Practice makes perfect.
Practice makes perfect.
Gray, gay, and have a great day!
T*RFs when they find out I’m dating another trans woman
I didn’t go to much of my 9th grade health class. When the class was separated by boys and girls, they simply didn’t know where to put me. I chose to opt out and sit alone in the art classroom instead. We really need health education that focuses on trans health, the inequities in care, and the racist practices of medicine in the United States.
I didn’t know all my options for surgery, hormones, and transgender medicine at that age. And I certainly didn’t in earlier elementary school, when we should start conversations on sexual health, gender identity, and growing up.
We’re fortunate there are now organizations like Scarleteen and Advocates for Youth that provide extensive sex ed for cis and trans youth alike. I strongly suggest you check them out and see how you can contribute to an honest sex education in your own communities.
81 years ago today.
Sandra Bland didn’t kill herself
My fingers are still crossed for Pete. 🤞😉
I think we’re being haunted!
Trans people have always been here! Thanks to Lou Sullivan for being such a trailblazer for the rest of us. 💖
I was just invited to participate in an Israeli propaganda campaign program. I can’t make this clearer: I do not work with terrorist organizations!!! Not only would participating violate my own ethics but also contribute to a campaign waging genocide against the Palestinian people. There is no valid excuse to support Israel. This isn’t an equal-sided conflict but a massacre of Palestinians.
Israel is an apartheid state. There are over 50 laws privileging Jews over Arabs as I write this. Jews gain automatic citizenship while Arabs do not (despite being indigenous to the land), violating their basic human rights.
Imagine having your home paved over with no warning. Imagine segregated roads that make it impossible for you to access the wealthy parts of your city. Imagine not having running water because your state disconnected it. Imagine seeing your friends routinely, systematically shot and killed at protests. Imagine having your hospitals, schools, and shelters relentlessly bombed. Imagine being arrested, misgendered, and publicly shamed for refusing to participate in these war crimes by your government.
As Jews, it’s our obligation to not work with the propaganda arm of terrorist organizations like the right-wing Israeli government. You can help improve human rights in Palestine by boycotting, divesting, and sanctioning Israel for these war crimes. Learn more at jvp.org.
Today in news we already knew.
Ending the stigma of drug use will save lives.
Today’s affirmation art: Do not parade your trauma for those who are not equally enraptured by your joy. Our tragedies are not for consumption 💛 What does this mean? Well, often when people want to hear the stories of marginalized people, it’s trauma/tragedy narratives that people can either pity or feel “inspired” by, tragedy is often used as entertainment. But when marginalized people share stories of success, joy, confidence, it’s often not appreciated in the same way. It’s seen as arrogance, bragging, obnoxious, or boring. Why do we prefer to consume tragedy narratives about vulnerable people but don’t have the same interest in seeing them thrive? As a result, we are often forced to perform our traumas in order to be listened to and seen as valid, while our other experiences are erased and forgotten. It is important to resist the pressure to perform our vulnerability for others who are not genuinely interested in our happiness.
Can I get a yee-haw?
They’re onto us!
My parents just evacuated their home in Sonoma county due to the Kincade fire. This photo was from 2 years ago, at my parents’ house. You can see a lot of green but by the fall the leaves are mostly dry and brown. Although unlikely to completely burn, I may never return to this home. Both my childhood home 100 miles north and my parents’ new house are under mandatory evacuation orders from fires. Let me be clear: these fires are the result of corporate greed and colonization.
California currently faces record-breaking winds and heat due to climate change. Electricity companies such as PG&E are also largely unregulated following multi-million dollar lobbying campaigns. The sparks that led to the fire were from an old PG&E transformer that hasn’t been updated in years.
Second, the land, which PG&E laid out its dangerous electricity grid on, was stolen from Pomo, Miwok, and Wappo people. In the 1850’s, US Cavalry slaughtered 400 Pomos, mostly women and children. They then offered a “safe” area of reservations, using this opportunity to seize all the land now habited by private property. The government allows PG&E to lay power lines pretty much wherever they want. And the reason they’re not underground? It’s too expensive and PG&E’s stock price would go down.
As a trans Jew, I’m excited to see this conversation. When you doubt the existence of a group, you undermine that group’s ability to live meaningful lives.
Anti-trans pundits keep accusing me of “redefining womanhood” so I’m going to roll with it. However, I still believe in justice for both real women and cis women. Just because a cis woman didn’t spend years thinking about her gender doesn’t mean she’s not as valid as trans women. Cis women are only being their authentic selves and deserve support too. They even sometimes go through their own gender journeys with fashion, media, and experimentation. I see no reason why we can’t support our female cisters, who are just like us despite being assigned female at birth by a doctor. Feminism means respecting all women: actual women and cis women alike.
Trans bodies are not wrong. They are not shameful. They are not broken.
Where’s the lie?
I transitioned to goth
I just found this old photo from when I was 14 on my computer. This was from my class trip to Barcelona. It was one of the first times I was somewhere very few knew I was trans. My other classmates silently agreed not to tell others about my gender in order to avoid conflict. I was thrilled to go out of the country because no one would know for the first time. I hid behind my bangs as much as I hid behind my selfies. However, the whole time
I felt like I left a piece of myself behind in California. I attempted to emulate a straight cis girl. And that moment I realized that’s not who I was. I would not be cisgender just to be normal or respectable for the other tour groups.
Being the 14-year-old troll I was, I told different members of the groups I was different genders (“I’m a boy,” “I’m a girl,” “I dunno.”). Being out is powerful. Being trans is powerful. Saying no to respectability is powerful. And I’m proud of 14-year-old me for knowing that.
Trans culture is trans humor
I posted on my Instagram story asking for testosterone for a trans friend. His doctor is out for the next three months and he already had to stop taking his medication.
Getting a new prescription is very difficult but almost every trans person I know has some extra hormones lying around. My friend even had an expired prescription for it! Yet, someone still reported me simply for asking. They even got my story taken down! Being trans means supporting one another. Sharing your medications harms no one.
I encourage all my friends to help others who may not have easy access to hormones by directly sharing theirs. It’s easy to ship through USPS and I have for friends before. This shouldn’t be something shameful but an action that we’re proud of. The medical industry, gatekeeping, and medicine stigma are unnecessary roadblocks to lifesaving medication.
For everyone claiming it’s dangerous to share hormones: it isn’t. You can measure your own doses of fluid, gel, or pills. Testosterone and estradiol (estrogen) are generally sourced from the same places. If someone has an allergy, they can inform the person they’re asking. If they don’t know they have one yet, then they’re just as likely to have that reaction from prescribed hormones. It is illegal to share them but the law can’t dictate our ethics. Sometimes, breaking the law is a moral imperative.
I am not amused.
Welcome to the family, Michel Foucat! Norah and I got our first cat together this week. We can’t wait to love and cherish her more than straight people do human children. Stay tuned for more kitty updates.