Question: hey fam i don't know if anyone told you but you got pixellated by tumblr because of the nsfw ban...
Yup, noticed that a while ago after logging back on tumblr. Good thing is, followers and other users can still view the blog sidebar-style, I know it’s pretty inconvenient but at least it works. And any new posts will show up on your dashboards, they just won’t show in tags or search.
This blog isn’t exactly the most active one and I’m pretty busy outside of tumblr as well, but I’ll have to see about getting the blog back to its normal state at some point. I’ll have to check the guidelines to see if they have any reasons to ban blogs based on violent content (which this blog has, although it’s pretty tame), or if the blog was falsely flagged because they thought it had nsfw content (I don’t believe I’ve yet posted any straight-up pornographic material or even anything particularly gory). It might all take a while though.
Question: In a way, Kare Kano may be an okay example of a male yandere who settles down. Arima is not yandere at the start but is worried about becoming a darker person and later exhibits some yandere thoughts and behavior. It's a really good shoujo manha on it's own!
Question: Can you recommend any works where the yandere is able to overcome their unhealthy behaviours or at least tone them down by the end? Possibly thanks to help from their love interest but any way would be cool. Love the blog!
Thank you! Hmm… yandere characters in visual novels sometimes have happy endings where they calm down after getting together with the main character, at least if said game has happy endings to begin with, and not just bad ones. At least Keisuke in Togainu no Chi has a happy ending. Another one would be Villager in the third Dot Kareshi game, which I also enjoyed. Same goes for the yandere characters in Cheritz’s games, out of which Nameless is probably my favourite one, with Mystic Messenger riding close behind.
One manhwa that comes to mind is Cherry Boy, That Girl. I don’t want to spoil the whole ending, but I’d say it’s happy enough, and I greatly enjoyed the series in general.
Can’t really think many off the top of my head. It’s quite usual that yandere characters just can’t have happy endings, even if it makes sense in the story. So sometimes it’s nice to see them get better and end up happy. As usual, feel free to add if you have any recommendations, people^^
Is hard to portrait with one sole picture, and yes, at first is diabetes overdose, but as you read you realize how codependent, extreme and obsessive the male lead is :) more in a sense that he would do anything for his lover, to the point of hurting himself, and doesn’t care about anyone else.
(if you do read it, please do it by batoto or mangadex, that are where the translators actually post it)
Question: The fujoshi who have gotten fictional gay characters conflated with real gay people are usually immature or unable to make the distinction between reality and fiction. They would have done that with other characters. The word fujoshi was more of a reclaiming of the word by Japanese women who were told they were "rotten" by men. Rottenboysclub and a few other fundashi, or gay men who would be the male equivalent, have spoken at length about the subject of fujoshi. Gay men aren't a monolith.
I don’t really want to turn this into a debate on the subject since this blog isn’t for that, but I’ll go with ‘gay’ and ‘het’ for the tags for now. I’m personally a bisexual woman in charge of this blog, so I can understand lgbt people’s discomfort with the BL/GL genres, since it’s often straight people (both men and women) obsessing over m/m and f/f content, which is sometimes objectifying and fetishsizing. On the other hand I also have a lot of m/m ships myself despite being a woman, and I have several straight friends who also ship m/m and f/f a lot and are totally respectful about it, so it’s not like everyone doing that is a creep, let alone downright malicious.
The decision to use the tags ‘gay’ and ‘het’ isn’t because there’s necessarily anything wrong with BL or BL fans (there’s quite a bit of wholesome BL manga these days, and as I said, some BL artists and shippers can be perfectly respectful about it), it’s more because relationships in BL are gay by nature, but associating any gay characters/ships with BL (even if they are, say, made by gay people who don’t want that association) puts off some people.
I’m sure people will disagree, and I definitely get where you’re coming from, but
I feel like this serves the needs of most people, and I personally find it more comfortable as well.
#this is definitely not about making a statement as much as it is about being respectful while having a consistent tagging system #not yandere#Anonymous
Question: my only concern is "bl" is a term used by fujoshis all the time and i wanna be able to indulge in gay yan content as a gay man without those freaks
No problem, I completely understand - I was actually wondering if that would be appropriate or not, I just used it since anon used it in their message, but I can definitely just use ‘gay’ instead. So ‘gay’ and ‘het’ might be better for tags^^
Question: Hello! I just want to say I love your blog so much! If it is not any trouble for you, I was wondering if you could please tag whether a male yandere is in a bl or straight relationship so you can see which is which, and it is easier to find what you are looking for? Sorry my English is not so good!
Sure thing! And no worries, your English is perfectly readable. Somebody actually mentioned this in an ask at some point, but they didn’t really specify whether it was a suggestion/request, so I haven’t been doing it yet.
I’ll be tagging ‘BL’ and ‘het’ from now on if an art piece/series features a relationship, other stuff will stay untagged though. And I probably won’t be going back to do this on old posts since that’d be a lot of work, unless I happen to have a lot of extra time.
So theres a webtoon on lehzin called ‘My Student Can’t Be a Psychopath’ and it’s just great. It has plenty of yandere moments and the male yandere is also pretty funny along with being creepy so it’s a definite plus! It’s on lehzin however so only the first 14 chapters are free, but I’m sure theres other places to read the remaining chapters if you look hard enough.
Is a weird one for this blog. Its good in general and super sweet. If you don’t like romance that moves at a snails pace this is not for you. The story revolves around Momo and her two yandere-ish brothers who are as obsessed with her as she is with them. The kicker is that the siblings dont know about each others weird co-dependant feelings.
So a third party enters and threatens to rat out Momo as a brocon. New guy is kinda weird but the “siblings” are way weirder. Im 90% sure the twins are not her real bros at this point because the obsession level is way higher than what shoujo usually tries to pass off as cute.
Momo herself is a pretty fun character who hides her zany self under a perfect sisterly mask. If her brothers weren’t nuts this would be a fairly average shoujo but I dont know whats happening here. Its at the end of volume two now and New Guy has not even reached “friend” status yet.
Usually I dont count edgy monologues as yandere but the brothers weird kinda supernatural control over Momo is a sign of at least one worthwhile yandere in my eyes.
Question: For the movie recommendations, The Good Doctor is pretty good and Orlando Bloom plays the Yandere!😍 The movie is relatively soft but the obsession he has towards his patient is very obvious.
Im glad I can finally make Raise wa Tanin Ga ii one of my top reccomendations on this blog.
Way back in 2017 it was a sneaky yakuza series with some refreshingly realistic themes but as more chapters came out it just kept improving.
The series has an amazing atmosphere to it. You can almost imagine these two Yakuza heirs blending in in public. Yoshino gets cooler with every chapter and frankly raises standards for female seinin leads in general.
Kirishima feels like a monster a mobster upbringing could actually create. After finding out Yoshino is a smart badass despite not being strong he realizes shes wife material.
However the author doesnt chicken out and play up the comedy when it comes to the romance. Yoshino is exhausted under Kirishimas constant scrutiny and wants to return to Osaka. She is also a realist and believes that Kirishimas feelings dont mean much because he still fools around with women despite claiming to love her.
Unfortunately the story gets more layered and Yoshinos straightforwardness is starting to blind her to the turth. Kirishima is in love with her. The problem is that Yoshino was raised outside of Yakuza violence and doesnt understand his handing her blood money as a gift as a declaration of love. She sees it as psychological warfare. Her response makes perfect sense.
What sane woman would believe that Kirishima wanting her to beat him up (because he’s a masochist) and take his money (same reason) equals love. No one. Even Kirishimas friend with benefits thinks its weird that he is still seeing her.
She and her brother, Souma, actually assume that she is being used as a pawn in gang warfare before anything else. Love is off the table. Theres no scene where Yoshino dreamily imagines a future with Kirishima. Souma says he’ll assassinate Kirishima on request because Yoshino seems adamant on not marrying him.
After all this the couples struggle starts to reach a boiling point. Kirishima is jealous of Souma. Yoshino believes shes a pawn and its getting too obvious that she wants to leave/reject the marriage proposal. The delicate balance between them is fracturing slowly and I love it. The drama is slow and layered like an onion.
Kirishima wants Yoshino weather she loves him or not and I seriously wonder why Yoshinos grandpa is trying to get them together anyway. Alliance? Is Kirishima the future leader? Who knows. Theres not one recognizable trope in sight so we can only guess.
Question: Woah im a fucking retarded, im sorry for sending the question in the wrong bar :'D Well, why do you like male yanderes, and what do you think that makes us like them?
Don’t worry about it, no harm done! Posted the mistake submission as well, though, for context. My reason for liking yandere characters… it’s a little ‘deep’ (hah) and kind of personal, and will probably come across as pretentious for some people. But I’ve done some self-reflecting during my years, and I’ve come to the conclusion that the concept of yanderes and what draws me to them is that they’re kind of… comforting to me.
I’m an insecure person by nature, so yandere characters are sort of a way for me to look at myself - since insecurity in oneself often leads to distrust and jealousy in one’s interpersonal relationships, which is pretty much yandere characters’ thing. I know what it’s like to doubt myself and expect abandonment due to my perception of myself and others. I can kind of see the worst version of myself in those characters - so in a way, loving yandere characters is a way for me to come to terms with a less lovable part of myself. It’s something I need to work on in my life, but for now…
But probably more than that, the reason I like yandere characters is that, since again, I’m an insecure person, they’re kind of an ideal lover for me - in fiction, of course. I mean, for someone that often doubts their own worth as a person, and significance in other people’s lives, a lover who constantly reinforces the idea that you’re good and lovable, always wants to be by your side and promises their eternal love would be the best, wouldn’t it?
In fact, though it surely doesn’t apply to everyone, I believe this is the reason a lot of people are attracted to the concept of yandere. A lot of us are insecure, so while it’s selfish and thus not something people like to admit, we want someone to boost our ego with their words and deeds - we want to be praised and loved and wanted. And a yandere who swears they are made for you and you alone, they will always be there to do that for you. Of course, that is ignoring all the negative aspects of such a relationship - I have no doubt that some people wouldn’t mind a co-dependent relationship of mutual love and jealousy that would eventually end in a disaster, but most people would probably start finding it suffocating sooner or later. And at that point, trying to escape would have negative consequences.
For the record, I don’t want anyone to glorify their faults, and I don’t stand for anyone that says “I’m a yandere” or “I want a yandere s/o” or anything - that was never the purpose of this blog. Insecurity is something that you should work towards fixing, for both your sake and the sake of others. And real-life clingy partners, stalking or abuse are no joke. But as long as it’s in the realm of fiction, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with using fictional characters to fulfill your ideals, and be a little more at ease with yourself. And hey, let’s face it - some people are in this just for the kinky stuff thrill. I don’t blame you, I like that part too.
As for what my perfect yandere would be… well, I answered that ask about my personal top 5 male yanderes, in which I kind of got into a conclusion that my favourite types are childhood friends, or stalker characters, especially if they’re smart and sneaky about it. I kind of like gentle characters that like taking care of others, or characters that are just cute/fun - I’m not too much into cold, intelligent megane-type characters. That’s just the type of characters I like in dating sims, though, haha.
On the other hand, if I’m reading a story, I enjoy reading about a yandere that struggles with their emotions - a story about trying to understand themselves as well as their joy, anger, selfishness, and love. I recently read the manhwa An Uncomfortable Truth, which was recommended here - the main characters in that story had that kind of conflicting feelings of love and selfishness. I generally like deeply psychological stories, no matter what the yandere character is like - I’m much pickier about pointless splatter stuff, or generic waifu/husbando material… though I won’t say no to that either, when it fits my tastes.
That ended up sort of long, but hopefully it was a worthwhile read for someone. I think it’s always a good thing to look at oneself, and take a moment to think about why you like the things you like - that’s a big reason I wrote such a freaking essay, hoping that it might help someone to discover something about themselves. But until then, it’s not too bad to indulge in something you like - within the realm of fiction, anyway.
There was a lot of criticism aimed towards lezhin earlier this year due to claims of their mistreatment of authors, unfair overseas sales distribution, and other such malpractices. Not communicating with authors or paying them right, enforcing late fees on them and hurting their working conditions. Things like that. I suggest googling ‘lezhin criticism’ or ‘lezhin controversy’ for more information, since I’m not an expert on the subject.
I personally will, however, avoid lezhin for the time being, since I’m not aware whether things have gotten better or if the authors hurt by this have been compensated. Some of the more popular comics from lezhin can be found on other sites (though some of them less than legal), and there are some ways to read webtoons on their original sites with a translation tool, though I’m not an expert on that method either. It’s just something I’m aware of.
Question: Have u read an uncomfortable truth?
Nope, not yet. I do recall someone either recommending it or posting about it in the male yandere tag, though. The art seems quite nice and it’s almost completely free on lezhin already aside from the last 5 chapters (it seems to have finished publishing), so I might check it out at some point.
As a word of advice for other people interested, though, if you’re like me and not too fond of lezhin (especially with the controversy about their company practices that has surfaced this year) and don’t want to give them money, the comic is also available elsewhere, just google it.
here are some that you may alredy know. American Ghost Jack, Sachiiro no one room, tendou ke monogatari, Nanoka no kare, “The Hero proposed to me, but…”, Hananoi-kun to koi no yamai, Moonrise during the day.
Perhaps Suijin no Ikenie and Winter Woods?
I think those are all :’D If I remember more, I’ll submit as well.
So theres a manga called Raise wa Tanin ga Ii, and the main male character is just a huge yandere which is pretty sweet. Just be warned that it’s pretty mature in most senses, and also has bloody fight scenes so trigger warning.
The yandere male in this manga is called Ryou, the childhood friend of the main character. He’s quite creepy and obsessive over her and he kind of reminds me Tsubaki from koi dano ai dano.There’s no much romance in this manga but nonetheless it’s very interesting and i found myself enjoying it a lot.