Unpopular opinion: straight people using “partner” to refer to their SO actually helps normalize the term so that lgbt folx can use it without automatically outing themselves to strangers. It also helps other straight ppl get comfortable with the fact that strangers aren’t entitled to information about other people’s gender or sexuality.
Give op their hard-earned notes
Tbh I hear “partner” and assume gay, I didn’t know straights used it. Very fair point, OP
I hear ‘partner’ and think ‘gay’ too. A girl at work used it for months and I just went with it. When she would say ‘he’ I even thought maybe he was trans*. Anyways, someone using partner makes me more comfortable and I came out to her. She was just an intelligent straight girl that liked the term and was knowledgeable in human sexuality so definitely someone I should have felt comfortable coming out too. It’s a good sign of a straight person uses it IMO.
As a mental health clinician, this is actually my blanket term when discussing any romantic relationship. I agree it normalizes it, but I also think it’s a relatively safe term to use to describe most romantic relationships without making any assumptions about the person’s orientation or identity. I also use the word “partnered” when describing a monogamous relationship status.
The term “partner” also removes the implied hierarchy of boyfriend/girlfriend vs husband/wife. This is relevant both to non-monogamous people, and unmarried individuals for whom the importance of their relationship isn’t dictated by its legal status.
also you can make cowboy jokes
fun tip for cis people: instead of saying “back when she was a he” or “back before [birthname] became [preferred name]”, try not being a pile of shit by saying something like “before she came out” or “before she began her transition”!
Pls friends and thanks.
“before she came out” is so easy and preserves so much dignity, PLEASE
I’ve been wondering the best way to say this. Thank you.
also if their transition is irrelevant to the story, don’t bring it up! just say “when X was a kid/ younger/ in college/ etc” and carry on using their current name and pronouns.
That last point is very important! DO NOT OUT ANYONE! Do not bring up their trans status or transition unnecessarily! And you trying to look more interesting/cool/whatever by having a trans friend does not count as “neccessary”!!
If by popularity, you mean representation and acceptance, it is true that the LGBTQ community is experiencing more and better representation in all of these areas. It would seem that more people are becoming un-closeted and are enjoying support from others in our society, especially the younger generations.
I think it is becoming a big thing for a number of reasons. First, the freedom to live authentically for people in the community has been hard-fought, and there is celebration when marginalized people can enjoy rights, privileges, respect and acceptance that have always been afforded to the majority population. What’s more, representation for people in the LGBTQ community means is that they can watch t.v. or sports or read authors and see people like themselves represented in a positive way. Whereas that has always been true for heterosexual or ci-gendered people, especially if they were white, that has not been the case for this community. So now they can experience heroes and role models and love stories, etc. Kids with gay parents or family members can see their families represented. Kids who are trying to figure out who they are can see people like themselves with some of the same questions.
Representation may also seem like a big thing if you are a viewer and have been exposed to teaching regarding a FALSE conspiracy theory regarding “The Gay Agenda” that is actually produced by the Elite and promoted by some religious teachers. The thing to consider, is that when a marginalized group is just wanting the same considerations as the majority, that it is not a danger to society. It is the cooperation with fear, division, and other-making that serves the Elite.
Regarding gender, these are some of my thoughts: Though the controversy extends beyond different religious views, for a large part, the debate about gender stems from the conflict between individuals’ experience, backed up by scientific findings, on one side, and those who are pointing to a verse in the Bible, along with the majority enforcement of majority experience on the other. In history, the majority of people have identified as male and female. In ancient literature, like the Bible, a creation story in the book of Genesis can read “and God made them male and female,” and that could have accurately described the way the majority of people identified in the Ancient Near Eastern society, in which it was written. The intent of the story is descriptive not prescriptive. Not only that, it describes the leading thinking of the time, but that doesn’t necessarily make it scientifically true. In the same opening chapters of Genesis, the Bible also states that the earth is flat and has a dome of water above it. This belief was also described in other works of Ancient Near Eastern literature from neighboring societies. For those of us who are willing to believe that the earth is not flat, with a dome of water above it, it is also acceptable to believe that the Bible was never meant to be a book about science.
some pretty black scene queens to bless ur feed uwu💕
If ur a poc never EVER feel like you can’t be an alt/scene/emo/goth/etc. kid because of ur skin color because we do exist,we are out there,you aren’t alone there are others just like you trust me 💕
You only live once so dress how you want !!! Listen to the music you want!!! Talk the way you want (even if you do “sOuNd WhItE”) !!! BE UNIQUE!!!
Happy Black History Month!!!
me, after ‘‘‘accidentally’’’ running into the sexy vampire lady who owns the 14th-century gothic castle i decided to take shelter in for the night: oops, sorry, didn’t see you there! ;) *unfastens one of my shirt buttons so my neck is exposed* kinda hot in here, don’t you think? ;) *unfastens another button*
in real life you will probably not respond to harassment in a sexy, clever, scripted way where you come out with the upper hand and everyone claps. you will freeze up and your moment will pass, or your voice will shake when you tell them to stop and you’ll realize two minutes later that you’re gross and sweaty and sticky from the adrenaline. maybe you’ll be on the ball and answer in a way you actually think is pretty smart and get ignored, or they’ll get more aggressive when you mouth off to them. you almost never will walk away feeling victorious. you walk away feeling uncomfortable and relieved that it’s over. you’ll think about it later and imagine that maybe you could have said something else. maybe you’ll feel ashamed that you weren’t quicker-witted, weren’t able to cut them down to size, weren’t able to avoid that lingering sick feeling in the pit of your stomach, as though there’s some kind of magical words you could have said that would have left you feeling less powerless. there really aren’t.
Honestly this is such an important lesson to learn. If someone threatens, belittles, or verbally assaults you, you will likely feel bad, no matter how you respond. Please don’t beat yourself up for feeling emotions that are perfectly healthy and justified.
why is it when my cat is sleeping i cannot resist the urge to touch her just so i can hear the Cat Activation Noise
my cat: *sleeping peacefully*
me: *plunges my fingers into her soft, soft fur just so i may hear the Murps*
see how little we get taught about history - I never had any idea why Malcolm X used the ‘X’.
How come I didn’t know this
Also that crusty old white man called the named ‘gifted’. Jesus.