I personally wanna see less ‘you are not a burden/it’s not work to love you’ and more 'you are worth the work it takes to love you.’ I KNOW I’m a burden sometimes. that isn’t such a terrible thing! humans are strong. we can carry burdens. and it is work for me to be there for my friends, but it’s work I’m willing to do.
we need to acknowledge this because pretending love isn’t work will never make people like me feel less guilty for accepting love. we need to talk about it so people don’t feel bad for having boundaries and not always being up to do the work. we need to accept it so we can properly appreciate what others do for us and what we’re doing for them.
yes it does take work to love you. but guess what? you still deserve love, and you deserve people who are willing to do the work to love you. it doesn’t make you bad. all love take work. and everyone is worth it.
Not just transgender, but anyone. If i ever call you he/she/they and it’s wrong, like yeah call me out.
Dark AU: What if Vic hadn’t run from the Wraith at Lake House.
Some of my spooky island!
Rutger Bregman is the Dutch historian who became a global sensation after an appearance at this year’s Davos summit, where he accused attending billionaires of ignoring taxation. Now he has created another viral moment in an extremely uncomfortable interview with Fox News’s Tucker Carlson.
Bregman so riled Carson with his accusations of hypocrisy, critiques of Fox’s conservative agenda, and attacks on Donald Trump that the TV host called him a “moron” and angrily told him: “Go fuck yourself.”
Lot more people around the world are going to watch this now than if it actually aired. Speaking truth to power is the best viral content!
Always re-post this.
This didn’t air so I reblogged to make sure people got to see it anyway.
Isabelle decided to inspect my garden today than asked for a boost up to try and recruit my newest garden resident to her island.
(I might do more of these if people like them.)
Made my fresh tea from my lemon balm plant. So cathartic and delicious with a touch of honey.
I’m all in favour of LGBT reimaginings of popular media, but with respect to some of the Labyrinth fan-castings I’ve seen floating around lately, there’s really no getting away from the fact that the Goblin King is a sexual predator.
Like, that’s the straight-up text of the film, and it’s not especially subtle about it.*
I’m not saying gay people can’t be villains, but the whole point of Jareth is that his attraction toward Sarah is sick, and her rejection of him represents a triumph of good over evil – it’s very much a film born of the Stranger Danger narrative that was all over popular media in the 1980s. I’m sure it’s possible to do a same-gender version of that without falling down the slippery slope of Unfortunate Implications, but it doesn’t feel like that concern is even on the radar in a lot of these proposals.
* Though the subtext isn’t slacking off, either. Remember the scene where Sarah first encounters Jareth, where he starts fondling a crystal ball, smirkingly invites her to play with it, then snarls and thrusts a snake in her face when she declines? That ain’t the reading-too-much-into-the-curtains kind of symbolism!
I feel like it’s more complicated than that, though? like… I feel like being a cis man there’s some nuance you’re missing?
CW: Long meta, rape mention, frank discussion of Problematic Teenage Fantasy Boyfriends
Labyrinth is pretty clearly a Symbolic Coming-Of-Age Story ™ about the Role Of Fantasy in the life of a Young Woman, right? it’s about how you need to have a healthy relationship with fantasy. you can’t let it push away the people you love, you can’t let it control you or blind you to what’s there. but it can help you make lasting friends, and when you need it most- for any reason at all- it’s there.
it’s pretty much text that everything in Labyrinth is part of Sarah’s imaginary world. Everything in the Labyrinth is either something she sought out and loves- her plushies and statuettes, her music boxes and books- or some part of herself, some want or fear or dream, given form.
And a lot of girls like Sarah- bookish, daydreamy, intellectually gifted but emotionally immature girls who’ve been steeped in a lot of crap about relationships from the world we live in - have a Fantasy Lover who looks and acts a lot like Jareth.
He’s Intense and kind of scary– because when you’re at that age, anything to do with romance or sex is intense and scary. He’s passionately, obsessively devoted to you, because it feels good to be needed and a teenager hasn’t got the life experience to realize that IRL that kind of obsessiveness is a red flag. He’s an older man- sometimes much older- so that he knows what he’s doing and can show you what to do, but he’s as pretty and graceful as an age-appropriate crush would be. He’s Flawed and Broody and a bad boy- but it’s blatantly obvious that he has good qualities; he will gladly make a fool of himself dancing just to make a baby smile.
And the Fantasy Lover is often… yes… kinda predatory. He’s a vampire, or a werewolf, or a Phantom, or a Goblin King. He comes onto you, not the other way around; he chases you, and you run for a while before falling into his arms and being Ravished. He leads when you dance; he tells you “do everything I say, and I will be your slave”.
But there’s a reason for this. in modern American society- and this was even more true back when Labyrinth was being filmed- women are not supposed to want sex. even having fantasies about having a passionate lover you sought out that you want can get a bit ~taboo~. and if you’re a teenager- especially if you’re a sheltered teenager with no female friends or family, no one to tell you that what you want is okay and normal- it can feel weird and bad and scary to fantasize about, well, initiating consensual sex. you don’t feel like you’re allowed to; Nice Girls don’t.
so oftentimes, the Fantasy Lover blurs into rape fantasy territory. he knows exactly what you want and he gives it to you, no matter how many times you say no. you deny yourself any agency within the context of your fantasy, but since it’s just a fantasy, you’re having your cake and eating it too– after all, you can stop whenever you like. you still get to be a Nice Girl, a Good Girl- you didn’t do anything wrong, even in your own head- but you get all the poorly-choreographed Imaginary Romance Bodice-Rippin’ you want.
normally, this is a pretty harmless coping mechanism. the thing is… “denying herself her own agency” is one of Sarah’s big flaws.
She tends to immediately deny that she made bad decisions, to act like bad things just happen to her because It’s Not Fair, to balk when there’s a problem she can’t immediately solve. heck, selling Toby to the Goblin King in the first place is sort of a backhanded denial-of-agency – she doesn’t want anything bad to happen to Toby even though she resents his existence, oh no no no, it was the Goblin King that stole the baby.
And Sarah’s never in any real danger from Jareth. the snake scared her, but it didn’t bite; the poisoned peach would have made her lose her memory and stay in her fantasy world forever, which is something that Sarah knows is bad, but still kinda wants on some level. at their final confrontation, he doesn’t try to kill her, doesn’t try to fight her– because he can’t.
Jareth is Sarah’s Fantasy Lover. He can’t do anything that Sarah doesn’t want him to. he’s predatory because Sarah wants him to be, because then she doesn’t have to accept that she wants sex and romance; she can pretend it’s just another thing that happens to her. the reason Jareth is so out of control in the text is that Sarah has given away all control.
the final confrontation in Labyrinth, isn’t Good Versus Evil in the sense that you mean; it isn’t Sarah destroying Jareth forever, or kicking him out of the land. Hell, he shows up at the end in barn owl form, while all the muppets are having a dance party in Sarah’s bedroom– he’s a part of her inner, fantastic world, and has just as much right to be there as Ludo or Hoggle or the little dudes with the ostrich hats. but he’s only a part of that world, and he’s not the part that matters most, or the part that has say.
their final confrontation is Sarah accepting, and taking responsibility for, her inner life. she is the one in charge of her destiny; she wants what she wants, she needs what she needs, and she will take responsibility for both. she doesn’t need Jareth to do things “to” her so she can pretend she doesn’t want them to happen. her will is as strong as Jareth’s, and her kingdom as great. he has no power over her.
so like…I get where you’re coming from with recognizing the Unfortunate Implications and all. “Gay people are sexual predators” is still A Thing, and in the real world, yeah, Jareth would be a creepy pedo stalker. assuming our civilization survives and all, I hope that someday people look at Labyrinth the way we look at Baby, It’s Cold Outside and completely miss the point. :V
…but c’mon. a kid who grows up being told that they don’t really want the things they want– and if they do want those things, they’re Literally Satan– is gonna have so very much more trouble accepting their own sexuality as they get older.
you can’t tell me that there aren’t plenty of queer teenagers out there who have the same problem denying their own agency, magnified and exacerbated by the fact that they’re queer. or that plenty of us didn’t want the goblin king to come take us away, and didn’t really understand why until much, much later.
As a not-a-cis-man person, I agree heavily with Mal’s analysis here. I think it’s telling, also, that the biggest fans I personally know of Labyrinth are all women, many of whom were in their teens or older when it came out.
Speaking as a cishet woman who was 16 or 17 when Labyrinth was released, @earlgraytay’s analysis is very accurate. Jareth is creepy, controlling, and a stalker. And obsessively romantic and stunningly handsome. To a teen girl, especially a teen girl of the 80s when sex was something to be taken from you, that if you felt desire it was solely for (male) consumption and for the male gaze? Jareth, or any other FICTIONAL predatory monster, was enticing. You were overcome and swept away, you couldn’t be blamed for succumbing to the charismatic monster.
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH HAVING THOSE FANTASIES. Just … learn they should be FANTASIES, not relationship templates.
We Rebuild Inside, Then Out
Pairing: Sam Flynn/Tron
Story: You need to rebuild yourself before you can rebuild a world. Sam has to help Tron remember how to trust and forgive before they can make the Grid what it was always supposed to be. Slowly progressing Tron/Sam.
So my best friend Jenny Hanniver asked me, who spent most of her childhood on the circus, what the Avengers would do if they were all on a real circus. Or more like casting people I knew as a kid/teenager as Avengers. So…you can blame Jenny for all of this. Here we go!
‘The Dare Devils’
Bucky and Steve
Acts: Globe of Death
https://binged.it/2DHnpjZ (side note, this is the only photo I’m including cause I found one of my family friends the Urias family for the globe <3 )
Wheel of Death
Side Note: Bucky is the asshole who is always on his motorcycle, even between shows.
Tiger Trainer (cause you gotta be in control and cool as a cucumber or you get eater, nuff said.)
Bear Trainer (because that man would hug a bear like another family friend I knew <3 )
Loki: Arabian Horse trainer (…look, it suits his personality.)
Elephant trainer. (Cause he’s sweet to everyone including his big babies but if you mess with his elephants or the circus performers you’ll get a bullhook up your ass.)
Gamora, Shuri and Peter
Highwire ( Peter does a pretty decent slack wire when the ceilings are too low for highwire)
Tumbling Act (they are always practicing between shows though cause Gamora hates how much the other screw around during the act. You shouldn’t have the build the human tower 3 times guys)
The Pym’s and Scott Lang:
Flying Act (Depending on how annoying Scott is that day Hank, as the catcher will sometimes randomly drop the younger man on the net instead of catching him. But he catches and launches his wife and daughter like they’re angels. If you’ve never seen a pissed off flying act acrobat climbing back up to the platform that is legit angry Scott at Hank)
Natasha and Clint:
(This is where things get funny. There is always a small group of performers who are the jack of all trades. That’s these two.)
Living Statue Act
Cotton Candy Sellers
(You think they’re all 10 of them but it’s just these two doing massive costume changes who have more caffeine than blood in their system.)
Ringmaster who will not let you touch the pyro, music or lightshow cause that is all his job, don’t fucking touch it!
He’s lost at least 4 top hats by behing an asshole to Bucky and Steve while standing in the center of the Globe of Death.
Circus Owner (Only man who could stay owning running 'that’ circus)
Prop Manager/Show Manager (Nothing happens on that arena floor or lot that he is not aware of)
And There Ya Go! The Avengers as if they were performers at a real classic circus! Thank you for coming to my weird nerdy fever dream Ted Talk! (Yes, I will answer any real circus life or act questions you have!)
Two months ago I had this idea of wanting to make my first proper plushies so that I can fulfill my wish as a huge fan of the Good Omens series. I decided to make it happen with the support from the amazing people around me. During the two months process, it was quite overwhelming and exhausting, there were times I thought it couldn’t work out. But in the end, I’ve managed to pull through and the outcome became successful!
I’m so glad it’s bringing joy to the rest of the fans as well. Now I can finally wrap up this project for good! Thank you everyone for sticking by during the process and I hope those who have pre-ordered will be filled with joy when receiving in October-November! 🥂
For those who are interesting in getting these, please wait for my announcement in the last week of August! This project preorder has already closed but I might have some extras! So please wait till further notice, thank you!
I’ts just my opinion, Erik. But if you maybe introduced yourself or kissed the girl instead of showing her a mannequin of herself in a wedding dress during Music of the Night maybe you’d have a girlfriend instead of arson and murder charges against you. Homegirl knew you weren’t her father and if her insta application of smokey eyeshadow between her place and yours was anything to go off of, she was down with it.
Since most of the TV productions of Neil’s work have had little Easter eggs mixed in them I think Sandman needs a specific one. I need Tori Amos’ ‘Tear in Your Hand’ to show up if only for the 'hanging with Neil and the Dream King’ line. Also cause Tori Amos.
It’s like Beetlejuice left the musical door open with a, ‘Come on guys, her defenses are down!’ And every one of my old musical favorites came creeping back. Then there’s Phantom which just strode right back in with avengeance…