You are worth the love you give.
And the energy, and the time, and the thought; all of it. All of these little bits that you happily give to others. Guess what? You ALSO deserve to receive it.When did our standards become so low? When did it become OK to run yourself into the ground, drain yourself empty, for who? For what? For someone who cares about you SO LITTLE they can’t even pick up the phone to type out a few words? You’re worth less than a breath to them, less than a sentence, less than a ‘dude I’m super busy but will message you later.’I don’t know if it’s always been like this or if my tolerance has simply fucked off as 2020 comes to a close; but I am done with living it, seeing it, hearing it & not calling it out.I’ve had SO many friends over the last few months lower their standards, their self worth, their ideals until the bar isn’t on the ground, it’s fucking subterranean. These are kind, funny, loving people who are WONDERFUL. They deserve SO much and yet they’ve spent the majority of this year crying over guys/girls who literally treat them like disposable trinkets. Their self esteem is worn carpet that’s been tread to shit, they do nothing but hope and wait and hope that if they’re patient enough maybe things will change. It breaks my fucking heart.No amount of love you give, of time you put it, of effort, of work, of willing that YOU have will make someone else do something they don’t WANT to. I hate saying it, it sounds cold but it’s the truth. You’re pouring all of your care into a cracked vase and it’s a one sided, fruitless thing.When two people care about one another; it shouldn’t be this hard; you’re taking on the world together, you’re not taking on each other.If it feels this hard, it’s because they simply don’t care, or don’t care enough, and there’s nothing YOU can do to supplement that no matter how hard you try. I’m sorry.TDLR: Look after yourself. Give yourself the love you so easily give other people and it’s okay to have wants and needs and standards. via /r/dating_advice