Rinko Kawauchi (Japanese, b. 1972)
Untitled, from the series ‘Hanabi’, 2001
Actually life is beautiful because the sound I make while trying to breathe around hot food sounds like my dog trying to eat an apple. When I yawn my cat tries to put his face in my mouth like a little dentist man and when he yawns I put my finger in his obligate-carnivore trapzone and we both know he will not hurt me. When I do not fold my clothes, they do not hold it against me.
I am demonstrably sad, and lonely, and full of fear. But there are other people who will hold my hand, who will point out the hawk overhead, who will give you That Look in a public place. The other day at a coffee shop a child said “look! It’s snowing!” so all of us strangers went to go look out the windows. It wasn’t the first snow and it won’t be the last but wasn’t it lovely, like that?
How wonderful to live in a world where birds and frogs both say beep! How wonderful to have an ocean of beautiful sharks with their dinosaur teeth! How wonderful the moon and her changing face, how wonderful the bees and their dancing to communicate, how wonderful shrimp and their forbidden layers of vision! How wonderful, you, and what you will give the world! The way we love things enough to spend entire blogs devoted to them? How people will let me explain my Pokemon team to them? How we will both jump at the scare in the movie, how we laugh so loudly, how it feels to give someone your baking? How wonderful to be alive. I am sorry for forgetting.
This is the process of getting better. With wonderful people and wonderful strangers and wonderful friends: I am getting better, slowly. Thank you, whoever you are. In some way, you’ve been wonderful, and left a wonderful place in the world to ripple out to me. In some small way - isn’t it beautiful - I promise, you’ve been helping.
“How wonderful to be alive. I am sorry for forgetting.”
girls. let’s practice the phrase “I’m too young for you.” when it comes to older men hitting on us. no more youths fed to hungry old men. we deserve to frolic in the meadow of our early years, not take on responsibilities and traumas of the decades-older men who refuse show the same “maturity” they seem to praise in us
Pardon my french but how the fuck did sex positivity go from “sex isn’t inherently shameful” to “it’s normal and healthy for kids to watch porn and teenage girls should be encouraged to sell nudes on the internet”
men became part of the conversation then took a hold of the narrative and ran with it
The hypersexualized image of teens in film and television and the fact that teen porn is extremely popular and the fact that there’s a definite push to normalize men pursuing teenage girls are all interconnected and all related to the renormalization of pedophilia.
How to feel like a femme fatale
✕ shows to browse: Dolce & Gabbana spring 2018, YSL ready to wear 2018, Nina Ricci spring 2009, Ulyana Sergeenko fall 2017, Balenciaga fall 2008, Oscar De La Renta fall 2013, Elie Saab fall ready to wear 2014, Christian Dior pre fall 2012, Christian Dior spring 2011 couture, Christian Dior fall 2010 ready to wear.
✕ colour palette: noir blacks, scarlet, burgundy, blush pinks, ivory, crisp white, silver, gold, beige, greys, sapphire blue, emerald green.
✕ items: louboutin heels, pointed thigh-high boots, birkin handbags, fabrics of; lace, leather, velvet and silk. choker necklaces, pearls, ruby earrings, red silk dresses, faux fur coats, body con lingerie piece paired with a two piece blazer style suit/power suit, leather mini skirts, white work shirts, turtlenecks, cat eye sunglasses, long black sheer robe, cashmere sweaters, long gloves, cigarette pants, fish net stockings, v-neck jumpsuit, cocktail dresses, pencil skirts, veiled hats, pill box hat, little black dress, long trench coats, leopard printed items!
✕ wine coloured lips, or vivid reds. Making sure to use a lip liner for precision. Sultry cat eyes, creating the allusion of almond shaped eyes; colours like navy, black, brown, plum or burgundy. Structured high arched brows, contour the cheek bones, champagne coloured highlighter, fluffy lashes.
✕ Veronica Lake, Ava Gardner, Rita Hayworth inspired old Hollywood hairstyles, blow out curls, lots of volume. Some other ideas; sleek straight hair, low ponytails with a black ribbon, middle parted sleek low bun, structured high ponytails, hard-edged long bob with square fringe, giving a touch of noir charm. Also looking at the women in Hitchcock films will inspire you some more!
✕ perfumes: hypnotic poison by Dior, noir de noir by Tom Ford, coco noir by Chanel, Vivienne Westwood Boudoir, Agent Provocateur perfume, Tom Ford Black Orchid, Classique Eau De Parfum by Jean Paul Gaultier, Juliette has a gun lady vengeance.
✕ things to evoke: mysterious, seductive, part vixen, part vivacious, beguiling, captivating, tough, bold, intimidating, feminine, charming, intelligent, powerful and intriguing.
✕ interiors: silky sheets, futons, velvet tassel cushions, bar carts with decorative martini glasses, vanity table filled with your lipsticks and perfumes, vintage floor mirrors, red roses, chandeliers, scented candles, marble pieces, lush rugs, floor standing lights, making your own artwork with kiss stains of varying colours, displaying more vintage pieces like a type writer or old clocks.
✕ movies to inspire you: The Big Sleep/Vivian Rutledge, The Killers/Ava Gardner, This Gun for Hire/Veronica Lake, Chinatown/Faye Dunaway, Out of The Past/Jane Greer, Murder, My Sweet/Claire Trevor, Gone Girl/Rosamund Pike, Batman Returns/Michelle Pfeiffer, My Cousin Rachel/Rachel Weisz, Basic Instinct/Sharon Stone, Pulp Fiction/Uma Thurman, Moulin Rouge/Nicole Kidman, Femme Fatale/Rebecca Romijn, Mr and Mrs Smith/Angelina Jolie, just to name a few.
✕ things to do: listen to tchaikovsky, carry around a vintage compact to touch up your lipstick through out the day, drinking wine or champagne, go on shopping sprees with friends, attend fashion shows, read mystery novels, visit more interesting hangouts; mysterious section of the library, a corner of a coffee shop or old book store, quaint jazz clubs etc. Have more unique skills or hobbies; dancing, taking up a foreign language, painting/sculpting, archery, martial arts, acting, singing, tech skills, writing. Attending or hosting masquerade balls.
As I see the resurgence of ‘feminine’ blogs and trad blogs, I want to remind everyone that everyone needs a balance of both yin & yang, femininity & masculinity. And femininity shows itself in more ways than pink, wearing heels, and being demure. Don’t return to Western misogynistic theory, please don’t.