Friendly reminder to not be assholes to your local pharmacy staff because 10 out 10 times it’s either your insurance or doctor is shit
Since joining Tumblr, I’ve met a lot of young queer people. Look, I’m a bisexual man in a gay relationship, and I’m approaching 30. I was still a kid when Matthew Shepard’s story was being covered on the news. I remember thinking, “I better keep my mouth shut about these feelings I’m having.”
And then I met Dominic when I was 12, and people could see how in love we were. And we got the shit beat out of us. The year I met him, some kids in the grade above me held me down against the bleachers in our gym and stomped on my hand until my fingers broke. Instead of sending me to the nurse, the teacher sent me to the assistant principal to explain the situation. She asked why the kids had beat me up. I said, “They were calling me gay.”
Her response was, “Well, are you?”
My, “I don’t know,” earned a call to my parents, and I was outed. Efforts were made to keep me from seeing Dom. Throughout high school, Dom’s stepmother intensified these efforts. He slept in the basement of the house. Although he was an incredibly talented student, he was prohibited from participating in any extracurriculars. He suffered a lot of physical abuse during those years.
The day he turned 18, he packed up everything he had and walked to my house, and we’ve lived together ever since. Things are better, but they’re not perfect. I’ve had trucks pull up next to me at stoplights and, seeing the pride sticker on my car, through old drinks and garbage into my window. I no longer speak to my dad’s side of the family. I haven’t been to see them for Christmas or Thanksgiving in years. One of my uncles had cornered me at Thanksgiving when I was 17 and said, “I’m not going to judge you, but I’d be happy to break your neck so God can do the judging a little sooner.”
I joined a support group for trans and intersex people. When I joined, 40 people attended regularly. Within the year, the group was half the size it had been. Some couldn’t make it anymore, because they were staying at the shelter, where their stay hinged on them agreeing to instead to attend homophobic sermons. Some were put in correctional therapy. Five of them died. Three of those, I didn’t know, but I knew Alex, the 19 year old who was fag-dragged in Kentucky and died a day later in the hospital, and I knew Stephanie, who went home to Alabama to care for her mom in hospice and was beaten to death with a baseball bat by her mom’s boyfriend.
Tumblr is not reality. The dynamic here does not reflect the dynamic out there. Here’s the part where I finally make a point, and it might be extremely unpopular - but guys, value your allies. Value each other. We are met with enough hate in our daily lives to enter an online safe-space and meet more hate from our own, over petty things. Don’t go after one another over every little thing you find problematic.
Learn to see nuance. Maybe the word “queer” bothers you, and you see a gay man using it as an umbrella term. Maybe someone called a trans man a trans woman because they’re confused about terminology, but the post where they did it was voicing support for the trans community. Maybe someone is just asking a question, wanting to learn more. Stop. Attacking. These. People.
Allies are being driven away. Members of our own community are being ostracized. Others are feeling nervous and estranged, and it’s largely because of places like Tumblr, where the social justice movement is quickly becoming violent and radical. I am begging you, stop nitpicking “problematic” things and start directing your efforts to create real change. When it comes to comes to your allies, forget the “social justice warrior” mentality and put down your torch. Educate calmly. Be respectful. Be understanding. Be forgiving. And I’m certainly not saying that your anger doesn’t have a good place - when you are met with bigots on the street, congress members who want to pass hateful laws, violent protesters, abusive parents, prejudiced teachers, that is when you need to be a warrior. That’s when it counts. In the real world. When you have the opportunity to protect people from real harm. Attacking your would-be allies via anonymous asks is just going to lose us ground in the long run. And we don’t have time for that, not when trans women of color are being murdered every day, not when states are still fighting against marriage equality, not when there are politicians in office who believe that trans people are possessed by demons, not when we’ve just lost 50 brothers and sisters to one gunman, not when the media won’t even admit that the attack was homophobic.
Please step back. Look at the big picture. Look at where we are, globally. Don’t just log on to your safe space and attack your allies over small missteps. That’s like washing the dishes in a house that’s on fire, kids. Let’s fight on the battlefield, and when we come home to each other, let’s just focus on bandaging up our wounds so we can go out and win the war.
Signal boost to this unbelievably important message.
I’d reblog this a thousand times if I could.
Stop attacking allies. Educate. Not hate.
This is incredibly important. Please read!
Educate calmly. Be respectful. Be understanding. Be forgiving.
Gonna Reblog this every time
Good post. And it’s educating and welcoming our allies that gives us the parents who embrace their child with support. It’s being a good example that gives us a school environment, work environments with understanding, kind people that make the days a breeze.
Nobody is asking you to ignore the homophobia, or take in the unjust deaths calmly. But educate the ignorant. Be a good example, be kind, have some patience, and notice how people change. It makes all the difference today and for future generations.
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Boosting this for followers or stumblers onto my blog.
I can’t help with 99% of eating disorder stuff because just thinking about it triggers crazytownbananapants for me, but this could really help some people.
Who’s downloading it??
@eyeamindiibleu I hope this was okay to tag you in, this looks so good.
So, I broke up with my SO and my coworkers decided it was time to change my background. They sent me ugly pictures of themself to put at backgrounds and if it’s not true friendship idk what it is
Hey guys, I don’t really post my own content often because I usually just reblog stuff but I think this is a great time to change that. I heard the news yesterday about Jonghyun and I was devastated, SHINee was, and still is, one group that I admire. I am not a Shawols but my heart is with everyone of you who are. If someone want to talk or cry or whatever, don’t be afraid to hit me up. This blog is a safe place for all of you guys☺️. My heart goes to the family of the victim and his members. Let’s remember Jonghyun has a hard-working, talented and passionate artist who also stand for what he belived. He’s in a better place now.
Nobody knows what these idols are going through in their lives.
We only see what they put out to the public, many idols could be suffering in silence, shouldn’t this be a lesson?
We don’t know hardly anything about these idols underneath the surface. Your words hurt them too.
As someone who is struggling with depressions, let me tell you something, you can’t tell the voices in your head go away, you can’t just ‘get over it’. Every day is a daily battle to stay alive, the tiniest thing can trigger the voices in your head telling you that you should kill yourself.
Jonghyun was so talented, an amazing performer, a great role model to many, he helped so many people without even releasing it. He supported the LGBTQ community, he fought for what he believed in.
At 9am this morning I was crying happy tears over a couple getting married and now since 12pm I have been crying over a death of a guy who helped me in my darkest of times.
For those saying “SM haven’t confirmed”. They are probably grieving too, they have lost a member of their family. His sister has confirmed it along with the police, that is all the confirmation you need. Let everybody grieve, respect their privacy.
Don’t expect Shinee to be doing variety’s or being active in the public at this time, they have lost their brother
Please, don’t struggle in silence, talk to someone, whether it be online or a friend or family member.
For anyone feeling suicidal or is extremely distressed by this situation my ask box and messages are open, I will reblog helplines for you all to contact if you need them.
Please, be kind, everyone you come across has a story and you may never what they have or are going through. It shouldn’t take a death to unite us, we should already me united as fandoms in giving our idols a place they can feel safe and loved.
Respect everyone grieving right now.
Rest In Peace Jonghyun, we will never forget you.
My heart goes to the one involved. I don’t have a lot of followers but I’m there if anyone needs to talk. This blog is a safe place for Shawols❤️
Mon coeur est avec les concernés. Je n’ai pas beaucoup de followers, mais je suis ici si quelqu’un a besoin de parler. Ce blog est un endroit sécuritaire pour tout les Shawols❤️
Jonghyun was one of the most thoughtful artists I’ve ever followed. His support for the lgbt community and his advocacy for mental health has been a beacon of hope in an industry that denies both. I can’t even put in words how much he will be missed and how much this hurts.
- Easy and very effective
- Requires nothing but your body
- Includes attack
Very useful to know, pass and share please.
I don’t mean to impose a personal favour on you guys, but I really would like to ask that everyone who follows me reblog this.
I don’t think I made it very clear but last month I was sexually assaulted by someone who I thought was my friend (I don’t want to talk about it don’t ask), and it’s… really fucked with my head.
Had I known this a month ago I would have been able to get away.
So, essentially, I’m really pleading with you to reblog this so everyone who follows you doesn’t get stuck in the same position I was with no way out.
I mean again I don’t want the point of this to be my sob story or whatever but if you could reblog this it would seriously mean a lot
and im asking to all of my followers who see this post in your dashboard to please press play to this video, you never know when this is gonna be useful, PLEASE DON’T IGNORE IT.
I shit you not it happened to me earlier today
Street Racer AU: Jimin is a street racer in Busan who has gained some popularity through his instagram. Jungkook is convinced by his best friend to go to a street race and ends up in the passenger seat of an incredibly fast car. [Completed]
That shit was lit wtf
PS: A few of yah are REALLY taking my meme TOO seriously. Jimin is my bias and can hangout/have bromances with whoever he wants.Shipping is for FUN and shouldn’t be taken seriously. This is just a jikook MEME and should be taken LIGHTLY as a JOKE!!! Laugh a bit and live a little, please.
Hey guys, it’s been a while but here’s my new meme!!
Bangtan is a genuine example of: came from the bottom, now here we are.
Remember when they couldn’t afford big brand names and had to hold lights in their own photoshoots and now they’re decked up in Gucci and Saint Laurent.
Yoongi may be wearing Rolex in his wrist but for us, he’ll also be forever remembered as the $3 chain guy. And of course, Min Suga Genius jjang jjang man bboong bboong.
The members have matured and grown beautifully and their growth is something we can all relate to. They weren’t always this good, uwah, they’ve improved. They’ve made us think this on every step of the journey towards the spring days and perhaps along our most beautiful moment of life.
To me, this day marks the birth of an iconic group which is not only taking over the music world, but also touching the hearts of people and reaching out to the youth. To me, they’re the people that made me the person I am- relying more on my dreams and the present than being caught in lies of society and education system.
They’ve taught me, and countless others, to value life. To live, not just breathe and survive. They’ve taught me about friendship, a concept I still have trouble understanding.
Because they’re Bangtan, I’m happy just because they are.
Because I’m ARMY. And I’ve got to be a part of their phenomenal Wings and help them reach new heights. All this comes down to one thing-
What we do is a reflection of BTS’ image. We need to stop hating on other fandoms, barging into any kind of issue with BTS’ name, participating in fan wars, thinking ourselves to be superior, etc.
It only tarnishes BTS’ image and ARMYS’.
Let’s stay together for a long long time, family. 💜
WaKE mE uP InSiDE!!!
I’M NOT CRYING NOPE