eh what the hell I’ll say it. I’m already on a roll today with saying stuff that I’ve been wanting to say for years
I think it’s really fucked up that when trans men tried to find a word that could describe their own unique experiences with hate and prejudice, we got the fuckin shit beaten out of us until we (once again!) fell silent
“transmisandry” wasn’t perfect. but it was a hesitant attempt by our community to express to others what we’ve always known and talked about amongst ourselves for years: there is a type of transphobia that only trans men experience. Just like every other LGBT community, theres heavy overlap with what other groups go through, but what is targeted specifically at us is unique to our identity. the word transphobia alone does not encompass this.
no one had a problem with accepting this sorta thing happened to EVERY OTHER LGBT GROUP. y’all happily use the words homophobia, lesbophobia, biphobia, acephobia, transmisogyny, etc to properly acknowledge what each group has to deal with that is unique to their community. when trans men tried to have a word for themselves too, you guys tore them the FUCK apart
and don’t you dare come at me with any of that “well the structure of the word implies—“ shut the fuck up. i don’t wanna hear any goddamn excuses for what you did. the disgusting levels of aggression and mockery that you attacked my community with cannot be justified away by an apparent obsession with linguistics
every. other. community. gets to acknowledge that their experiences are unique, valid, and deserving of having a word to help express that
you all decided that trans men, once again, didn’t deserve to have fuckin ANYTHING, and you wasted no time on rushing in to attack us for daring to think otherwise. for the millionth time you drove us back into fearful silence.
and fuck you for doing that.
hey followers, i just wanna make an announcement for people that didn’t know.
(ID: Screenshot of Tumblr’s hate speech violations with ”gender” and “gender identity” highlighted)
if terfs aren’t going to listen to facts and logic let’s just kick them off the platform. You can report a terf blog for hate speech instead of arguing against them. You can try to convince them if you’d like but 99% of my attempts have failed.
I’m making a post about this because surprisingly i have seen a lot of people say they wish they could report terfs for stuff so like, you can. It’s easier to do on web browser than the mobile app so i’d suggest doing it there. Here’s how you report a blog. It was actually a little crazy that some people didn’t know how.
First, find the post that promotes hate speech.
(ID: A post by OP that reads “doot doot here’s an example post for a longer post I’m making.”)
As we can see from the example, this content is very radical.
next, you’ll want to click on the dots and copy the post link.
(ID: Screenshot of mini menu that appears after clicking on the 3 dots at the corner of a post that reads “Pin. Copy link. Close”)
Next, go to the blog and hit that big red report button.
(ID: Screenshot of a menu that appears when you go to a person’s page and select the 3 dots by the follow button. It reads “Archive. Likes. Following. Ask. Stop Notifications. Report.” Report is in red.)
(i hope my wife doesn’t mind im using her blog, im not actually reporting her.)
Next you’ll select what kind of content you’re reporting for. In the case of a terf you select “something else”
(ID: Screenshot of the report page. It reads “What’s going on? Report sensitive content. Report Spam. Report Something else.”)
Then select hate speech. There’s a few options so look for it. It’s kinda in the middle.
(ID: A list of bad things people shouldn’t do that reads “Copywrite violation, trademark violation, Misattribution violation, Harm to minors, Privacy violation, Impersonation or Non-Genuine Behavior, suicide or self-harm concern, hate speech violation)
(ID: A screenshot of the report page that reads “Content you’re reporting” next to a URL box. Under that it reads “Describe, as best as you can, how it violates Tumblr’s community guidelines.” Next to the text there is a box to type your explanation. Under that it reads “A little about yourself” Next to that is a box to type your name and your email address is automatically placed in the box below it. it is slightly blurry because OP is a dumbass and had to change the image to censor their email)
next, all you have to do is provide the evidence, your reasoning and your name if you want. Then check the little captcha and bing. They’re reported for hate speech. Try getting some of your friends and or mutuals to report the blog too. The more reports the more likely the staff is to take them down.
(and as an FYI you can have multiple links to report and it might be better if you do)
For the people that didn’t know, you know now! Hope this helped.
gender envy and calling ppl gender was like just a quirky little injoke between trans zoomers on the internet it was never meant to be this super serious clinical term or trans exclusive experience… “dont call ppl gender if ur cis” do whatever u want its not even a real thing oh my fucking god
bi women who want to feel happy and comfortable with their attraction to men and lesbians who want to feel happy and comfortable with their lack of attraction to men can co-exist and the way to start is to stop making dumb comments about people’s completely harmless posts about being attracted or not attracted to men.
I think some of you take the phrase “its not true friendship unless you bully each other” and take it as “oh so if I make fun of people then they will become my friend!!”
No. the phrase means that you trust each other and know each other well enough to tease one another while knowing exactly what the other person’s boundaries are.
This does not mean leaving unnecessarily rude comments/tags on random ppl’s posts thinking that it’s just friendly ribbing when you are not, in fact, friends with that person. And guess what?? Now that person is even less likely to be your friend.
signs you might be asexual
***cw: mentions of sex***
please note that these are just a few examples of the many feelings and experiences asexuals have. some of these could apply to people who aren’t ace, and you could be ace without many of them resonating with you. these are just some things i have either personally experienced or heard of other asexuals experiencing.
1. you are only “attracted” to people you could never actually be with, such as celebrities or fictional characters.
2. if you find out the person you think you’re attracted to feels the same way, your attraction ~mysteriously disappears~.
3. your sexual fantasies (if you have them) don’t include other people, just nameless, faceless beings.
4. sexual tropes in movies/books/tv, such as hate sex, rebound sex, or sex on prom night/sex as a “finish line” have always been more confusing than entertaining for you.
5. you can only really imagine yourself having sex with someone you’re in a serious relationship with.
6. the way a lot of people talk about attraction seems like they’re exaggerating or joking.
7. advertisements that use the concept of “sex sells” don’t work on you, and you can’t really imagine them working on anyone.
8. [for alloromantic aces] you don’t really see sex as “finish line” in a relationship; kissing, cuddling, and/or emotional intimacy are more important to you than sex.
imagine going on the internet decades in the future and finding comment threads from people who are probably long dead. seeing things like “5 decades ago” on youtube. having to google slang and memes not because they’re new, but because they’re not used anymore. trying to date untraceable screenshots based on the way the websites look and how the users talk. googling a question and finding that same question asked in a forum seventy years earlier.
I doubt this will happen. do you think cave painters erased the markings of others that came before, just to have a place to paint
Remember that text post from a few years back that was about how eventually this website would turn on John Mulaney the minute he did anything that showed he was a human person instead of the idealized pedestal we put him on.
It’s happening now and I’m just seeing some awful takes about what’s going on with him and it’s like: guys you aren’t entitled to know what’s going on with his private life, and it’s very entitled to feel personally betrayed about a relationship you are not a part of. Just leave the man alone. Leave everyone alone for fucks sake.
You would not believe the reactions on tiktok. “Thinking about him rebounding is making me physically ill,” “Ugh, you can’t trust any man,” *deletes a John Mulaney slide from a powerpoint titled Men I Trust*
Not sure how universal this experience is, but Tolkien’s concept of sea-longing resonated with me because I grew up in a coastal town and every time I have to live for an extended period of time away from the coast, I get this almost claustrophobic feeling that only goes away when I return to the seashore
There was a famous Norwegian author who described the ocean as “the last healthy thing in a sick world” and I feel that
Absolutely love that everyone is tagging/reblogging this with their own experiences with sea-longing <3
I have this thing with the appalachian mountains. When I go there I am like “I am supposed to be here. I want to live here forever. I never want to leave.”
When i was on vacation in north carolina over the summer i was straight up planning out in my head how I wanted to move there as soon as I could. I was just like, I could pick up and move here with no other plans for anything and I think everything would be okay.
Then later I was like “what the hell got into me?”
It’s the Rock. it has a Power
i know i’m probably guilty of this i’m just musing but does anyone else find it a little. strange. when people make posts telling alloromantics how to be better allies and all of the content is centered around online things like pride posts and headcanons and shipping like… we exist. in real life. yknow. like aros feeling isolated isn’t just an online problem. it’s not just our flag being in the second part of pride posts or people being obsessed with shipping we have. real life problems.
A lot of countries have tax breaks you can only get when you’re married.
It’s difficult to afford a good home on a single income.
Single people are less likely to be approved for adoption than couples - and very few places allow you to joint adopt with someone who isn’t a romantic partner.
Leaving aside the legal stuff, so many aromantic people have the (not unfounded) fear that their friendships will fall by the wayside because their friends partner up. So many of us are convinced we’re going to end up lonely, and we can’t even talk about that loneliness without being misinterpreted. No, I’m not afraid that I’ll never ‘find someone’, I’m afraid that all my friends will and then when they do they’ll no longer have time for me.
Not to mention how many aro people’s friends and family will treat them like there’s something wrong with them, like they need to be fixed.
It’s not that pride flags and fandom don’t matter at all, but our problems are so much bigger and more complex than that.
Ok the guy with the net fucking killed me, I’m sure my neighbors heard me laughing.
School shootings. They don’t want you to hide guns.
This is where we are, folks. We’ve come to the point where they’re demanding that children carry all of their school supplies in hand so that they don’t have to do anything about the gun violence problem in this shithole of a country.
I love malicious compliance
HISTORY COMES FULL CIRCLE, HOLY SHIT I CAN’T BELIEVE THEY’RE STILL DOING THIS TO KIDS.
They did this shit at my school way back when Columbine had just happened!
Naturally, we invented all sorts of bullshit ways to carry our shit, because what the fuck, we need backpacks.
My favourites included:
-Fishing rod with twine tied around two pencils and a small pocket notebook.
-Tons of people got those little clear plastic bags they have in grocery stores for fruit and shit, and used them as see-through pencil cases
Note: THEY PROCEEDED TO THEN ALSO BAN THE BAGS AS “CHOKING HAZARDS”. WE WERE NOT THREE YEAR OLDS. OUR HEADS DIDN’T EVEN FIT IN THE FUCKING BAGS, AND BELIEVE ME, WE TRIED AS SOON AS THEY ANNOUNCED THE BAN, BECAUSE MOST OF US WOULD RATHER HAVE DIED THAN BEEN IN FUCKING SCHOOL BY THAT POINT. DID THEY THINK WE WERE GONNA STUFF THE BAGS DOWN OUR THROATS? CHRIST.)
-One kid dressed up like a priest and used the loose fabric of the cassock to carry three text books around all day.
-Someone hollowed out a fucking loaf of bread, pretended to be French all day, and made a show out of pulling a ridiculous number of highlighters out of this fucking bread in the middle of class.
Now that I think about it, I think that kid invented Panera Bread by accident. Y’know, the little bread soup bowls? This was that, but with highlighters instead of soup.
Eventually, things escalated, and the principal called the police after he went to the parking lot and found his car broken into– Nothing was stolen, but there were about 5000 fucking backpacks stuffed in his car, to the point that the door wouldn’t even open.
I don’t know who did it, or what group of people did it, but they’re all fucking heroes because the next week backpacks were permitted again.
This is one of the best parts of human nature
its not optional
@idontknowwhattomakemyurllol seasons greasons
WHAT THE FUC-
bitches be like “these are my comfort characters!” and it’s a group of murderers
SOMEONE TAGGED THIS AS BTS????????????
yeah basically a bunch of their music videos starting from i need u (2015) have contained a running story with the members playing different characters. i dont remember much about it because a) im not as big of a bts fan anymore and b) their recent mvs havent referenced it but this article has decent rundowns of each of the characters (uhh tw for mentions of car crashes, family death, hospitalization, abuse, murder, and suicide) https://www.koreaboo.com/lists/heres-brief-explanation-character-bts-universe/
i have seen man made horrors beyond your comprehension
(diagram credit to u/bragen on reddit)
you try to read this and your brain explodes
This is what it feels like to chew 5 gum
this is worse than what inspired redesign your logo
what inspired redesign your logo.
the pepsi logo document that included stuff like the gravitational pull of the pepsi logo and compared it to the mona lisa.
GRAVITATIONAL PULL OF THE PEPSI LOGO????????
Bro, your Generic Fantasy Media™ is showing us a 20th Century English speaking hero decked out in 16th Century German armour using 12th Century Italian weapons to stab 9th Century Vikings in what appears to be a pastiche of 14th Century Romania, and the fact that this character is Black is the part that offends your commitment to historical accuracy?
Here’s some historical accuracy:
These illustrations are from a Fechtbuch (fight manual) by Paulus Hector Mair, published in Augsburg, Germany ca. 1540s.
The text accompanying each drawing is about the move being performed. None of them make any comment about who’s performing the moves, only about how to perform them correctly and the consequences of error.
This statue of St Maurice in Magdeburg Cathedral Germany dates to about 1250, and was clearly carved by someone who knew what Black Africans looked like or had one modelling for him.
This reconstruction shows what the statue probably looked like when new; the spear was a separate accessory, the sword and even shield (as can be seen from its broken remnant in the photos of the original statue) was part of the carving.
Regarding that shield and the details it would have concealed, there’s a story from the construction of the National Cathedral in Washington DC about an artisan carving similar never-to-be-seen detail; he was asked: “Why bother, who’ll know whether you did it or not?” and replied: “God will, and so will I.”
These are later paintings of St Maurice, the first in the Metropolitan Museum New York USA by Lucas Cranach the Elder (~1520-25):
…and by Matthias Grünewald (~1520-24) in the Alte Pinakothek, Munich, Germany, both wearing Maximilian-style armour:
This armorial panel from 1521 shows Eva von Schönau, first wife of Jacob von Reinach-Steinbrunn (a wealthy landowner who later became Governor of Montbéliard in France), and is in the Historisches Museum, Basel, Switzerland.
They were both armigerous (arms-bearing) families: his is the lion, hers are the rings.
These drawings by Albrecht Durer were done in 1508 and 1521.
It’s probably fair to say that away from trading ports and major centres of commerce, people of colour whether African, Middle Eastern or Asian were an unfamiliar sight in most of Medieval and Renaissance Europe.
However “unfamiliar” isn’t the same as “unknown”, and in addition, the high-status clothing of the Fechtbuch models, and Eva von Schönau’s family coat of arms, shows they weren’t always just servants or slaves.
Those little “[action] [body part]” dice represent a more efficient way to sin because it’s both fornication and gambling.
[ID: Tumblr tags read: “#if you do it while wearing a wizard hat it technically qualifies as playing dungeons & dragons #thereby making it gambling fornication and satan worship #three sins for the price of one”. /End ID.]
The teenager at my job is so funny, she jokingly asked how my break was after I came back from the bathroom and after I said “can’t a bitch change their pad in peace?” She said “a real nine to fiver would get a hysterectomy.” There was no hesitation, no gap between what I said and what she said
Good “lab grown food for the poor” world building I’ve seen has been “the colonies in the asteroid belt primarily eat food derived from genetically engineered radiotrophic fungi that don’t require sunlight, cause not enough sunlight reaches us here to sustain industrial scale plant life for human consumption, let enough to produce enough excess to feed animals”. But in a world where sunlight is available, I can’t see lab grown being for the poor.
Hey, that’s pretty cool!
And just to be clear you can pull off “poor people eat lab grown meat” in a story, it’s just one of those things that’s thoughtlessly thrown into scifi a lot
there are a couple books in the library that are basically a “women against feminism! modern feminism is dumb!!” kind of thing and while there are a couple points I do agree with (yes, de-stigmatize periods but menstruation IS a bodily function that involves Slimy Liquids, and I don’t think people need to have more positive feelings about it than they do, i don’t know, snot) there is a whole lot of bullshit
one such book is what women want by Ella Whelan and she has a chapter about rape culture that’s basically like…“the idea of consent kills romance and makes innocent sexual interactions into rape!” and it has made me have two insights:
1. We should bring the idea of consent outside of sexual contexts, but we don’t, and that’s a big reason why so many people don’t “get” it.
2. Some people are however so shit at navigating relationships that I don’t know how they do anything.
first of all, the Notebook is one of the worst movies I’ve ever seen, and no amount of “consent education” could make me as terrified of sex as the scene where Ryan Gosling puts a single curtain down on the floor of a barn and they both begin awkwardly undressing, blank-faced, in dead fucking silence while staring at each other. Rachel McAdams’s character also cheats on her fiancé to be with Ryan Gosling, if that matters, Anyone whose standard for romance is The Notebook needs a divorce, a therapist, a free vibrator, and maybe a puppy.
(Also they almost get run over by a car because they’re lying down in the middle of the road at one point.)
Real talk: In real life, does anyone LIKE “spur-of-the-moment romance?” Like, does anyone enjoy the expectation that someone who loves you will randomly grab you and kiss you without warning? I am autistic and you will get punched or bitten if you try that.
But also, are there people who actively dislike hearing that their partner wants them? How is it a turn-off for a lover to ask you what you want?
What’s breaking my brain about this is that…this is just a basic relationship skill for every relationship you will ever be in. If you don’t know what someone expects or wants, ask. If you want to make someone happy and comfortable, talk to them about how you can do that. It’s so fucking basic
Imagine what a fucking asshole you would be if you tried to handle every relationship like this woman thinks you should. No “Hey do you want to watch a movie?” you just invite your friend over and announce that you’re watching a movie, their feelings be damned. No “Do you want a milkshake?” you just order them a milkshake, and pick the flavor for them too.
Also, is someone going to tell Ella Whelan that you can just…tell your partner what things you’re okay with them spontaneously initiating? It’s…not that complicated…you can be like “hey you don’t have to ask every time you kiss me I’m okay with it being spontaneous…”
The last paragraph is just bonkers. I assure you people do go into doctor’s appointments aware that they might be abused by a doctor, and that is something that does happen and is 100% a thing that is known to happen. I don’t think it’s ever a fully “trusting scenario” whenever you’re making yourself vulnerable to another person, for any gender. People aren’t ever totally oblivious to their own vulnerability, that’s why “trust” is a concept.