the-acecourse :

aroarolibrary :

Some fun LGBT+ history from today’s #Pride tag on twitter

it isnt a very popular argument amongst excludionist to deny that asexuality is a genuine sexuality; it is, however, to stress that asexuals are not inherently lgbt due to their asexuality.

this article makes no claim that asexuals are lgbt; it merely lists asexuality as one of several existing sexual orientations, like heterosexuality

mogai-watch:

krismichelle429:

spooky-luka-deactivated20200830:

goldstarphallophobe-deactivated:

spooky-luka-deactivated20200830:

mogai-watch:

This caused me agony

I cringed so hard at this

Is this a drag or genuine?

Op is dragging the comic maker but idk if the comic maker was serious

I can’t tell if the comic is serious or not either, but boy if it didn’t manage to viscerally insult everyone it mentioned.

“brainweird” and “genderweird” like are you FUCKING kidding me

The comic maker was dead serious

captainlordauditor :

tired: Aziraphale isn’t gay because he’s nonbinary

wired: Aziraphale IS gay because he’s still living in the 19th century and sees gender and sexuality as inextricably tied together

inspired: Aziraphale doesn’t know how to quantify his gayness when his partner keeps hoarding the genders and bouncing around them

I’m so done. It’s over. I’m tired of it. What the fuck does this mean and why is it on my dash.

heavyweightheart :

timemachineyeah :

Ugh that post has gotten me thinking about fat acceptance in a way I haven’t in years. I’ve read more studies about weight and health than probably any other topic I’ve ever researched. And every time I see someone wail about health I am just like

Did you know that in post-mortem examinations there is zero correlation between weight and levels of arteriosclerosis and related diseases found?

Did you know that people with an overweight BMI have the longest life expectancy, that those with an “ideal” and an “obese” have about the same life expectancy, and that being “underweight” raises mortality rates more than being “morbidly obese”?

Did you know that losing weight and then gaining it back is worse for your heart than remaining at the weight you started consistently?

Did you know that 95% of people who lose weight do gain it back, and there has never been a single documented weight loss program that has been demonstrated to keep the weight off for five years or more in the majority or even a significant minority of people? Like, telling people to lose weight isn’t much use if we don’t know HOW to make that happen.

Like I have read The Obesity Myth by Paul Campos and Rethinking Thin by Gina Kolata and Big Fat Lies by Glenn A Gaesser (Ph.D!) And Fat!So? and several other books that I don’t own and so don’t remember all of their names I spent like four years reading every single study coming out and looking at the methodology and noting which ones had huge holes or terrible methods and which didn’t (the holes were almost always in the pro-weight-loss studies) and like

Big Fat Lies has 27 pages of bibliography. 27 pages worth of scientific citation. The book content itself is only 197 pages. That’s a page of references for every 7 pages of book. Reading the book is just reference after reference and study after study. Most of these doctors (like Linda Bacon, author of Health at Every Size) started out the same way. They wanted to use the scientific method to find a real weight loss program or health solution that worked and could be proven to work, and so studied everything they could about weight and fitness only to find out that we didn’t need weight loss in the first place. That all the studies calling for it were lacking or nonexistent. That weight and underlying metabolic health have very little relation. That the history of our relationship with health and obesity has little basis in fact and a LOT of basis in capitalism, politics, and fashion. No, really, the association between weight and health was first proposed by insurance companies looking for ways to charge people more by claiming risk. They also charged tall and short people more. And people with different skin colors. When they got in trouble for charging people for things they had no control over and had no bearing on their health, they set out to prove that weight was controllable and that fat was unhealthy to make money. 

These are also a lot of the same people who went on to invent the President’s fitness program, so if you went to public school you probably already hate them. 

Anyway, if you want a place to start reading about the issue, this article is a pretty good launching pad. 

This casual rant is like a primer on weight science. Amazing. I second their book recommendations, and would add to the list Body Respect by Drs Bacon & Aphramor, Body of Truth by journalist Harriet Brown, and What’s Wrong with Fat? by UCLA professor of sociology Abigail Saguy.

Listen this is great and all, and to some extent I agree, but I can’t get out of my head how my grandma lives as someone who’s seriously obese. She can’t walk up a flight of stairs without taking breaks, she can’t walk down the street without having to take a break, her knees hurt from supporting her weight all these years, she can’t get into cars without help, and so much more all because of her weight.

I’m not going to sit here and say that being overweight is awful, because that’s not true, but y'all gotta realize that there’s a limit to when it’s okay.

My grandma has missed out on so much because of her weight. She’s never been able to play with her grandkids, she can’t enjoy fairs and festivals, she can’t go on trips to the zoo or the park with the rest of our family.

Don’t try and say that weight has no influence on health, or try to say that it’s okay to be obese. It’s not, I’ve seen it myself.

My grandmother will most likely die sooner than she has to because of her weight. And even if she doesn’t, which god forbid I’m right, she’s not going to be healthy and comfortable in the last years of her life.

So seriously, don’t try and say it’s okay to be morbidly obese.

bisexual-darling:

Huh 🤔

the lesbophobia really jumped out, didn’t it @hopeforhuzzah

scaredy-ant :

ophelias-revenge :

gluten-free-pussy :

forrest-lesbian :

forrest-lesbian :

I feel like if core tumblr didn’t make fun of “cishets” so much people would stop changing their gender and taking on so many micro identities to avoid being an evil straight

Like “Oh my non binary so everything I feel is gay” and stuff like Demi and the million other mogai flags I can’t even remember that everyone uses just to avoid being straight like… it’s ok you can be straight it’s fine

Not to hijack but I also think it’s a way to opt out of responsibility/privilege. It’s also given people license to say really bigoted homophobic shit because they can hide behind their made up micro identity. It’s shifted how we discuss LGBT issues, and I can’t wait for this trend to be over

You’re right and you should say it louder

The emos simply transferred over to the LGBT community. And that sucks.

aceybabyelvispresley :

The sheer headassery it takes to hold a sign that reads “I’d rather eat cake” as you march alongside people with signs like “stop killing us” is frankly baffling

People will really try to call anyone who’s ever done anything shitty “abusive” and I’m so fucking sick of it lmao

enbycourse :

discourse-yall :

trannyramblings :

The pan concept of hearts before parts is literally so offensive

If you’re bisexual, you can value a person before their genetalia

If you’re gay, you can value a person before their genetalia

If you’re straight, you can value a person before their genetalia

Pan people are not inherently more pure or deep or woke because of their identity. Just because you’re not pan doesn’t mean you’re automatically sex-obsessed or shallow.

And frankly, “hearts before parts” is pretty sex-negative too. If someone isn’t interested in romance but is in sex, that’s none of your business and it doesn’t give you some moral high ground. Stop shaming people with this ridiculous phrase.

I used to ID as pansexual and I actually used/liked the phrase “hearts before parts”. I didn’t have any bad intentions, I just never even realised how offensive it actually is. But I’m glad I have now :/

I was the same. I didn’t think too deep into the saying as I was 12 at the time, but now that I think about it it is pretty fucked. We grow.

fuckmogai :

fuckmogai :

it’s time to realize that lesbian is not synonymous with terfs. anyone can be a terf; ive seen bi and straight women who were terfs. it’s not something limited to lesbians and saying anyone with a lesbian flag in their icon is automatically a possible terf is lesbophobic!!!

people who aren’t lesbians should rb this bc it shouldn’t fall on lesbians to deal with this

realistictransguy :

kiss-the-cis :

The amount of privileged teenage cishets that choose a MOGAI personality gender/sexuality and then use that as a platform to speak over LGBT people actually struggling with gender/sexuality is staggering. I refuse to bow down to people who do NOT have LGBT interests in mind and only serve to make themselves feel special.

Pride month is NOT the time to shoehorn inclusion debates into a month designated for GAY, BI, and TRANS people. Go away.

do not ignore this

trishspicegirl :

reigenaratakaspisskink :

anyways….cis people cannot expect trans people to bind and tuck to be “valid.” tucking can cause your intestines to fall into your lower abdomin and get tangled up, and binding can cause your ribs to become concave and jut out of your chest. while binding and tucking can relieve dysphoria, trans people shouldnt be expected to risk our health and safety just to look cis

i was always told tucking was perfectly safe. no risk to my health, i used to tuck multiple days a week for 8hrs or more. and i stopped a few months ago because i start to hurt even when i wasnt tucking. now to know that there are actual medical consequences is nit only deeply saddening but also unsurprising

It’s honestly just a lack of knowledge about this which is the issue. Cis people, for the most part, don’t understand the risks that come with binding or tucking (I myself have just recently learned of complications that can come from tucking). If people understand these complications better and understand that it’s very unhealthy to bind/tuck practically 24/7 then there wouldn’t be so much of an issue. It’s up to trans people who are willing to and educated cis people to explain and inform other cis people about this issue.

firedrake :

@mutuals stop and think before you reblog a post that has the word “lgbtia+” in it. advice from your friendly intersex mutual, archy: STOP dragging intersex ppl into the lgbt community. idc if you think aces/aros are lgbt just stop dragging other ppl into this. stop putting a fucking i in the acronym. intersex isn’t a gender OR a sexuality- it’s a medical condition. we have time and time again asked for you guys to recognize this, time and time again asked for you guys to stay out of our issues, but you continue to misgender us and use us as props for your arguments. your “lgbtia+ positivity” isn’t nice, it’s hurtful, it literally makes me so dysphoric because i’m basically being told that my genitals and chromosomes somehow make me inherently nonbinary. i’m not lgbt because i’m intersex, i’m lgbt because i’m trans and gay. y'all aren’t being “inclusive” or “recognizing our issues,” most of the time y'all don’t even know what intersex means and it’s obvious when you group it in with genders and sexualities. by dragging us into the lgbt community you are misgendering so many people and intersexist as fuck.

discoursepoisoning :

lesbianismst :

reminder to fellow exclusionists that there’s no good reason to be indiscriminately mean to asexuals. sure, unpack the ignorant and sometimes harmful manifestations of inclusionist ideology, but lots of asexuals are also legitimate members of the LGBT community and acting like it’s an inherently bad identity isn’t going to help anyone

just because cishet aces don’t belong in LGBT safe spaces doesn’t mean that no aces do

you also don’t have to argue that aces experience no discrimination or oppression in order to argue that aces aren’t inherently LGBT. discrimination/oppression are not the barriers to entry into the acronym. plenty of groups are marginalized (women, people of color, disabled people, fat people, poor people, and so on) but they arent LGBT unless they are LGBT.

exclusionism is the correct position, but be right about why you’re right

sunastreo :

“we can’t use the lesbian flag for pride posts because terfs use it sometimes so its a terf flag now. anyways heres a pansexual flag edited over the words hearts not parts”

eilikes :

wintre-daemon-berserker :

f-eelgoodinc :

korosensei-404 :

mattmurdockisfuckingblind :

apparentlytransphobictransguy :

radmona :

apparentlytransphobictransguy :

radmona :

apparentlytransphobictransguy :

radmona :

So yeah @apparentlytransphobictransguy literally told me, a minor, to “get dick”

i, a minor, am busy getting some dick and not making useless callouts on tumblr.com

Cool, keep making excuses for the fact that you literally told a minor to have sex

excuses vs. i myself have sex and don’t see any issue with it

keep trying to spark outrage over nothing, and get some dick while you’re at it

Ok if you can’t see why there’s a problem with telling a minor to have sex, regardless of whether you are a minor or not, then I’m just gonna block you

LMAO block me

sensitive ass

I…I can’t believe what I’m reading

They really did just walk into that one. 10/10 good response ATTG.

I’m getting too old for this shit and I’m only 17 what is this place

“FUCK CISHETS”

“actually, YOU go fuck cishets”

“iM A MiNOr U CrEp HoW DaRE U???????”

“I’m a minor too”

“IM A MIIIIINOR!!!!!!!! GET BLOCKED!!!!”

“lol”

God I really don’t know how this person is going to survive highschool, and if they’re already in highschool, idk how the fuck they’ve survived past the first week lmao

gayghost :

discourse-dot-com :

jucked :

gayghost :

gayghost :

Biggest pet peeve is when an articale or post that’s talking about “LGBT”, and they talk about the L, the G, and the B, but don’t mention the T.

It’s fucking 2019

LGBT doesn’t mean same gender attracted

Trans people are apart of the community and when talking about the topic of “LGBT people”, whether it be about representation, pride, discrimination, unemployment, dating, medical practice, etc. Trans people, whether trans women, trans men, or non-binary people, need to be mentioned.

can I also add? when showrunners, movie directors, all these big honchos in media, talk big about how “we’re inclusive to LGBT storytelling” but. they never even mention stuff about the T in LGBT. they never do. and it’s so disappointing. honestly just say gay instead if the T is just a lousy afterthought for y'all

Hey can I ask a serious question about this?

What about when only talking about same sex attraction and not necessarily gender? Because those are two different things and so they need different conversations for them. So like,,, what’s the appropriate reaction/terminology for that? Should just LGB be used or…? Idk it doesn’t feel right to call all same sex attracted people gay because there are people who are attracted to more than one gender and therefore not gay.

Seriously I’m not trying to be rude or trying to start discourse, I’m just asking a genuine question because I want to know how best to handle things.

I would say sga (same gender attraction), gay (it can be used as an umbrella term depending on who you’re talking to), gay/bi, or LGB. I’m fine with articles saying “gay people” personally, but I’m gay and not bi so that wouldn’t really affect me anyways.

I’m talking about articles that says for instance “here’s a list of lgbt representation” and then it doesn’t mention trans people (like jucked said.) or “here are the struggles of lgbt” and then no mention of trans people. That’s annoying, that’s misleading.

Id journalism or essays are about same gender attraction, and only that, that is ok. I would prefer not to be misled with “lgbt” though.

Although keep in mind, for stuff like discussions titles “lgbt representation” or “the struggles of lgbt” those should not be discussion just about sga people, trans people should be mentioned in those discussions. For instance a statement like “lack of representation hurt LGB people” to exclude the T in that sense would not make sense, because lack of representation affects trans people and lgb people the same way.

jucked :

gayghost :

gayghost :

Biggest pet peeve is when an articale or post that’s talking about “LGBT”, and they talk about the L, the G, and the B, but don’t mention the T.

It’s fucking 2019

LGBT doesn’t mean same gender attracted

Trans people are apart of the community and when talking about the topic of “LGBT people”, whether it be about representation, pride, discrimination, unemployment, dating, medical practice, etc. Trans people, whether trans women, trans men, or non-binary people, need to be mentioned.

can I also add? when showrunners, movie directors, all these big honchos in media, talk big about how “we’re inclusive to LGBT storytelling” but. they never even mention stuff about the T in LGBT. they never do. and it’s so disappointing. honestly just say gay instead if the T is just a lousy afterthought for y'all

Hey can I ask a serious question about this?

What about when only talking about same sex attraction and not necessarily gender? Because those are two different things and so they need different conversations for them. So like,,, what’s the appropriate reaction/terminology for that? Should just LGB be used or…? Idk it doesn’t feel right to call all same sex attracted people gay because there are people who are attracted to more than one gender and therefore not gay.

Seriously I’m not trying to be rude or trying to start discourse, I’m just asking a genuine question because I want to know how best to handle things.

Kinda outside my usual discourse, kinda a rant, but I think it’s important to be said that forcing diet culture on young children isn’t the only way to make them obsessed with weight and calories and food in the future. It can be on the entire end of the spectrum, where a parent or guardian is horribly obese and so the kid knows that they don’t want to end up that way at any cost.

My grandma is only around 5 feet tall and weighs over 400lbs. I love her, but it’s so heartbreaking and kind of scary to see her struggle to get up just one flight of stairs or walk more than 50ft. She has diabetes caused by her weight problems. She can’t breathe right and she has trouble getting in and out of cars. I grew up with that mental image in my head, and I knew I didn’t want to grow up and be fat like grandma.

So, I get to my teen years, and trying my hardest to be skinny isn’t something I do because I want to fit in, it’s something I do out of the fear and paranoia I have of becoming obese like my grandma. I find myself obsessing over 5lbs or worrying about the little chub on my tummy, because in my mind it’s a slippery slope to my grandma’s size. I let myself eat a cheeseburger, and then I have to worry about letting that become a habit I can’t break.

And part of the reason I’m so aware of my size and weight and care so much is because my grandma has always had the mentality that she is fine the way she is and that her weight isn’t an issue, even when she’s not able to stand for more than maybe 10 minutes because of her weight. I feel like if I don’t care as much as I do, then that’s a quick path to not caring at all.

So, really, both the mentality of “caring too much about your weight” and “caring not at all about your weight” can damage your child’s relationship with food, weight, and their body. It’s just sad that no one else talks about the second one

Anyways this wasn’t meant to be a rant but damn it felt good to get out

Question: I don't understand why cishet aces don't want to start their own community. Like to me it's simple. I'm disabled, so I'm part of the disabled community, and I'm bisexual, so I'm part of the LGBT community. Aces like to use the point of LGBT aces as to why they shouldn't make their own community, but then they would just be part of the LGBT community and the ace community. The existence of aphobia or not, it just makes sense to me why there should be two separate communities.
Answer:

Right tho especially since like,,,,, if aphobia IS real (it isnt but ill bite) wouldnt the LGBT community be a bad place for aces trying to escape aphobia anyway??? Since like, theres no reason LGBT people would be any LESS aphobic than the general population… i dont go into womens spaces and expect all the conversations to be about homophobia because they are spaces for two separate issues, even though they often intersect. The LGBT community wouldnt be equipped to deal with that shit anyway, and it absolutely shouldnt have to be considering we have our own issues we are dealing with that actually affect members of our own community

kenhinna :

seeing pride posts with no lesbian flag

queer-nez :

june is approaching and so are the insufferable exclusionists trying to make aros and aces seem inherently homophobic cringy people.

so, as an aspec lesbian who would like to enjoy pride for once in her damn life i have a request to non-exclusionists:

-when you see a post made by an ‘ace’ person that is so Obviously Bad and awful and Homophobic and all in all Problematic in Every Way, it’s very possible it wasn’t made by an asexual person but instead a piece of shit trying to demonize asexual people. if there’s a comment that says ‘this is why everyone hates asexuals’ ding! ding! aphobic asshole detected! please don’t reblog the post.

-if a post talks about how aces are better than allos and think we’re purer or whatever, that’s a troll. almost none of us think like this.

-if an 'ace’ person refers to themselves as 'acey’ or 'asexy’ that’s probably a troll. while they were words we used to use exclusionists took them and user them to mock us and call us cringy. most of us don’t like using them because of this.

-if an 'ace’ person calls allos 'dirty allos'or 'dirty sex havers’ that’s a troll baby! exclusionists refuse to understand the definition of asexuality, or that a lot of us enjoy sex.

-if you see a post made by an 'ace’ or 'aro'person that’s complaining about pda in pride, that’s a troll! if an aro or ace person feels uncomfortable we’ll just leave. we don’t go around yelling at people about pda. a lot of us like it in fact.

so in conclusion if you see a post made by an aro or ace person that’s too bad to be true, it probably is. please don’t put these people in my dash, it ruins pride month for me.

[EDIT] to clarify since some people misunderstood what i meant: of course there are homophobic aros and aces. but there’s also a trend of people pretending to be aspec to further demonize aspecs and have an excuse to bully us. these are just a few things to look out for so you don’t fall for it. real aspec people might think this but they’re the minority.

For my fellow exclusionists: just because it’s pride doesn’t mean you can be a complete asshole to ace people. Actually, how about don’t ever be an asshole to ace people.

Having different opinions doesn’t give you an excuse to be an dick and all it does is weaken your argument.

downwithterf :

ftmfry :

frogmp3 :

secularglaze :

lord-kitschener :

It’s fine to identify as pansexual if that is what you’re most comfortable with, and there’s nothing inherently bad about it, but it’s pretty hard to deny that “pansexual” getting big as a term has a really fucked up biphobic and transphobic background, considering that it basically got popularized on the internet as “we’re more progressive than bi people because we actually loooove people for who they are, not just their genitals, also we’ll fuck trans/NB people too,” and it really, really shows in a lot of discourse and slogans from pan bloggers, and the mogai crowd. I’m not surprised at all people have finally lost patience with this shit

I’m pansexual because I see people who are nonbinary, trans, bisexual, homosexual, etc. I see them as people. But hey, I guess I’m disgusting for that.

that’s you

I CAN’T BELIEVE BISEXUAL AND GAY PEOPLE DON’T SEE PEOPLE AS PEOPLE WE JUST SEE GENITALS SKWPCOCJJSKWKAJD

the “hearts not parts” rhetoric is literally so fucking disgusting @secularglaze stop acting like people w other sexualities just date others because of genitalia, it’s transphobic, homophobic, and toxic. cis pan people ain’t any less transphobic than other cis people and your comment fucking shows it!

ruimtetijd :

transgender-official :

Hey y'all! Just in case nobody has heard queerisnotaslur99 has made it back to Tumblr as @wereherewerequeer99 . This person is a transmed that I advise you block. They are childish and disrespectful and are back to calling people trenders (woow I’m so surprised).

Behavior like this should absolutely not be tolerated within our community. Stay safe!

I was like “can’t be that bad right??” but uhhhh

Holy hell. wereherewerequeer99 you are an embarrassment to the transmed community.

enbycourse :

loud-and-queer :

Something I tossed together quickly for those of us who’ve been told we’re ‘acceptably queer’ for our other identities while being told that an important part of our queer identity is not queer enough on it’s own.

Aros and aces can’t reclaim queer

trendernepeta :

non lesbians stop making useless / stupid / moron lesbian jokes challenge

for anyone wondering, “useless lesbian” jokes were originally made by lesbians as a sort of self depreciating joke, based on the fact that many of us don’t recognize when girls are flirting with us due to never learning about it + due to heteronormity.

when non-lesbians (especially men) make useless lesbians jokes is. gross. especially since many of them go really far (ex. lesbians are stupid / morons / clueless / too dumb to function). it’s really just. gross to go to someone’s blog + to see a bunch of “my lesbian followers are dumb + stupid + useless” or “lesbians are morons”.

if you’re a non lesbian, it would be super sexy if you’d stop taking our jokes made about our experiences + turning them into “every lesbian is stupid + dumb + useless! please give me notes!” lmao.

succubused :

succubused :

if you are rude to lesbians i am going to throw rocks at you physically

just to be clear it was me a real life gay woman who made this post not thor or any other fictional character and i would suggest that the marvel stans in the notes calm down before you start qualifying as rock targets too

peridot-truscum :

i-am-a-fish :

FISH ACCOUNT ON TUMBLR SAID LESBIAN RIGHTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Okay I’m sorta pressed right now. The ace post was good. The bi/pan post was alright (still not a supporter of pan but whatever). But they both used the flags for these sexualities.

It isn’t that hard. There are many new lesbian flags now. This one is what has been accepted by most of the lesbian community. Use it. It will never be widely accepted if people keep avoiding it.

deeepseametro :

lesbophobe moodboard!

aprilcruelsday :

Since pride month is coming up:

- Don’t complain/shame people for public displays of affection. Doing so is sheer homophobia, no matter what. I don’t care if you say “all pda grosses me out” - if you don’t like it, don’t go to Pride. Plain and simple. Gay people have been fighting to be able to even HOLD HANDS in public, for cryin’ out loud.

- Don’t sexualize gay people either. Saying “yeah I’m fine with pda but I just don’t want people humping in public!!!” Is JUST as bad as saying the above. NOBODY is being overly sexual in public, and even if they are, that’s a personal issue, not an issue with Pride as a whole.

- Straight trans/nonbinary people exist, and they belong at Pride. If you’re going to complain about cishets, SAY CISHETS. Straight trans/nonbinary people are our friends, and we need to welcome them with open arms.

- Bi people who are in a relationship with someone of the opposite gender are STILL BI. They belong at Pride too. If you say otherwise, you’re being biphobic, and you really need to rethink your priorities.

- Not everybody is okay with being called the Q slur. It’s fine to reclaim it for yourself, but do NOT apply it to others without their prior consent. Same goes for any other slur, such as the F slur, D slur, and T slur.