I told my sister that I am asexual and she said that no one will want to date me. :(
I told my sister that I am asexual and she said that no one will want to date me. :(
I'm an ace dating an allo, and I love him a lot. I want to have sex with him because I love him, but I'm sex repulsed. So I've been going through the porn side of tumblr while imagining it with him to desensitize myself to sex. We're young, so I have time to practice, but I'm worried that it won't work, and that makes me sad because I really love him and I want to do this for him. Sometimes I wish I was allo, it would make everything so much easier.
Do you think you can identify as bi and aroace at the same time ? (not considering the demi/grey/flux in aroaceness here, because that would be an obvious yes)
Got some arsehole screenshotting my page (which clearly states not to do it) and encouraging followers to mock/harrass me. Because I've got the nerve to be aro, ace and pan (and Irish).
I don’t experience romantic or sexual attraction, but I do get a hell of a lot of aesthetic, which kinda leads to me simping for people a lot 😔
In my defense... women... and also pretty men... and literally every nonbinary person I have ever laid eyes on... I am weak
To the other anon - it's not selfish or stupid! And you're not alone. I also feel very uncomfortable with that notion. It definitely influences the way I dress, to try and avoid certain perceptions. I also am always worried that being outgoing and friendly will come off the wrong way.
Any1 else mad fantasise abt their gf when they alone but then when she actually kiss u ur just calmly indifferent/bored. 🤷♀️
The first picture reminds me of the aroace flag and it would look really cool as a desktop wallpaper, just sayin. https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=3169410723138653&id=100002092702669&sfnsn=scwspmo
I’ve confidently identified as ace, and slightly less confidently identified as aro, since early high school and I’m now in my last year of college. My best friend was one of the first people I came out to when I met her my first year of college, and she’s quite honestly the most important person in my life. She’s made it clear that she cares about me a lot, to the point of trying to figure out if we can move to the same city and stay roommates after graduation. The problem is that she’s in a relationship, and I know that her partner will always be just that little bit more important to her, and I can’t even feel justified in being jealous because their relationship is everything anyone could ever want, the started dating before I ever met my friend, and I know that most people don’t see friends as equally important to romantic partners. In an ideal world, I would somehow figure out how to be in a qpr with both of them because we’ve gotten decently close over the time I’ve known them, but I’m too scared of making things awkward and losing their friendship to ever try to broach the subject. I’m too introverted to make friends easily, so sometimes I feel like being a weird, perpetual third wheel is the closest I’ll come to any sort of meaningful connections with people, and that’s a really awful headspace to be in.
I don't know how to tell them I have a squish crush on them but wow SQUISH
I'm almost 30. I convinced everyone since i was a teen that i felt romantic feelings, so much so that i had even myself fooled for a long time. Sexual feelings were always out of the question and that was a lot more OK to say i didnt have. But I've done a lot of thinking and examining and i dont think I've ever actually felt anything romantic either. But I've spent nearly 15 years wholeheartedly throwing myself into this act, convinced it was true. I dont know how to proceed. I know everyone is going to doubt me if i say what I've realized. But i dont feel romantic and i never have. I dont think i ever will either. And now i feel more alone than ever...
I’ve seen/heard some of the things love makes people do and most, if not all the time, it really is stupid. And it really pisses me off how some people try to justify it because of ~love~. Some people would rather accept toxic behavior as signs of love than accept that platonic love is just as strong and valid as romantic love. I’ve had people telling me that I lack the experience so I don’t understand, but I will once I do fall in love, which I know I won’t. Toxic behavior is still toxic whether you’re in love or not. I don’t want to think that is an aroace thing because I doubt being a rational human being is something only a person who’s not in love, or has not experienced romantic love, can be. But I feel like I’m often proven wrong because I’ll meet people who will throw their brains out the window as soon as they fall in love and will turn around to tell me I’ll be like them someday too. It’s really disappointing because suddenly invalidating someone else’s sexual/romantic orientation the moment yours is fulfilled is about as stupid as it gets. That’s like pretending your friend matters to you, but tossing them to the side the moment you find someone better
I hate the fights between the ace and aro communities, can't we just listen to each other? This hurts people who are under both the aro and ace umbrella. It feels like you are not fully welcome in either because you are also the other yet can't remove yourself completely from only-ace/aro
i feel like me identifying as ace is cringey because of how everybody views us. it sucks cuz i first started using the label less than a month ago and felt really good about it, but now i feel ashamed.
when i was 5 i convinced myself i had a crush on my best friend because i was a girl and he was a boy and that’s how it was supposed to be, right? i don’t talk to him anymore and i’ve accepted that i’m aroace, i feel much happier just saying that, honestly. i’m just afraid of taking pride in it/expressing it because i feel like i’m being obnoxious. i was always tired of people telling me what i was gonna be like as a kid, and i proved them wrong. i’m proud of myself for that.
hey. uh, hi. sorry, i’m. quite terrible at this.
so uh, i’ve been questioning lately. womdering if i could be ace. and the thing is, i realised it kind of fluctuates. sometimes i’m so - i think the right word is sex-repulsed, that just the thought makes me cringe. bits touching and weird stuff? no thank you.
other times though, i feel the opposite. very sex-positive, very much into the idea of having sex with another guy. suddenly thinking about all the bits and things seems much more appealing, and even masturbating becomes appealing.
i have no idea what this means. am i ace? gray, or demi? what. what’s going on with me?
Political lesbianism is messing with my brain, I really don't understand it. It seems like I (as a women who is not attracted to men AND women) don't even exist in their conception of the world ??
I'm biromantic aseuxal and I've never been in a relationship before... I'm scared that when I do eventually date someone and they find I'm asexual they'll cheat on me or something.
Everyone I encounter literally make as up to be like nymphomaniac. The f...? Its literally in the name we are not.
Someone recently had an ask that mentioned church and coming out and this is an ace-inclusive book if there are any Christian teens out there looking for something that might help
The fact that people could potentially view me sexually/romantically scares me. Like, when i talk to people all i want at best is a friendship, but to think that someone, while interacting with me, wants to see me naked and f*ck me? Thats just terrifying to me. I know that people arent animals and sex isnt constantly on their mind, but that fear is always in the back of my head. Sometimes i wish the way i look at people would be the same for them, but i know thats stupid and selfish
I'm ace and sex repulsed if the thing is about/with me. But there's something weird happening and it's so uncomfortable. There's a guy I talk to sometimes. I don't find him attractive, in any way. I'm not even sure yet if I'd like to be friends. But sometimes I feel a reaction to him in my body, like a begining of arousal? I can't think of anything that could make me react like that. What the hell is happening to me? The only time I've head this before was when I was in love with someone. Help!
Hello, I'm pretty new to the aro/ace community. I know I've always felt this way, just never knew there was a word for it. I would have aesthetic attractions and confused it as crushes. Every relationship I've been in has ended in a week and it always made me miserable or nervous. I am very interested in a QPR. I'm curious as to how to go about looking for a QPR. How would I be able to meet someone interested in being in a QPR? Is there an app or should I use tinder and put it in my bio? Thanks!
from the age of 9, everyone at school relentlessly teased me and my friend for ‘dating’, even when we told them we were just friends. it didn’t stop for 5 or 6 years, no matter how much we tried to ignore or correct them. it was awful and I never understood why the teachers we’d occasionally get the courage to complain to never took it seriously. I’ve just realised that, to them, everyone we knew refusing to accept that we weren’t dating probably wouldn’t seem like a big deal at all, even if it really upset me. it wasn’t bullying in the traditional sense, but it hurt me a lot, and I hate that nobody ever understood that
(of course, I found out after 4 years that my friend had been secretly telling everyone we were dating the whole time and pretending that he hadn’t been, even knowing the effect it had on me. it makes sense that he then asked me out on three separate occasions, because clearly ’no’ was never good enough for him)
I never understood or cared for romance anyway, so I know it’s kind of irrational, but sometimes I wonder if I’m actually aro or if that whole experience just made me repress any romantic attraction because now I despise the thought of anyone thinking I have romantic feelings for anyone
I tend to fall closer to gray-aromantic bc I know I can experience romantic attraction but just have a lack of it... I just prefer to use aromantic as my label
Apparently like 90% of my friends are pan/bi (I'm somewhere around aroace).
Like I'm the only non pan/bi in at least one friend group. It's kinda funny honestly.
I will never come out. I will tell everyone that goes to church that I am not ready. I tried once and I was told everyone falls in love. Everyone wants sex. I hate the fact that I am ace. I thought I was not normal. I hate myself. I try to remind myself that more then one person can have an identity. I hate my sexualities sometimes and love them in others.
I used to be terrified I was being unintentionally homophobic by looking away any time I saw that one commercial that ended in the guys kissing until I realised that I looked away when straight couples kissed too
Honestly. I'm not sure what to think anymore. I feel disgusted at myself for identifying as Ace. My life have been full of traumatic things revolving with s*x and I am sex repulsed. I feel like I ain't valid because I just..- I sometimes feel something but I am unsure even if I experience sxual attraction at all but I feel, idk something? But I feel disgusted at myself for using the term Ace. Am I okay with using the term Ace?
i know that im part of the aro community because when i started to research about it many things made sense. but i just can't tell if im aro strict or part of a spectrum. i really really like the idea of being in a relationship and i want it so much. thinking about it makes me so nervous that i feel like im going to be sick.