this is not generous, but “fascism” sometimes seems like an alibi for an experience in which a liberal person grasped the antiblack and imperial violence of this state and nation in 2016
the term “fascism” seems descriptive mainly as an invocation of something exceptional or excessive about genocidal mass detention, police killings and targeted underfunding of structurally vulnerable communities
this is for me why so frequently seeing “fascism” invoked in posts about voting is both revealing and frustrating - of course voting is seen as a remedy to “fascism,” because fascism is seen by most rn mainly as a temporary glitch and not this country’s foundational state of existence
remember a couple months ago when nonblack people acted like they care about Black ppl. surreal how quick that died off.
my unemployment ended a bout a month ago & ive exhausted what ive saved on bills and living expenses, im a Black lesbian who lives with immunocompromised elders and any donations towards keeping us well stocked & on top of bills would be appreciated rn bc i have $43 to my name left lol.
im calling on nonblack people who consider themselves allies in keeping Black people out of harms way & believe in righting the wrongs of a world that devalues Black lives & safety/comfort.
^^^ I spent … yeah, a few minutes deciding whether or not I should say anything at all but the sheer, unapologetic manipulation in this post actually blew me away.
Do you see what she did here? This - this right here - is a stunning example of an abusive personality.
She starts mildly, with a tumblr-average level of gaslighting:
“remember a couple months ago when non-black people acted like they care about Black ppl. surreal how quick that died off.”
Now remember that part - it’s important. She starts all this by shaming you, with just a touch of snickering thrown in (that snear/lip-curl). She knew!!! She knew all you racist mofos didn’t care!!!
- and follows by easing the sting of her first slap.
She’s didn’t mean to lash out. She’s just frustrated, and desperate. Her unemployment ended, she’s exhausted what little she’d had saved …
Now that you’ve been softened she circles back around for another slap - not as sharp as the first, light enough that you might not even recognize it for what it is.
And a lesbian.
This, too, is important; she’s established her race and sexuality as untouchable. You argue with her now, and she can use your racism, misogyny and/or homophobia to defend her position.
She’ll double-down that she’s in the right.
Now she follows through with the best part - if you’re an true ally, if you meant it, you’d prove it.
“im calling on nonblack people who consider themselves allies in keeping Black people out of harms way & believe in righting the wrongs of a world that devalues Black lives & safety/comfort.”
You say you’re an ally? You want to prove you’re not racist? That you care about black people, about their lives?
This is a common tactic used in emotional manipulation. She sets up that the fault is yours - all of you reading this - you should feel shamed … and then, she offers you an out.
By linking not one.
But THREE different links with which to send her money.
This … this is classic abusive behavior.
presenting a sound reason for asking for donations from a group of people historically and systematically advantaged of Black LGBT ppl, like me, is not emotional manipulation or abuse. you’re very quick to assign aggression or abuse bc of you’re own guilt and that’s saying something.
Black people need and are right to demand tangible support from nonblack people. simply naming yourselves allies or assigning yourself a good person bc you think positively of Black ppl is not enough. we are significantly impacted and more vulnerable before and SINCE this pandemic started.
taking on a victim role where i didn’t make you one is gaslighting itself. and yeah, you’re a racist. utilizing me outlining some of my identifications as a marginalized person as some abuse tactic is really sick. hope you get help with that.
also, full stop, i am not forcing anyone to donate by asking supposed allies to put their money where their mouth is. demanding tangible accountability doesnt suddenly make a victim an abuser. that’s literally gaslighting me and other Black people who are in vulnerable positions.
you can scroll past & move on with your day. turning me into the Big Bad Negro for an innocuous donation post is extremely racist.