“I thought you were dead. I thought I was the only one left.”
“I know. Me too.”
can we stop with the expectation that any couple that lives together has to sleep together? and I’m not even talking about sex. I’m talking about just sleeping
believe it or not, being able to sleep with another person has no bearing whatsoever on whether you love them, or how committed you are to the relationship
you know who probably can’t sleep next to the people they love? people with PTSD. people with insomnia. people who are claustrophobic. people with ‘abnormal’ sleep patterns. people who need lights on in order to sleep. people who need sounds in order to sleep. thousands of people who are disabled, and thousands of others who are not
i can’t even sleep with my cat, let alone a fully grown human being, because the moment he moves, I will propel six feet into the air from sound sleep and have a full blown panic attack
I have never spent a restful night with another living breathing thing in close proximity but being in love is magically supposed to fix that? it’s bullshit
if you can’t or aren’t willing to sleep next to your partner every night, there’s nothing wrong with you. and if your partner doesn’t get that, then you need to find a better one
People who prefer hot weather: Snow and ice are a pain, and the cold is just kind of uncomfortable even when you wrap up, you know?
People who prefer cold weather: MY SKIN LITERALLY MELTS OFF EVERY SUMMER I AM A FUCKING HUMAN SOUP AS WE SPEAK
you wouldn’t believe how many people reblogged this to whine about hot weather in the tags.
too cold? put on another layer!
too hot? change into thinner clothes!
still too cold? put on another layer!
still too hot? uh, get naked I guess?
still too cold? put on another layer!
still too hot? Ţ̡̜̮̗̟̯͘ͅA̛͈͎̤͙̳̦̱̜̺̪K̢̻̥̥̥̪̙̜̩̗̼̤̻̻͖͍̜͈͉͠ͅE̟͕̩͔̪͓͔̥̦͇̣͇̳͕͉͜ͅ ̠̝̥̖̭̦̼́͝O̩̦͓̠͉̲̲̱̪̹̻̼̭̯͎͈̕͢F̷̸̢̛̙͇͔̜̙̮̗̲̤͇̯͡F̧̨̱̤̲̫͕͔̼̭͙̠̙͙̹̻ͅ ҉̫̠͓̙̠͔̕͜͠Y͡҉̴̘̭̬̳́O̶̶̧͚̞̣̯̩̫̜̩͉̤͎͖̖͟ͅU̶̵̺̠̪̘̱̮̮̙̻͈̣̦̭͠͝͞R̨҉̦̺͓̩̺͖̘̪̥̺͚̱͚͔̪͓̖̰ ̷̸̺͇̳͇̖̥̻̳͚̗̥͙̪̣́S̡̞̳͖̭̯͉̻̠͔̥̹̫̣̼̹͇͜K͏̧͍̪̗̖̜̫̙̱̫͈̟̝̮͈̻̺̯̟̠̀Į̧̙͙͔̠͖̟̕͝Ǹ͖͎̳͍̪̱̞͇̺̘̩͘͜͠
The cold is easily shut out, the heat is inescapable hell
THE TRUTH COMES OUT.
Avoidance techniques for the cold:
-more coats, fire, hot food and drink, stay inside, fuzzy sweaters, ear muffs, become a burrito
Avoidance techniques for heat:
-die, I guess.
I keep my house at 65° f and my family mocks me but anything warmer than 74° and I start to feel physically ill. my body does not regulate temperature properly so I just have lots of comfy sweaters and duvets.
Today while exploring Kennebunkport w/my best friend we stumbled upon this used book shop consisting of solely murder + horror + true crime novels. The owner is a woman in (I’m guessing) her early 60s. It’s located in the carriage house in her backyard and it’s sorted by type of horror and by country of origin. She explained to me that Scandinavian horror novels tend to be full of lots of gore + blood, while Russian authors focus more on mystery and classic horror themes. As you can see she even has, yes that’s right, a “Cat Crimes” section. Guys, I think I stepped into a time loop and met myself 30 years in the future. It was excellent, she was sweet and thankful. Highly recommend if you’re a horror buff and/or visiting Maine. Slightly creepy + cute + I am in love and surprised I only left with one book. 🥀
Now that college students no longer have access to their libraries in the same way we used to and have to do most of our learning at home it would be just terrible if we all knew about https://1lib.eu/ a website which has books on basically every topic ever available for free including college textbooks. Imagine if people were researching their thesis without paying for it.
DO NOT USE THIS SITE AND DEFINITELY DO NOT NOT TELL YOUR FRIENDS ABOUT THIS SITE, THEY MIGHT START DOING THESIS RESEARCH FOR FREE OR JUST START READING BOOKS THEY FOUND ON THERE FOR FUN BECAUSE THEY THOUGHT THEY WERE INTERESTING. This would be terrible :( :(
Reblog to spread the word so that everyone knows to avoid this site!
Hey everyone they have NOT moved to:
Do NOT enter this url to find free books :)
Some more websites to definitely not look up:
pdfdrive.com for 79,081,664 eBooks for free
core.ac.uk for the world’s largest collection of open access research papers
citationsy.com which is a free referencing tool for making citations
archive.org a non-profit library of millions of free books, movies, software, music, websites, and more
elephind.com for free newspaper articles from around the world
don’t tell your friends :)
This hotel reminds you to steal the toiletries!
I work in hotels/resorts, and honestly, take the little shampoos and soaps! We throw them away when you leave (we don’t know if you’ve opened them and messed with them or whatever, so for health and safety it all goes in the trash)
If you stay at the fancier places or chains, they’ve actually done some bit of thought into the scents for the toiletries, in that if you use them while at home you’ll remember the time you stayed at the hotel and be more likely to return.
Just don’t take the towels or the robes or any of that shit, it’s expensive.
This is true, all soaps, shampoos, and the like are tossed after a guest checks out of the hotel even if it’s clearly unopened because it is considered a health hazard violation in most places if they’re left there. If someone were to somehow get sick from it, a hotel can be shut down. Just take the toiletries, they’re ordered in bulk as is and only cost the hotel a few dollars to order them by the hundreds
And even if you don’t use them, you can donate them to your local homeless shelter or other similar charity and give someone something they could use that would otherwise go to waste.
PLEASE TAKE THE SOAPS. PLEASE DONATE THE SOAPS. It’s one of the biggest requests shelters/supply banks get. You want to make their fucking day? Show up with socks, undies, diapers, and toiletries.
chronically ill ppl experience this unevenly based on their other identities but there really is no way a sick person can present themselves, explain their symptoms, share their forced accumulation of knowledge, or otherwise show up in medical appointments that doesn’t cause doctors to give us an unofficial dx of hypochondriac. the number of times i’ve told thoughtful, respected, experienced doctors what was physically going on in my body and they’ve nodded and gotten a concerned look on their faces and recommended psychiatric medication is horrifying.
as chronically ill ppl for whom medicine doesn’t yet have a diagnosis, we are stuck in our bodies, in our symptoms, forever. we can never abandon the mystery of our conditions, no matter how much we’d like to throw our hands up, or how willing we’d be to take psych meds if they made a difference!! but nearly every doctor will abandon us in it, with the burden of a “difficult patient” stigma on top of our physical suffering and its emotional toll.
if there were one thing i could say to doctors, as a chronically ill social worker with cancer, it’d be that if you don’t believe your patients, even when their experience doesn’t fit your understanding, you don’t deserve your license. no treatment, no health care, is possible without that fundamental skill.
This also really frustrates me as someone with both chronic illnesses and health anxiety because it deeply misunderstands how this plays out if you have health anxiety.
It’s not “there is nothing wrong with me, but I’m going to go to the doctor every five minutes anyway.”
Step One: A real symptom shows up
Step Two: I panic that it’s the worst possible illness ever and I’m going to die
Step Three: Because I know what’s going on*, and have been able to identify it as what it is every time since the first, I realise what’s happening, do some breathing exercises and decide to wait to see if the symptom goes away
Step Four: If it doesn’t go away, I talk to someone I trust to get their opinion on whether or not it’s something to worry about
Step Five: I still probably put off going to the doctors if it’s still around and friends don’t think I should ignore it, as I’ll have probably found a non-scary explanation to calm my Anxiety-Brain when it starts to spiral, and if that’s probably the case, I don’t need to worry, right?
Step Six: I finally bring it up when I’m at my GP for something else, and it’s a 50/50 chance that it’s either nothing to worry about, or I get an emergency referral because I’ve been putting something serious off for so long
*And tbh, even if this wasn’t true, and I had a disorder that meant that the belief that I was dying was overwhelming or that the symptoms weren’t always real, doctors still shouldn’t dismiss it in case this is the time that it is real
And actually, additionally, even if someone is a known liar, they should be taken seriously, just in case. As a kid, I used to basically pretend to be sick for a few days more than I was because I hated school so much. But being the autistic stereotype that I am, I felt so bad about doing that that I confessed it to my mum, who then phoned the school and warned them that I might lie about being sick to get out of school.
Yeah, guess who fell face-first onto the ice at school, actually needed a trip to A&E and got sent back to classes instead?
The school rang my parents like “you were right, she did try to get out of school by bloodying her nose” and they had to come and pick me up like “that’s not what we meant!”
I tell these stories all the time but I’m telling them again because they illustrate so well what we deal with.
Firstly, it’s important to know that among my many diagnoses I have CFS/ME and fibromyalgia, both of which are currently diagnosed by process of elimination because (despite evidence that there are physical changes associated with both) there is no clinical test for them. This means that some doctors (IME more than half) considers them to not exist.
- a GP prescribed some very mild painkillers and told me to take them four times a day to build up the effect. I went back to ask for a repeat, and saw the head of the clinic. He fired the doctor who prescribed them and I was unable to get any pain relief for a year and a half because I was “drug seeking.” While addiction is not a crime, I do want to note I have a very long history of not taking opioids as often as prescribed. This experience made me more reluctant and I suffer a lot more than I need to, because I’m afraid it will happen again.
- I broke my leg, very badly, by passing out while stood on cobbles. The surgeon said the words, “you have fibromyalgia? Okay so you don’t need painkillers.” He said this hours after having his hands INSIDE my leg installing half an ironmongery.
- a month later, I went into sepsis. Two different GPs waved me off when I said I was so feverish I had sweated *through* my (winter tog) duvet. I almost died. The nurse on duty told me there were at least 3 times she thought I was going.
Being chronically ill or otherwise disabled makes you innately suspicious to a lot of medical personnel, when we need them to be on our side more than most.
Doctors and patients should be a team. Instead we’re put in a horrible situation where we’re subordinate to people who have already decided we can’t be trusted.
Yeah, I got process-of-elimationed to “probably fibro but come back in a year and we’ll run the tests again to be sure” but, tbh, it looks like a pretty text-book case of fibromyalgia, and the follow-up appointment got cancelled because of lockdown and I’m honestly not sure if I should reschedule it after I’m vaccinated because, as far as I’m aware, there’s nothing they can do to help and tbh, I’m not sure I want it on my medical record if this is the way they treat people with it.
And I’m saying that as someone with a decent track-record of getting what I need out of difficult doctors.
Wonton, Shiba Inu (3 y/o), Sippy Cafe, Brooklyn, NY • “We’ve been here for two months and we specialize in coffee with Asian fusion – people love the black sesame or the ube lattes. Wonton’s the reason why we made the cafe as dog friendly as possible, but she’s not dog friendly. We have the pupachinos, a dog photo wall, and we let the dogs come in quickly with their owners to order their coffee. We see a lot of dogs get tied up outside for the two minutes it takes to get their coffee. People treat their dogs like kids and nobody wants to tie their dogs up outside.” #AllInNYC #NYCStrong
“To be a princess, you have to believe that you are a princess. You’ve got to walk the way you think a princess would walk. So, you gotta think tall you gotta smile and wave, and just have fun.”
The Princess Diaries 2: Royal Engagement
2004 | dir. Garry Marshall
I really hate those stupids posts that are like:
“What about REAL monster girls??? Not just weird humans?? like real huge MONSTERS?? With giant sharp claws and big sharp teeth?? Where are those???”
You’re thinking of bestiality. You want to fuck a T-Rex.
If it passes the Harkness Test, I’m down.
For the uninformed:
This isn’t an item or even a game mechanic but I think y’all know you need the Harkness Test at some point or another in most campaigns
here’s my issue with the harkness test
OK, just stop.
I’ll lay odds that a fair number of the people who decided to mock and pillory her “you can only have 30 books” idea (myself included) had no idea who she was, what nationality she was, or even what she looked like. Her name isn’t particularly obviously Asian, and it’s not like the various articles of comment specified her ethnicity in the headline, which let’s be honest, is all any of us read before w started crafting our comedy.
All I knew was there was another tidiness guru trying to tell us to simplify.
And Henry David Thoreau notwithstanding, the whole modern minimalist movement is aimed at the wealthy. They’re the ones who make claims like “You don’t need to have all these plates, just keep a few, and if you’re having a big party, buy more”. It all centers on the idea of you’re rich enough not to have to hang on to all this stuff till you need it, you can just buy more.
Well,no, sorry, that ain’t the case. And so us poor and middle class people hang on to that half a bottle of antibiotics we didn’t finish, cause they cost money, and maybe the next time we get sick we can take those and save the cost of going to the doctor.
And we keep all those books and DVDs because, again, they cost money, and maybe we won’t watch that movie again for a couple years, but we don’t have the money (or the interest to spend the money we have) to throw it out and buy it again when we want to have it, just so we can have room on our shelves for one more Longaberger basket filled with potpourri.
So put your faux offense away, stop trying to get us to apologize for things that weren’t even under consideration, and let us have our rage about one more person who telling us to get rid of our stuff.
She’s not out Mom, and neither are you.
You just admitted that you have no idea what her philosphy is.
First of all, she never said “you can only have 30 books.” She said that if having BOOKSHELVES UPON BOOKSHELVES of books sparks joy, leave it be. HER PERSONAL bookshelf has 30 books.
Secondly, Marie Kondo’s advice has NEVER been about getting rid of plates and dvds for the sake of having less. Plates have use. They spark joy by being there when you need them. A DVD or a book sparks joy for a poor person because it’s there, and you don’t have to spend any more money than you already did for a little R&R. Antibiotics, under her philosphy, would spark joy for you the same way as plates: by being there when you need them (even though your stance on antibiotics is medically unsafe and dangerous for both you and those you meet AT BEST).
You obviously don’t know shit about Marie Kondo because if you did, you would know that she literally isn’t anything you described. Her method is tailored to the person she’s helping. If you can find any reason an object is useful to you, including “it makes me feel secure to know its there” or “i cant afford another one so i need this one” you keep it. The fact that you hate her so much is a product of you buying into the media shitstorm that has surrounded her and distorted her message.
Kondo isn’t trying to tell poor people to eat off of one fucking plate and own one plant and thats it. She’s helping hoarders and people who feel guilty about getting rid of things. She’s helping people get rid of gifts they never used, shirts they never wore, and above all she is helping people who WANT to declutter. For fuck’s sake, she’s not holding a gun to your head and telling you to keep a single spaghetti noodle in your pantry.
All you’re “raging” at is a woman who genuinely wants people to feel less overwhelmed in their life and to develop healthy levels of attachment and inattachment. If you don’t feel overwhelmed or want to declutter, she’s not asking you to. The media is twisting her words so heavily as an act of racism, and decrying her cultural reasons behind her philsophy as “asian woo woo”. By mindlessly buying into her recharacterization as a stupid western minimalist, you’re buying into everything else as well.
She’s not your Mom? Then ignore her. She has 0 relevance to you. Stop contributing to the mob hatred of a woman who’s done literally nothing to deserve it besides say “Hey, if you want me to help you, I will.”
So, in conclusion
It is so fascinating how people who have CLEARLY never read Kondo’s book or seen even a single episode of her show think they know enough about her to 1. Hate her 2. Give some kind of commentary on what she does.
Marie Kondo is straight up not a minimalist. She doesn’t focus on getting rid of stuff. She doesn’t focus on having particular numbers of books or plates.
She has a background as a Shinto shrine maiden, and her approach to objects is heavily informed by the animism of that background. She believes that any object you own should be cared for and respected. It should have a use, even if that use is just making you happy, and in return YOU treat it with care by having a place for it.
That’s it. She NEVER tells anyone how much or little they should keep, and she NEVER shames anyone for keeping a lot. She helps people look at the mountains of clutter and gives them the tools to make choices on whether or not those things are useful.
There’s one episode of her show with a husband who collects sneakers. Has collected sneakers since he was a little kid. He has literally HUNDREDS of pairs of them, some of them literally falling apart in their boxes and never worn. In the end, I think that guy still kept about 80 pairs. Got rid of a lot, yes, but 80 pairs. And Marie was happy for him, because he sat down and decided which ones he really wanted to keep and care for.
One episode is about a couple who’s kids are all in college. The husband has thousands of baseball cards. He collected them with their kids. They are on old, yellowing boxes, stacked to the ceiling in a side room. In the end? I think he kept ALL of them, but he got some nicer boxes for them to keep them from being damaged and found a better way to display them. They all sparked joy for him, so he found a way to care for them better. And Marie told him that she was happy and proud of him for that.
It’s not about what you get rid of. It’s about what objects you want in your life and treating them as such.
People need to not read 1 or 2 fucking headlines and just decide that they think they know all about this woman and her career. It’s not funny. It’s disrespectful.
Also, I would like to point out that Marie has (iirc) a 0% return rate. Meaning none of her clients rehire her because they fell off the wagon and started collecting junk again. This is because she specifically tailors her approach to each client. This means that following the method she creates for them is easier because it’s not a “one size fits all” approach. She considers each clients needs and abilities and personal situations before applying her philosophy in a way that accommodates them.
For example, one woman was a widow and was having a hard time letting go of her husband’s things. So Marie switched up her whole method and did it out of order so this woman had more time to address other parts of her house before having to, first thing, go through her husband’s things to donate or throw away that obviously had deep emotional meaning to her. She knew this would be an emotional process for this women and decided to leave the harder part for last, even though it’s usually first in her methodology, because Marie understood going through other things would help this woman get comfortable with the philosophy and how to follow it in a way that worked for her so when she finally had to face her husband’s things, it would be a little easier because she already had experience in following Marie’s approach.
Does that sound like another “rich trendy minimalist” to you? Or someone who genuinely wants to help people and has the skills necessary to teach them how organize their lives in a manageable, easily followed way that doesn’t stress them out or force them to make rash decisions about their property. Tbh if you still think it’s the former then I’m sorry to break it to you but you’re just a flat out racist. 🙃
We love Marie Kondo in this house sir
She literally talks in her books about how getting rid of stuff simply to get rid of stuff is not useful. She talks about the fact that she used to do that herself, long before she became a professional organiser, and that it didn’t help her keep her space tidy or under control at all.
I actually have read a bunch of ‘how to organise’ books (due to spending 35 years trying to cope with undiagnosed ADHD), and Marie Kondo is a relief for how much she doesn’t guilt you for having ‘too much stuff’.
sometimes I get so angry thinking about ‘The Imitation Game’ that I have to go in a little ‘upset big tantrum room’ in my head for a calm down
like, Benisnatch Cumberque played the same character he’s always plays as an asshole genius and we were all supposed to be okay with it, but it’s basically character slander
at different parts of the movie Turing is described as ‘arrogant, “inhuman,” “narcissistic,” and even “a monster,” in the film he goes against those around him and is shown to periodically ignore and belittle his colleagues
And. I. Am. So. Angry.
Alan Turing was described by his friends and people that knew him as “intensely shy and kindly”, he was said to “inspire loyalty and affection among those who appreciated his unusual gifts” and was “unfailingly generous with his time and expertise, especially toward younger recruits”
He was kind, he was kind, HE WAS KIND, he was kind
he was kind and geeky and awkward and gay, I don’t care if the whole of society doesn’t find that compelling, I don’t care if we don’t value kindness as an attribute in men, he deserved to be loved and respected as he was, not as we wish he was
I am so sorry Alan Turing, I am so sorry your story was not told with care and thoughtfulness, I am so sorry you didn’t get to be shown to be deeply in love with the men you loved, I am sorry your great and terrible tragedy was never unfolded as a kind and brilliant man abused by a horrible homophobic system
You are a hero that turned the tides of history like no other and I am so sorry
hey op if you’re looking for a kinder movie about alan turing, you should check out breaking the code (1996). breaking the code was originally a stage play, and this is a filmed adaptation. it’s more faithful to his personality, stars derek jacobi (who was also a gay man and plays the part with so much sympathy), and it doesn’t bungle historical details for the sake of adding more drama. here’s a link to a youtube playlist where you can watch it in full
He felt bad for the children who were stuck at bletchley park without their toys so he used spare paper from his office to make them a monopoly board by hand
He was also reported as having a goofy sense of humor where he used to make a show of saying goodbye to everyone at the party and then walk into the closet instead of out the front door
Plus, he was quoted as saying quips like “Beyond the way they speak, there is only one (no two!) features of American life which I find really tiresome. The impossibility of getting a bath in the ordinary sense and their ideas on room temperature.” — Alan Turing (1936)
He was a huge athlete and biked everywhere and sometimes ran the five miles to work every morning, and did things like calculate when his bike chain would break so he could keep riding the thing despite it being ancient
He was still “odd” according to his coworkers as he sometimes wore a gasmask to work to avoid spring allergies and used to chain his coffee mug up to avoid theft at the office, but the same colleagues described him as very friendly, open, and thoughtful as well if not shy.
and finally, of course, there was Porgy
He used to practice his Cambridge lectures in front of this stuffed bear he got in college named Porgy and was delighted when his mom sewed it a little outfit. He kept the bear with him throughout life.
moodboard for when you just woke up to your cat reblogging hundreds of the same post with her ass and everyone on tumblr is about to collectively beat you to death and you cant even explain yourself
people keep asking the same questions so here are some answers in hopes that people actually look in the notes:
this is the cat who committed the crime
the post was that one ‘people who are stand users’ post thats like a mile long. it genuinely was hundreds of that one post and if i hadnt hit post limit it probably would have been more.
how it happened was that tumblr has hotkeys for interacting with posts on your dashboard. she somehow sat on my keyboard and hit the specific key(s) to reblog posts and just sat there for so long that i hit post limit
this post was made november 2020, post limit is still alive and well unfortunately. and the limit is 250 posts, if youre wondering
yes im sorry i deleted all of the posts already i didnt want them on my blog
she was shamed for her crimes but she does not regret it and would do it again
Honestly if your anxiety is so bad that you can’t read like… something in the horror genre that I wrote (and tagged correctly) without tagging the post I made with “this literally made me have an anxiety attack i’m panicking omg my dereality is acting up” maybe you SHOULDN’T INTERACT WITH ME, because I’m a horror fan, I’m very open about being a horror fan, and I don’t like being guilt tripped over and over about a harmless piece of “creepy” writing I made!!
I’m talking about this kind of… growing group I see on this site and other sites who blames horror content creators for their anxiety issues that the creators have no control over?
For example, Adam Ellis drew a pretty good horror comic about the ghost of a creepy nurse (it was not graphic in any way, and was fairly tame) and posted this DM he received about it on his Twitter:
For any concerned, Adam Ellis put absolutely no id’ing info on this post, so the person who sent it is safely anonymous. But I honestly hate this so much. If you are THIS afraid of a drawing of a creepy ghost, you should not engage with media that is LABELLED AS A HORROR COMIC! Many people with anxiety (including myself) create horror as an outlet for our own fears–Ellis even discussed the fact that his comic was tied to his very real fears of doxxing and harassment by certain fans/enemies online. Do you have any idea how genuinely horrible it feels to be told “this thing you created for fun/to vent caused me direct and terrible mental damage?”
In short, stop being a manipulative, guilt-tripping asshole to horror creators. Stop engaging with horror media if you are so, so viscerally distressed by it that you send genuinely cruel things to people in an attempt to force them to apologize to you. A lot of horror creators use horror as an outlet to vent THEIR anxiety, and you are an asshole for trying to increase their anxiety by telling them that they “hurt you” by writing horror. G’night.
can you imagine how freaky shark mermaids would be like unlike sharks, shark mermaids would have actual arms/hands and could rely on touching things with their hands to see if they’re prey rather than having to bite like sharks do. like youre just swimming in the ocean and suddenly you feel a strong grip on your leg, you freak the FUCK out because uh what????? the fuck??? youre swimming alone in the ocean??
a head pops out of the water, dorsal fin pointed from its back and it just points at you and says in a low whisper: “i thought you were a seal. please dont swim alone like this, im sorry i scared you i just wanted to see what you are” and then disappears back into the depth. what the fuck.
shark mermaids who grab humans a little too hard, appear above water and just go “sorry” before diving back under, shark mermaids that fall in love with humans and ask for their nose to be pet and then just sit there spaced the hell out when their human pets their nose
shark mermaids that are ready to FiGHT and RACE other mermaids when a whale/orca mermaid swims over, noses them onto their backs, and then watches as the shark mermaid just floats there buzzed out for a few moments before flipping them back over