listen to me. timothée chalamet as james farrow. imagine the power.
Interesting conversation I had with my grandma where she realized she’s probably somewhere on the aro/ace spectrum. She never took interest in boys OR girls until my great grandma was like “that soldier boy who keeps seeing you when he’s on leave is pretty cute” so she started dating my grandpa. She didn’t really give a fuck about marriage but they were, in her words, “necking at the drive in all the time” so her dad was basically like listen if you’re gonna keep boinking you gotta get married, so she was like whatever doesn’t bother me one way or the other I guess. When I explained asexuality to her she was like “huh, kind of sounds like me. That just wasn’t a thing I’d ever heard of”
Oh wow…. just read that Florence isn’t asexual and people who say she is don’t understand what’s happening in the book and they should remember the story happens in the 60s.
Yes, of course, asexuality wasn’t happening in the 60s. And I, as an alloromantic asexual, don’t get what’s happening there. Of course. Good luck with your life then.
Maybe you don’t understand asexuality - think about this scenario.
Trauma isn’t always intense flashbacks and panic attacks.
Sometimes it’s being unable to sleep at 2 AM because you forgot to lock something and you think that your parent is going to ransack your shit. Sometimes it’s lying awake, trying to muffle your screams of pain into your pillow because you wonder what you did to make the person who was supposed to love you hate everything you do. Sometimes it’s being afraid to speak because you’re convinced that it’ll end so badly.
Trauma is different for every victim or survivor. Whether they live with it still or not. Whatever your trauma is, it was never your fault. I promise.
wtf is up with fanfiction writers saying “oh, yeah, this character is asexual”, but then the entire fic is hardcore smut????? like, i know some asexual people have sex. but in these fkn fics, it’s like “hi, im ace”, and in the next sentence: “wow you’re so gorgeous and i am expressing strong sexual attraction toward you”
like????? why say that the character is asexual if you’re not going to show that in ANY way? just to get “progressive points”? i seriously don’t get it.
literally stop it. people read these things and think: oh, so someone saying they’re asexual is really just them being quirky, actually they all really want to have sex"
yes, SOME ace people have sex! but it’s called a spectrum for a reason, and you can’t assume that an asexual person would have sex the same way an allosexual person would. everybody’s different. asexual means no sexual attraction to others, which doesn’t include not liking sexual pleasure. however, once again, being like “this character is ace” but still using dialogue and text to entirely refute that notion is not cool.
please, let’s be better and educate ourselves about our ace friends. they go through enough shit as it is.
Wouldn’t it be nice? To have someone that will worry about you because you sleep so late. To have someone that understands your humor, your quirkiness. To have someone that will call you and wait until you are asleep after hearing his voice. To have someone that will hold you while you are sharing your dreams.
Wouldn’t it be nice? To have someone that cares.