very good things
- when i look at my dog and exclaim “kisses you!” and she comes over so I can give her a kiss on the face
- when i look at my dog and exclaim “kisses me?” and her tail goes ballistic as she smooches my face ecstatically
- my dog
this is her natural state
goddd please just hire voice actors again. like actual voice actors. no more celebrity voice actors please just hire people who know what they’re doing the or voice acting industry will cannibalize itself more than it already is. let jack black do whatever he wants though
The Buffalo Times, New York, June 12, 1910
Morning idiot I’ve just had My Kellogg’s Toasted Corn Flakes so my pussy is dryer than the surface of the moon. Your turn.
Just another regular breakfast at the Shapiro residence.
not to be inclusionist on main but i find it shocking and frankly a little horrifying how easily the online LGBTQ community has turned on itself in the past 2 years. like, i need you all to know: i’m not old. i’m 23. so that leaves about a bit less than a decade of me knowing i’m gay, and a bit less than that of me learning about my new family and friends and lifestyle and such, as well as a bit less for actively campaigning/being deeply involved in civil rights and social justice issues.
like, i don’t know if yall realize this if youre newer here but: this whole “asexuality exclusion” thing and this “queer is a slur” thing? this is new. this is only within the past two or so years that its gained any real momentum, the same with terfs and radfems. it wasn’t a concept. there were massive, massive rallies in support of our asexual community. it’s horrifying to me how simply and neatly we as a group have gone from “The A doesn’t stand for Ally” to “There is no A at all”.
and i need you all to know: this is not a coincidence that TERFS have risen up in roughly the same time period. i need you all to realize that when you talk about your exclusion of asexuals from our community, you are parroting well-known TERF and neo-nazi rhetoric.
“they are invading [LGBT/women’s/white] safe spaces to steal our resources and oppress us.”
“they’re only pretending to be [gay/a woman].”
“[asexual/trans women/POC] aren’t REALLY [LGBT/women/human].”
and it goes deeper, fundamentally flawed: when you try to reason that asexuality isn’t inherently LGBT, but if you are otherwise LGBT but asexual it’s somehow fine and different but otherwise youre cishet…all you’re saying is that “you’re only allowed in this club if you don’t support others who are like you. you’re only allowed in this club because i as an authority say you fit nicely under a label that i agree with.”
it’s terrifying, to me, and i’m not asexual. it’s terrifying that this manufactured divide using literal talking points created by and stolen from TERFs and neo-nazis has such an appeal to so many LGBT people. i’m worried for our future on so many levels; climate change, political upheaval, the list goes on. standing strong together is so important right now, perhaps more than ever, at least in my lifetime. and yet we are so destructively focused on ideas of ‘the model of social justice’ and ‘purity culture’ and ‘respectability politics’ and so on that we would rather turn on our own–not even our allies but our own community–because we don’t think they’re LGBT enough.
we spent so long saying “my sexuality isn’t a choice” and arguing “why would i choose to be oppressed for my sexuality” and yet…here we are.
A long overdue update, 2 years into the future, about this post and thoughts I’ve had on it as it’s grown.
I made this as an untagged vent in the middle of the night. More than anything, it wasn’t intended to be a call to action, or to get nearly 50,000 notes. It was just me rambling and trying to explain something that bothered me–how much the exclusionary language folks use to talk about how asexuals and aromantics don’t “belong” in the queer community felt like they were taken, cut and dry, from the “queer is a slur” discourse advocated and fomented by a wave of modern TERFs, as well as their general beliefs.
The response was immediate and hasn’t really slowed down, which had its ups and downs, I guess. A lot of it was a bunch of folk who missed the entire damn point and got mad at me for using the word queer. A fair few added corrections, stating a more accurate timeline of (at the time) it’d been roughly 5 years since modern TERFs had become more active in this side of the internet. It was never my intent to imply TERFs hadn’t always been around–again, it was 3 or 4am, not exactly the time to write well-thought out sentences–so much that it felt like it was only recently it felt like they gained any real ground. There were even a few pockets of TERFs themselves who got real mad about this post, and every few months it’d recirculate back around to gynoidantiman-type URLs and I’d spend a couple days getting harassed, because duh. Even a few older queers in their 40s and 50s–one of the most popular ‘branches’ of the reblogs features them saying “Yeah no you’re fucking right”.
But more than anything the response was from an asexual community who latched onto this and ran with it. It was shocking, more than anything else, to me, to see the tags and responses from them. Discussions of re-closeting themselves in the past couple years, the harm it’s done, all these heartbreaking stories. And also the…the thanks I got. The folks saying how much it meant to them, how much this meant, how much they felt acknowledged and seen. It made me sick to my stomach that something like this post could garner such a passionate reaction, because…well, it was barely more than the least effort I could do?
Like, again: this was a midnight ramble that I went to bed after posting and woke up to about 3,000 notes immediately. How fucked up is it that an entire community of people would take what is basically the barest basic shred of decency and run with it so hard? It’s heartbreaking. This post should never have gotten popular. This post, for 2 years now, has meant so much to so many ace people that I don’t even know how to begin to peel back the layers of “Shit’s fucked” if something as simple as basically saying “Hey I’m not ace but y'all deserve better” can get this much of a reaction, because that means that they’re starving for that sort of thing. This is crumbs. This is nothing. And yet.
Right now, the post’s going through another phase where TERFs circulate it around their circlejerk and poke fun at it. I don’t really care, frankly, it’s an irritating thing but I can handle it. This time, they went further than they had before, accusing me of sending anonymous rape threats and jumping to call me ableist slurs. Still, whatever, it’s TERFs, I don’t give a fuck what they say, the world’s a better place when they die if they don’t change.
But I want the people who see this addendum to click through the notes. I want y'all to read the shit those TERFs are saying, I want you to see their talking points. I want you to look at the language, their rebuttals, their refusals. Because I was right, in the end, and that’s what pissed them off.
The exact same language you use to claim ace exclusionary tactics or that queer is a slur is what they’re filling my notes with. The exact same separatist logic, the exact same talking points, just with the words changed here and there to appeal to a different audience. When you say that you think asexuals and aromantics don’t belong in the LGBT or queer or whatever you want to call it community, I want you to look in here and see exactly how similar you’re sounding.
I don’t have a cool one-liner to end this with. I don’t have a snappy catchphrase or something that’s going to sound nice or give a satisfactory ending to this update. Nothing about this situation is satisfactory, nothing about it is clean and deserves that cut-and-dry call to action. It’s been 2 years of this post. TERFs send me death threats every few months. Ace folks send me messages thanking me like I’m a damn saint for just pointing out they deserve better. None of this is fair, or right, or justifiable.
I’m just tired, and this post deserved an update, and I want all of you to fucking see the shit that they say–that YOU say–and stop closing your eyes to it. That’s all.