Disclaimer: These are small things that have helped me in the past. If you are struggling from mental illnesses please contact a doctor. If you want to talk to someone else about your feelings, please join our self help group on Discord. We’ll be happy to welcome you.
- The 5-4-3-2-1-method when awfully anxious.
What are five things you can see right now? Are there four things you can touch? How do they feel? Name three things you can hear. Two things you can smell. And now…one positive thought in your mind.
- Cry me a river.
Let it all out. Cry for as long as you need. Think about the things that make you sad. Make them heard inside your head. And cry. This will release muscle tension and make you feel more relaxed…maybe even numb.
- Escape this world and find yourself again in a fictional one.
Read a book or watch a show or a movie. Make yourself feel as though you’re the main character. This will create distance between you and your hectic life and problems.
- Move. Right now. Get up and move.
Move your body. Go for a walk. Maybe even a run. Just get some movement into the moment. Please. Put on some music and dance as if no one is watching.
- Do something good for someone else.
This is what I’m doing by writing this. Helping people can help YOU. If you want to do this right now, maybe join our group chats and tell your story so more people will know that they are not alone. What I LOVE to do is buying homeless people food and clothes (socks are super important).
- Go take a shower and brush your teeth.
It’s nothing to be ashamed of. We’ve probably all been there. Not showering for a long time happens. Not brushing your teeth happens. We survive. And that takes up all of our energy. But right now I want you to take that shower and take care of your body. Please.
- Accept that you are ill.
Have compassion with yourself. I’ve always felt guilty and despised myself for being depressed and anxious. People tell you “Why can’t you be like everyone else? Why can’t you do this and that?”. I just wanted to be like everyone else. Happy. At least that’s what they all seem to be, right? I hated myself for not being able to feel anything anymore, for being messy, for not showering, not being “a normal person”. People judge and look down on you. Yes, I haven’t washed my hair in two weeks. What about it?!
But all that is not my fault. I am ill. I can’t live the lives healthy people live. But hey, that’s okay. God didn’t give me mental stability but he did give me intelligence, a wonderful heart and the most amazing boyfriend.
- Last but not least: Let’s get to the peak. Do it yourself.
Well yes, you can imagine what I mean. It really helps, researches have found. Having umm…you know…the best part in the end…will make you feel better. And everyone does it.
You are not alone in this. There are so many people who suffer. So many people who even take their own lives. But please stay with us. Please go and see a doctor. Talk to someone. Talk to me. You are not alone.
THE ANATOMY OF A PERFECT STUDY SETUPFrom my studygram
💬 What is a study essential for you?
🙋🏻♀️ For me, it’s all of the things mentioned in the picture!
In the last few days, I’ve started studying *for real* for my boards coming in February. It takes a little getting used to, since I haven’t really studied in years, but it also feels great to keep learning and get back into it!
Best 5 tips i can give to anyone in regards to anything
- Have an organized space. It helps finding things around and it also helps getting into the mood for doing something.
- If a method is not working, it means nothing in regards to you. You aren’t stupid, you’re not to blame, you’re not to be belittled (even by your own person). It just means you need a new method. Also, always talk kindly to yourself.
- Being consistent means doing small things every day, even ridiculous small things; it doesn’t mean exhausting yourself every day.
- A schedule might work for you, or not. However, there’s a 3rd scenario too. You might need a schedule for a few days/weeks to get used to whatever you want to work on. Experiment and see what works best for you.
- Make sure you enjoy the process and do not sacrifice your mental health for the sake of productivity.
6 Things I Learned from Writing My Thesis
I handed in my master’s thesis a month ago and it took me a bit to evaluate the whole process. Here’s a couple of tips that could help you, and are certainly going to help me, with writing your current or upcoming thesis.
1. Exhaustive research of existing literature on given topic
Do this like the first thing, find everything you can find on your topic, save it, download it, make a list with all of the titles. Read as much as you can and …
2. Take notes from EVERYTHING
You think you’re going to remember, where you read this and this? Guess what! You’re not gonna remember. Take notes from everything, write down everything that you deem as important for your thesis. If you like writing things down by hand, do that, but it felt impossible for me. I needed to be able to quickly look up a certain concept in my notes without having to read a ton of my notes to find it. I use EverNote for my notes, see here how I use it.
3. Talk to your supervisor/advisor on regular basis
It’s easy to feel like you’re completely lost, that your writing doesn’t make any sense and you just don’t know how to continue. Or you just want to talk about your thesis and rant about how this and this philosopher’s writing is just freaking nuts. I talked to my supervisor once every two weeks and it honestly kept me sane and disciplined.
4. CITE. WHILE. WRITING
Really, do it right away, and highlight unfinished citation RIGHT. AWAY.
5. Edit, edit, edit
Write drafts, so you have something to edit and then edit the shit out of it. Kill your darlings, it doesn’t hurt the letters to be erased. Editing is good.
6. Requests for edits and critical feedback are a good thing!
You just opened the doc with your thesis after your supervisor read and commented it. Half of it is striked through and commented. You feel like shit. But this just means your supervisor cares about your work, they’re really trying to help you to make the thesis better. Work slowly through the comments and edits and evaluate. After all, it’s your work, you don’t have to listen to every comment your supervisor gives you.
I hope your supervisor and your thesis treats you well!
Study advice from a former/still procrastinator🧠🔍
So I’ve always stuggled with procrastination. I would stress myself out over doing no work and my solution was to continue doing no work. I got okay GCSE grades but if I would’ve revised/studied harder I could’ve done a lot better. These tips aren’t going to motivate you by themselves, unfortunately nobody can motivate you but yourself. I hope these help someone :)
- Mindmaps help so much. Use as many or as little coloured pens and highlighters as you like. They really help you visualise the basic content of each topic.
- Diagrams! But I don’t study a subject that uses diagrams? It doesn’t matter! Draw little diagrams and doodles to help you picture the content in a more fun way!
- Colour code everything! Colour coding really helps you create cues. Cues are essential in recalling information so if you write your notes for one topic in purple and there is something purple in your exam you will activate that cue!
- Sticky notes! You can put these everywhere. For my GCSEs, I had sticky notes: on the hallway mirror, in my sock draw, on the fridge, stuck to the TV remote. Literally everywhere you go on a regular basis or everything you use. Use digital sticky notes on MacBooks or set alarms with the info as the title of the alarm.
- Use kahoot! Everyone knows what kahoot is so I’m not going to explain it. However, it is very fun and competitive and if you struggle to enjoy the content using a kahoot makes it a lot more fun.
- Record lectures or online lessons. You can use these to look back and listen to what your teacher is saying, listen to what they emphasise.
- Watch YouTube videos on the topic. Honestly, ASAPScience’s songs helped me so much in GCSE science. It’s easier to understand and it gets stuck in your head if you want it to or not. (Just don’t listen to songs before opposing subject exams: I once had the periodic table song stuck in my head during an Literature exam- not helpful.)
- Create mnemonics!! Just liked in primary school when we learnt the colours of the rainbow by remembering “Richard Of York Gave Battle In Vain”, it’s so helpful. And, the stupider and funnier the more you will remember it.
- Rewrite them notes!! Rewrite them in different colours, type them up. Write them and see how much you can remember after 10 minutes.
- Revision/note cards are amazing. You can lay out revision cards however you like. You can have them as questions with the answers on the other side, you can use it for the basic information or to just rewrite your notes in a form you can easily carry around with you.
- Exam questions. This isn’t only for written learners, it’s for everyone. Anyone who ever has a test or exam for something. Use past exam papers or practise questions. Answer them and then use mark schemes to grade them. You’ll learn how to structure answers for different types of questions and you’ll also learn timing. It’s the best way to revise!
- You need to find something to motivate you. For you it can be getting into university, to show off to someone or even to just reward yourself. In all honesty, I use spite to motivate me. To prove people wrong and show that I’m more capable than they thought is an easy way to get myself to study.
- You have to force yourself sometimes. There is never going to be a time where you want to study that extremely difficult topic that you haven’t been able to grasp. So you have to push yourself- this is harder for some than it is for others. But once you get into the swing of pushing yourself a little, it does become easier.
- To counteract the point above, you have to take breaks. And I’m now taking, an hour break for 10 minutes of work. I mean, study for 25 minutes and have a five minute break and continue that. Get up, stretch, walk around, listen to song, get a snack and some water. Shake your body because sitting at a desk for hours on end is only going to hurt you.
- Find a study buddy. Some people work better alone, I know I do. But some people need others to keep them on track and that’s perfectly okay! In my opinion, you shouldn’t choose your best friend as your study partner unless they are going to be strict with you. If you know that the person you plan to study with is only going to distract you, then pick somebody else.
- Use a study group! Similar to a study buddy but in this case you can discuss the material you are going over and ask for other’s help. Peer mark fake questions for each other or again, do a quiz. Pick the right people and a study group will work perfectly!
- Find a way to shut your brain off. Easier said than done, I know. But if you’re brain is pumping out thoughts about what you’re having for dinner or the show you watched last night, then you aren’t going to get anywhere. Some people use rain sounds (like me!!) but I wouldn’t recommend listening to music. You may think you’re new Playlist is going to get you excited to work but it’s only going to distract you. If you want to listen to music I would recommend purely instrumental music of songs that you don’t know- they’re plenty on YouTube!
- Use reminders on your phone or study apps to keep you on track. I’ve heard so many people talk about the app, Forest. I have given it ago and I’d fully recommend it too. It has built-in reminders, sounds to listen to (and we know I love rain sounds) and small achievements to keep you motivated. You get rewarded with a tree or a few trees after your study session and if you get enough coins you can plant an actual real tree!! If you don’t want to pay £1.99, I completely understand so I would recommend Flora. It’s free and has almost all the same features as Forest. Give them a go!! (I will make another post about the differences:))
- Speaking of phones, turn yours off!! Unless you’re using it for studying, in which case disable all notifications for a select period of time. You can set screen time limits on IPhones and if you really need it, get someone else to set the password so you can’t simply override it.
Day 4/100 days of productivity
Hello everyone!! Meet with Sinba, he is beautiful right? He wanted to join today’s study session (He is checking my notes in the photo haha)
I’ve been working on my writing lately. I am sorry if it doesn’t looks “aesthetic” but you need to know i am trying my best…
I’ve completed my all task and homework’s today i need to do a revision Im going to make it tomorrow morning so probably It’ll be fresher. There is a word quiz next week on Monday. I almost done with word list. I just need to do more practice with making sentences by using words. I really want good point for this exam. I won’t be stressing about it. In my first quiz i was so stressful and it failed so don’t stress, trust yourself if you really well prepared you can do anything! You have the potential ❤️
Please read book more, more and more, read before you sleep read right after you wake up and read when you are even resting.🤍
Good night to everyone! don’t skip resting, sleep well for being more effective in your day.
I saw that people post their favourite study playlists and thought I should share ones of my own. Hope they come in handy.
I hate psychoanalysis so much :“)
ive trying to consciously make studying enjoyable, but also rigorous and productive lately. started by downloading forest and tidying up my desk (a very good mix of art and law obvs). today is day one. hope everyone is staying safe.
Resources for Screenwriting
Format & Structure
- How to Write a Screenplay: Example & Tips
- Formatting a Screenplay
- Screenplay Format: Everything You Need to Know
- What Does the Screenwriting Rule “Show, Don’t Tell” Mean?
- How Long Should a Screenplay Be?
- What Font Is Best for Writing a Screenplay?
- What Are the Right Screenplay Margins?
- How Should You Format a Screenplay?
- How to Format a Screenplay Step 1: Scene Headings
- How to Format a Screenplay Step 2: Action
- How to Format a Screenplay Step 3: Character
- How to Format a Screenplay Step 4: Dialogue
- How to Format a Screenplay Step 5: Parentheticals
- What Should Not Be Included in a Screenplay?
- What Is the Difference Between a Spec Script vs. a Shooting Script?
- What Are the Best Screenwriting Software Programs?
- 5 Reasons Screenplay Story Structure is Important
- How to Structure a Screenplay: 7-Step Script Structure Guide
- Structure of a Screenplay: Everything You Need To Know
- Screenwriting Plot & Story Structure
- How To Master The Structure Of Script Writing
- Screenplay Structure Examples
- 10 Screenplay Structures That Screenwriters Can Use
- Screenplay Structure - Screenwriting Tips
Things I have learned about Fandom.
Tips for beginners.
I’m staring down my 9-year anniversary here on Tumblr, and I thought I’d share some thoughts from that perspective. I discovered fandom (and Tumblr) when I was 41, so I’ve obviously never been a teenager online, but I think these are pretty universal for newcomers of any age.
- Pick a name that doesn’t reflect your current fandom, because the odds that you will move on in 1 or 5 or 10 years are very high, and changing your url often means that your old friends don’t recognize you anymore.
- Keep your friends! Your current fandom friends are going to migrate to different fandoms than you will. You will generally not be able to convince them to love your Next Hyperfixation. Learn to enjoy the eclectic oddness that your dash will eventually become.
- Don’t be afraid to move on. Fandom is Brownian Motion. You will drift from one space to another as the spirit moves you. It’s okay. In the beginning, it can feel like a betrayal to leave a fandom, to start reblogging things your current friends aren’t in to, to lose interest in their meta/writing/art, to change the feel of your dash. It’s okay! Everyone does it, although some take months and others take years. Just let them know that your hyperfixation has changed, but your heart and friendship have not. It’s that simple.
- Be Kind. To everyone. You have no idea what they’re going through or who they are. Try to not say anything to others that you wouldn’t want aimed at yourself. (You’re going to fuck this up. Everyone does. Give yourself some slack and remember to absorb the lesson, if there’s one to be learned.)
- You are going to stumble. Especially in today’s hypercritical climate. You are going to say something that starts a fire. Just say sorry (if it’s warranted) and move on. Delete that post and take a break for a couple of weeks if it gets too hot. LEARN from it, but don’t fixate on it. Make liberal use of tumblr’s Block feature.
- Learn to recognize wank (“discourse”). Know that if you jump in with your opinion, you will very likely become some rabid person’s target. So make that choice with your eyes open. Try to avoid black-and-white thinking (we’re right –> they must be demons). It’s really not helpful.
- Online stress is real. Online hurts are real hurts. So learn how to protect yourself. Curate your dash, block people and tags. Learn to recognize when tumblr thoughts follow you into your real life and affect your happiness. When that happens, take a break. Change the makeup of your dash.
- Don’t make assumptions. Your friend might be older or younger than you, might be from an entirely different culture. It’s easy to assume everyone on the other side of your keyboard is a mirror image of you, with similar experiences. They very likely are not, so always tread lightly.
- Guard your personal information. No one needs to know your real name! And probably, they don’t need to know your age, either. Especially if you’re young. You are your url, and in a fandom community, that is enough.
- Being part of a fandom community takes time and effort. You make friends by commenting, reblogging, encouraging others in their writing/art/meta/whatever. If you are a creator yourself, please don’t be discouraged by a slow lift-off. That happens for everyone (except a lucky few).
- It isn’t necessary to make friends with the BNFs out there: make friends with other newbies. Your shared experiences will be stronger for that!
- Have fun! And if you realize it isn’t fun anymore, walk away. People take breaks from fandom all the time, and it’s still there when they return. Even if it’s been decades. 😉
A few years ago I went to pick up a woman I met on OKCupid for a date, and a friend of hers was there. They kind of over-explained “Oh, she just showed up to say hi” and there was a vague nervousness in the air that even my autistic ass was picking up on. Her friend was playing conspicuously with her phone. I went “Ah, the safety. Need to get a picture?”
Dead silence for about a second and a half, then the friend took a picture, looked at my date, and said “Have fun” and walked out the door.
(I would ordinarily have been clueless, but I’d just been asked to be the safety the previous night.)
My advice to male-presenting folks: recognize that this not your problem. By which I mean, this sort of security check isn’t a problem for you. It doesn’t hurt you. You aren’t being insulted or disrespected. And if you treat it like what it is– a reasonable adaptation to an unreasonable situation– and just roll with it, your dates will be more comfortable, and you will have a better time as a result.
The same applies to phone calls mid-date. Let them answer the damn phone without drama.
They aren’t accusing you of being a dangerous person. The very fact that they are willing to go on a goddamn date with you means that they have extended a certain level of trust. But the fact remains that there isn’t really a way to distinguish between “a man who isn’t dangerous” and “a man who knows how to behave like he’s not dangerous.”
there isn’t really a way to distinguish between “a man who isn’t dangerous” and “a man who knows how to behave like he’s not dangerous.”
Tips for Studying When You Have ADHD/Never Learned How
Hi everyone! I have a few tips that I’ve gathered over the years to help cope with your brain not working like everyone else’s.
1. Find a way to turn part of your brain off.
For me, this means having something that is stimulating in the background, like a podcast or loooong video. I really like stuff like Critical Role, if it’s too funny it just distracts me so I recommend something serious but not really important to know.
2. Find a way to turn your body off.
I do this by crocheting. It’s like productive stimming, it’s fun, the progress mounts super quickly, and you can redo something over and over if you need to. I use this time to listen to something important. Because my hands and eyes have something stimulating them, my ears are free to listen intently. This is when you should listen to an audiobook or a recorded lecture.
3. Don’t read and have someone speaking in your language at the same time.
That’s a recipe for not understanding either thing and having your time be wasted, essentially. If you’re reading, keep any background to something that you can tune out but still have in your mind, like lofi or classical music. Sometimes I’ll even use albums that I’ve listened to hundreds of times because my brain goes on autopilot for those.
4. Keep your workspace as busy as you need, but don’t let it get cluttered.
If you are a maximalist like me (or love hoarding stationery) your desk might be a little… much. And that’s okay! As long as you can work with visual stimulation. This comes down to personal preference, but if you know that having few things helps your focus, try to downsize, or vice versa!
5. Structure your study time and plan your breaks.
Structure is so important for my mental health and function, so I always recommend it to others. Plan your study time, lay out what you want to learn by the end, and have some sort of timer or cue for when it’s time to take a break. I recommend short breaks every 90 minutes or so, and a long one after 4+ hours. If studying in tiny chunks doesn’t work for you, don’t do it! If you need bigger blocks of time that’s totally fine, don’t feel guilty about not being able to focus properly on 10 minute sessions.
6. Repetition is soooo important for conceptual things.
Math and science can be especially difficult for people with ADHD due to memory problems. It is very important that you work at these problems and repeat them over and over to get the concept memorized in your long term memory so you can reach it continually. So, do your assigned problems, do the other problems in the book, find some on Khan Academy, and do them until it’s ingrained. It’s so worth it, I promise.
7. Set your own deadlines and STICK TO THEM
If your procrastinate until the 11th hour and then produce decent work, I completely understand and see you. However, work with your executive dysfunction and trick your brain. Set deadlines for yourself and rewards for sticking to them, punishments if you don’t, and actually enforce them. Maybe if you don’t finish your rough draft by Thursday night, you have to finish it before you can FaceTime your friends. If you do finish it on time, call and play some games together. It helps to have a study buddy to keep you accountable and set deadlines with so you can both motivate each other and be accountable. ***Be very careful to not let this affect your mental health!!! Do not burn yourself out and lose your friends, your mental health comes first!!!***
8. Do not beat yourself up for not being entirely productive all the time.
You are human. You are already at a disadvantage due to your brain’s chemistry. Work with your brain, don’t berate it. Eat some candy or drink some Gatorade to give it the dopamine it needs to keep focusing. Take down time for yourself. Let yourself have free time to just exist, practice regular self care and hygiene. You are strong, valid, and brave for going against the odds and pursuing learning at this disadvantage. I am very proud of you, and I know you can succeed.
Some of my typed notes (biology again heheh)
Typing is definitely a lot faster uses a lot less paper, and is much neater than writing but personally I find that it has several disadvantages:
- You can’t draw diagrams that easily (even though I have a touchscreen laptop)
- It leads to having a lot of screen time; I have senstive eyes and need to rest them otherwise I get headaches and feel very sleepy
- I develop wrist pains very easily and they go on for days, literally, to the point where I can’t do most arm workouts and have trouble lifting heavier objects
- They’re less effective for memorising and consolidating the concept you are trying to note
But anyways, this is one of my favourite typed pages!
17 october 2021
I’m alive! Since uni started i have so many things to do and I’m already behind with my notes and this year I have homework so I’m a little stressed. Anyway this semester I have some day when my lesson are only in the afternoon and I just go near the uni in the morning just to go to a cafe and study there, I know if I stay home I would just sleep.