fundamentally i truly don’t believe in equating worth to appearance and i don’t believe anyone is ugly but some of you really need to ask yourselves is this person attractive and talented or are they just a white man
if you’re writing a story and your villain has (or is) dissociative identity disorder then your art is bad and you should feel bad.
you know how straight people are really terrible at telling gay jokes because they don’t understand what the actual funny parts of being gay are?
Yeah people without DID who try to use the disorder for horror/thriller purposes fail at it because they don’t understand how DID actually effects people and their lives and behavior and relationships
In fact every piece of dramatic media I can think of that depicts DID kinda relies on the audience not understanding how DID actually works
And if the audience being educated ruins their suspension of disbelief, you’ve fucked up
And if you have to demonize highly vulnerable abuse survivors to create drama, you might not have any business writing fiction to begin with
Fictional DID is always depicted as dangerous to everyone but the person with the disorder and it makes me wonder what amount of research is acceptable in Hollywood and TV these days
like in Split they’re all “different alters have different biological realities” as some kind of edgy “what if the hulk but real” thing, and as far as I know, the idea that different alters have different physiologies is not accepted by modern psychology, and was likely falsified by an extremely abusive, immoral, and sadistic psychologist who gave his patients dangerous experimental drugs just to see how they would react, and then when the patients complained of trouble breathing or heart problems, this doctor told the nurses that it was all part of ~multiple personality disorder~ so that they wouldn’t like. I don’t know. Tell someone that this doctor was poisoning his patients in a wholly unscientific manner for apparent shits and giggles.
So yeah, that such a good sign for that movie huh?? //sarc
Look I don’t have DID, but I did live with someone who did for a year. It barely affected me. The person told me because they assumed I would notice something odd if we were living together, but tbh if he hadn’t I probably wouldn’t have thought anything except maybe that he was forgetful and disorganized.
I only ever knowingly interacted with one alter, who a psychologist might describe as an “angry part”, as sometimes alters experience limited emotions and are classified as “emotional parts”. This is the kind of alter that movies like Split want you to think is a rage-crazy murder monster with no impulse control.
The real-life “angry alter” my roommate had? I mean he was kind of a dick. He always seemed generally pissed off but he wasn’t a threat to me. I think he maybe wasn’t very nice to my roommate but since that happened internally I never saw, I could only guess. Hardly a hulk-like sex murderer.
And actually the majority times I talked to this alter I didn’t even know it. Because usually he made a point of acting like my roommate so that no one would give the system any trouble. Because DID is a highly specialized, involuntary coping mechanism created to protect a victim of trauma or abuse. Alters form so that the victim can continue with their life and grow and develop. If all alters were dangerous volatile monsters that you could easily tell the difference between at a glance, they wouldn’t be a very effective defense mechanism.
So I would talk to my roommate as usual, and then like an hour later he would be like “whoa how long have I been gone, what was my body doing all day” and I would be like uhhh I literally don’t know dude if you hadn’t said that I wouldn’t have realized you weren’t the one fronting all day.
In Split it’s like “if I lose control of my alters they kidnap and murder people!!!” and meanwhile in reality it’s more like….. System needed to go to class today but Alter B was fronting when it was time to leave for class and they didn’t feel like going, so the whole system missed out on class and that sucks.
And when alters do hurt people its…. pretty much always the body of the system. There are suicidal and self-harming alters for sure. But I’ve never found a medically or scientifically valid article or study about homicidal alters. And certainly not alters who carry out complex kidnapping plots of multiple people.
And obviously fiction that demonizes any mental illness makes the world a more dangerous place for people with that mental illness, and I’ve even met mental health workers who believed the horror movie depiction of DID and thought my roommate was going to kill me. That is a serious problem. It’s one thing for Average Joe to think Split is a legit portrayal of DID, but when the people whose job it is to help mentally ill people believe this?? At best it’s going to be harder for systems to find the help they need. At worst, the mental health system becomes hostile and dangerous to those with DID.
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Research and sensitivity writers. I cannot stress how important they are.
I need my black fic writers to gather on this post. If ANYONE could pull this off it’s y’all. We always want more representation and I know we’re tired of trauma porn and this has never been done. What y’all think?
This is for everyone saying Hamas broke the ceasefire, because at this point my mental health is in shambles and I am just so, so tired. Just because that’s what the media you’re consuming tells you doesn’t mean it’s true.
It’s 2021 and there is quite literally thousands of videos and photos recorded by Palestinians living in Gaza and the West Bank who risk their lives to film them to show the word the truth of what they’re going through and what they’ve lost. There is so much evidence on instagram accounts like @eye.on.palestine and @theimeu and @paliroots and even @shaunking among others, for you to just choose to nitpick what fits your narrative.
The same people who say acab will turn around and support isra*l and that will never not blow my mind. You’re just as bad as the people you hate.
Fyi the incendiary balloons that were in response to everything shown in the photos, would only cause fires that are very easily put out. They would never in a million years cause as much damage and death as millions of dollars in high tech missiles.
[ID: a tweet by paracals reading “Israel is bombing Gaza again by the way. Israel called the ceasfire because they were being watched but now that people are ignoring Palestine again, they’re continuing to massacre Palestinian people. Israel cares more about optics, not Palestinians. Palestine needs help.”
Instagram post by diet_prada reading “Israeli forces said the strikes were carried out in response to the "arson balloons launched from Gaza into Israel.” Hamas said the arson balloons were in response to the “Jerusalem Flag March” by Israeli nationalists in occupied East Jerusalem. Groups at the march chanted “May your village burn,” “Death to Arabs,” and “Jerusalem is ours.”“
Tweet by @Remroum reading "Since the "ceasfire,” Israel has: ~Executed Palestinians ~Shot live fire, tear gas and stun grenades at Palestinians ~Assaulted journalists ~Conducted mass arrests ~Expanded settlements ~Bulldozed homes and structures ~Beat marathon runners" end ID]
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(Image description: four images of the pink and orange lesbian pride flag with pink text in white boxes, together the text reads: “Trans lesbians are an important part of the lesbian community. Trans lesbians are an important part of lesbian history. The future of the lesbian community is radically inclusive. Trans women are real women and all lesbians are real lesbians.”)
to the people who write step-sibling or adoptive sibling romance because they’re not “real” siblings and it’s not as “controversial” as blood sibling “romance” i’m straight up killing you
#incest tw #stop invalidating people's sibling relationships just bc they're not blood related pls #they are still part of the family
TL;DR: Nestle argued they could not be sued for funding, overseeing, and profiting from a system of child slavery in Africa because the conduct did not occur in the U.S. The Supreme Court ruled in Nestle’s favor.
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What's your characters' most precious item/object?
Answer:
This ask made me realize that most of my characters are really not materialistic at all. Closest I can think of is one of the main characters in my latest WIP adores her pet snakes, which her brother gave to her. :)
not 2 sound whiny but i wish more attention was given to the importance of art and literature and philosophy and other humanities again so they’ll return to being a really great part of what shapes a decade or an era instead of being seen as useless because they don’t fit into the capitalist ideal of a productive society
last night my mom and i were talking about Lost, the first show (in)famous for its 50% flashback/50% current story structure, and it helped me articulate what i mean by one of my personal favorite writing guidelines/preferences/adages: a chronological story usually takes a lot more skill and discipline than a story written with flashbacks.
there are multiple schools of thought on flashbacks. many people prefer seeing a flashback to the character sitting down and telling you something about their life. a lot of writers (hacks and otherwise) say flashbacks are lazy. i would never go as far as to say all flashbacks are always lazy, but i really wish more writers would be more intentional about flashbacks instead of using them as a first resort for exposition. usually i’d agree that showing something in action is better than telling in dialogue, but that’s not necessarily true with flashbacks because writers often forget that the narrative agency must be with the character, not the writer.
expositional flashbacks are the reason why all flashbacks get generalized into “lazy writing.” all stories require exposition, and oftentimes adult characters have a backstory that informs the way they are now. but does that necessarily mean we have to see what happened to them? i don’t think so. at their weakest, flashbacks are dropped into a narrative because the narrative wants us to know what happened Back Then. we are given little context and mostly unfamiliar characters we’re not invested in.
this does not work for every character, especially those who are withdrawn, misunderstood, or a source of intrigue. not every character is ready to share their experiences or receive information conveyed in flashbacks at the beginning of their arc. they have to develop. jaime lannister tells brienne his side of the kingslayer story three seasons/books in, and it’s regarded as one of his best scenes. why? because we watched him grow close enough with someone to choose to tell her (and us) that story, and it adds nuance to both his character and the history of his world. this is much stronger than flashbacks in later seasons of the show, where bran becomes a vessel to give us plot-serving information. had bran sufficiently developed his skills of prophecy to actively seek out information about his family, he would’ve had agency in showing us those flashbacks.
so before you write a flashback, ask yourself if 1) we really need to know, and 2) you are telling us or the character is telling us. if yes and yes, write away. if not, consider scrapping it and showing us in a different way. i promise the writing will be stronger.
for writing and general life purposes: depicting someone who is drowning as screaming for help in the water is deadly and inaccurate. if you are drowning, you do not have enough strength to breathe and keep yourself afloat, and certainly do not have enough lung capacity to scream loud enough for someone on shore or on a pool deck to hear. the most someone will be able to see of you might be your head or hands breaching the surface. make sure you keep that in mind as you swim and write!
No offense but women should be allowed to talk about the horrible effects makeup had on their self esteem and how the beauty industry in general affects women in general without having to put ten thousand disclaimers coddling the feelings of women who like winged eyeliner
You know maybe amatonormativity exists but it’s hard to say that when I’m 90% sure gay people were not being encouraged to seek out relationships by the wider culture until maybe 2005-ish
what’s amatonormativity?
A Tumblr-based sociological theory that boils down to “compulsory alloromanticism” but I’ve also seen it defined to include monogamy as another expectation under the header of amatonormativity
Amatonormativity is not tumblr based- it was not created on tumblr nor was it popularised on tumblr. Amatonormativity was not even coined by asexual people or with asexual people in mind exclusively.
Amantonormativity was coined by feminist academic Elizabeth Brake in her book “Minimising Marriage” to refer to:
the assumptions that a central, exclusive, amorous relationship is normal for humans, in that it is a universally shared goal, and that such a relationship is normative, in that it should be aimed at in preference to other relationship types. (Source)
Amatornormativity doesn’t just affect asexual and aromantic people. Whilst it’s often asexual and aromantic people you see talking about amatonormativity (because we become hyper aware of it due to how it affects us), it actually impacts the lives of people of all orientations, including LGBT+ people.
Amatonormativity in practice is…
The assumption that all single people are unhappy with their status and looking not to be single.
“Coming of age” milestones often revolving around romantic accomplishments (first kiss, first crush, first love, marriage, etc).
Non romantic partnerships (sexual or platonic) being looked down upon.
A sort of relationship hierarchy where marriage is at the top and everything else falls somewhere below it.
The expectation for romantic partners to be more important than jobs, hobbies or other commitments in a person’s life. And the belief that people who choose to pursue the former are selfish.
People who are not seeking exclusive romantic relationships being seen as less mature, stable, trustworthy or settled.
The structuring of laws and society on the basis that eventually everyone will be in a committed romantic partnership (marriage).
The toxic idea of a “friendzone” (which of course, overlaps with misogyny), where friendship with a woman is seen as “second prize” to a relationship with her.
People settling for someone they’re not really happy with or compatible with just to fulfil the desire or expectation to have a partner.
Non-aromantic asexual people trying to normalise their orientation by saying they can still “fall in love” or “have relationships” “just like anyone else”.
Asexual people or people who don’t feel attraction to anyone feeling pressured to seek out and enter into relationships.
And much more…
Violations of amatonormativity would include dining alone by choice, putting friendship above romance, bringing a friend to a formal event or attending alone, cohabiting with friends, or not searching for romance. (Source)
Also the way turning down a request for a date, while single, is often viewed as some sort of terrible insult instead of an analysis of poor compatibility.
Also the idea that it’s wrong to break up with someone unless they’ve done something objectively terrible enough to “deserve it” rather than because the relationship isn’t doing anything for you.
It also encourages people to stay in abusive relationships because it pushes being in a relationship is the highest priority/being alone is terrible.
american leftists seem extremely focused on anti imperialism (good) but rarely- if at all- discuss decolonization in their own fucking country, despite acknowledging that it is a settler colonial state.
im serious about this though. as an urban indian, i definitely cant speak on this as much as a rez indian could. but i know from talking to rez friends i have and from what the american indian movement has screamed for over the years that we need land we can grow on, we need clean water, we need to allow the wildlife that once lived in this land to live here again (meaning you need to listen to us before building those high speed rails you all get so hard over).
you cant drool over the zapatistas while ignoring people in your own country who have a similar goal
silly me I never provided things to read on the topic of decolonization! I’d personally suggest the following as “beginner level” essential reading to understand decolonization:
Discourse on Colonialism (Aimé Césaire) - this is more a focus on colonization, but I feel it’s a necessary read in my opinion as in order to understand decolonization I believe it’s important to first understand colonization.
Wretched of the Earth (Franz Fanon)
Decolonization is Not a Metaphor (Tuck, Yang)
also an “easy to process” read, to understand landback specifically here in Turtle Island, I’d suggest reading The Red Deal (there is a pdf, I don’t mean the article with the same title)
being in your 20s is like: i’m so young i’m so old. i should do everything i should rest. i can do what i want but i need to be careful. i’m an Adult™ but i need help from an Adult™. i’m so smart i’m so stupid. i’m leaving i feel left behind. i want to be a kid again and i can’t wait to be old. i’ve done a lot i’ve done nothing. i wanna be alone but i’m so lonely. like…. what the hell ??
The moment a movement becomes commercialized, it dies.
“When Madonna came out with her hit “Vogue” you knew it was over. She’d taken a very specifically queer, transgender, Latino and African-American phenomenon and totally erased that context with lyrics about how “It makes no difference if you’re black or white, if you’re a boy or a girl.” Madonna was taking in tons of money, while the Queen who actually taught her how to vogue was sitting on a table in front of me, broke. So if anybody requested “Vogue” or any other Madonna track, I just told them, “No, this is a Madonna-free zone! And as long as I’m DJ-ing, you will not be allowed to vogue to the decontextualized, reified, corporatized, liberalized, neutralized, asexualized, re-genderized pop reflection of this dance floor’s reality!"“
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