Lucien Laviscount as Alexander Cabot in Katy Keene 1.01 — Pilot
So a few months ago, I got bullied off of Reddit by a user named u/grandequesso. Prior to her appearance, I liked posting my thoughts and opinions about True Blood on Reddit (as I currently do on Tumblr). I had never heard about this person prior to them contacting me, nor did I interact with them before they started harassing me.
Anyways, out of curiosity, I go onto Reddit today after having been absent for a long time just to see what’s going on and if I want to sign back on again. I go to u/grandequesso’s profile, and I find this comment:
The Karen’s of social media who boycott seasons are just stupid. Let the producers do their job. You have a choice not to watch a show. Move on. It’s like a bunch of bullies harassing until they get their way… get a life.
u/grandequesso Posted on Thursday, October 22, 2020
I don’t know whether or not I should be angry about this, or burst out laughing. This is truly hypocritical coming from her. Some people really don’t have any self-awareness I guess. 🤦♂️
To give some context about my issues with u/grandequesso, I was a Reddit user on the True Blood subreddit for about a year. I enjoyed posting on there, and it was a pleasant community for a while with plenty of nice fans to interact with. Aside from one nasty encounter with a right-winged troll who also had a history of harassing people for their “SJW opinions,” I never had any problems with the subreddit or the people on there. That ended up changing around the time Coronavirus hit and Reddit got flooded with a bunch of trolls and assholes. One of those people who came to the True Blood subreddit in the wake of coronavirus was u/grandequesso.
For reasons I still don’t understand, I got left these extremely nasty comments by u/grandequesso because she did not like my takes on the show, and proceeded to mock me for them. A lot of these comments were not only mean-spirited and intentionally nasty, but they were hurtful. I don’t really know what her problem was with me, but she decided to make it personal, and I became her punching-bag for several months prior to quitting Reddit.
For instance, back in April of 2020, I did a (now deleted) post about Jason Stackhouse’s gang-rape from season 4. This was a scene that left me deeply angry when I saw it because of how mean-spirited it was, and because there were internet reviewers who implied (or outright stated) that it was karma for Jason being a womanizer. In my post, I linked to a video of Alan Ball and David Petrarca talking about Jason’s gang-rape, and I also brought up comments that several other internet reviews had said about Jason’s rape being his karma/comeuppance. The reason I did this is because I thought the show promoted a harmful message about rape = karma, and I wanted to have a conversation about the kind of messages we intentionally or unintentionally take away from TV shows. It was also to have a discussion about the way male rape is portrayed in our media. Since Reddit is a discussion board, I figured that was an appropriate place to talk about this. When I posted my opinion, most of the users who commented were thoughtful about their responses (and were okay with having this discussion). However, I get this response from her (which has since been removed by the moderators):
EYEROLL ! It’s a show… Calm down. This is why being a SJW today is such a joke because people heads are so inflated to think they need to dissect every aspect of everything and grandstand on every platform.
u/grandequesso Posted on Wednesday April 22, 2020
So I guess me having a respectful discussion about something I find problematic on True Blood is being an SJW? And me wanting to talk about that is “grandstanding on every platform?”
This was pretty much par the course for how u/grandequesso behaved: She was of the opinion that people should just shut up and blindly enjoy the show and not read too deeply into it. Unless, of course, she had a specific problem with the show, in which case it was okay for her to be critical about it. Again, I shouldn’t have to explain how dickish and hypocritical that makes her.
A few weeks later, a discussion comes up about the infamous Bill/Lorena scene in season 3 where Bill gets on top of Lorena and twists her head. I posted the opinion that this was a rape scene because of comments that Stephen Moyer (the actor who played Bill Compton) made at Paleyfest 2011 where he claimed that Bill’s intent in that moment was to “turn anger into rape.” I also pointed out that Lorena had a history of being abused by her maker (Istvan) to the point that she probably conflates rape and sex as the same thing and doesn’t really believe that consent matters in regards to sex (as shown in the flashbacks where she and Bill tortured and raped their victims). I was in a respectful discussion with another Reddit user about this, and u/grandequesso interjected into that conversation to leave this comment about me with that user:
Don’t bother this person is obsessed like it’s a real scenario… totally went over their head. 🤦🏽♀️
u/grandequesso Posted on Tuesday June 2, 2020
I simply put this out as my opinion on the scene and why I thought it was rape, and she’s already telling other people not to interact with me simply because she didn’t like my take on Bill being a rapist. So not only was she being vicious about this, she was also trying to isolate me from other like most bullies do to their victims.
A few weeks later, on a post about Macklyn Warlow, I make a joke about Jason and Warlow having “steaming chemistry” because of the homoerotic dream Jason has about Warlow in season 6. I meant it as a harmless joke based on the way the scene was set up (with Jason and Warlow in the bathroom with steam around them). I get this hateful reply from her in response to that comment:
Must you make every true blood comment gay somehow? Lol. The men weren’t gay. Get over it. 😆 talk about projection.. sheesh!
u/grandequesso Posted on Friday June 26, 2020
I should point out that I identify as homosexual (which was something she was aware of), and I had taken note in the past about how True Blood did parallels between vampires and the LGBT+ Civil Rights movement. I also should point out that I personally thought Jason could be secretly bisexual based on the number of homoerotic dreams he has on the show, However, that was just my personal theory and opinion. I did not ever state this as fact. There was no reason for this person to leave that comment other than to be homophobic, and to once again belittle me because she could.
In each of these instances, I merely expressed my opinions about True Blood. I did not force these opinions on anyone else. I did not harass people for disagreeing with me. Even with people who didn’t agree with my takes, I tried to be as respectful and considerate as I could when discussing the show with them. So I do not understand what I did to warrant this kind of hateful behavior from her. I guess she believed that it was okay to be an asshole to me because she thought my takes were garbage.
Her bullying got bad enough that it contributed to my ongoing anxiety and depression (which I have been struggling with for years), and I ended up deactivating my account on Reddit because I was no longer in a good headspace to post there. I also no longer felt welcome on the True Blood subreddit because of her behavior.
A month later, I did sign back on to report her to the True Blood Moderators for bullying and harassment. I even pulled up these comments (which are still on her profile) to show that she had a pattern when it came to bullying others. To their credit, the True Blood Moderators took my claims seriously, and u/grandequesso got banned from the True Blood subreddit. She has not posted on there since last August.
In hindsight, I realize I should have done this in the first place, but I mistakenly believed that I had thick enough skin to withstand her bullying. That is a mistake I will never make again.
I should also point out that u/grandequesso is a Donald Trump supporter (which makes it ironic that she’s accusing people of bullying others on social media when she’s supporting a man who has a history of doing the same thing) and has attacked other Reddit users in the past for leaving comments that she deems as SJW-ish or she flat out doesn’t like. For example, this, for instance, was posted on r/90daysfinanceduncensored in response to the Black Lives Matter Movement:
SJW post!! 🙄 We get it.. thank you for another wise post. 🙏🏽
u/grandequesso Posted on Sunday August 30, 2020
And this was a similar comment she posted to someone whose take she didn’t like:
You’re perfect. I’d love to know more about your life, so we could pick it apart. It would be fun. 😉
u/grandequesso Posted on Thursday June 18, 2020
u/grandequesso is one of those people who seems to think that “freedom of speech” mean “freedom to be an asshole to whomever you want.” She has bullied people on Reddit in the past because they had opinions she didn’t like, and she has never once demonstrated any remorse for doing so. She claims to be in favor of Freedom of Speech, and yet she intentionally harasses others for expressing their Freedom of Speech.
To put this bluntly, I don’t think she has any moral high ground to complain about Karens on social media harassing others when she has engaged in the exact same behavior herself.
The internet is full of hateful bigoted people, and she is one of them.
Y’all ever notice how radicals on this site hate talking about systemic issues and really want there to be an easily understandable conflict between moralized identities?
Like, people don’t want to ever talk about nationalism but everyone knows to punch a fascist. No one wants to confront transphobia but everyone would happily hunt a terf for sport.
Even entirely aesthetic subcultures like cottagecore are apparently worthy of mouth-frothing rage and obsessive condemnation while anything but the most liberalized purely symbolic versions of #LandBack are treated tepidly and with suspicion.
It’s much easier, more comfortable, and way more rewarding to find a foil to play hero against, but actually confronting a vast and powerful system actually requires courage, effort, and introspection. Even then it just doesn’t pull in attention and praise like performing your own personal leftist hero fantasy for a live studio audience.
I think we can see a lot of similarities between S2, Maryann’s storyline, and S5, Lilith and the vampires’ storyline; Tara and Eggs ate Maryann’s pie, got ‘high’, fought fiercely and their eyes went black. Vampires drank the blood Salome offered them, got ‘high’ too and ended up draining a lot of people.
Both these occasions happened in episode 8.