why are 90% of hashtags on twitter just open transphobia
why are 90% of hashtags on twitter just open transphobia
ok btw if anyone wondered, the reason I was offline for just under a week is because i spilled water on my laptop and bricked it 48 hours before i was due to move
anyone know a good translation of the mabinogion?
genuinely feel like i’m going thru the trans version of autistic burnout if u get me
to elaborate: if you’re not familiar, autistic burnout is what happens when an autistic person has been masking their autistic traits for too long (normally subconsciously and for Years, the burnout is something that tends to happen when you’re a teen and is how many people who weren’t diagnosed early in life find out they’re autistic) anyway, pressure builds up on the autistic person, they reach a breaking point where they stop being able to suppress their autistic traits.
A big part of it can be that the masking puts on more pressure but also stops the person accessing autistic coping mechanisms. ie. someone forces themself to make eye contact when this overwhelms them, and suppresses their need to stim, which would otherwise help to cope with the overload.
Anyway, I feel like there’s a parallel experience here for all queer people really, but especially trans people. Before you’re out, you’re constantly having to perform your assigned gender even if it doesn’t come naturally, plus denying dysphoria and not letting yourself take the necessary steps to deal with it. Even after you realise you’re trans, you can end up doing this stuff consciously because the idea of transitioning is so stressful.
Recently I’ve become much more aware of my dysphoria, to the extent it’s been effecting me in ‘new’ ways, and I’ve also become much more motivated to actually transition medically and come out at all. It’s been confusing but I do think it’s comparable to when I stopped being able to function during autistic burnout, like I had regressed. But I guess what it is is like, ‘functioning’ as neurotypical/cis stops being possible, and the process of finding a more sustainable way to be looks like breaking down at first :(
idk, I have no idea if this is interesting to anyone, but rn the best way to describe what I’m going through is that I’ve got to a point where I genuinely cannot ignore dysphoria anymore and that just carrying on telling myself I’m ‘girl enough’ that I don’t need to transition sounds undoable.
a reminder to autistics who have low empathy:
do not let people use this against you.
having low empathy does not, in any way, affect your ability to:
- sympathize with people
- love people
- help someone in need
- be a good friend
- give advice
- feel emotions
- take care of another person, pet, plant, etc.
that’s all thank you for coming to my TED talk
Jolene (33 R.P.M) - click for .mp3
Unsure where this came from, if not the palsied hands of the good Lord himself.
Simple premise: Dolly Parton’s “Jolene” slipped from 45 to 33 rpm. Nothing more; no studio trickery, no trip hop drum breaks. The guitar lopes back in and around itself. The bass becomes elastic, hot rubber. The violin stabs become sustained cello lines. The backing choir’s split harmony rattles around, slinking ghostly into the corner. And most importantly, Parton’s once-frantic vocal is transformed from bubblegum country scrawl into something approximating field holler reverence.
An already perfect song made transcendental..
Who would win in a battle for my immortal soul: the devil on his fiddle or “Jolene” at 33 RPM
- Hoarding things
- Taking things apart
- Shitty memory
- Needing pressure on your body to sleep
“why are you inside the blanket”
“you don’t need that many ????”
*takes pens apart constantly*
“so you mean to tell me you go to town to walk around the shops and that’s it?”
*in a familiar area* “where to ____” “idk sorry”
*tries to balance weighted lap pad on my shoulder as I sleep*
We’re all just confused, vaguely nomadic dragons
I support this theory!
Reblog if you’re a confused, vaguely nomadic dragon, too
Oh my g-d??!!!!!!
Oh wow! That’s awesome!
It also recognizes domestic partnerships that aren’t romantic!!!
Recognizing and extending rights to people with multiple partners is wonderful news, and its not too long of an article so I definitely reccomend the read!
But if you’re curious, the end of the article is where it talks about recognizing non-romantic partnerships:
“Under the ordinance, domestic partners, whether in groupings of two or more, would not necessarily be romantic partners.
Miles Bratton, 47, said she would consider forming a domestic partnership with Anne-Marie Taylor, 43, whom she called her “platonic lifemate.”
The status would allow them to buy a house together and share benefits, like health insurance, but also to have outside romantic partners, or add a third “nesting partner” if they wished. Ms. Taylor said they had long held back from registering as domestic partners because the language her workplace used seemed to require that they be romantic partners.
“That has not felt right, so we haven’t done it,” she said. “Somerville is coming out and saying, ‘Hey, family can be a lot of other things, other than just two people.’”
This seems like huge news!
( @nextstepcake ;) )
the way i usually make usernames is by mixing random sounds together until i find something i like! you could also do something based of the aeneid or something related to your name, it could also be a pun of some kind!
hmmm all good ideas! thanks
have 2 say something………..
zuko is the Mom Friend
katara’s the Mom Friend (because they need one or they’d all die) until zuko shows up and for the last ten episodes, as all Default Mom Friends go when faced with the True Mom Friend™, she subconsciously says ‘oh cool i can let my hair down now. let’s go kill a man/let’s go see a play about ourselves in the middle of the fire nation/let’s go have a beach day right before we go try to kill a completely separate man’
Aang when he is told he’s the Avatar at age 12: *has a melt down because he understands the seriousness of this function and the consequences his new responsibilities will have on his personal life*
other Avatars at age 16: I’m the avatar? Cool! Hey look it comes with a glowing eyes feature!
You’re not wrong
roku: my best friend assaulted me as a senior citizen :(
kyoshi: sometimes some murder is OK
kuruk: just punch people that disagree with you
aang: okay i’m starting to think that none of you took this avatar thing seriously
to this day i cannot BELIEVE aang called up and blew off like nine avatars just because they didnt offer any vegan options to ending the war
another reminder that it’s okay to love men. it’s okay to be a man. it’s okay to love men whilst being a man. loving men isn’t sacrilege.
so loving men isn’t a curse. loving men isn’t “unfortunate”. loving men isn’t a bad thing. yes, we can joke about how awful men can be, but it gets to a a point where this mentality can really hurt. it can really feed into you hating yourself for something you can’t control. loving men is something special. loving yourself is just as beautiful.
Am I the only that thinks Bucky is going to be the more lighthearted one of the two in the Falcon and Winter Soldier series, cause bro:
Sam looks so annoyed in every scene with Bucky. In this gif, he’s stressed, the “I left my oven on and I’m pretty sure that’s my building burning in the distance” kind of stressed and BUCKY LOOKS LIKE AN ACQUAINTANCE HAPPILY JOGGING ALONG AS UNWELCOME MORAL SUPPORT AND IT SEEMS TO BE CONSISTENT WITH THEM. Even when they’re fighting Peter, Bucky doesn’t grow more frustrated he’s kind of just like, “Damn,” and Sam is like, “mOTHERFUC-”
These situations are among the worst Sam has ever been in.
Bucky? Shit, any day Nazis are not electrocuting him is a fucking great day.
also, i assume that bucky isnt actually supersoldier running. because he is keeping pace with his new friend sam
sam: oh god gonna save the world oh fuck
bucky: out for a pleasant jog, might shoot some bad guys, who knows
Sam: How the fuck aren’t you stressed right now
Bucky: You have no idea how low my bar is for a good day
still thinking about that one article where the writer said that to her as an autistic person concepts like justice are emotions bc like,,, yeah. yeah. and tbh! that’s a big part of how my low empathy comes out tbh. i might not feel ur feelings but i am strongly invested in doing right by you and that sense of morality is an emotion
idk shld i change my url? i love stormlight but it hasn’t been my special interest for ages and im also starting to feel weird about having a feminine name as my label online :/
like yeah i know he gets a bonkers good redemption arc but like. he didn’t actually need one because if you give a teenage boy a ship and tell the people on it to listen to him the least you can expect is some attempted murder. that’s not on him at that point
me, your friendly neighborhood villain apologist: zuko was never evil he was just 16
if i had to pick a label beyond “queer” for my gender, it would probably be bigender, although for personal reasons i choose to use the vaguest terms possible. i connect a lot to butch womanhood, and back before i realized i was aro and transmasculine i identified as a butch woman, but because 1. i’m definitely at least partially A Man™, 2. i wouldn’t call myself a lesbian or even sapphic/wlw by any stretch, and 3. my (complete) aromanticism complicates the other forms of attraction i do experience, i don’t apply that term to myself
but at the same time, i’m a fairly feminine queer man, and i’ve been completely alienated from the concept of womanhood due to my aromanticism and due to my neurodivergence. i was “not like other girls” as a kid, not because i felt like i was better than other girls, but because other girls said i wasn’t one of them, while i was largely accepted as like… a weird honorary boy by guys my age, because i wasn’t interested in romance or other stereotypically “girly” things
i often find myself caught between wanting to identify as transmasculine and be percieved as a man by society at large, and wanting to reclaim the womanhood that was denied to me as a teenager due to my aromanticism and neurodivergency. i don’t relate to other girls’ experience with gender much at all, even other queer girls, but i don’t relate to other transmasculine people that much either. gender, particularly feminine gender, is so tied up with attraction that when you lack attraction, you aren’t really given a choice but to feel completely alienated from every option.
i want to talk about gender in relation to my aromanticism, but i have no idea how to say what i want to say about it lmao
In this house we love and support aro/ace people!
On a more serious note, I will be eternally grateful for what you guys have done for me as well. Being told that it was okay to not be sure and that exploring and changing the way you identify is a positive thing was exactly what I needed to hear. Just because I no longer id as aroace doesn’t make it any less valid of an identity because at the time that’s what I felt desrcibed me best. I feel like no one understands just how fluid gender and sexuality can be as well as the aro/ace community, and we should all strive to create an environment where people can come to terms with their identity without fearing ridicule for switching between identities.
When I knew that I didn’t want a boyfriend, I wasn’t ready to accept my attraction to women. I needed to feel okay with not experiencing the same attraction as my peers to fully come to terms with my love for women and without the aro/ace community’s support, that would have been a much lengthier, complicated process.
This pride month we should focus on our similarities and uplift each other! That’s what it’s always been about!
The lesbian community was the first place I ran to when I considered never having a boyfriend. Lesbians gave me the strength and confidence I needed to accept I didn’t like men. Without lesbians, I would have been lost and vulnerable for many more years.
I spent a LONG time switching between “I don’t like men, I must be a lesbian” and “I’m not DISGUSTED by possibly having a husband or wife, I must be bisexual”. I knew of asexuality but at the time, asexuality felt like a punishment worse than death.
Seeing so many wlw, specificity lesbians, have such similar stories to me was the last push I needed to move on. Not liking men was okay. Having “no preference” was okay. Being asexual was okay. No matter how much people try to put us against each other, we’ll always have more similarities than differences. Our history is forever linked. I’m eternally grateful for what lesbians have done for me.
As a lesbian who used to identify as aro/ace, I just wanna say that I’m never going to stop supporting the aro/ace community. It was a big part of my personal journey and I really valued being part of a group that’s so open to people exploring their identity. If you don’t believe that aro/ace identities are valid and belong in the lgbt+ community, I don’t want you on my blog
if I could add - I’m a gay trans guy and I identified as aroace on and off for about five years, because… I hadn’t really internalised that there was another option if you were cafab and queer and definitely *not* attracted to girls. In the queer community we see a lot of trans narratives about straight trans guys where their straightness is seen as an inherent part of their maleness, and we even compare-and-contrast straight trans guys’ experiences to cis lesbians’ a *lot*, so it’s very easy to assume… “well, if my (cafab) queerness doesn’t involve attraction to girls, it must not involve attraction at all”.
Also, just… as a trans guy I have a really messy relationship with my attraction to men, because… it’s almost what society expects of me, but in a very different way. Society doesn’t just want me to like men, it wants me to be the woman in a straight relationship with a man, which is wrong for me in almost every possible way. And it took me a long time to really believe that I can like men and reject that at the same time. Identifying as aroace wasn’t a manifestation of my internalised homophobia - it was a vital step in fighting it. I had to know who I wasn’t before I could know who I was.
And on top of that, the a-spec and especially aromantic communities are having a lot of important discussions about the nature of attraction and relationships, and how we approach them as a society, and that resonated with me too. It was incredibly important for me to understand and internalise that I’m never, under any circumstances, *required* to be attracted to someone or to enter a relationship. I’m really glad to have been there to listen to it, and honestly, far more people should.
So, yeah. Not to be ~radiqueer~ on main but I’m gay and lack of attraction is as important to my non-straight identity as attraction is. Gay people, bi/pan people and a-spec people each subvert heteronormativity in a unique way and we’re all equally “logical” parts of an alliance of those oppressed under it. Not one of us is an afterthought.
no biggie just out here having a minor anxiety attack trying to explain arophobia bc i survived the discourse and all i got was this trauma response :)
trans questioning is simultaneously i dont wanna be a boy but i Feel like one and I Want to be a boy but i don’t feel like one :/
Also, since I’ve seen some of this floating around on tumblr recently, I’d like to address a really common misconception: that being intersex makes transitioning easier.
That kind of generalization is extremely false. Sure, maybe for a Few intersex people it might make it easier, but for the vast majority of us-we have to deal with forced medical treatment, whether surgical or through hormonol treatment, and oftentimes end up in a situation where we have to “detransition” of sorts.
As someone who went through nonconsensual HRT, it hurts me when people say “oh you’re intersex and trans? lucky for you!”
As a trans masc person, getting forced on to estrogen was traumatic, not lucky. And to act like I should be grateful for that is fucked up on so many levels.
Time and time again, I see trans perisex people struggle to understand why it’s not acceptable to say “oh I wish I was intersex, that would make my life so much easier.
When the truth is-we face extreme amounts of medical abuse. Most of our community is traumatized. We face more barriers to transition, and intersexism combines with transphobia to make us feel like we’re wrong no matter what we do.
Please be mindful that these words really can hurt, and as a community that struggles to even be visible and have our experiences told, understand that perpetuating these types of myths is actively detrimental.
i feel like more discussion of nonbinary experiences needs to acknowledge the fact that “binary” trans people dont get included in the gender binary
like even as a “binary” trans woman its not like i can say “oh im not nonbinary” and people suddenly respect my being a woman. were always gonna exist outside the gender binary no matter how we label ourselves, how we see ourselves, no matter who we are as trans people
some of yall clearly have some…. extremely misinformed perceptions of what being a “binary” trans person is like, and i think a lot of trans people see the line between “binary” and nonbinary as a lot more solid than it is
im not seen as a binary woman, im seen as a walking transgression
Agatha is just like: [absconding from Watford] [sees dog] ‘noo. we’re running away’ [continues absconding]