hey I saw the bi woman using butch/femme post you reblogged and I just wanted to let you know that bi woman can't use butch/femme. Butch/femme is more than a label, it's part of lesbian culture. An aspect of it is being yourself and dressing and acting how you like But Not For Men, only for other lesbians. It's all about the complete exclusion of men. If bi woman are attracted to men, how can they be part of this culture?
Butch and femme identities have existed since a time when differentiating between lesbians and bi women wouldn’t have been as crucial and common as simply making it known you were a woman interested in other women.
They are not part of a lesbian culture. They’re part of the culture of women who love women.
That is our link and our solidarity. That we are women who love women. Cis women, trans women, lesbians, bi women, pan women, we are all unitied in our love and in our struggle.
When queer bars and groups faced violence and oppression in the past, do you think police and homophobes stopped and said “all the bisexual women here may leave. We’ll only assault the lesbians.” Do you think that’d happen now?
Get a grip. Bi and lesbian history is intrinsically and irrevocably intertwined.
On a personal note, the bi community is precious to me because I identified as bi for years before I realized I’m a lesbian, and my bi community supported me every step of the way and celebrated me when I came out as a lesbian. I don’t identify as bi anymore of course, but that identity was an important stepping stone that will always be a part of me. Many others have gone through the same journey. Others start out identifying as lesbians, then realize they’re bi. Do their butch or femme identities suddenly disappear? Does some lisence get revoked?
For reasons like this, the bi and lesbian communities are again, linked on a fundamental level that can’t be separated.
I appreciate and understand that you see butch and femme as identities which exist to deny the involvement of men.
However, for me, these identities exist to focus on the involvement of women.
That includes bi women.
You’re so focused on a bisexual woman’s attraction to men that you forget her love for women.
You need to learn your own history.