God I really wish carrying stuffed animals around with you was socially acceptable
I don’t mean to take over a post, but I actually did a project on this for my sociology of deviance class in college!
I carried a large stuffed rabbit whenever I went in public for about a week to observe the reaction of others. The point of the project was to do something harmless yet unusual to see if the action would be considered deviant, in which case someone had to try to correct or shame the behavior.
Long story short, nobody tried to correct my behavior. I was asked about it casually, had a few lingering stares thrown my way and when I was with my boyfriend, shop employees would direct questions to him instead of me. However, nobody refused to assist me when I was alone in a store, nobody said anything about the rabbit besides “oh, thats a cute bunny!” and I attended college classes without even a teacher questioning it.
In conclusion, it is socially acceptable to carry a stuffed animal, its just not a societal norm. ^^
My friend gave me a stuffed monkey plushy when I was struggling with uni, and I took him everywhere for like four years, usually velcrod to my backpack. No one said a damn thing, except my renaissance professor who saw it one day in the hallway and cracked the fuck up because I had a literal monkey on my back and he just looked at me like, “oh god, me too”. I used to leave him on desks during classes and exams (the monkey, not my prof). It was my reminder that someone cared if I was coping. But more than that it was soothing to have something to fidget with that wasn’t a pen. I used to ping those fucking things across the room I was so agitated. Harder to hurt people with a projectile stuffed monkey.
I got what I thought was a normal screen cleaning kit for my computer while I was in college. Much to my delight, instead of a little washcloth or whatever, the kit came with a tiny stuffed pig.
So I carried this pig in my backpack all through college, periodically taking it out, spraying my screen, and using the pig to wipe it off.
Now, I kept the pig in the side pocket of my bag where he was completely visible.
Then one day in screenwriting class I pulled him out to wipe my screen.
One of the guys sitting next to me looked appalled. “You’re wiping it off with your little stuffed animal??”
I explained what the pig was.
Turns out, the guy had noticed it and just thought it was adorable I carried a stuffed animal with me every day. He’d never mentioned it before.
Honestly, people do not care, and will not say anything. No matter the reason for your little stuffed animal friend.
And if you’re still really nervous about it keep a stuffed animal keychain on your bag. I have a cute little frog that stays on my backpack so when work gets stressful I can squeeze it.
For my anxious followers.
Confirmed. I take my Venom tsum tsum to uni when I need a little mental boost. The little goo always brings me good luck and overall makes my day just a tiny bit better. I haven’t received a single comment about them so far.
Bring your stuffed buddies to class/work/whatever, guys. People don’t care.
I have a couple of Ikea sharks* and have had cause to periodically carry them around in public - one of which I bought with the last $15 I had at the time, after making a series of big life changes. “This is frivolous and I don’t have to care about that because I’m getting paid shortly—I’m going to do it!”
The reactions I get range from amusement through delight and “WHERE DID YOU GET THAT” but so far, never disapproval.
The moral of the story is Carry Your Emotional Support Plushie With Pride, You Deserve It.
*pictured: not my shark
true story: I once had an appallingly awful day at the hell job and it coincided with my giant squishy Baymax being delivered from China, and no lie I hugged on that Baymax to keep from crying until it was time to leave
I travel with DC (”Don’t Care”) the Emotional Support Honey Badger. I go through TSA with him attached to my backpack, I hug him when I sleep in transit, I prop him next to me in cafes in cities, towns, and rural areas. The only time anyone’s ever so much as raised an eyebrow at me was the TSA agent who recognized what he was, and asked it he could get his picture taken with him.
People don’t judge. Kids think you’re awesome. You get a companion who never judges you. It’s all win.
I know probably everyone has seen this post already, but its too good not to reblog.
Don’t be afraid to carry your comfort items around with you! :D I take some of my stuffed friends to work sometimes, and no one ever bats an eye at them!
*looks at my pink teddy bear I named Ruby* you’re coming to college with me and that’s not a choice
This post made me cry bcuz sometimes i feel bad for having stuffed animals/plushies
i needed this a lot
I carried a soft toy to school with me every single day until senior school and no one ever batted an eye or mentioned it at all (except one day at my church of England primary school, my headmaster approached to ask if he could use my teddy - that day, a panda - in morning assembly to represent baby Jesus; it was the first and last time anyone so much as acknowledged it).
And now, at almost thirty years old, I still cuddle a soft toy when I sleep and my other half is totally cool with it, because I just can’t sleep without one.
I’ve been thinking about this lately because of Jamie Knight (above) one of my favourite autism bloggers (and co-host of the BBC’s podcast, 1800 Seconds On Autism). Jamie has often talked about Lion, who he brings with him everywhere, to the extent that introductions tend to refer to “Jamie + Lion”. There’s a really nice BBC article about them, and other autistic people who are often accompanied by soft toys, here, and Jamie also writes about Lion on his blog. When I came across Jamie + Lion, it kind of unlocked something in my brain about the fact that we can just… do the thing we want to do. Just try it, and see how people react, and see what it unlocks for us.
“There are two MLKs.
There once was a man named Martin Luther King Jr. who actually lived and breathed. He was a radical who believed in the redistribution of wealth, argued for slave reparations and that wrote that moderate whites who didn’t speak out on racism were just as bad as the Ku Klux Klan. Seventy-five percent of Americans disapproved of that man when he was killed by a white supremacist in 1968.
Then, there is the Martin Luther King Jr. that exists in the collective white memory. Through a complex combination of whitewashing, self-guilt and the intentional rewriting of history that absolves them of their hatred, they have painted a sanitized, impressionist portrait of a civil rights icon whose dreams were fulfilled by America’s unwavering commitment to justice and equality.
Out of whole cloth, they managed to fabricate a fantastic hologram of King that is ahistorical, but still “based on a true story.” Their Martin was a lover, not a fighter. They remember a socially conservative, respectable reconciler; not an anti-establishment revolutionary. And, for their sake, his doctrine of nonviolent resistance was eventually reduced to simple “nonviolence.”
This is the King they will remember this weekend.”
“Why do people like a character who’s committed war crimes but hate this other character just because they’re annoying” because it’s fiction Susan, and being annoying in fiction is a greater sin than being a supervillain, because it won’t make me want to read about them. It isn’t difficult to understand
Apparently a lot of people get dialogue punctuation wrong despite having an otherwise solid grasp of grammar, possibly because they’re used to writing essays rather than prose. I don’t wanna be the asshole who complains about writing errors and then doesn’t offer to help, so here are the basics summarized as simply as I could manage on my phone (“dialogue tag” just refers to phrases like “he said,” “she whispered,” “they asked”):
“For most dialogue, use a comma after the sentence and don’t capitalize the next word after the quotation mark,” she said.
“But what if you’re using a question mark rather than a period?” they asked.
“When using a dialogue tag, you never capitalize the word after the quotation mark unless it’s a proper noun!” she snapped.
“When breaking up a single sentence with a dialogue tag,” she said, “use commas.”
“This is a single sentence,” she said. “Now, this is a second stand-alone sentence, so there’s no comma after ‘she said.’”
“There’s no dialogue tag after this sentence, so end it with a period rather than a comma.” She frowned, suddenly concerned that the entire post was as unasked for as it was sanctimonious.
As a grammar nerd, I love this.
Quick addition: if you’re going to use a sentence instead of a dialogue tag, the sentence should be concerning the person who spoke because readers will essentially take the sentence as identifying the speaker in place of a dialogue tag.
Know what fuck it explaining as soon as I get off mobile this is important and I’m pissed and I need you people to hear it
so i’m trans
and i have been spoon feed this shit for years
There are more, but you get the idea.
If you’ve been on this website, or any website really, you’ll know just how much of everywhere this is. You can not escape it. Men are Trash and Pigs and all that good stuff.
Recently, I found “Where’d you go?” a comic by Jason Porath, the man behind the Rejected Princesses book about a nightmare he’s been having since 2016 that seems, at least a little, connected to the “All men are trash” thing. Reading this kind of made me realize something about myself; all these All men are trash posts have given me internalized transphobia. I Actively hate myself for not being cis. For giving up womanhood to join the side of evil. And it’s not like i hate any other trans people, yall are great, it’s just me, and it’s my first time really realizing what internalized transphobia feels like or means.
What makes it worse is this is something TERFs what. For those (lucky) few who have avoided TERFs, they are Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminists. They hate Trans Men for betraying woman by becoming part of the problem and they hate Trans Woman for being Men “pretending” to be woman to hurt them. They’re the kind of people making all the “If we let trans woman use the right bathroom they’ll assault cis woman!!!” stuff. Trashy people who think trashy things that only hurt people.
But they made me have their ideology.
So, how many people in the above screenshots are TERFs or Radfem? 3. And those are only the ones who say it on their blogs. 3 out of 5 of the screenshots are from TREFs or Redfem and these are just the first few post i saw when I searched up “All Men are Trash.”
This shit is everywhere
I feel awful
I hate myself
They won
I hope you all are happy
a bonus:
note is in response to this
Listen. Please share this. There are already trans guys in the notes saying this is important. Listen to us.
Hate to make a long post longer but here are some important takes from the notes
I have a friend who is constantly racked with guilt about being attracted to women since he started transitioning because posts like this have taught him that men’s attention to women is always predatory. I have friends who are cis dudes who feel the same way. I have a transfemme friend who constantly questions whether they are actually just fetishizing women because being “socialized male” means they can never unlearn the predatory nature of their AGAB.
This sort of thinking also trains straight and bi women to expect to get treated like shit by their partners instead of believing that men are compassionate, kind, generous people who should be expected to treat their partners well.
And, not to get all “what about cis people” on this but there are young teen boys on this blogging platform who are learning that they are “trash” simply for looking at or being attracted to women and there are adult men on this platform who are trying to turn themselves inside out to try to “make up” for their maleness and framing men as terrible, unsafe, selfish, bad people is the exact kind of gender essentialist bullshit that says all women are compassionate and good communicators and naturally maternal caregivers.
It’s crap! It’s garbage!
You can write off all cops as bad because they all looked at an abusive, corrupt system and went “I want to be a part of that.”
If you write off “men,” the type category, fifty fucking percentish of the goddamned species, as trash you’re looking at a little boy or a black father or an autistic teen or a gay pensioner or even just a totally run of the mill cis straight white dude and saying “you were born wrong.”
And you know what, for fucking YEARS I’ve been saying “feminism benefits men too” and “feminism helps everyone” and there has been this loud minority of utter fucking assholes saying that men are trash and there’s no such thing as misandry and I’ve been trying to say “yeah, okay, those people are assholes but they’re not really a huge part of the movement” and but now it seems like their shitty ideas about purity culture have crossed over to the mainstream and their shitty sex negativity has crossed over to the mainstream, and radical feminism in general and TERFs in particular are brimming with misandry that is an exact fucking mirror to the misogyny of blackpilled incels and we are very calmly letting it infect our discourse and discredit our philosophy.
ALSO all of this bullshit broadcasts and spreads the idea that women must always be protected from men (which is exactly how JK Rowling justifies her transmisogyny) which does NOTHING to accomplish the equality that feminism is nominally about.
“Men are trash” and “kill all men lol” is a memeified, gender-swapped version of Mike Fucking Pence refusing to meet with women unsupervised because they might contaminate or tempt him.
And it *also* paves over the shitty, rapey, abusive, power imbalanced, oppressive things that women do. “If men are trash and women aren’t then clearly the abuse or sexual assault I’m suffering from my female partner must be *different* in some way because she’s not harming me through patriarchy or oppression.”
The “men are trash” posts are exactly how many boys/men get sucked into supremacy groups.
When young boys see those posts everywhere and start to get (rightfully) upset, the most “understanding” groups seem to be ones that are proud of being men. They’re told that they’re special or superior in some way and after such a blow to their confidence, they want to believe it. They’re told to read books written by women exposing how “manipulative” women are. It becomes an obsession and that pride becomes rampant misogyny.
You are helping to create the problem. You are kicking a dog and yelling “I told you so!” when it bites.
Also, this isn’t something you can just log off and escape from. It’s just as pervasive in person as on the internet.
THANK YOU for having this discussion. I’ve felt a general unwelcome within modern progressive feminist circles, but I couldn’t quite place it. Glad to hear men aren’t absolutely abhorred in most circles, just some.
*taps mic*
For the decade of talking about toxic masculinity, I posit that all of the terfy shite above is a raging, prime example of toxic feminism, where it denigrates and insults people who don’t perform femininity “the right way” or have the absolutely right body parts (and how terfy can you be when you say, biology issues, when there’s plenty of women who can’t get pregnant (bigoted much, huh?)) or present the right way or act the right way, ad nauseum.
Are men trash? No. Are there some problematic behaviors? Sure. Same for women and anyone (not ignoring the NBs and others outside the binary) who draws breath. Anyone saying “men are trash” are part of the problems happening, including reinforcing the fucking patriarchy and sustaining the Ncells and others who have no qualms with their biases flaunting it in the virtual public square.
Those saying all men need to be killed… y’all need serious professional help. Serious. help.
Y’all come after my children and grandkids - well, let me point out that you come after them, you better not miss me.
Le Dragon est Mort. Vive le Dragon.
In my RL life, I’ve never felt excluded from engaging in feminism due to my gender. But online? Even though I have an awesome bunch of mutuals on here, it took me a very long time to be open about the fact that I am male. It wasn’t like I deliberately avoided mentioning it, but the “all men are trash” thing was so common online that I honestly didn’t want to bring up my gender.
Also, since I’m autistic, I assumed that -because so many people were agreeing with the “all men are trash” thing- therefore it must be true. And I already grew up feeling like my attraction to women (despite me being asexual) was “pervy” and “predatory” simply due to my gender. That mindset can leave some lasting and very damaging effects.
#transphobia for ts #this was really useful for me to hear #that stuff has bothered me a bit in a way that went beyond not all men!!!111 but I couldn't work out why before
I honest to god just woke up from one of the most linear, cohrerent plot-driven dreams I’ve ever had in my life, set in the Witcher netflix universe, with extemeley scary parts and high stakes,
but I was travelling with Geralt and Yenefer and also Alexis and David Rose from Schitt’s Creek.
okay okay okay so Alexis has been somehow granted powers that she had to learn how to control, and Geralt was trying to help. Every time she used them, David made his “ew” uncomforrable face though.
Yennefer saved our lives at one point and Alexis and her walked away together as Alexis started saying something like, “you know I used to think you were like, extremely stuck up and above it all, but underneath that weird but gorgeous dress, you’re really sweet aren’t you” and Geralt David and I just stood there covered in monster blood like, “alright.”
She kept booping all our noses.
For the record, I had absolutely no powers and nothing to offer. I was just there for no other reason than I guess to witness it all, constantly having to get saved by Geralt and Yennefer and twice Alexis.
But David being there too made me look extremely competent by comparison alone.
Alexis did say, “eww Geralt.”
The plot was actually extremely in-depth but I feel these are the important notes.
Alright, I’ve been awake for a full 45 minutes now so this dream is slipping away like sand through my fingers but some other things I remember:
Alexis started wearing Witcher storyworld clothes, but David continued to dress in his regular outfits.
The vaguely worrisome references Alexis made about her past in Schitt’s Creek continued but started turning people asking how she got into places and her being like, “you can get past any Nilfgaard soldier with a little chitchat.”
Jaskier wasn’t there, and people are pointing out that this makes me the Jaskier of the group being that I had no other role, but I take issue with that because I absolutely know I can tie more knots than him.
The overarching plot was that some monster who looked like a normal guy was hunting mages specifically for their esophagus. Details on the why aren’t important, but he had to go after women who hadn’t been trained yet, so he wanted Alexis’s esophagus.
In the climax of the dream before I woke up, Alexis was trapped with this guy, and Geralt and Yennefer couldn’t get to her, and to be totally honest I don’t remember what I was doing, but David ended up running up a huge flight of stairs, clearing a huge gap in the floor of a crumbling castle, and fly-tackling the guy so Alexis could get back up and kill him. And then it became this suddenly very Schitt’s Creek moment where Alexis, (albeit covered in blood), was like, “David!!! How did you do that?” And David was like, “I couldn’t let someone kill my sister…………..Ew I’m so sweaty. Don’t talk about this again.”
Yennefer respected Alexis but didn’t really like her that much, but Alexis loved Yennefer. David didn’t like any of us. The only thing I remember doing at any point in time that solidified my existence in-story rather than as an omnipotent observer is that I had a 2 and a half minute long conversation with Geralt about functional hair updos for the lifestyle he lives because mine was getting so tangled.
That’s all I’ve got for you.
Visuals.
I can’t believe I ever left Tumblr. This is so beautiful and the only gesture I can offer in gratitude is this screencap of David that’s been on my desktop ever since I saw the series finale.
i love this because it’s such a simple concept but it answers things i didn’t even know how to ask
Looking out of people’s windows is such a peaceful way of travelling… I got a snowfall in Argentina, a nice sea view in Ukraine, a clothes line in the fog in Bangalore. Antonella from Tavernaro, I like your wooden bird.
It’s raining in someone’s front garden in Jaipur right now! It was very peaceful.
It’s fuckin hilarious bc wow we can recreate THIS MUCH of the lyrics without repeating fandoms is AMAZING.
WE ARE AMAZING Y’ALL. TITLE YOUR SHIT HOWEVER YOU LIKE EVEN IF IT’S CLICHE!!! :D :D :D :D :D
What I find fascinating about compilations like this- where you can recompile the lyrics of a song, fully or nearly so, with fanfic titles pulled from it- is that NOT ONLY did the song speak to so many people that it’s popularly used for titles, but ALSO that those titles are such a wide swath of the lyrics! Like, there’s songs that speak to thousands of people but really only have two or three lines that grab most people… and then there’s songs where every listener finds something different in it to be the breathtaking, poetic thing they want to borrow as a title, or use as a blog tagline, or, idk, get tattoo’d on their ribs.
Sure, lyric titles are a fandom cliche… but they’re also an expression of love for a song, and specifically for the poetic beauty of a line that grabs you.
Question: Er. I hate to pull a "gotcha" on someone as intelligent as you, but... deplatforming/shaming/violence/etc. is also agreeing to go with whoever wins the arm-wrestling match, except that instead of a low correlation with the truth there's now literally zero. Nobody said debating was perfect, but at least you're at a *disadvantage* if you seriously try to defend honest-to-goodness Nazism in a debate. On the other hand... well, Nazis have historically proven themselves BETTER at the Dark Side.
Answer:
Nazis are more enthusiastic about the Dark Side, but they’re not better at it. They did rather decisively lose the ultimate arm-wrestling match in 1945. And more recently, alt-righters who have been kicked off major platforms have generally been forced to rebrand or lapse into obscurity.
Sure, they’ll say “This only makes me stronger!”, but fact is, once they get booted off YouTube or denied space at conference halls, they actually lose a ton of followers and funding. They get stuck on Gab or Voat where their audience is down to like twelve people who are already radicalized anyway. And because extremists don’t own major platforms, they can’t inflict a mirror-image version of this on progressives; if I get banned from making an account on Gab I give exactly zero shits.
Conversely, if I agree to debate a Nazi, I’ll be linking that event from my Twitter and Tumblr and Facebook and YouTube. All my followers have to see how righteously I pwned this person, right? And then the algorithm sees this event is popular, and promotes it more. And that Nazi gets to put his face and ideas in front of a ton of people who haven’t seen him before.
I’d argue that this is more impactful than anything we could possibly say in that debate. The Nazi is at a disadvantage as far as winning the debate on points, but no one’s actually assigning points. If we measure wins in terms of “number of people made aware of your existence and curious to hear more about what you have to say”–the Nazi absolutely wins the debate.
And yes, all this is basically uncorrelated with who is right. Deplatforming and shaming (I never said violence, you added that) aren’t truth-seeking mechanisms, they’re methods of political action. Which is okay. Voting also isn’t a way to seek the truth, but that doesn’t mean it’s somehow unfairly coercive to vote for your preferred candidate, instead of insisting that campaign season continue until everyone in the country reaches a consensus.
Do you ever hear an old playlist and it’s like suddenly coming face to face with yourself from back then?
#fuck #it's not even regrets #it's just... trauma makes you into a different person #I read a book once that said you become the closest approximation of yourself that can stand living through whatever the circumstances are
The worst part of human adulthood is being your own zookeeper
Like… i have to make sure my meals are nutritionally balanced… i have to make sure that the space i occupy is big enough, and interesting enough, and provide enrichment to make up for the lack of novelty… i have to make sure i get exercise… i’m not qualified for this
Traditional forestry is so fascinating actually. Humans used to be much more invested in sustainable practices*, and they got creativeabout it.
Take coppicing. Coppicing is wild, ya’ll. Young trees get repeatedly cut down so that they regenerate with extra limbs. You know, like a freaking hydra.
This doesn’t harm the trees. In fact, since a regularly coppiced tree stays in the juvenile stage, this effectively makes the tree IMMORTAL, unable to be touched by age and the ravages of time. Also coppicing has been practiced since literal prehistory and has a lot of ecological benefits. In return, humans get a theoretically infinite supply of wood from one tree, instead of having to plant new ones.
tldr if you cut off a tree’s head it will grow more heads like a hydra and become functionally immortal.
*before colonizers realized they could steal all the land & trees they desired
this website has ruined me for all others
@neil-gaiman I think we’re getting closer to finding your stick-people
coppicing, and also its brother pollarding, are way more insanely useful then youd assume the more you think of it
consider that for almost all of human history we lived in a wooden world, wood was the go to material for just about any building project, tool making, as well as your fuel source- coppicing and pollarding allow you to harvest not just wood, but specifically long straight pieces of wood that you can allow them to grow to your desired thickness rather then hunt through a forest looking for just the right sized branch or take a larger piece of wood and waste time shaving it down
chair leg? broom handle? ladder rungs? polearm shaft? you literally have a tree that grows wood in exactly the size and shape you want, and for making things like wattle for your houses walls or basket weaving its hard to imagine an easier way to just aquire infinite thin supple branches for free
bonus, because you left the root system and often at least some of the leaves, the coppiced tree regrows those branches waaaay faster then waiting for a new tree to grow, instead of waiting for a new tree to grow seven to twelve years thick enough to turn it into an axe handle this system will only take about five or so years and will produce at least nine at once of the same thickness
bonus bonus, in many cases you can shape the young branch in its rapid growth so that when harvested its already in the shape you need it to be rather then having to carve, bend, or fork this wood after the fact which would take time and effort you can let the tree do- anything from pitchforks to scythe handles, why shape when you can just bend the wood while its growing with some twine to hold it in place?
bonus bonus bonus, anywhere that has livestock requires you to provide hay during the winter to keep your animals alive, and typically this requires you to set asside land just to grow grass, and hours of backbreaking labor to mow it with a scythe just to prepare food for your sheep and cows for winter, which is largely why youd butcher most of your animals around christmas so you wouldnt have to feed them over winter and thus save yourself busting ass to make hay…. buuut if you are coppicing or pollarding you already produce bushels of leaves that were attached to those branches, and hey, thats free hay you can just set asside instead
bonus bonus bonus bonus, these thin branches sprouting like crazy are also ideal to just shove into the ground to grow more trees. literally just make pirated copies of trees whevever you have soft ground. hadnt you ever wondered how medieval europe never ran out of forests despite every home having to burn through firewood 24/7 for hundreds of years and any form of industry needed a steady supply of charcoal
people also do this by accident and inadvertently create indestructible invasive honeysuckle bushes that can only be killed with carefully-applied herbicide and a tremendous amount of patience
please stop mowing your honeysuckle and remove it from the ground completely… please…
If you live in desperation because I stopped updating @cloudsinvenice, you may be delighted to learn that I now have a sideblog purely for motivational shitposting. It’s not an easy world to live in and frankly, I need all the outlets I can get, and I also need to remind myself daily that your @heartisamusclethesizeofyourfist. I can’t follow accounts with it, so if you’re an old friend wondering why @tealightcandles1794 followed you, now you know.
This blog mostly just handles admin for the theme blogs I made as @cloudsinvenice:
- @cry-to-heaven (neglected Cry to Heaven blog; I’ll perk it up one day)
- @ledwardine (neglected Phil Rickman blog; I’ll perk it up one day)
- @the-last-kingdom (hopefully I’ll neglect this one less during season 2)
Reblogging this thing from my admin blog in order to shame myself into doing something with my assorted niche fandom blogs, and also remind anyone puzzled at why they started following me who I am, since I had a long phase of being pretty inactive on Tumblr before I started updating my seasonal blogs again these past few months.
Yes, I have a sideblog problem. I know, it’s terribly irritating of me to have this cumbersome web of accounts. And I see I did not follow through on my desire to do more with my Last Kingdom blog; that show is up to HOLY BALLS I just checked and it’s five seasons now…
(This isn’t even getting to the fact that I did briefly attempt to get back into fandom on here towards the end of 2018 - cleverly choosing a month the Dreaded Algorithm kicked in AND I had major surgery to do so, way to make it hard for yourself there - on yet another account, which I’m not linking on here in case I ever decide to just do so footloose and unencumbered by my sprawling Tumblr past.)
I’m really out here with the taste in men of a repressed victorian gentleman I’m like “when he’s in his shirtsleeves 😳😩” “when he’s in his dressing gown and his leg slips out a bit and you see his sock garters 👀🙈” like sir I think you’re unwell
When his shirt isn’t buttoned up all the way and you can see his clavicle
#this this this #i find it baffling how somehow seeing SOMETHING is sexier than seeing EVERYTHING #like what is the evopsych reason for this
middle class is closer to poverty than being a multimillionaire
“The rich” does NOT include children of billionaires (come on we’re at least slightly better than the plagues of Egypt)
Upper middle class children SHOULD NOT feel guilt over having money
Being aware of privilege and using your privilege to help others IS NOT a guilt trip
Constantly feeling guilty helps no one
Billionaires, however, should feel guilty over hoarding wealth.
Upper middle class is NOT rich
Black Lives Matter
Trans rights are human rights
My uncle was one of the top surgeons in the country. He was upper middle class definitely. When he got cancer, his insurance didn’t cover all the treatments he would need and after 5 years he drained his savings on cancer treatments (while still working most of that time) and eventually died because he couldn’t afford the expensive treatments that might have saved him.
If you are upper middle class and you get sick, it will likely bankrupt your family. It’s fucked.
For all of the idiots in the notes ^
Honest to god - even if you make 6 figures a year? you’re closer to poverty than true wealth. Check your shit and remember who your real allies and enemies are guys.
#this is a good thing to remember #particularly in the US context where spiralling medical costs can destroy almost anyone's life #there's a reductive tendency to assume people in certain occupations are insulated from all risk #you often see this re: the creative industries #(and it also plays into the inane shit about how book piracy is good actually and definitely not fucking over low-earning authors) #idk if you guys are into comics or not #but the number of legendary comics pros who have to resort to crowdfunding to pay medical bills in their old age would make you weep #so when you go lol disney owns marvel #don't forget that the vast majority of people who work or have worked for marvel are not safe from that medical nightmare #and in the uk context the government has been very happy to weaponise our assumption that doctors are on the gravy train #and used this against junior doctors who frankly have shit pay and conditions for what they're doing #which then became an excuse to kick the entire nhs pay and condition issues down the road and act like how that's good for taxpayers #anyway you can still eat the 1% #go hog wild
I can’t get over the Gengar mouth plush/nap pillow. I am not exaggerating when I say this is literally exactly what I needed in undergrad while napping on the hard thinly carpeted concrete floor of a library study room, using my backpack as a pillow and putting a sock over my eyes.
If I’d been able to lie down on this tongue with my head in its mouth, I would have gotten the sleep I needed
whompst amongst my friends has vibes most similar to a 9 year old girl in 1997
I need something
Explanation:
When I was in elementary school I really liked bead lizards. It was an important social ritual to exchange bead lizards with your friends. I did not, however, know how to make bead lizards, nor did I have an intimate friendship with any girls who did. Year after year I secretly hoped that someone would make me a bead lizard. No one ever did.
Now that I am grown, I still do not have any bead lizards. I could make my own, and do so easily, but it’s not the same. The child inside me still yearns for the symbolic intimacy of being given a bead lizard. If any of my friends know how to make bead lizards—or are willing to learn—and are comfortable taking our relationship to Bead Lizard Level, I would be happy to return the gesture with a small needlefelt creature of some kind. I crave bead lizard satisfaction.
this kind of bead lizard?
the very same
I want to hang it from my key ring
You’re right. I made these by the dozen
[gets down on one knee] Pip… will you be my Bead Lizard Buddy?
This reminds me of how when I was at school, some of the people in my year had a club whose badge was one of those paperclips that’s striped; you know where it looks like there’s string wound round it in a contrasting colour?
And it was just the coolest thing I had ever seen (we’re talking primary school here, in a backwater in the pre-internet era; as you’ve probably surmised, I hadn’t seen much in my life). I wished so much to be asked, but of course I was not.
Later on I learned that you can just buy those paperclips in a shop, ready-striped, and I was simultaneously elated and disappointed.
We need to dismantle the systems in place that allow white people to get away with offering black people sub-par services based on the excuse that our bodies are more difficult to work with. Black hair is not more difficult than white hair, it simply requires a different skill set. Tattooing vibrant tattoos on black skin isn’t more difficult than tattooing white skin, it simply requires a different skill set. Photographing black people isn’t more difficult than photographing white people, it simply requires an understanding of photography. Doing makeup on black skin isn’t more difficult than doing makeup on white skin, it simply requires different products. Working with black people is not more difficult than working with white people you’ve all just been taught that it’s not valuable and therefore not worth learning how.
This is extremely similar to the dilemma faced by disabled people. It is no more expensive to design a building with ramps instead of stairs, it’s only when you create the building first and have to tear down the stairs and replace them that you incur costs. If we teach the skills of inclusion from the beginning, there should be no additional costs for services and accessiblity for anybody.
Initially I wasn’t sure I wanted to diverge from the axis of race over to disability, but I actually think that the analogy of that building and how it’s only after we’ve institutionalized inequality that costs are incurred trying to fix it, is a valuable one so thanks for the contribution.
legitimate fucking lifehack: discord server literally just for yourself to keep track of stuff over devices. links. reminders and checklists. all neatly divided into categories. search function and dates. why didnt i do this earlier oh my god.
op here. everybody adding passive aggressive comments like “just use [other thing]” or “wow u dont know [other thing] exists get well soon ❤️” owes me 5 dollars
everybody else especially adhd folks are very welcome and i hope u see something beautiful today
ive been doing this lately and it works pretty well!
these r the channels i use
basically organisation has my schedule and any random stuff thats happening or i gotta do
media is where i drop a youtube video, episode of a show, or fic im reading with the time of where i am in the video that i need to close so i can focus
plus it doubles as a catalog of stuff to do when I’m bored!
then document is links to things i need open to do work or any slideshow links i get for school
and formulas are the formulas i always search for those classes like a wavelength formula or molar mass or smth!
what the fuck what the fuck this is genius what the fuck
the thing about Abigail and Will is that… she’s actually pretty up for bonding with him? but only on select subjects like:
him killing the absolute shit out of her dad and what that felt like
complicated feelings about having taken a life and being able to live with that
complicated feelings about understanding her dad in all the ways he was a monster and all the ways he wasn’t
feeling haunted by GJH and unable to lay that tainted, transformative connection to rest
so in other words, the exact things Will is least comfortable talking about, and least able to deal with Abigail having reasons to want to talk about
meanwhile, the two things Abigail absolutely super-duper does NOT want from Will are:
Will stepping in as a replacement parent
Will identifying with or acting like a replacement GJH, specifically
in other words, the two roles that Hannibal is pushing on him hard in order to serve various agendas of his own. (forcing the Murder Family bond, and using the specter of Will’s first kill to drive him further and further into the mindset that he could actually commit the violence he’s been used to imagining.)
all of that, IMO, is why Will ends up failing so hard at forging a bond with Abigail, and why his mental reconstruction of her is so far off the mark from who she really was. it’s not that he wasn’t trying, it’s not necessarily that he had a predetermined ideal version of her that he was invested in seeing - more that the truth of her, and of what he shares with her, scares him so much he’d rather hang on to anything else about her that he can find.
really, it isn’t even a failure to pay attention to figure out what she wanted - it’s that all his attention was focused on what she wanted out of a parent figure. he felt under so much pressure to take on that role that he didn’t stop to ask if it was even the type of connection she wanted from him, and that’s what really fucked everything up.
anyway, I suspect they might have ended up with a much more solid bond if Will could’ve just… let it be weird, without predetermined roles or scripts. she seemed happy enough to treat him as a sort of weirdo murder uncle who’d been there with her for Some Shit and was one of the few to understand it. in 1x12 especially, she’s the one initiating a lot of their lines of conversation, using him as a sounding board for her conflicted feelings about Nick Boyle, her dad, and the copycat killer. but the whole time, she had good reason to be both resentful and fucking petrified of his GJH Replacement Dad act. and by the time he was in a mental state where a lucid conversation about that would’ve done any good, it was too late.
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