Stag with Herb Branch Mounted as a Ring, 1567, Art Institute of Chicago: Arms, Armor, Medieval, and Renaissance
Gift of Marilynn B. Alsdorf
Size: Diameter: 2.2 cm (13/16 in.)
Medium: Gold, enamel, ruby, opals, and pearls
1970s canned goods label designs, from The Art of the Label by Robert Opie. We can see the Helvetica type family really taking hold in this era. And that Biba can was not a regular market item; those were high-fashion baked beans.
My favorite design of the lot: meat and liver cat food.
Abusers would have you believe that everyone who had it worse would resent you if you complained about your situation, but in reality?
People who had it worse, unless they’re self centered narcissists, would support you getting your story out. People who had it worse gain nothing by you comparing yourself to them and feeling like you weren’t hurt bad enough. People who had it worse would tell you that all pain is pain, and that you deserved none of it. People who had it worse would feel compassion for you. People who had it worse would tell your abusers to shut the fuck up and let you speak your mind. People who had it worse are on your side, not your abusers. They don’t need you to shut up and feel small and insignificant. They want everyone to be safe and unharmed, you included.
Your abusers are lying to you. They have hurt you bad enough, and “people had it worse” is not an argument they are allowed to use against you after hurting you. You are suffering bad enough. You deserve compassion and help.
Many of the political attacks on trans people—whether it is a mandate that bathroom use be determined by birth sex, a blanket ban on medical interventions for trans kids or the suggestion that trans men are simply wayward women beguiled by male privilege—carry the same subtext: that trans people are mistaken about who they are. “We know who we are,” Page says. “People cling to these firm ideas [about gender] because it makes people feel safe. But if we could just celebrate all the wonderful complexities of people, the world would be such a better place.”
Page was attracted to the role of Vanya in The Umbrella Academy because—in the first season, released in 2019—Vanya is crushed by self-loathing, believing herself to be the only ordinary sibling in an extraordinary family. The character can barely summon the courage to move through the world. “I related to how much Vanya was closed off,” Page says. Now on set filming the third season, co-workers have seen a change in the actor. “It seems like there’s a tremendous weight off his shoulders, a feeling of comfort,” says showrunner Steve Blackman. “There’s a lightness, a lot more smiling.” For Page, returning to set has been validating, if awkward at times. Yes, people accidentally use the wrong pronouns—“It’s going to be an adjustment,” Page says—but co-workers also see and acknowledge him.
Whatever challenges might lie ahead, Page seems exuberant about playing a new spectrum of roles. “I’m really excited to act, now that I’m fully who I am, in this body,” Page says. “No matter the challenges and difficult moments of this, nothing amounts to getting to feel how I feel now.” This includes having short hair again. During the interview, Page keeps rearranging strands on his forehead. It took a long time for him to return to the barber’s chair and ask to cut it short, but he got there. And how did that haircut feel?
Page tears up again, then smiles. “I just could not have enjoyed it more,” he says.
for TIME Magazine › 2021
interview by Katy Steinmetz, photography by Wynne Neilly