@mjalti

when you make a to do list do you end up doing everything you wrote down? and does it motivate you more to write down a lot of tasks at once, so you feel like your day is gonna be fun and eventful and productive, or to write down the necessary things only, like the stuff with a deadline, so you don't overburden yourself?

No I have categories so I don’t feel overwhelmed, merely organized !

Have you read anything by haruki murakami? What were your thoughts if you feel comfortable sharing 👁

I still do not feel comfortable sharing my thoughts on books, thanks again for your curiosity

Ok…. I’m getting these 🥺

I hope I didn't do anything dumb. But I applied for a job I'm very excited about and think I'm qualified for, but I put my availability for an interview for next week, but I have no interview experience. At all. Is it that hard to prepare for an interview?

Why would that be dumb? Just prep for the interview. Google the companies previous interviews, remember to make everything relevant to the company & look up the companies values so you can mention them in the interview; so if one of their code words is compassion, in the interview stress that you really care about people etc. Apply to other jobs too, so you can keep ur mind off the interviews result :)

hi ana!! quick question for you -- i'm on the job hunt (2 years post grad) with very minimum experience. while i apply to paid jobs, do you think it's worthwhile to do volunteer or unpaid internship work meanwhile?

Up to you, if it’s something you’re fine tuning (a specific skill or set of skills), then fine do it unpaid for a short amount of time but in general…. nothing unpaid, depending on the field.

cithaerons :

nicole homer, underbelly (2019)

spectralee :

Booty shorts that say “I could recognize him by touch alone, by smell; I would know him blind, by the way his breaths came and his feet struck the earth. I would know him in death, at the end of the world” on the ass

have a good day !

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me to my own negative thoughts:

5 am and a 21 count to-do list? Very cool of me

digitalkiller :

It’s best to give off a warped image of yourself online. Share contradictory pieces of information, post at inconsistent hours, express opposite extremes of your character, and so on and so on. 

tw: sexual assault mention. hey ana, prior to covid, i was at my friend's house chilling and at some point said friend and a mutual friend started a pillow fight by hitting me. i eventually fell back on the couch and they were pushing me down on the couch and my friend whispered "now you know how it feels". a month ago, she revealed to me that she was sexually assaulted and i comforted her, etc. i thought that was a weird thing to say to me. Is it ok to bring this up or should i forget about it

This is NOT ok for her to say, I think she absolutely needs counseling as anyone after a traumatic event but it just seems like she’s trying to role-play what happened in order to understand it; however she doesn’t have permission to do that with you. Please address it and segue it into an argument for therapy.

hi miss ana. I just wanted to update u on my life. I have been talking with my counselor more and have been working more towards school and am on a really good path. I have been steadily growing in my independence and who I am as a person and I think I'm gonna be okay. I'm excited for what's to come and who I'm gonna be and I just want to thank you for allowing ur blog to be a space for peace and growth and to challenge urself. love lots!!

I LOVE this for you, I’m so proud of you for taking charge of your reality and taking steps to living a life you’re at peace with 👌🏽💕

do u believe in mal de ojo? i notice that each time im open abt myself to others and talk abt future plans or whatever, something always goes wrong. idk if this is just weird coincidences and bad stuff happens all the time and i just dont notice them as much when they happen in quiet instances?

Ummmmmmmm I’m like 70|30 on it, like 70% of me knows that people want what’s best for them instead of for you, so if you share some things that they want of course they’ll try to stop it / make it impossible for you to get what you want. I don’t necessarily believe in the “evil eye” like that, I just try to take care of my business with the least amount of resistance possible.

miss ana have you ever been so terribly wronged by someone that its hard to not want revenge or some kind of justice for it? i know that in life, we're told the best revenge is to move forward and cultivate success and goodness in our lives. but sometimes its hard not to fixate on this. do you believe theres some kind of divine justice at work? some law of the universe, karma, anything else, that metes out to people what they deserve, for terribly and deliberately hurting others?

Yeah but my comfort is knowing that they’ll never have anyone good in their life permanently like they might be able to fool some people but not for long. So like … I just look at it like an expensive lesson.

a sign that just says "take your shoes off, you nasty" accompanied by a photo of raven baxter

ya nasty!!!

TW TW ana have you ever had blackouts using xanax?? this has never happened to me before even when i seriously abused it (im unfortunately an addict). im not abusing it as much anymore and it doesn't calm me down or make me sleepy or anything but i was told i acted 'insane', said and did things and im all bruised up and battered and i remember nothing. i do remember that i took 5 pills of 5 mg but ive taken over 10 before and never even fell asleep. has this ever happened to you??

You … should bring this up with ur doctor tbh ….

Once i had an american friend in my room and she just sat with her outdoor clothes on my bed. I literally died inside. I guess sometimes you have to risk coming off as rude for the sake of sanity. 🙃

love that

mjalti :

my end-life goal is …I want to look at the provocations of the universe, I want to look at everything I’ve lost & all the “almost”s with people, all the grieving and the loss, I want to look at the pain and the suffering, I want to look with clear eyes at the unrealized potential & I want to say in whatever words it will hear me, in whatever language that it understands: “I do not want revenge”.

I was having this convo w some Albanians about it but they were like “we don’t know if it’s rude to have a sign that says “shoes off please”” and their kids say it’s not rude but they think it’s rude but they don’t know how to ask people to take off their shoes before they enter the house …. literally I don’t think a sign is rude at all especially in houses that don’t allow outdoor shoes indoors …

hi ana what are your thoughts on bling empire so far? my first time watching smth like this and im kind of shocked at how gauche it all is

1. I think Anna’s really far gone on benzos but has a wonderful heart & unpretentiousness that’s often uncharacteristic when it comes to people who are, you know, literal billionaires.
2. I think Christine is obsessed with being Anna and is a very shallow person, the more materially wealthy she’s become. Even her charity comes with an ulterior motive which is very 🤮 to me. 0/10 to Christine
3. Kim Lee is trash
4. Cherie seems like she’s desperate and is mostly as flat character as Jaime?
5. Kane wants to be the main character— badly. But he’s also very kind. Which is a rare combination.
6. Kevin seems to be a great mediator with everyone despite the fact that he’s making things up as he goes
7. Kelly seems like her only storyline is Kevin/Andrew

shouldn’t get as excited as I do when I see flower vases shaped like human bodies or body parts and yet

underwelmed :

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I should go to law school. I’d be like a better Annalise Keating.

acoolguy :

y’all mind if i unearth ancient secrets?

podencos :

If you were born between 1993 - 1996 you weren’t assigned a generation. We bridged the gap between millennials and zoomers and now find ourselves forever stuck in limbo

hey Ana my friend makes frequent posts where she says that if anyone deserves happiness and good things to happen, it's to her. while i do want the v best for her, just something about the wording seems odd. should i talk about that with her or let it be ?

she feels entitled to things without working for them, and that’s an ugly trait in her. it’s hard to talk to these people but I would be like “who DOESN’T deserve to be happy?” like truly, who in humanity, doesn’t deserve to be healed and loved and happy? and of all the people who deserve to be happy, what are you doing to earn it? idk I just dont vibe w these people lol

Queen do you have tips on how to be self critical to oneself and recognize the difference between insecurity and self critic? Thank you for reading❣️

insecurity stops you from attempting a challenge, self critical prepares you for the challenge.

Do u think it’s possible to ignore ur sadness?

I think it’s possible to work through it and stay busy but ultimately, the best way to get rid of it is to give it it’s “space” to have its say, acknowledging it, and making peace with it. 

i used to buy my ex lots of gifts for his birthday when he didn't buy me anything for mine and often forgot about my birthday too :( wish i had found your blog sooner because that's never happening again lmao. thank you for everything you teach us (intentionally and not) 💚

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