire script where Sisko mentions he and Curzon worked at the Federation Embassy on Romulus and his Romulan friend was arrested by the Tal Shiar (calculations w Sisko’s age put this around 2360), what if they were there at the same time as Garak? Like the Embassies are probably clustered pretty closely together to keep the aliens in a single area so if they were in the same city, there’s a good chance they would cross paths with each other at one time or another.
Curzon Dax fucked Garak
I’ve always thought Jadzia and Garak would make great friends and peak wlw/mlm solidarity but THIS explains why they avoid each other and are almost never on screen together
i vaguely wish i could get into twitter but every time i open the app i end up learning something far too personal about a complete stranger because of some hellish combination of internet oversharing and recommendation algorithms
“Everyone’s just so worried about the mortality thing and that’s terrible and it’s awful,” she told CBS Dallas-Fort Worth. “But man, for all the survivors and the people who have tested positive this is — it’s going to be a problem.”
Bankhead-Kendall, an assistant professor of surgery with Texas Tech University, in Lubbock, has treated thousands of patients since the pandemic began in March.
She says patients who’ve had COVID-19 symptoms show a severe chest X-ray every time, and those who were asymptomatic show a severe chest X-ray 70% to 80% of the time.
“There are still people who say ‘I’m fine. I don’t have any issues,’ and you pull up their chest X-ray and they absolutely have a bad chest X-ray,” she said.
In X-ray photos of a normal lung, a smoker’s lung and a COVID-19 lung that Bankhead-Kendall shared with CBS Dallas, the healthy lungs are clean with a lot of black, which is mainly air. In the smoker’s lung, white lines are indicative of scarring and congestion, while the COVID lung is filled with white.
“You’ll either see a lot of that white, dense scarring or you’ll see it throughout the entire lung. Even if you’re not feeling problems now, the fact that that’s on your chest X-ray — it sure is indicative of you possibly having problems later on,” she said.
Dr. Amesh Adalja, an infectious disease expert and senior scholar at Johns Hopkins University Bloomberg School of Public Health, told CBSN that some patients with severe COVID-19 could feel the impact for years to come.
“When someone recovers from pneumonia, whether it’s a bacterial pneumonia or a viral pneumonia, it’s going to take some time for their chest X-rays to improve. Chest X-rays lag your clinical improvement. So you may be better, but your chest X-ray still looks bad,” he said. “And we know that people with COVID-19 can get severe pneumonia, and some of that pneumonia will lead to damage to the lungs that will take time to heal. And some of it may be permanent.”
He said the potential long-term health consequences are another reason people should take warnings about the disease seriously.
“It’s not something you can blow off. This isn’t something you want to have. Because even if you survive, you still may be left with some severe complications that make it very hard for you to go back to your baseline functioning.”
Bankhead-Kendall said it’s important that if you’re experiencing shortness of breath after your COVID-19 goes away, you stay in touch with your primary care doctor.
She also points out, “There is no long-term implication of a vaccine that could ever be as bad as the long-term implications of COVID.”
gonna be honest here the amount of people conflating being tme with being afab is uh… concerning
for one it completely ignores the amount of amab people (cis men & camab nb ppl who aren’t transfem) who are capable of and engage in transmisogyny and for two it gives tme people an excuse to not say they’re tme because they can imply it’s ‘asking what’s in your pants’ to avoid holding themselves accountable for their transmisogyny
eating out in a pandemic:
hello! i am a service worker and i do actually understand going out to eat occasionally right now for special occasions or because you are on the brink of losing your mind! but here is the thing: please respect the service workers when you go as much as you can. here are some ways to do it:
*wear your masks when they come near you, meaning pop them on even if they are just asking how your meal is.
* i like to leave my hand sanitizer bottle on the table both because i am using it often and because i want the service workers to know i am for ease of mind.
* i always do this, but right now it’s more important. if you are at a place where you take your own dishes to the trash, do it! it’s not the time to be lazy. workers have to touch your dirty dishes. if you are not at a self serve place, please stack them appropriately for easy carry! this means larger plates all together on the bottom, then smaller, then smallest. a neat little pile. collect your trash and set it on top of your dishes for easy removal and tossing. believe me, this makes a huge difference! instead of touching multiple dishes to stack them ourselves or to dig out trash, we only have to touch one.
* tip. listen, right now, i am tipping even at fast food drive thrus. it’s a respect thing.
* speaking of drive thrus, wear your mask in them. it’s 10 seconds of your time versus the life of them and their loved ones.
basically - i am, to a degree, thankful that some people are still coming out to eat. it helps me maintain my job and income. but there is fear everywhere and there are customers who make it blatantly obvious they do not care about us, both by refusing to wear their masks and by pretty much saying it to our faces. the more people that make this easier, the better it will be and the safer it will be.
not to beg for notes but this one would actually mean a lot to me if it was spread around like… working in the food industry right now really does come w it’s own little unique safety hazards and stressors and if more people were taught how to be conscious of that it could literally improve the current quality of life for me and people like me
[ID: a tweet by @/ BagelofDeath that reads: Aunt Dai is my favourite Chinese restaurant in Montreal, but the REAL treat is the menu, featuring extremely honest commentary from the owner.
It is followed by six pictures of the menu. Each picture shows a photo of the dish and then text underneath. They are as follows:
1. A photo of cumin beef that shows pieces of beef with caramelized onions, chili peppers, and sesame seeds. the text reads: Owner’s words:
little little bit spicy, more flavor of cumin, very tasty. We used to have the beef pieces on small sticks but several customers cut their lips by it thinking it was some hard ingredient (They must have watches some shows about weird Chinese food). To avoid incidents like this, no more sticks. Some good infusion from the overly fried onion slices (which you can eat).
definitely recommend this.
2. A photo of orange beef that shows pieces of beef covered in a dark brown sauce. there are garnishes of orange peel and green scallion on top. the text reads: Orange beef (Chén Pí Niú Ròu) 11,99. Owner’s words:
Comparing to our General Tao Chicken, this one is not THAT good.
Anyway, I am not big fan of North American Chinese food and it’s your call.
3. A photo of pork strips mixed together with bamboo shoots and strips of wood ear, green peppers, and red peppers. the text reads: Ingredients: pork, wood ear, bamboo shoots, green peppers, red peppers
This is the number one choice dish ordered by Chinese customers across whole China according to an Internet survey and I totally believe that. When I was China and went to a restaurant, I always ordered this dish. It’s so popular that it has so many different versions in China. Since I have so high expection on this dish, I am not a huge fan for our version to be honest. But don’t get me wrong, the plate at our restaurant is very tasty too, it’s just different from those where I went to university.
4. A photo of pieces of beef mixed together with onions, red chili peppers and green peppers. the text reads: Satay sauce beef (shā chá niú ròu ) $13.99. Owner’s words:
This is new on our menu, I did NOT have chance to try this one yet.
According to a lot of customers, this one is very popular, I still don’t have chance to taste it. Looks like I should spend more time eating in my own restaurant.
5. A photo of a pile of julienned potato strips with bits of red chili pepper mixed in. the text reads: Ingredients: potatoes, chili, vinegar
This plate will show you how Chinese cuisine can do with our beloved potato outside of French fries, mash potato, chips.
This potato Julian dish is very very popular in China.
Let’s salute potato!
6. A photo of singapore noodles. it shows vermicelli noodles, yellow from curry powder, and mixed with strips of onion and green peppers. the text reads: Owner’s comments:
It has curry flavour, don’t expect it to be SO tasty but it’s a safe choice and make you happy. /end ID]
with all the criticism ive seen lately of that comphet “am i a lesbian?” google doc i feel compelled to say that aside from the individual issues w that particular resource (which was ofc created by a 19 yr old), pretty much no “am i a lesbian/bisexual/gay” quiz or questionnaire will ever be a definitive or even particularly useful tool to determine your sexuality bc everyone’s individual experience of being gay, bi, or a lesbian is different & our experiences overlap in numerous ways. i understand why people who are confused or questioning their sexuality, especially people in their teens & early 20s, find resources like that comforting, but at the end of the day they do more harm than good bc they inevitably hinge on assumptions abt other people’s experience of sexuality that are rarely (if ever) universal. finding your true self through lived experience & self reflection is a lot more work than googling “am i gay quiz” but in the end i promise it’s infinitely more rewarding than letting someone you’ve never met determine your sexuality for you based on a series of narrow assumptions that they’ve backed up with absolutely zero (0) sources.
one beautiful thing I learned recently is that the origin of ‘coming out’ was that a person was coming out TO gay society. gay men in nyc in the early 1900s would have debutante-style celebrations where they came out and presented themselves (in high fashion ofc) to other gay folks. it wasnt until the 70s/80s that ‘coming out’ meant coming out FROM a hidden place TO cishet people. anyway my point is that I wanna have a belated debutante party.
just because a few people have been wondering (and because i didn’t expect this post to get this popular lol, ya big history geeks) i learned this from Gay New York: Gender, Urban Culture, and the Making of the Gay Male World 1890-1940 by George Chauncey. Quoted below:
Like much of campy gay terminology, “coming out” was an arch play on the language of women’s culture–in this case the expression used to refer to the ritual of a debutante’s being formally introduced to, or “coming out” into, the society of her cultural peers…A gay man’s coming out originally referred to his being formally presented to the largest collective manifestation of prewar gay society, the enormous drag balls that were patterned on the debutante and masquerade balls of the dominant culture and were regularly held in New York, Chicago, New Orleans, Baltimore and other cities…
Gay people in the prewar years, then, did not speak of coming out of what we call the “gay closet” but rather of coming out into what they called “homosexual society” or the “gay world,” a world neither so small, nor so isolated, nor, often, so hidden as “closet” implies.
actually you will not enjoy hearing this but you literally have to abandon your self deprecating humor. besides the fact that it can drive people away you literally are only hurting yourself by constantly making jokes that further cement the idea in your head that you are not good enough. I do not care that you think its a good coping mechanism it is absolutely not and you need to start challenging negative thoughts instead of feeding into them.
How to Finish
Love this, but reblogging it specifically for “Get rid of secret rules.” That’s one of the most amazing illustrations—and points—I’ve ever seen.
God what’s that one poem abt homosexuality. Of all definitions of homosexuality I’ve read not one mentions love. That one
Not a poem but from annie on my mind by nancy garden. I get it. I get it.
[image text/ “I went downstairs to Dad’s encyclopedia and looked up HOMOSEXUALITY, but that didn’t tell me much about any of the things I felt. What struck me most, though, was that, in that whole long article, the word “love” wasn’t used even once. That made me mad; it was as if whoever wrote the article didn’t know that gay people actually love each other. The encyclopedia writers ought to talk to me, I thought as I went back to bed; I would tell them something about love.” /end text]
Am I getting writing done? No. But am I keeping up with readings and emails? No. But am I at least not inducing unnecessary anxiety by comparing myself to others who are highly productive and thriving during the pandemic? Also no.
[image description: an older man lying in a hospital bed. a nurse asks, “have you been under any increased stress lately?” the man looks at her with a big grin and wide eyes. the captions say (laughs) (continues laughing)]
Darth Vader in Crusade.
#cam and sam’s faces are hilarious#and then teal'c comes in like a comedy ninja#because you KNOW he’s heard of jesus and knows the story of christmas#dude knows all kinds of pop culture trivia and historical facts about his adopted planet#you think he doesn’t know the origins of one of earth’s biggest religions AND one of the most hyped and commercialized US holidays!?#don’t underestimate teal'c like that around me#anyway he knows what he’s doing he spent years watching jack o'neill up close he knows how to troll people (@bethanyactually)
I looked into the “I’m a luxury few can afford” sweater, and apparently it’s from a knitting pattern book called Wit Knits from 1986 that included a lot of gems… but best of all was this sweater, which I desperately need to own:
Just LOOK at this incredible grumpy old gay robot sweater. Look at it.
Its Bernie Sanders
My god you’re right.
I looked up Wit Knits and you’re right, every one of these designs is fucking fantastic:
im the man with banana on his sweater holding a fuckn pineapple
You’re really gonna post about Wit Knits and not include these pictures of my girl Bonnie Langford?