Frenchy works in the performance arts and frequently travels, so a caravan seemed like the perfect home for her. She had it built, and it’s absolutely magical.
When she’s not traveling, it sits among the lush greenery on rural property that she shares with others who live in similar homes.
Isn’t this like living in a fairy tale?
The heater was built by Stoked Woodburning Stoves and she decorated the sides with glass marbles and paint. The caravan is very well insulated, too.
This is sweet.
And, of course a home like this has to have a cat.
Such a cozy place.
I have no idea what Saturn Return is, but these are good ideas.
1. Work on separating what you want from what others want for you. Be willing to rethink who you are.
If you’re heading into your Saturn return and you feel really good about where you’re headed and what you’ve been doing already, more power to you. Your task is now to step it up and reach for the next level, whatever that means for you. But if you’re one of those people who is suddenly second-guessing every decision you’ve ever made in your life, then it might be time to soul-search about what is authentic to you, and cast off roles others have wanted you to play and/or old aspirations of yours that are coming to a natural end.
2. Take care of your body. Realize that your body is material and requires attention, and has finite limits.
Saturn rules time, limits, and structures. Your body is a structure with natural limits, and some of those may start to show during your Saturn return. It’s a good time to revisit how you care for your body, and improve any health routines that won’t sustain you for the long-term. If your body starts to give warning signals of needing repair, act responsibly and take care of those issues before they need more help. And now is definitely the time to fix anything you know has been an issue that you haven’t gotten around to dealing with.
3. Think long term, about everything.
Now is a fine time to ponder that stereotypical interview question: where do you want to be in 10 years? What do you want to have contributed when all is said and done? What do you ultimately want in the realms of partnership, career, home, etc., and what do you need to do to make that happen? Are the current structures of your life solid, and if not, how can they be restructured?
It’s time to get really serious about the big picture of your life. Often we move so quickly in keeping up with day-to-day life that we don’t deliberately think about where we’re headed. Right now is the perfect time to look at the major structures of your life with that kind of sober realism about what you want in the long run. If you feel like you don’t know, no need to panic – it’s a 2 to 3 year process, not a single point in time, so just keep asking yourself these questions periodically as you move through it.
4. Acknowledge your losses and endings. And then keep going.
Since Saturn rules endings, time, and natural limits, you may experience endings in some area of your life during your Saturn return, whether it be related to a relationship, job, where you live, or some other area. If this happens, it’s important to know that this is normal during the Saturn return, even though it may feel hard now. You may need to mourn for important people or parts of your life that won’t be moving into your future with you. Do this, but don’t get stuck looking backwards; your endings are important, but so are your new beginnings.
5. Think realistically about how to improve your circumstances. Small steps are fine.
Realism and practicality are the order of the day during your Saturn return, so work on some practical plans to get to where you need to be next. Saturn rules things that unfold over time, and often makes things feel like they are taking longer than you want to happen. The good news is that small steps, as long as they are part of a practical longer-term plan, are perfectly in line with Saturnian energy, so do what you can and don’t stress if things are not happening quickly.
6. Finally deal with that issue that just won’t go away.
Do you have any nagging issues that keep coming up periodically in your life, and now just won’t fade into the background like usual? Now is the time to face them squarely and find new ways of dealing with them. Your unique Saturn placement and aspects describe some of the things you need to work on over the course of your lifetime. The good news is that the work you do during your Saturn return on finding new solutions and healthier approaches to these issues tends to stick with you for the long term.
7. Keep your focus on yourself, not on comparisons with other people.
Only compare if it motivates you to work harder towards something you really care about. But realize that we all have different life paths and what you may admire in someone else’s life may have nothing to do with what you are supposed to be doing. We all have completely different birth charts, even if close in age, and therefore we all have unique lessons, questions, and areas of our lives that are easier or harder.
On a related note, people tend to unthinkingly use career achievement as the measuring stick of how one is doing in life, but that may or may not be the main focus of your particular Saturn return.
8. If something difficult happens, remember that this is not the end of the story.
If you experience something that feels terrible, hold on and wait it out. Sometimes people have something objectively very difficult happen during this time and they don’t know how they will get through it. If you’re in this situation, keep holding on and moving through it one day at a time, because: 1) Often things will get easier after you get through your Saturn return, even if they look bad now, and 2) You can’t see the next chapter of your story yet, but there will be one. This is also a good time to say that some people may feel more depressed during their Saturn return – if this is you, don’t be afraid to reach out for help.
9. Work hard, but realize it’s not all up to you.
There is a spiritual tenet about doing the work and then letting go of the outcome, and now is a good time to adopt that approach. It is a bit of a paradox: Saturn asks us to take responsibility for ourselves and teaches that you have to work to get what you want, but it also rules limits. There are limits to what we individually have control over – we live in the larger world and participate in larger macrocosmic currents, not to mention that astrology shows that there are some things that are going to go differently for each of us. So work hard towards your goals, but know that there are other factors involved in where that ultimately leads, and be open to noticing the clues of what life wants for you as well as what you want.
10. Don’t stress if everything isn’t neatly resolved by the end of your Saturn return.
Life is a process; this is just one piece of it. The Saturn return is often a restructuring process, which can be messy – everything isn’t necessarily going to be tied up neatly in a bow by the end. Depending on your particulars, the most important part of your Saturn return may even be the start of something so new that you won’t even recognize its importance until more time has passed. So congratulate yourself for whatever positive changes you have made, challenges endured, and constructive work done, and go forth into your post-Saturn-return life with greater maturity and wisdom.
Okay but after seeing this I started doing it too and it’s amazing how many men I’ve run into bc they expected me to move
Gotta try it
I work (and walk) on a college campus. I’ve lost count of how many men I’ve smacked shoulders with.
Recently, I was standing outside my son’s classroom waiting to talk to his teacher. I stood on one side of the hallway, not even close to the center. At some point, a man came walking along. I was standing right in his path, but the hallway was empty, so I logically expected him to swerve around me. Instead he kept walking right toward me, got to me, and stopped, as if waiting for me to get out of his way. I didn’t; I just smiled politely at him. He finally walked around me, clearly annoyed that I hadn’t leapt out of his manly path.
Now I’m wishing I’d leapt aside, taken off my jacket and laid it on the floor before him, then bowed deeply and said, “My Liege!”
I also work at a college campus. I smack shoulders sometimes, but I find that if I stare straight ahead and follow the advice below, people get the heck out of the way.
Honestly this post changed how I carry myself when walking alone in public, or in a situation where I’m the one leading. People definitely move for the murder gaze.
Confirmed. I once had to rush back inside a convention hall as the con was closing in order to a retrieve a sick friend’s medication, and I didn’t understand why people in the crowd were jumping out of my way (literally—one guy vaulted a table) until I realized I was dressed as the Winter Soldier and doing the Murder Walk because that’s just how I walk in those boots. I got the meds, got out, and made a mental note.
I repeated the experiment later, wearing the boots but otherwise my usual clothing and mimicking the expression I thought I’d had at that moment. People parted like I was Charlton Heston.
I now wear that style of boots whenever possible. I recently had a man do a double-take as I walked by and ask me, politely, where I had served because I “looked like a soldier.” I’m not current or former military. I was wearing a flowy purple peasant top and looked as un-soldierlike as possible.
Moral of the story: wear comfortable shoes, square your shoulders, and walk like you’ve been sent to murder Captain America.
WALK LIKE YOU’VE BEEN SENT TO MURDER CAPTAIN AMERICA
It’s called the Murder Strut.
IT’S BACK!!!!!! I was searching for this to show my daughter the other day and couldn’t find it. I’m so glad IT’S BACK!! I will always reblog the Murder Strut!!
A guy on a bike went around me because he could tell I had no intention of moving. Thanks to this post.
One day and I bumped into a guy while doing the Murder Strut and he apologized to me even though I was the one who had bumped into him.
It works wonders.
In case you were wondering, yes you can do this in a wheelchair. Same look in your eyes and let ‘em know you will run them down. Just picture yourself in a sports car accelerating towards someone with the intention of flattening them.
If there’s anything more satisfying than watching Abled men leap out of my way when they realize I’m not moving for them, I can’t think of it atm.
Walk like you’ve been sent to murder Captain America.
Wheel like you’re gonna win the Indy 500 and don’t care how.
Your crutches are short swords; walk like you can see them buried in the bodies of anyone who crosses (in front of) you.
Tumblr: teaching women how to be Moses and part the fucking Red Sea with the power of their minds.
I had never seen these updates to the Patriarchy Chicken Game before and they are all a goddam DELIGHT
bullet deflecting bracelets ♥
I’m a blue moon
Since I stepped right out the womb
every time a man says “prostitution is just like any other job, ladies!” ask him if he’d prefer to get fucked in the ass by multiple strangers every day instead of standing at a cash register
I went to an anti prostitution talk by Julie Bindel and some smart ass in the audience was like “well I don’t want to work at McDonalds but I have to, a job is a job” and she said “okay would you rather work there or be fucked in the ass every day?” and he stuttered and delayed and tried to excuse himself but in the end had to admit he would rather work at McDonalds and she was like “see you do know there’s a difference, it just suits you to pretend there isn’t”
I love Julie Bindel
It just suits you to pretend there isn’t
He wasn’t expecting a woman to be so frank.
This works on multiple levels. If the man was straight, he would likely not admit he’d put up with being fucked in the arse because homophobia.
He has to pick McDonald’s to save face.
He has to examine how much worse it would be to be fucked in the arse instead.
He has to consider how he feels, as a man. As a human. He wouldn’t like being fucked in the arse. By strange men.
That’s level one.
Furthermore, he might realise that comparing “sex” with being fucked for money isn’t entirely accurate. Bindel didn’t offer him the option to penetrate women for money. She offered him the option of being penetrated.
He might well think that penetrating women he doesn’t find attractive isn’t that much of a hardship.
But in making him the passive partner to an assumed male client, “sex” isn’t what he’s selling. Suddenly it’s his bodily integrity.
Men often think prostituted women enjoy the sex they are being paid to endure. That it’s a series of not very good sexual encounters similar to those he might have experienced himself. Sub-optimal, but harmless.
Imagining himself being used by men, specifically for anal sex, destroys the image of the gigolo in his head and makes him into a wank sock. It’s servicing a client, not a mutual endeavour.
It’s not all internalised homophobia of course. That’s a part of it. It’s just the realisation that “that actually sounds really horrible and not enjoyable at all” combined with the unfortunate but sadly all too common “I couldn’t relate to that when it was about someone different to me. Now you’ve painted a picture with me actually in it, I can see.”
But in making him the passive partner to an assumed male client, “sex” isn’t what he’s selling. Suddenly it’s his bodily integrity.
And you need her and she needs you