i am so proud of how far you have come – even if you have relapsed, i’m proud of you for still fighting and for still being here
“You have to let go of what could have been, how you should have acted and what you wish you would have said differently. You have to accept that you can’t change the past experiences, opinions of others at that moment in time or outcomes from their choices or yours. When you finally recognize that truth then you will understand the true meaning of forgiveness of yourself and others. From this point you will finally be free.”
— Shannon L. Alder
it doesn’t matter if you aren’t where you want to be this new year - i promise you will get there eventually
to anyone spending Christmas alone this year, remember you are never alone and you are loved, even if it’s just you
this year might not have been how you wanted it to be, but i promise it will get better.
your experiences are completely your own, so you don’t have to let other people tell you how to feel
“Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.”
— Don Miguel Ruiz
just do your best today - your best is enough
Please use your right to vote today.
There are only two real choices for our government: Conservative or Labour.
Boris Johnson is a proven classist, racist, sexist, elitist liar who believes that inequality is essential for the government of our country. Here are some reasons not to vote for the Conservative Party.
Jeremy Corbyn has fought against racism and inequality in all forms since his youth. He has been vilified by the Tory biased media and persistently misunderstood by the public because of this. If you have reservations about voting for him please see this excellent post by wetpinkorthodoxy, the Labour Party Manifesto and this important short video of Steve Coogan explaining why he supports Labour.
It might also be worth looking into tactical voting depending on where you live. Not all tactical voting sites are reliable, but I would start with this article by The Guardian.
I spent my entire school career afraid of being wrong because I was taught that to make a mistake was embarrassing. Now I’ve discovered that making a mistake just means you are one step closer to the right answer, and everyday I have to work to shake the mindset that a single wrong answer equals failure.
1. Expect some people to reject you. It’s a fact of life that we won’t like everyone; and there will be people who don’t like us. It often has to do with different personalities rather than something being wrong with you.
2. Learn how to brush off rejections and put downs. At the end, what matters is how you handle it. If you still act as if you are comfortable with “you” then others will respect you for your healthy self-esteem.
3. It’s often about them and not about you so try not to take rejection personally. Perhaps they are jealous or envious of you; or perhaps they’re just taking their feelings out on you.
4. People rarely see us in absolute terms. There are some things they will like and others they’ll dislike. It may be they hate one particular trait – but we’re a mix of many things - so don’t worry about that.
5. Don’t over-think what other people think or say. Distract yourself, and think of something else instead. They’re not worth the effort or the wasted energy. Just get on with your life and enjoy being you.
1. My self worth does not depend on what others think and say about me.
2. My self worth does not depend on how I look or what I weigh.
3. My self worth does not depend on my marks or performance.
4. My self worth does not depend on my number of followers.
5. I am enough just as I am.
6. I can succeed despite a bad day.
7. I am beautiful and valuable – and will treat myself with kindness and respect.
try to take at least a few minutes for yourself today if you can. life is hard and you deserve a break
if you have a big change coming in your life, please know that things are going to be alright – now is your opportunity to look at this change and learn from and embrace it as best as you can; simply try your best, please, because you can get through this
you don’t need the approval of others - you are enough
1. First, don’t isolate yourself – When you’re feeling lonely it is hard to go out and be with others who seem to be OK, and don’t really notice how lonely you feel. But putting up a wall and withdrawing from your friends will only intensify that sense of loneliness, and will further undermine your self-esteem.
2. Second, keep yourself busy – Do things that you normally enjoy with others. For example, listening to a band or maybe going to watch a game … or you could always try something that’s new, but interests you! That would allow you to connect in a non-threatening way … as it takes the focus off talking, and off you.
3. Third, be kind to yourself - It’s likely that you regularly beat yourself up, criticise yourself and are unrealistic in the kinds of expectations that you have for yourself. So what, if it goes wrong? You can always try again – just learn what you can from the experience. And notice your successes and the times when it goes well. It’s likely that this happens a lot more than you think!
4. Fourth, recognise that we ALL battle loneliness at times - You’re not some kind of freak – it’s actually quite normal. It something we’ve all known and understand.
5. Fifth, talk to someone you like and trust – It can really help to talk about your feelings with a family member, a friend or counsellor. It relieves some of the painful sense of isolation – and help to get your life back in perspective again.
your body is beautiful - every scar and mark and flaw shows that you are here - you’re alive and that’s incredible
take a moment to reflect on what you’ve achieved. you have come a long way in your life so far, and you will keep going