Putting over 100 characters onto a new theme with their relative characteristics is taking sooo long. #adhdprobs
Heres my quick guide to writing characters with autism spectrum disorder !!
I hope this guide is helpful for those who are interested in writing a character with autism spectrum disorder. This is a generalized outline of what the disorder entails as well as some personal knowledge i have on the subject based off of my younger sister. If anyone has any questions or wants more information on the subject, please feel free to get in touch with me !!
- A Study In Physical Injury
- Medical Facts And Tips For Your Writing Needs
- Broken Bones
- Unconsciousness & Head Trauma
- Blood Loss
- Stab Wounds
- Pain & Shock
- All About Mechanical Injuries (Injuries Caused By Violence)
Writing Specific Characters
- Portraying a kleptomaniac.
- Playing a character with cancer.
- How to portray a power driven character.
- Playing the manipulative character.
- Portraying a character with borderline personality disorder.
- Playing a character with Orthorexia Nervosa.
- Writing a character who lost someone important.
- Playing the bullies.
- Portraying the drug dealer.
- Playing a rebellious character.
- How to portray a sociopath.
- How to write characters with PTSD.
- Playing characters with memory loss.
- Playing a pyromaniac.
- How to write a mute character.
- How to write a character with an OCD.
- How to play a stoner.
- Playing a character with an eating disorder.
- Portraying a character who is anti-social.
- Portraying a character who is depressed.
- How to portray someone with dyslexia.
- How to portray a character with bipolar disorder.
- Portraying a character with severe depression.
- How to play a serial killer.
- Writing insane characters.
- Playing a character under the influence of marijuana.
- Tips on writing a drug addict.
- How to write a character with HPD.
- Writing a character with Nymphomania.
- Writing a character with schizophrenia.
- Writing a character with Dissociative Identity Disorder.
- Writing a character with depression.
- Writing a character who suffers from night terrors.
- Writing a character with paranoid personality disorder.
- How to play a victim of rape.
- How to play a mentally ill/insane character.
- Writing a character who self-harms.
- Writing a character who is high on amphetamines.
- How to play the stalker.
- How to portray a character high on cocaine.
- Playing a character with ADHD.
- How to play a sexual assault victim.
- Writing a compulsive gambler.
- Playing a character who is faking a disorder.
- Playing a prisoner.
- Portraying an emotionally detached character.
- How to play a character with social anxiety.
- Portraying a character who is high.
- Portraying characters who have secrets.
- Portraying a recovering alcoholic.
- Portraying a sex addict.
- How to play someone creepy.
- Portraying sexually/emotionally abused characters.
- Playing a character under the influence of drugs.
- Playing a character who struggles with Bulimia.
- Examining Mob Mentality
- How Street Gangs Work
- Domestic Abuse
- Internet Fraud
- Computer Viruses
- Corporate Crime
- Political Corruption
- Drug Trafficking
- Human Trafficking
- Sex Trafficking
- Illegal Immigration
- Contemporary Slavery
Black Market Prices & Profits
- AK-47 prices on the black market
- Computer Hackers and Online Fraud
- Contract Killing
- Exotic Animals
- Fake Diplomas
- Fake ID Cards, Passports and Other Identity Documents
- Human Smuggling Fees
- Human Traffickers Prices
- Kidney and Organ Trafficking Prices
- Prostitution Prices
- Cocaine Prices
- Ecstasy Pills Prices
- Heroin Prices
- Marijuana Prices
- Meth Prices
- Earnings From Illegal Jobs
- Countries In Order Of Largest To Smallest Risk
- Blood Analysis
- Book Review
- Cause & Manner of Death
- Computers/Cell Phones/Electronics
- Cool & Odd-Mostly Odd
- Corpse Identification
- Corpse Location
- Crime and Science Radio
- crime lab
- Crime Scene
- Cults and Religions
- Document Examination
- Fingerprints/Patterned Evidence
- Firearms Analysis
- Forensic Anthropology
- Forensic Art
- Forensic Dentistry
- Forensic History
- Forensic Psychiatry
- General Forensics
- Guest Blogger
- High Tech Forensics
- Interesting Cases
- Interesting Places
- Medical History
- Medical Issues
- Multiple Murderers
- On This Day
- Poisons & Drugs
- Police Procedure
- serial killers
- Space Program
- Stupid Criminals
- Time of Death
Pausing the story to give a character description can often break the natural flow of the story and come across as static and forced. But there are a few tricks to help your character descriptions feel more fluid…
1. Descriptions should say something about who the character is.
Whenever you describe a character, it’s good to stop and think about what each piece of their appearance says about them. Why did they choose this outfit with these accessories? What impact has their physical features had on their self esteem? What parts of their personality come through in their posture and resting expression?
This doesn’t mean that everything you describe needs to convey a character trait to the reader – some things are worth including just to give your readers the ability to visualize the scene – but it’s still very useful to look through your character’s appearance and focus on those things that say the most.
2. Descriptions are more than just static visuals.
People aren’t just composed of the colors they wear and their prominent features. Remember that descriptions can (and should) also include things like:
When combined with well chosen appearance traits, active appearance aspects reveal a much fuller picture of who the character is.
A black-eyed character with their head held high, their arms swinging, and a pinched upper lip probably instigated (or won) the fight that earned them the black-eye, where as a black-eyed character who curls their arms around themselves and walks with their eyes down is actively avoiding any further attention.
3. Putting it all together: Work description into action.
By including both static visuals and active aspects into the actions the character is taking when they’re introduced, you end up with a much more fluid, natural description.
Static description looks like this…
She stood at the edge of the platform wearing a lacy, purple dress that went to her ankles. Her feet were bare and she wore a cheep iron ring on her right hand. She had pulled her dark hair into a bun, but a few locks had fallen loose. Her lips were full and her nose hooked.
After a moment of hesitation, she stepped off the platform. She let out a breath, smiled, and then continued forward.
Turning that into active description, we get…
The lace trim of her purple dress wavered around her ankles as she picked up her foot and hovered it at the edge of the platform. Her fingers trembled and she tugged at the cheep iron ring on her right hand. A soft gust of wind picked up the dark strands that had fallen from her bun, twirling them around her hooked nose.
With care, she stepped off the platform, flinching at the tiny stones that met her bare feet. She released a breath, her shoulders sinking. Her full lips pulled into a smile.
These kinds of descriptions have the bonus of eliminating passive voice. In the first description, we have four instances of passive voice (in this case, were and had), where as in the second we find only one instance, which blends into an otherwise active sentence.
Stand up for yourself, and be your best advocate. That’s something that’s so important and can be applied to any career. I’ve definitely learned to speak up when it’s called for and to ask questions and to not be afraid to own it and just go for it. And being supportive of other women is always essential—essential! It’s important to have conversations with other women.
Kiernan Shipka photographed for the December 2018 cover of Seventeen magazine
Demisexuality is an asexual-spectrum orientation that is often overlooked when people try to write asexual characters, which is a shame, because a lot of bad asexual stories could become good demisexual stories if the authors were better informed. So I’m here to inform you.
For the purposes of this essay, I will assume you’re writing a mixed demisexual+allosexual romantic relationship, because A) the vast majority of stories containing demisexuality or asexuality in romantic relationships have one of the partners as allosexual, and B) mixed relationship stories are prone to unfortunate implications about asexuality and demisexuality. I’ve never actually found a demisexual+demisexual, asexual+asexual or asexual+demisexual romantic pairing in fiction. I’d love to see it written, though.
Also: This essay focuses on romantic demisexual characters. However, aromantic demisexual people exist, too. They may engage in close platonic or queerplatonic relationships, or they may choose to be single or adopt some other lifestyle. Much of this essay can be applied to platonic and queerplatonic relationships as well as to romantic ones.
Asexuality and demisexuality are alike in that, the vast majority of the time, neither experiences sexual attraction to other people. The two orientations have a lot of experiences and issues in common, to the point that it’s not unusual for someone to initially identify as one and later realize they’re the other. When it comes to people that we don’t know well, demisexual and asexual people act and feel pretty much the same way - no sexual attraction is present at all.
But unlike asexuals, demisexual people have the potential to feel sexual attraction to someone if they have established an emotional connection to them. The strength of connection required varies depending on the demisexual person in question - anywhere from “I know you pretty well” to “We’ve been dating for years.” Even if the bond is established, it’s no guarantee that sexual attraction will happen, and sometimes demisexual people carry on happy relationships without ever becoming sexually attracted to the person they love.
Some demisexual people find it useful to explain their sexuality in terms of the primary/secondary model of attraction. Primary attraction is attraction that occurs upon first meeting someone, while secondary attraction only develops after getting to know someone better. In this model, most allosexual people feel both forms of attraction, demisexual people only feel secondary attraction, and asexual people feel neither.
In my posts on asexual stereotypes and asexual fetishization, I discussed how many stories with asexual characters involve changing the asexual character into someone who actively desires sex and feels sexually attracted to their lover. In the process of changing the asexual character’s emotions, they undermine asexuality as a sexual orientation and perpetuate harmful ideas about asexual people. But demisexual people’s feelings can and sometimes do change this way in real life. So by making your asexual-spectrum character demisexual instead of strictly asexual, you can represent a sexual minority (yay!), have all the slow-building sexual tension you want (yay!) and not shit on asexual people along the way (yaaaay!)
It’s still possible to be problematic when you do this, though. If you’re not careful, you might accidentally imply that…
All asexual people are actually demisexual.
- This invalidates asexual people and encourages allosexuals to try to change us.
- If your character changes from identifying as asexual to identifying as demisexual, point out that many asexual people do not change this way, and that the demisexual character’s experiences don’t represent everyone’s experiences.
- A character can also go from identifying as demisexual to asexual if they decide that “asexual” describes them better.
- There are also some people who identify as “asexual, but with one exception,” or as asexual and demisexual at the same time (because they find both of those terms useful for describing their sexuality). So you can also write a character who changes to identify in more complex ways.
- Don’t be afraid to write an asexual-spectrum character who’s mistaken about their sexuality, and who changes their mind about how they identify. That’s perfectly fine. The important thing is to do this without casting doubt on the validity of other asexual-spectrum people’s orientations.
Demisexuality is a change from being asexual to being allosexual.
- This suggests that demisexuality is not a real orientation in its own right. A character who identifies first as asexual, and then as demisexual after entering a sexual relationship, has not “lost” their asexuality, but rather discovered that it was not fully descriptive of them. They were probably demisexual all along and just didn’t know it.
- Note: Sexual orientation can be fluid, and some people actually do shift from asexual to demisexual, but that is a different phenomenon from the circumstances in which demisexual people sometimes develop sexual attraction.
- A demisexual character who used to identify as asexual will probably still feel like they have much in common with asexual people, and they are the same person as they were before. They will not begin acting like most allosexual people do. For example, if they were utterly repulsed by the thought of sex with most people, bored by pornography, and oblivious to flirting before, they will probably still be that way after they start calling themselves demisexual. (But if their sexual partner is involved in these activities, a demisexual character’s responses may change.)
- Demisexual people vary greatly in their general preferences regarding sex, porn, kinks, masturbation, and other sexual activities. There is no “typical demisexual” lifestyle or attitude that you should try to capture; instead, focus on writing your character as well-rounded and consistent.
The allosexual partner was responsible for the changes in the demisexual character’s feelings.
- Being able to “overcome” demisexuality is insulting to the demisexual character, because it makes the demisexual passive and uninvolved in their own sexuality. Furthermore, a lack of sexual attraction in demisexual people is not an obstacle to be defeated, or an achievement to be unlocked, any more than it is for asexuals or any other orientation.
- If the demisexual character develops feelings for their allosexual partner, then it should be presented as a nice surprise or something that just happens on its own, not as something that was earned. People are not vending machines who will put out love or desire if you just give them enough affection tokens.
The fact that the demisexual person now feels sexual attraction means that they love their partner more, or that the relationship is more real.
- Whether a demisexual person becomes sexually attracted to someone they love is not really controllable, and it’s often unpredictable. It is not a demisexual’s responsibility to become sexually attracted to their partner, and a lack of sexual attraction does not imply a lack of love. A close relationship is not deeper or superior simply because sexual attraction is present.
- Take care not to portray the relationship as less valid, less important, or worth less because one character feels more sexual attraction than the other. It is possible for tension or difficulties to arise from this disparity, and that can be a good challenge for the characters to work through. One or both of the characters might, consciously or unconsciously, think that “sexual attraction = love,” and feel hurt if sexual attraction is absent. There’s a big potential for drama here, if that’s what you want to write. But keep in mind that an attraction gap doesn’t have to lead to conflict, and sometimes a relationship with asymmetric attraction is perfectly happy just the way it is.
- The characters may have wrongheaded ideas about “sexual attraction = love,” but if so, then the narrative should make it clear that these assumptions are false.
Demisexuality is a choice, or a change in behavior.
- In case it wasn’t already clear…NO. A demisexual person is not someone who wants to wait a while before they decide to have sex with someone. A demisexual person is not simply “waiting until marriage.” A demisexual person is not necessarily a prude, or shy, or afraid of intimacy. And demisexual people are not necessarily slut-shamers who pride themselves on being better than people who have promiscuous or casual sex.
- In fact, demisexual people can have casual sex, too! And some of them do! Demisexuality is defined by only experiencing sexual attraction in a specific set of circumstances, not by sexual behavior. Demisexuality is not a lifestyle, and demisexual people do not choose to be demisexual. An asexual or allosexual person can’t choose to become demisexual, either.
- Demisexual people cannot choose when to become sexually attracted to someone, and sexual attraction should not be expected from them; nor should they be criticized for not feeling it toward a relationship partner.
Here are some more ways that you can write a demisexual character without invalidating asexual or demisexual people:
- Have the demisexual character identify as demisexual from the start of the story.
- Have the demisexual character originally identify as asexual, but later they decide to identify as demisexual instead.
- Have the demisexual character explain what demisexuality means to them.
- Have the demisexual character point out that just because they started feeling sexual attraction, doesn’t mean that all demisexual or asexual people can become sexually attracted to their partners.
- Use a non-asexual-spectrum character as a foil. Show how that character experiences sexual attraction more readily, frequently and to a wider variety of people than the demisexual character does. This will highlight that demisexuality is not the same thing as “asexual person becomes allosexual.”
There are also some potential plot ideas and sources of conflict unique to demisexual characters:
- Tension can develop between a demisexual character and their partner if the demisexual person has experienced sexual attraction in the past, but does not feel it toward their current partner. The allosexual partner might feel offended, hurt or insecure, and the characters may need to work through this together.
- A relationship could be challenged by the unexpected development of sexual attraction. A demisexual and asexual character may get together not expecting sexual attraction to ever happen, but surprise! It does! How do they handle it? Or for any relationship, how does the dynamic change when sexual attraction occurs?
- What if the sexual attraction challenges either of the partners’ sense of identity? A demisexual character might prefer NOT to feel sexually attracted to their partner. For instance, a homoromantic demisexual man might not think of himself as “gay,” and deny that his relationship is gay because there is no sex, but he could be forced to re-evaluate himself when he starts wanting his partner sexually. A married demisexual woman having an affair may believe she is doing nothing wrong because she is not sexually attracted to her lover - but whoops, there it goes, and now she has to rethink her life.
- An allosexual could also have to rethink their attitude toward the relationship after their demisexual partner develops sexual attraction to them: Do they think it’s more serious now, or that they should treat their demisexual partner differently? Does it force them to rethink their own feelings and choices?
- A demisexual person will have their own self-discovery journey that differs from an asexual person’s. They might have the self-realization moment twice, or have to “come out of the closet” twice, if they previously identified as asexual or another sexual minority. Demisexuality can make explaining one’s sexuality to other people more complicated. It can be fascinating to explore how a demisexual character deals with experiencing sexual attraction for the first time, how they discover demisexuality, and what experiences convince them to identify as demisexual.
And lastly, a disclaimer: I am not demisexual, but I am asexual. My knowledge of demisexual people’s experiences is thus rather limited. I asked demisexual people to review this piece before I published it, and I welcome any further corrections or additions from demisexual readers.