Tfw you are at taco bell and you grab the wrong size lid for your drink and you dont want to throw it away bc that’s wasteful and just adds more plastic into the worlds landfills but you can’t put it back bc you dont want to spread germs and how would you feel if someone did that to you plus no one is vaccinated any more so who knows you might end up killing some small child, but throwing the lid away is basically on par with killing thousands as you do nothing to fight global warming, I mean what are you doing in taco bell anyways? Dont you care about the environment? Dont you care about your own health? You should be drinking water from a glass that was washed with earth friendly soap. Why can’t our government get anything right ever? It’s all money and power! Corrupt money and power! Money should be abolished. We should have global communism! Would that mean no more taco bell tho?
Is this what overthinking is like?
Seeing as how I spent the rest of the day with a taco bell lid in my hoodie pocket, I think I can answer, “yes”
Do you know why Virgil's hoodie is so large? He can hug someone else with it :3
I think Remus would take advantage of this for his own benefit
Fight or flight am I right?
being 25 is like: im dying. im living my best life. im a failure. my life hasnt started. everything interesting has already happened to me. im achieving my dreams. im cutting my hair with kitchen scissors. im starting a skincare routine. im a corporate professional. im a sellout. im out of groceries. i have too many groceries. i am never going to be successful. i am going to win a hugo award before im 30. im crazy. im boring. i need to finish this essay. i need to finish this story. i need to start a newsletter. i need to start tweeting more. i need to stop tweeting. i need to ghost all my friends. i need to tell my friends i love them. i need to find a new apartment. i need to take out the trash. i am the trash that needs to be taken out.
Maybe someone will hear this, and enjoy their twenties in a way I couldn’t.
I’m 48 now, and my life is honestly just beginning. It’s only in the last couple of years that I’ve felt like I have anything figured out, and I – and every other adult – is really just kind of faking it most of the time.
Because we were told, over and over again, “grow up and be responsible” so we made the destination the point, and missed a lot of the joy of the journey.
Yes. “Growing up” is a thing we all need to do, and we all eventually do.
But when you’re in your 20s? Live your life! Enjoy your life! You’re going to make a million mistakes. You’re going to fall down a thousand times. That’s part of being in your 20s, and it’s really okay.
You are not the trash that needs to be taken out. You aren’t trash at all. You’re a person and you deserve to be happy and to follow your dreams (and not everyone in their 20s knows what their dreams even are!).
But the most important thing I want to share, the thing I know at least one of you needs to hear, that I hope you can hear and really act upon, is this: Don’t give yourself “my 30th birthday” as a deadline to have it all figured out and happening.
When you do that, as I did, you completely lose the fun and the joy and the freedom that is such an essential part of your twenties.
All these questions you have, all this turmoil you feel, all the stress about not being further along your career path … all of that is totally normal. All of your peers are experiencing it. Everyone who was in their 20s before you has experienced that.
You’re going to be okay. Keep asking the questions, and keep challenging your presumptions. You’ve been told the world is one particular way, by your parents and educators, and now that you’re in your twenties, you get to find out what was true. Figuring all that out takes a lot of time and a lot of energy. You can do it.
I feel everything the OP posted here, in my memories of being 25, and I want the OP to know that I felt all of those things, too. They’re part of life’s journey, and you are not trash for experiencing all of them.
When a customer refuses to wear a mask
Ya’ll are really feelin this one huh
i JUST realized why these sounded familiar, they’re from BLOODBORNE, which is really appropriate, it only took me o…several months to realize…..
I made this post two weeks ago
“This headcanon about a character like me hurt me as a person that has been negatively affected by these stereotypes in real life” and “there are people who relate to this character who headcanon them like this and should be able to do so without judgment” can and should co-exist.
Like, I’m asexual. I enjoy chasing bubbles, watching kid shows, and have a rather high-pitched voice. I love seeing ace characters that are like that too because I can easily insert my shoes into them without doing acrobatics to justify why a character is ace.
I also understand why someone who is ace wouldn’t want to see a character that is ace act this way. It’s been used against us. It’s been said that we’re too immature to understand sex, or we’re too childish to really know what love is. It hurts asexual people every day.
What I want to see more of is less “oh this ace character is bad because they push stereotypes” and more “I want to see more ace characters who are…”
Not only are you giving people who want to create ace representation the tools to create representation you want to see, but you are helping them flesh out characters that aren’t walking stereotypes.
There’s also the fact that you can accidentally out someone by pushing them not to create stereotypes. I’m not out to my family yet. I’m not out to anyone but my sister and a few select people. I work in a very heavy community setting.
Do you know how devastated I’d be if the papers came out with “Local Teacher Is Gay” because someone called me out for creating an ace character like me because it pushed stereotypes and I had to defend myself? Taking away my right to stay in the closet? Making me a target for losing my job, a job that I absolutely love and cannot risk losing, and social ostracization? The mental toll it’s going to take on me to have to move to a new area when I’ve been here all my life and don’t want to?
Obviously, that’s a stretch, because I’m not publicly known on the internet, but this scenario is the exact reason I do not want to publish a book and risk being known to the real world. I’m too afraid people will out me without my consent, all because I want to write an ace character that’s just like me.
But to lead by example…
I want to see more ace characters who are poets, who are intelligent, who can work on computers and talk about how their work is the only thing allowed to fuck them
I want to see more ace characters that are neurodivergent without neurodivergence being the reason they are ace, who don’t understand liking sex but know what love is, who still love their friends and family unconditionally even if it’s not traditionally
I want to see more ace characters that are sex-positive, that aren’t sexually attracted to their partner but will go down on their partner for their partner’s pleasure but not theirs, who are engaged in non-sexual kink, and who are passionate lovers
I want to see more ace characters who are teachers, who work with children and understand them not feeling like their peers, who encourage students to be who they are no matter what society throws at them, who are inspirations
I want to see more ace characters who are strong, who are athletes, who are known in their small town as champions, who are proud of their achievements and so are their friends and family
I want to see more ace characters that are parents, biological or adoptive parents, who love their children unconditionally, who don’t shame their children for showing sexual interest early on, who do their best to be supportive
I want to see parents accept their child’s sexuality, to give me escapism, to have parents ask questions and get answers, and parents who want to support their ace children even if they don’t understand or mess up sometimes but are trying
I want to see more ace characters… period. I don’t want people to be afraid of writing ace characters because they’re a little cute or a little childish or a little bit of a prude. I don’t want ace authors to be afraid of creating ace characters because they’re afraid of the backlash.
One representation is not going to make every ace person happy. One representation is not going to offend the entire ace community. We’re diverse and amazing and beautiful for a lot of reasons. Asexual just so happens to be a bonus.
Tl;dr - Remember not to step on your fellow asexuals in your quest to bring justice for your fellow aces. Have some decorum. Less “is the writer ace so they are allowed to write ace characters this way” and more “if I want more ace representation, I have to let my wants and needs known or do it myself”
i have a hot take about vine and tik tok if you allow me
vine’s entire concept was “show don’t tell” while tik tok’s entire concept is “tell don’t show”
might risk sounding like an Old Fart but i want to elaborate what i mean:
sometimes i will see Tiktoks that are just people talking to a camera about a thing that happened to them and then at the end… won’t even show the thing they’re talking about. they’re just talking to a camera. that or the few staged jokes take waaaaaay too much time to get to the punchline, and the punchline isn’t even funny (and the acting is bad)
meanwhile on vine, you only had 7 seconds, and in 7 seconds you could have anything happen, and a dude said “back at it at krispy kreme” and did backflips and kicked out a sign in his final flip and the video just cut with no explanation, and it was the greatest vine on earth
Clear the stage for the real king
This one was made as a birthday gift for the sweetest Feli! (lost_fander and ig) If u don’t follow her already, pls go give her some love cuz heck she’s a talented lil gal!
I’m actually proud of this one,,,, pls don’t let it flop c’:
ok i have a question… why do people use the tags like for example “actuallyautistic” instead of “autistic” like whats the difference between the two because for the longest time i thought actuallyautistic was the gatekeeping equivalent or smth
Tw: violent ableism / anti-autistic violence
I remember when i first started using tumblr the #autistic and #autism tags had a lot of “autism moms” and other allistic family members of autistic people, who would make a bunch of vent posts about how much they hated their autistic family members, and some of them would even say really cruel things like that they wanted their autistic child/sibling to die.
This led to autistic people making our own posts with the #actuallyautistic tag (which is also why there is no space, if there was a space tumblr’s search would still show some of the anti-autistic content that filled the #autistic tag).
The intention wasn’t to gatekeep, it was to give autistics a safe space away from people that hated us. Of course, this was several years ago, and things have thankfully improved a lot since then, but the tag has stuck around.
This convention of tagging is used a lot in the broader disability tumblr too.
Because a lot of ableism is people talking about disabled (incl. physically disabled, chronically ill, mentally ill & neurodiverse) people without our input, the “#actually-” or “#seriously-” tags allow disabled people to reclaim space where it’s our voices talking about our disabilities instead of other people talking about us.
It also helps to be able to filter out people using disability as a symbol of what they’re talking about rather than the actual disability. For example, I follow some of the PTSD related tags (#seriouslysurvivor, #actuallyabused, #actuallyPTSD) because outside of those conversations most of tumblr’s mentioning of those things is like… jokes about being ‘triggered,’ “this post about being a 90s kid gave me flashbacks,” people talking about kink or why abuse is ‘hot’ or abusers are ‘interesting,’ people talking about media or fanfiction, “the photo of the tumblr ballpit gave me ptsd” etc. It just gets clogged up with cultural ideas about PTSD or PTSD used as a punchline. To find other people living with PTSD and talking about our experiences in complex and nuanced ways, it’s easier to go to the “#seriously-” and “#actually-” tags.
Coincidentally, back when I used to go on reddit, a similar thing happened there with “lesbians.” The reddit board “/r/lesbians” was already taken by someone running it for sharing male-gaze “lesbian” porn. So women who love women obviously couldn’t use “/r/lesbians” because that wasn’t a safe space for actual conversation with each other, so “/r/actuallesbians” was made. They have a permanent message to the side of the board saying: “A place for discussions for and by cis and trans lesbians, bisexual girls, chicks who like chicks, bi-curious folks, dykes, butches, femmes, girls who kiss girls, birls, bois, aces, LGBT allies, and anyone else interested! Our subreddit is named r/actuallesbians because r/lesbians is not really for or by lesbians–it was meant to be a joke. We’re not a militant or exclusive group, so feel free to join up!”
It is difficult to parse sometimes the intentions of tags and labels on social media for sure (especially when there is genuinely a lot of exclusionary discourse among many groups), but I wanted to share my experience of the way in which these tags have been valuable for communities that are simultaneously hypervisible (in that dominant groups talk about them a lot via stereotypes and cultural cliches) but whose voices are routinely erased. It can allow valuable intracommunity dialogue in social media platforms that otherwise drowns out everything.
Also a lot of people took it upon themselves to spam neurodivergency tags with gore, porn, eugenics takes with the r slur all over, incest, etc. I remember not being able to go in to the autistic tag for weeks at a time.
woke up mad. there is a grieving family asking you to not disseminate a video of their child’s death by police and in the name of “activism” (which is just distributing trauma porn and yelling over poc) you white people are directly disobeying that desire. your love and care for the oppressed should ALWAYS take precedent over your hate for the oppressor. do not use the loss of a life of a child to prop up your own moral ego or put “ACAB” in your insta bio if you don’t care about mourning victims and supporting the communities affected first.
What is it about an adult enjoying childish things that makes other adults and occasionally teenagers froth at the mouth? If I want to chase after bubbles, sleep with stuffed animals, randomly start singing and dancing to baby shark, and enjoy watching kids shows, who am I hurting? Why is it your business? I’m out here vibing and living my best life. Leave me in peace or join me. It’s that simple.
They can’t handle our refusal to let society hold us down and break us. They cannot fathom our happiness despite hell breaking loose constantly during life. And I think it salts their wounds because no one taught them they can also be free and they want to, but they’re not ready yet so they get angry.
Gonna keep my bubbles, sidewalk chalk and stuffed animals while they figure that shit out. They can’t stop my shine, nor can they stop yours.
Well, here’s to hoping they’re at least doing things that makes them happy
we should bring back the supernatural fandom somehow having an extremely specific gif for literally every occasion though
i know you guys are still out there. i know you still have your .gif folders. don’t pretend you’re not.
you. you get it.
You ever post something and then after you post it you think of the thousand different ways someone on this site might misinterpret it and then delete your post
The irony of this post is that it will probably be misinterpreted and they’ll call you out on it.
There’s at least a 25% chance of that happening yeah
I am not satisfied with this but since I finished it anyway, I might as well share. It’s good to channel your inner emo sometimes (I was definitely more on the gothic side than the emo one, but you know, some things just click).