For some reason, being poor with no power is something that’s romanticized, especially in fiction and fandom. But it’s something George R. R. Martin goes out of his way to remove any level of romanticism from. The lives of the common people genuinely suck. The people reigning over them or even who just outnumber them can essentially take what they want from them at any moment, with very little chance at recourse. They also have very little control over most of the decisions in their lives since the lack of power and money makes things difficult to do anything beyond the role they were born into without outside assistance.
That’s why I don’t see why being poor, whether it’s living as a lifelong criminal who has no stability or even lower nobility is seen as an ideal endgame. Like with Arya, she thinks briefly about becoming an outlaw like Wenda the White Fawn only to push the idea aside and try to continue getting back to her family. Dany also often romanticizes living the life of a commoner, but as we see, commoners are constantly at risk of exploitation with no recourse or protection. Nearly every single chapter shows this.
I’ve also seen the argument that Arya would be happier in a lower position whether as a peasant or as lower nobility because that would supposedly give her more freedom to be who she wants to be. To quote Grey Worm, this is false. The less power a person has in this type of culture, the less freedom they have. Look at Mycah. He dared to play with a girl of high birth and wielding a crude weapon. This meant Joffrey wanted to put him back in his lower ranking place by assaulting him and later having him murdered. The situation would have played out differently had he been of a higher rank.
Under that same principle, Arya herself would have fewer restrictions on her the higher ranking she was. Seriously, if you look through real world history, you see that higher ranking individuals, even women, set the fashions and set the societal rules. George does the same thing with Westeros. Alysanne is able to effect change due to being queen consort and a member of the Small Council. Black Aly and Sabitha Frey participated in battles due to their high ranks. Samantha Tarly Hightower flaunts convention and confronts the High Septon wielding her privilege like a weapon. I could go on and on. This means that if Arya had a position of power that would mean she would have a greater ability to be who she wanted to be and to put positive change into effect.
That’s why my ideal endgames for both Arya and Dany are ones in some level of power. We see both of them gaining experiences that would prepare them to administrate with justice and kindness, while having to confront the difficult decisions. And frankly, I’m not talking happy Disney ending here. The fact that the fairytale aspect of positions of power are stripped away as well, showing the actual jobs those positions are. We see Arya taking on additional work and danger to protect others who she sees as her responsibility while getting first hand experience of the impact the choices of those in power have over the common people. We see Dany as she navigates the day to day struggle of being a queen regnant. So for them to hold positions of power, it wouldn’t “happily ever after,” but “now the work begins”.
This weird I don’t want X character to have authority despite them having better ideals than the vast majority of nobility makes zero sense.
Yes I would like the person who thinks women are important and that peasants are human beings to have authority