woman-respecter:

godlessondheimite:

there’s a difference between “being canceled” and “facing consequences” but there’s also a fine line between “facing consequences” and “deincentivizing growth and change” and i think that needs to be grappled with more. i’m not saying all mistakes need to be forgiven by everyone, but people who make mistakes are people, and if it becomes clear that not only will they will never be forgiven for their past, but that they will also be continually punished, then it’s a normal human response to grow frustrated and stop trying, and the holier-than-thou response of “well if they were really sorry, they would willingly accept all the punishments we throw their way” is stupid. what does pulling receipts up from 20 years ago do? who do these “gotcha” moments help?

it also isolates people and makes them more likely to join extremist and reactionary groups. connection and acceptance is a fundamental human need. so if someone feels cast out of their social circles because of something that they are told is irredeemable, they are likely to look for a group that will accept or even encourage that behavior. by holding people to impossible standards, you may be unintentionally radicalizing them

While I am not Jewish I am part of a minority group myself and I understand the feeling of that being all you’re seen as by other people. It’s a really bad way to feel and I’m sorry I contributed towards it. I should have been more mindful of your own boundaries, and I’m currently looking for places far more comfortable with answering my various asks.

I really appreciate this, and i dont blame you at all for asking me earlier

idk exactly how to reply since i just woke up but i wish you good luck in finding people who are able to give you better answers, ty for following up after the last post 💖

I hope everyone understands, but I need to set a boundary regarding all the anons I’ve been getting, specifically those asking for advice about representing jewish or non-jewish characters.

I love and appreciate that you want to be informed, but please try asking other people first before coming to me. There are plenty of tumblrs dedicated to stuff like this, I can try to make a list if thats needed, and theyre far more qualified than i am.

I didnt want to talk about being jewish in the first place because now thats all i am on this blog. Its just supposed to be a sideblog for a funny internet show i like, i saw some drama and wanted to address it but thats mostly over now.

If your question is related to hlvrai, this doesnt apply! im specifically talking about asks that have nothing to do with this blog besides knowing that im some kind of jewish. it feels like thats all im going to get to be here.

im still working on the post for benrey and bubby, im going to post it asap, im sorry it keeps being delayed. I dont feel comfortable being the main jewish person working on it without much input from other jewish fans (two have helped a bit but input has slowed down a lot) and if any other adult jewish fans want to join the server and help out, i would really appreciate it

im sorry this isnt very organized, no ones sent hate or been rude and i really appreciate that. im trying to keep up, and ill keep trying, but please look for other resources for general jewish advice since theyll be able to help more accurately than i can, thank you

I have a couple of questions in terms of describing noses in writing if that’s ok?

1. How should I go about describing a nose that points downwards slightly?

2. Is it ok for a character to have a nose like that?

For context the character in question isn’t Jewish, and is part of a group of friendly yet eccentric zoologists. Unless the plot starts to go in wired places, his nose will feature very little in the story, and will just be described along with the rest of his face when he’s introduced.

That type of nose is fine, but I know nothing about writing (especially descriptive features)

If any wroters do want to reply, feel free to do so and ill reblog it!

(for the future, if it isnt hlvrai related then i reccomend asking a different blog for advice like this)

unsure @jewish-education is still active/answers these types of things, but its worth a shot! good luck with your story 💖

i hope its not too much to ask, and of course you dont have to answer this if you dont want to, but is it possible that you could elaborate on the makeship situation being misinformation? im seeing a lot of posts about it but now im honestly not sure how to feel

Honestly, I had only seen the rainbow plushie when i made the last post, not the others involved. The company has, in fact, done shit things in the past. (Still not actual nazis, but a bit fucked up nonetheless.)

My point about seeing goyim speak up Before jewish people got the chance still stands, and i dont blame Wayne for not knowing the companies history because honestly thats not one of the main things people look into when trying to find the most affordable way to produce a short-term product.

Personally, ill buy the plush but otherwise im not going to support the company after that

Can gentiles Please stop speaking up for Jewish fans before we get a chance to say anything? Please? You aren’t the ones affected by antisemetism, stop telling us what we need to be upset over vs what we need to forgive.

Sidenote- The benrey plushie is cute, the controversy behind the company producing the plushies is just misinformation/miscommunication. Despite that, please just wait for jewish fans to point something else before jumping to uninformed conclusions.

gordons-foot-scans:

ok youve heard of catboy benrey but. what if bunny

YES. you get it

ok youve heard of catboy benrey but. what if bunny

not hlvrai related but if youre panphobic or queerphobic in general etc please just block me or unfollow me ty

Im so sorry the info post is taking so long, if anyone wants to ask about traits etc in the mewntime I’m happy to answer those so you dont have to wait on the post to be finished

gordons-foot-scans:

HLVRAI fandom has a lot of issues but at least cannibalism isn’t one of them. I wish I could say the same for whats happening on my main right now

to be fair i didnt KNOW he was a cannibal until i joined his halo clan (5 years ago) and now he gives me workout advice instead of saying im destined to marry him

HLVRAI fandom has a lot of issues but at least cannibalism isn’t one of them. I wish I could say the same for whats happening on my main right now

freemance = gordon freeman/alyx vance

Oh huh, i thought it was like…. freeman romance? gordon x gordon ?? hfkhdjdhdj

What is freemance ??????

I gotta ask, is "bl*ish" (like... blue and jewish but in one word) a slur? I remember a post going around in the hlvrai fandom saying it was in regards to benrey being colored blue in fanart or something, however I've never heard it before?

I'm not denying the existence of it, just a genuine question because google is pulling up nothing and since the slur is also a commonly used word I dont want to accidentally go around saying a slur or derogatory term.

Honestly I had no idea until you sent this and i asked ppl in the server,

It’s less of a slur and more of a dogwhistle (coded language), still bad tho

(Benrey having blue or blue-grey skin has nothing to do with that though)

people are saying benrey is jewish coded because the voice actor for barney is jewish. barney himself isnt even jewish coded its just that his VA is jewish. absolutely nothing to do with benrey.

it seems really odd that people are saying the alien villain of the series is jewish coded when theres nothing leading to that.

I dont have the energy to draw but please imagine me reading this and then taking about 5 shots of rum because thats how i feel right now

Continuing on from that last ask about the sources I just am really glad that you're making a list that's more comprehensive and contains more tangible sources. I really want to learn and understand and it makes me really bummed out to see the same sources people haven't really read and combed through repeated over and over again. Especially about Benrey. Gentiles saying he's Jewish coded in canon in any way to justify all this is really odd and uncomfortable.

“Gentiles saying he’s Jewish coded…”

Gentiles. Thats the main thing here. Its not jewish people making that connection, its GENTILES seeing the alien villian and going “woah thats So jewish coded! im so progressive!” and completely missing the fact that doing that is Very Very Antisemitic.

Benrey isn’t jewish coded. Headcanoning them as jewish is fine! But theyre not canonically jewish coded, and assuming so says a lot about what someone thinks of jewish people.

And Re: the list! Im still working on it, Bubby’s page is pretty much done unless someone comes in with further input (link to join the server where this is happening is on my pinned carrd), Benrey’s has been on hold until i have a fleshed out list so i dont have to keep redoing it. Ive been sick lately and had to go to the ER (im ok now!) so im very sorry for it taking so long! but ill be getting back to work on that either tonight or in the next two days

I'm a little peeved. I've read and combed through all the documents linked to in the Anti Semitic carrd for how to draw or not to draw Benrey and Bubby and there are several traits that just plain aren't there in those texts. Blue and grey skin and cat eyes aren't there at all, for example. It just feels like a game of telephone where people are harassed over stuff in documents almost nobody has actually read. Like yeah don't draw Bubby green with a hooked nose, but there needs to be nuance.

Exactly!! They started bringing up extra traits that were never mentioned in the linked information on their main post, including traits with not historical weight, and generally just creating a toxic environment with no clear reasoning for their actions. They let people slide who used multiple traits they said not to, made up new traits to insult artists they didnt like, there was no rhyme or reason.

Yeah it hit like. Way too close to home for me. I've blocked Renruska but I don't know if I'll be unfollowing Star? I don't know. Situation's weird. In a way I am glad we know though, because I don't want to ever be supporting a groomer. :(

Kinda upset though from what I've seen, that all the ones who've been witch hunting people who've done nothing harmful- are being quiet/wishy washy about this?? Like hello? The unfortunate way this situation was handled aside, it's confirmed that Renruska at the very WAS a groomer and if kids are here then it is KINDA IMPORTANT to make sure they stay a w a y.

Sorry if that was a bit much or jambled just, kind of frustrated with this fandom ddkkd. But thank you for speaking about it!!

Honestly i dont have much to add here, i just agree with you and im so confused by how people will vehemently take stances on unsubstantial things (like lying about whay antisemetism is just to have more to fight about, or the “hlvrai is problematic” post), but get so weird about deling with someone who shouldnt be around children online based on clear past pattens.

I dont even have to care about ren/ruska or star/of/fires to know that letting a past/present groomer be around children is Wrong and Dangerous. My personal feelings Dont Fucking Matter, when theres even a hint of minors being in danger then there should be no hesitation when it comes to keeping them safe.

If theyre better now, great, its not my business, but im still not going to be comfortable around them and if i see them in a space with kids then im going to speak up about it. the people who groomed me in the past have also “gotten better” but that doesnt mean that the potential to repeat the past isnt still there.

answering the anons related to the antisemetism posts tomorrow, but one mentioned people saying benrey is jewish coded and i. what is making people think that?? being a villian or beinf inhuman isnt jewish coding??! please god tell me theres a better reason besides re-textured antisemetism

I agree with you, to make such a big callout without consulting the victim first in such a public platform wasn't the smartest thing for them to do.

i think part of it is ive been in that place before (as a teen though, not as an adult) and all it did was make it harder for me to get away. with no support combined with only seeing ppl attack the person grooming me? i got on the defensive and all that did was reassure me that it was right to defend them, and that Really Fucking Sucked. The first step to helping victims is helping them figure out that whats happening isnt safe for them, not just putting them in more danger

im gonna scream idc if theyre "okay now" that doesn't change the fact that a 25 y/o groomed a 15 y/o and dated AND married them. that's so fucked up man catch this block

It is fucked up! i agree with you and im not sure why youre blocking me but do what you need to do

i hope you mean well but renruska did admit to start a relationship with staroffires while he was an adult and star was a minor. i really don't hold anything against sam for obvious reasons but i feel it's important to note that they started dating while star was around 15 years old and ren was around 25.

Oh yeah im disgusted by what rensuka did, especially for personal reasons i dont want to get into. im just upset that the posters clearly didnt care about staroffires safety enough to consult them first

gordons-foot-scans :

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Yo! I’m Connor, I’m 20 (as of writing this), and I run an adults only HLVRAI server!

More info on my server (and the link), plus a DNI, can be found here: gordonsfootscans.carrd.co
(If the fonts I used are hard to read, let me know! I’ll change them asap ^u^)

Please do not follow if you are under 18, I don’t post nsft content, but i reblog from nsft creators and also I just don’t want minors following me! Thank you

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I updated my carrd again!

Added to the DNI:

-You call people “freaks”. It’s ableist, please stop.

IDK my feelings on the situation happening bc some details hit too close to home, but my main gripe is that the information there was posted without anyone asking either party beforehand (especially if theyre trying to protect a “victim” [in quotes bc the person in question says they are not a victim and it isnt my place to assume otherwise], posting that persons private information can put them in more danger rather than help. do you know how actually abusive relationships can worsen when the person in trouble is still living with an abuser?? if they actually thought something was wrong and they wanted to help, they wouldnt have made a callout post that could put someone in physical danger. they would have contacted the person who theyre trying to help privately.)

batz :

bubby gets absolutely smashed n lip syncs 2 his favorite song Dr. Feelgood™ by Mötley Crüe™ and just ruins everything:)
alt title: how buby fuckign died :(

oh my god is the image on the top of your carrd a winx club gordon? XD

perhaps

Um, you're design for Benrey os antisemetic. The combination of blue skin, pointy eas and teeth, claws and bog nose is pretty yikes.

Everyone does remember Benrey is ALIEN right?

Green is the NO colour, the nose isn’t hooked, teeth are more monsterous for not being human, claws are inhuman and the ears are for being cute and once again alien

I’ve seen a lot of people who’ve done nothing wrong getting bullied out of the fandom for this bs by people and its getting beyond ridiculous

It was a worthy cause preciously but people have taken it way too far, Benrey is an alien and doesn’t abide by using human characteristics 

Bubby I can understand as he’s meant to resemble and look human but this is Berney. ALSO
MY Benrey isn’t a villian, I don’t use these characteristics to say ‘this is a bad guy’ 

I use them because they’re alien and don’t care about hiding it.

Hey so I was thinking of making an AU blog but I need help. I want to make benrey have an alien design with pointed ears and stuff, but I’m scared about being called antisimetic, any ideas?

Benrey is an inhuman character with zero ties to judaism, so a few alien features are alright. the issues come in when you start combining malicious traits, Especially hooked nose and horns + certain personality traits, such as being greedy/being very manipulative

there will be a more in-depth answer once the information post is finished. ill try to have it done in the next few days!