Question: Hey uh I'm sorry if this is weird but like is living as an open trans man really worth it??? I promise this isn't hate I've recently came to the conclusion that I'm a trans man and honestly its more than a little terrifying for several different reasons I'm really sorry if this bothers you or is too personal or anything like that I just want/kinda need some advice
I’m so sorry that you’re feeling scared and alone right now, and I hope that pain eases soon.
I think a lot of people confuse “worth it” with “easy”. Coming out was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. I lost almost everyone who I thought mattered to me, I lost my job because I stopped wearing makeup, I got kicked out of the home I shared with my fiancé the day I was released from the mental hospital, and to top it all off, I had to buy new clothes, which is like, the worrrrst. Ugh.
And I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I’d do it again, in a heartbeat, any day, any timeline.
Because I am so, so happy now. The kind of happy that settles in your chest like a bonfire, that warm, consuming happiness that’s so profound that, before you felt it, you didn’t even really know you were sad.
And, sure, it hurts, too. This isn’t an easy life. It isn’t fun. I wouldn’t wish it on anybody, really, and I know that’s mean to say.
But everything hurts, my man. You can’t let that stop you.
You have to look inside yourself, at all of that pain, both real and hypothetical, and ask yourself what you’re willing to hurt for.
Do you want the pain of having to always hide, of never getting to be you, of never being known or loved exactly as you are? Or do you want the ache of growth? Do you want pain that means something? That’s worth it?
Because here’s the thing, and it’s gonna hurt real bad to hear this, so buckle up: People that stop loving you because you’re trans never loved you in the first place. Not the way you need, at least. Not the way you deserve.
So, that’s what you’re afraid of, fuck ‘em. For real.
I know it’s not that easy, that there’s money and houses and phone bills, but if you know this is who you are and what you need, you owe yourself an authentic life.
TL;DR - yeah dude it beats ass i’m having a sick time lmao