One of the biggest problems I have with eddie@na and buckt@ylor is the imbalance of the two ships where there's such a balance with buddie. Like with buckt@ylor it's too much all the time! Buck is, I wouldn't say at his worst, but he's too reckless and doesn't think things through as much when he's with her because she's the same way and with eddie@na it's not enough and kinda boring (and we know Eddie isn't boring), like they try to be all domestic but it always falls flat and again wouldn't say he's at his worst but he's definitely not himself when he's around her. But with Buddie, they perfectly balance each other out! There's excitement and adventure but also calm domestic moments and movie nights. They are what each other needs and their just too stupid and oblivious to see it.
And I just don't get buddie fans saying "well if buddie doesn't happen, I'm okay with buckt@ylor happening"....it's because their both hot right? Because I know it's not because she's right for him. Like yeah they are both hot but to me she is the complete opposite of what he actually wants and needs. He wants to settle down and have a family and she doesn't seem the type who wants that (nothing wrong with that), she's more career driven and doesn't seem to settle down with someone anytime soon.
Oooh, nonnie, you know you came to the right place, huh? 🤭
I guess I have to say this off the bat because I follow quite a few people who support BuckTaylor (I can’t tell what’s a joke anymore, honestly) - I don’t care what anyone ships. I just ask that everyone uses tags correctly so I don’t have to see it!
What attracted me to Buddie is their chemistry, and how they don’t have to work at it. There are people on this site (plus other places like twitter and insta) who assume our otp is canon without ever having seen them hold hands or kiss! That, alone, speaks volumes about the bond Buck and Eddie have (accidentally) formed throughout the course of the show. It also speaks volumes about how easy it’s been for Ryan and Oliver to feed off each other (no matter what their off screen relationship may be).
As you said, they have cultivated the perfect balance, both as friends/potential lovers and as parents to Christopher. (Buck’s a dad! Fight me.)
Buck and Eddie tore down each other’s walls in no time at all because they realized they worked better as a team than as enemies. Personally, I LOVE that Eddie was the one to “make the first move”, so to speak. Here’s a man who was used to feeling alone, used to feeling betrayed by people he loved (Shannon for leaving, his parents for trying to take Christopher) and it took ONE rescue with Buck at his side for Eddie to declare “You can have my back any day.” ONE!!! And in doing so, he made Buck feel like he mattered. Buck’s whole life has been a never-ending question as to where he belongs, and with whom. When Eddie said that? He was telling Buck that he wanted him around. More specifically, he expected Buck to be around for him.
When it comes to Christopher, Buck is exactly what Eddie needs in a second parent/parental figure. Buck only takes over when he’s alone with Christopher (the tsunami, Christopher running to his apartment). When it’s the three of them, he defers to Eddie because he understands it’s not his place to make decisions (Christmastime, video games) and he never wants Eddie to feel like he’s trying to replace him.
We don’t know a whole lot about Eddie’s relationship with Ramon other than Ramon wasn’t around much, but we know how Maddie and Buck’s father treated them. Buck’s experiences are SO useful for Christopher’s upbringing because he is being the father (figure) he always wanted in his life. Buck tells Chris he loves him openly and without hesitation. He gives him physical affection. He spends time with him just ‘cause he can.
This next part is super important: Buck makes sure Chris knows that they are friends first, no matter what. By not trying to force a ‘father’ or ‘parent’ label on himself, Buck is actually making it easier for Christopher to talk to him. Christopher is no different than any other kid, right? Certain things don’t feel like they should be discussed with parents because ‘they won’t understand.’ But a friend? A best friend? That’s a level of trust very few can obtain. And if Christopher tells Buck something that he thinks Eddie needs to know, he’s gonna tell him! He’s going to do what he must to keep their relationship in tact because he understands how much they need each other.
Now. As for the ladies in their life at the moment:
A*a - I’ll be honest. I anticipated much more effort being put into this relationship via the script. There’s still three weeks to go, but the only connections they have thus far is that A*a is also Latina and used to be Christopher’s teacher. That isn’t screaming “soulmates!” to me. The writers put more emphasis on Buck & Christopher’s bond once Eddie starting dating again than they have with A*a and Christopher. If the goal was to make us think A*a is Eddie’s future…they missed the mark big time, yeah? (FTR, I don’t think she is. I think they *want* people to assume she is just because she’s a woman and they “look good together”.)
Taylor - Oh, boy. People sure are loving their “girlboss”. Disclaimer: I don’t care if Taylor ends up being one of Buck’s good friends that we see from time to time. M/F platonic friendship is even more underrated and underappreciated than M/M, if you ask me. What *does* irk me is what you mentioned - there’s a whole lot of “welllll…if Buddie isn’t gonna happen than I want Buck to end up with her”, and we know much of it is based on the fact that fandom finds her just as attractive as they find Buck/Oliver. Beautiful woman + Beautiful man = OF COURSE they’re gonna have sex again! OF COURSE they have the potential to fall in love because they’re a het ship! Ship BuckTaylor to your heart’s content, but make sure to check that heteronormativity and work on removing it. It’s not cute. Or helpful!