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Men are seemingly obsessed with the size of their penis. Do women prefer length vs girth? Do women like average or huge? Will women break up with a guy because he has a small penis?
Aside from being horribly hetero-normative, these questions reveal an obsession with something that really doesn’t matter to many women, including myself. Generally, men are far more concerned about the size of their penis than women are.
Which one is the ‘ideal’ cock? He has so many to choose from!
There is no ideal cock that all (straight) women will be happy with. What is too long for one woman will be too short for another. Same thing with the thickness.
Studies show us that the average length is just over five inches long. While that means that there are a bunch of longer than five-inch cocks, there are also a lot shorter than five inches. What does this mean? Not a whole lot. Although it does show us that the porn ‘ideal’ is an unrealistic view of penis size.
Many men believe that penis size is correlated with a man’s ability to please a woman. The vast majority of women don’t even orgasm from penetration or penetrative sex alone, needing some sort of direct clitoral stimulation to cum.
A person who cares about his partners pleasure, who can communicate effectively and even follow a bit of direction is going to make a better lover than someone with a big dick alone. Understanding what type of stimulation your partner needs to achieve orgasm and being willing to provide it, through manual stimulation, oral or the use of toys is what will make a man a good sexual partner.
On top of that, many women find that if a partner has a larger than average penis, it can become quite painful to have sex in certain positions or at all. Bigger isn’t always better!
For many women, having a partner who knows how to use his hands and mouth is far more important than the size of his penis. Even better is a partner who isn’t intimidated by sex toys and is willing to use a vibrator with his woman.
Do women gossip about the size of a man’s cock? Is it the first thing they tell their friends, giggling about those who don’t measure up?
While women do often talk about sexual partners and adventures, penis size is more of a passing comment, if it even comes up at all. At least that’s been my experience in the more than 20 years that I’ve been talking about guys with my lady friends.
When women talk, we are much more concerned about the other aspects of the encounter. Was he romantic? Did we get off? How many times? How hot was he? Of course when it comes to BDSM, the conversation gets even further away from the size of his cock. Was he obedient? Dominant? What skills did he have? Does he give a good foot rub?
Of course, for every rule, there is an exception. There are women who do care about the size of a man’s cock. They may have very specific requirements about the penis size of their partner. Usually, they will make this known upfront, so if you don’t measure up, you can move on to someone who will appreciate what you have to offer.
On the flip side, there are some men who enjoy being humiliated for having a small cock – whether they actually have a small one or not. SPH is a somewhat common kink among men who enjoy humiliation play in general. This kink plays off the anxiety that small penises mean you’re less than a man. As with many kinks, what can appear to be hurtful is actually a turn on.
It is important to recognize the difference between people engaging in small penis humiliation as a consensual kink and reality. In reality, shaming a man for the size of his cock is unacceptable and a shitty thing to do. Consensually negotiated SPH can be a lot of fun between trusted partners.
Remember, there is so much more to a man (or a person) than the size of the penis. Women tend to look for the whole package, not just the size of his package. We want a whole person. So no matter what you’re endowed with, you can certainly please a woman sexually – but you’re going to need more skills than just having a big cock.
If it’s too small - Yes it will matter to them and some women believe the bigger the better.
For most men, the size of their penis also matters. In fact, penis size can either boost or break a man’s self-esteem.
But intimacy and technique would have to go first rather than the size. If you know how to make your partner feel very satisfied when you have sex - then the size is not an issue.
The status-quo stereotype is that men are about big, powerful, awe-inspiring stuff; big trucks, powerful football plays, and awe-inspiring bombs. And that pretty much is the case besides for some high-hippies, basement-dwellers, and vegans.
Outside of women, most men are ashamed to show that they are stuck with something small; whether it be their bank account or their tool box –the more massive, the more manly.
Love the moment of the reveal, when the pants come off and he stands there, hopeful, but a little ashamedly, waiting for the world to notice what a wee little one he is packing.
How beautiful his body is and how his little penis is perfectly in balance with his body. It is as small as it is supposed to be and is just right.
It is such a moment of vulnerability and beauty that one can’t help but to be moved.
We love the look of a man with a well proportioned body finished off by a beautiful little penis.
Guys who are significantly smaller than average or low average tend to have fewer partners or avoid sexual relationships altogether. While guys who are larger than average tend to have more partners and easier access to casual sex.
Having a small penis is like having red hair, or speaking with a certain accent, or having a certain skin color - there are going to be people who write you off immediately.
What is the worst thing that could ever happen due to your penis being too small? She will laugh at you? No. She will be unsatisfied sexually? No. The worst possible thing is that she will reject you because of its size. This includes the double-worry that after rejecting you she will tell everyone else, thus making you absolutely undesirable. A rational fear?