“It’s summer now, and you’re craving a simpler existence. You want to read. You want to write. You want to meet strangers for dinner, and not refuse another drink at another bar. You want to dance. You want to find yourself in a basement, neck loose, bobbing your head as a group of musicians play, not because they should, but because they must. It’s summer now, and you’re looking forward to worrying less. You’re looking forward to longer nights and shorter days. You’re looking forward to gathering in back gardens and watching meat sputter on an open barbecue. You’re looking forward to laughing so hard your chest hurts and you feel light-headed. You’re looking forward to the safety in pleasure. You’re looking forward to forgetting, albeit briefly, the existential dread which plagues you, which tightens your chest, which pains your left side. You’re looking forward to forgetting that, leaving the house, you might not return intact. You’re looking forward to freedom, even if it is short, even if it might not last. You’re looking forward.”
— Caleb Azumah Nelson, Open Water
the constant assumption that everything bi women do is for other people (who are not bisexual) is what really gets me. yall HATE the concept that bisexual women are full, whole people that have the same levels of autonomy as everyone else and are fully capable of doing things for themselves. maybe, if bi women are saying/doing/posting things that aren’t relatable to you…it’s not for you. maybe you’re projecting your belief that bi women have to “prove” their place in the lgbt community/prove their sexuality onto random bisexual women by assuming that’s the motivation for their actions and not just that they’re being a person and doing their own thing lol
I love that “if you’re a hostile shithead to strangers for no reason, people will treat you unkindly” is like a totally novel concept to tumblr users. Like did you all get socialized entirely on edgy social media dunks culture and simply don’t understand that people don’t enjoy being randomly insulted.
shout out to the young bi girls who want to call themselves femme/butch but are too afraid of harassment to do so, so they’re calling themselves literal animals instead until they get the courage
shout out to the young bi girls being harassed and traumatized at school/in other places with the slur ‘dyke’ on their harasser’s mouths, but are too afraid to reach out for support in fear of being told they can’t say that
shout out to the young bi girls feeling like their trauma doesn’t matter because they’re having it drilled into their heads that it’s ‘not real homophobia’
i see you. i support you. and i want you to know your pain does matter. the way you want to express yourself does matter. it’s real. it’s valid. and people shouldn’t be brushing it off. there are spaces you will be able to talk freely about these things. trust me, more people support us (like, actually support us) than you know.