HOLD UP HOW WAS I NOT AWARE OF THIS
was gonna leave my comment in the tags but tbh i’m silent enough about this as it is.
seeing stuff like this is so upsetting because these terms were well known and widespread in the ace community but because of exclusionists many people stopped using terms like this because they felt uncomfortable and unsafe.
i loved these terms when i was in highschool, i loved the feeling of community, but i lost that because i didn’t feel comfortable openly and proudly calling myself asexual.
they’ve hurt so many people and damaged our community badly and i will never forgive them for that. we deserve to use our own terminology and feel safe within our community.
sometimes i notice i haven’t seen “grace” (grey-ace) in a while and consequently wonder if i made it up.
I remember ppl - even other ace ppl - saying the card suit thing was “cringey” and “straight ppl aren’t gonna take us seriously” (sounds familiar?) So i guess the community wound up abandoning it. We were also having severe issues at the time with aces being stereotyped as “childish/immature” for associating things like cake, dragons, and space with asexuality, plus in general as most aces just don’t “get” allosexual things in media and irl. We were starting to be viewed as ignorant, virginal, childish, losers, etc. I haven’t seen an ace-cake thing in a good while now.
This was the infancy of exclusionary influence on us. I didn’t realize it did more damage than just closeting us. Whole symbols and terms have been lost. Community has been lost.
I remember three-four years ago I got myself into the ace community on Insta, and I came across these terms. People in these circles would talk about cake, space, dragons, and the black ring on the middle finger. Then, a year or two later, ace content fizzled out (I thought it was Insta’s algorithm figuring out that I knew all this and didn’t bring me the old stuff) and young aces had no idea what any of these were - including the black ring. Finding out young aces had no idea what the black ring meant nearly snapped my heart in two - I proudly wore the black ring, I drew characters with it, and it was my quiet way of communicating to others what my sexuality was. I was baffled at the lack of knowledge - and it turns out that exclusionists got their hands into our community and snuffed us out.
Anyways, we need to bring this back. I thought the card suite thing was cool, it taught people the different ways people can experience attraction, I loved making jokes about preferring cake, I loved wearing the black ring and talking about it with my fellow queer people at my highschool QSA club.
I’m sorry, people don’t know about the cake or ring anymore? I remember being welcomed with spams of cake gifs, photos, and MS Paint drawings. I also distinctly remember that the block solo ring in the midle was meant as reference to the Ace of Spades (black, solo, middle of card). Only thing I didn’t know was that other aces could represent a more refined nuance. Let’s see if we can get this all rolling again.
Welcome to anyone who is interested in helping with the culture revival.
Been thinkin about this post since last night and i think with just a little tweaking the deck thing could be perfect -
Ace of Hearts - alloromantic asexuals
Ace of Spades - aromantic asexuals
Ace of Diamonds - gray-aces and demis
Ace of Clubs - anyone else under the ace umbrella (see it even kinda looks like like a funky little bumpy umbrella!)
Just so no one with strong ties to a microlabel identify or folks like non-SAM asexuals get left out!
My name is Enola, which, backwards, spells “alone.” To be a Holmes, you must find your own path. My brothers have, my mother has, and I must too. But, I now see that being alone doesn’t mean I have to be lonely. Mother never wanted that. She wanted me to find my freedom, my future, my purpose. I am a detective, I am a decipherer, and I am a finder of lost souls. My life is my own. And the future is up to us.
MILLIE BOBBY BROWN in ENOLA HOLMES (2020) dir. Harry Bradbeer
This looks absolutely pretentious
Heard some important information on Twitter today, and thought I’d post it here for anyone who may not have heard it. This is actually a thing, devised by human rights organisation called Karma Nirvana.
Reblog to save a life?
Reblog to save a life.
Sharing because it’s actually a verified and sourced thing and not one of those dumbass fake tip posts.
Fuck me thats clever, actually worth reblogging
…..this seems like common sense though…..
Art by Boris Groh
what i like about this is that the people seem just. unthreatened. they are responding to these nightgaunt looking motherfuckers as if they were a particularly rambunctious opossum. “oh god damn the shadow entity stole our ball again what the fuck dude we’re trying to play horse.” perfect, i love it.
If you’re cold, they’re cold! BRING👏THEM👏INSIDE👏
Holy shit the body language in that last one is KILLING ME.
Please, do yourselves a favour and click the link. The above pictures are just a selection from an excellent collection, and the artist sells prints of them.
Super big fan of these nightmarish beings having the personality of cows and/or outside cats
She drank hard liquor, smoked cigars, carried a 10 gauge shotgun and a .38 Smith & Wesson, gambled, fought duels, punched out men as an old woman, and received special permission from the mayor of Cascade to be served in any bar. She broke barriers of race, gender, and age during her time, and let no one stop her.
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someone should make a movie of her
Here is another pic of Mary & her shotgun
Stagecoach Mary was a character in a 1976 public television documentary (South by Northwest: Blacks in the American West) where she was played by Esther Rolle (start at 9:29 for the section on Mary Fields). Dawnn Lewis played Stagecoach Mary in the 1996 Western comedy TV movie, The Cherokee Kid. And in the 2012 TV movie, Hannah’s Law, Fields was played by Kimberly Elise. But I agree. She needs a movie of her own.
Kinda dope actually