ok well while im having opinions tonight, i got another one ppl probably arent gonna be happy abt. tme trans ppl LOVE to copy trans women—obviously if u want a “silly” example, the recent catboy (similar to how trans women have joked abt catgirls for like decades) jokes started up a little after trans women pointed out how all the “f*mboy” jokes and shit are transmisogynist bc the term itself is a transmisogynistic term coined to refer to (and simultaneously misgender) trans women. and it’s been sort of a joke abt how like, “e-girl fashion” is basically just stereotypical trans girl fashion but cis girls wear it too now…
and as an obvious example, how abt all of the tme trans ppl who refer to themselves as “trans women” or “trans lesbians” so they can claim they understand transmisogyny? and like, even take the t slur. im not personally gonna say that tme ppl CANT use it, full stop, but…. it absolutely is aimed at trans women—just do a cursory google image search if u dont believe me, see the proportion of transfems to transmascs that show up (u can do the same with f*mboy if u dont believe me abt that either). if you’re tme and you DO decide to use it, you better be aware of the fact that its loaded with transmisogyny, and that if it does get aimed at u, its bc of tme trans ppl’s proximity to trans women
and then many trans tme ppl will want to appropriate trans women’s experiences to relieve their own dysphoria, like that time a transmasc told a gendercritical reddit group that he’s a trans woman so that they’d call him a man (i dont remember the specifics, but… pretty sure that was what happened) and like… ngl ive noticed some nonbinary tme ppl basically attach to the aesthetic of “non-passing” trans women specifically because that aesthetic is degendered/othered by society. which is.. not great, folks. shouldn’t have to explain that one.
and like, remember when the bathroom bills were big in the news, and there was a trend of passing trans men taking selfies in the women’s room to point out how masculine they looked, and how that didnt make sense to make them use the women’s room? those bills were literally not targeting trans men, literally no one was trying to fearmonger abt trans men being r*pists and shit. the bills were targeting trans women, but trans men took it as an excuse to get in the news, and show off and shit. and that just reinforced to the public the idea that these bills werent specifically transmisogynistic.
and look, im not saying that if you’ve done/are doing these things you’re like, an irredeemable person. esp for one of the small things like the catboy thing, which isnt rlly a “bad” thing so much as like… a trend im pointing out. but if you’re transmisogyny-exempt (TME)—and if ur not a trans woman, then you ARE tme—you literally do benefit from transmisogyny, and what im trying to point out is how one of the ways you benefit is by the appropriation of things trans women have “made cool” or cherry-picking the ways society mistreats trans women bc that mistreatment isnt actually targeting you.