autistic culture is never being quite sure whether you were actually being rude/implying things without meaning to, or some asshole is wildly misinterpreting what you say and then getting mad at you for something completely unrelated to what you actually said
To clarify, now that I’ve looked it up, in the US at least July is specifically ADA Awareness Month. A great thing to do this month is look up laws surrounding pwd and our property.
Some examples:
Grabbing a mobility device (wheelchair, cane, walker, etc) without permission is assault.
Pushing someone’s wheelchair without permission is kidnapping.
Service dog teams are not required to carry any paperwork or certificates with them.
It’s also a good time to look at laws that need to be changed or better enforced:
People on disability income cannot get married without losing their benefits.
People on disability income cannot have more than $2000, including property value (my $300 mattress counts against it), which means they cannot save money if they don’t know about ABLE accounts.
Airlines habitually break the law by mistreating passengers’ wheelchairs.
Accessible construction is still considered an afterthought rather than a cornerstone of design. And no matter what construction companies say, it’s only more expensive to be accessible if you’re tearing up existing features to add ramps and such later, rather than doing it from the get-go.
Disabled people are routinely murdered by doctors who determine that they have no “quality of life” and are better off dead.
All these things disproportionately affect disabled people of color. Educate yourself, attend a virtual town hall meeting if you can, and bring these things up. Make things better.
It’s all OK if you didn’t know, don’t feel bad about it, it’s a great occasion to listen to disabled people! We might not have pretty flags who will catch your attentions like during pride months, but we’re still here!
[ID: three screenshots of tweets, blurred so they’re illegible. ‘photo’ is written over each in large all caps. /end ID]
if you don’t add alt text, a caption, or a link, this is all the information screenreader users get about your screenshots
screenshots of text take an accessible format and make it unaccessible. it takes less clicks to copy the text of a tweet than it does to screenshot and crop it.
hey so July is disability pride month so for wrath i vote we focus on disabled members of the lgbtqia+ community, and making spaces fully accessible bc so fucking often they are not!
[ABLED PEOPLE DO NOT CLOWN ON THIS POST]
a few people have asked: YES this applies to you too! even if you only have 1 disability, even it you have 20 disabilities, even if you are able bodied but otherwise disabled, even if you are NT/not mentally ill and physically disabled
disability pride is for all of us!!!
please spread this too!
hell yeah disabled pride!!! wrath month is here and we’re still queer!!!
sigh. disabled people are allowed to have kids. i hate that this is debated
people, even other disabled ppl sometimes, always argue its cruel. “what if they end up like you? its cruel to do that to a child.”
our existence and the existence of any biological children disabled people have isnt a fucking tragedy. if our kids are disabled too, then thats literally fine. some of you think youre such hot disability advocates and then turn around and parrot eugenicist ideas and its so fucking frustrating to hear.
anyone can have a disabled child. ANYONE. abled people are fully capable of having disabled children, but theyre not told to avoid having kids, or coerced into/forcibly sterilized, or have their children taken even if theyre fully capable of caring for them. yet because a disabled person could pass on a disability, the idea that we could want biological children is suddenly “cruel?” is that the hill youre going to die on? fucking analyze why you think its a tragedy for a disabled child to exist. think about why you hate the idea of disabled people reproducing
abled ppl are encouraged to reblog bc a lot of you need to hear this but i dont wanna hear yr fucking thoughts on the matter i swear to god
Not diagnosing a child doesn’t mean they won’t notice they’re different. It just means that instead of thinking “I’m struggling because I have autism/adhd/anxiety/depression/schizophrenia”, they will just conclude that they are struggling because they are stupid, weak, annoying, unlovable, etc.
Team “I can hear the near silent hum of electrical appliances and the bubbles fizzing in the can of soda on the coffee table, but can’t watch tv without subtitles and processes conversation at ¼ speed”
Yo if you’re a boy with mental illness, a boy with disabilities, a boy who is/was an abuse victim, a boy who has an ED, a boy with trauma, I need you to know that you are not a burden, that you don’t need to “harden up”, that you are very brave, and that you shouldn’t just have to “get over it”.
*SLAMS THAT MOTHERFUCKING REBLOG BUTTON*
*Breaks the motherfucking reblog button*
as OP… the notes on this make feel so happy!!! keep spreading the word, everyone! let boys know that they are strong.
I’m a trans man and I got to see the change in people being like ‘Oh you poor thing I hope you’re coping ok’ to ‘Just get over it, man up’ which has literally been said to me.
Men, you’re allowed to suffer. You’re allowed to seek help to heal. Let yourself have these emotions you’re feeling, they’re as natural as anything else.
This is a really good addition. Men, I love you. You’re gonna be okay and you are allowed to cry, be angry, smile, love. You are allowed to feel, you are allowed to struggle, you are allowed to get help.
Is this person I met yesterday my friend? What about this person I’ve been talking to every day for three months? What about this person I’ve known since middle school? Is friend a title I have to earn? What are the limits of friendship? Is it a static state, make-or-break, or is it some endless dance-dance-revolution style cavalcade of prompts and challenges and social cues I have to hit perfectly to keep it up? Does it bend? Does it break? I don’t fucking know man I just work here.
Direct byproduct of being neurodivergent and growing up isolated from your peergroup is having no idea when it’s appropriate to define someone as your friend
do YOU lack object permanence? have YOU found yourself “tidying things away” only for them never to be seen again? are drawers, the so-called storage solution, actually your enemy?
ask yourself if Sideways Cardboard Boxes™ are right for you!
[id: a small cardboard box turned on its side so that the contents, assorted medications, are clearly visible. end id]
seriously though. once I started storing my stuff in boxes like these instead of drawers or traditional boxes, I immediately stopped losing so much stuff. you can also decorate them if that’s your thing. and if you move a lot? congrats on having some packing done way in advance!
abandonment issues are fucking painful. i hate that the dumbest shit makes me feel like a small, helpless, confused and abandoned kid. it makes me feel like i’m all alone in this universe. it just fucking sucks.
Reminder that “tard” and all variations of it (“fucktard,” “libtard,” etc) are literally just a “PC” way of calling someone a r*t*rd and I’d really appreciate it if my mutuals stopped putting words like that on my dashboard.
I had to get schooled on this one myself a while back; I’d mistakenly assumed it was meant to evoke “bastard”. But nope!
As ever, we learn better, we do better.
The same is true for the ‘reeeeeee’ noise.
^Important addition
Most of the people who say these things absolutely know what they mean, and choose to say them anyway. On the off chance that someone truly does not know what they mean, here’s your chance to learn and do better.
You matter. A lot. You matter so fucking much. You have a purpose. Your life has value. You shouldn’t give up because it gets better. I promise it does even if it seems hopeless. Please stay alive kiddos, please take care of yourself.
You are loved. You have purpose. You have value. You are beautiful. You are worth it. You are so amazing. You are so brave.
u know what makes me cry….. that one van gogh quote about life changing for the better….. “many people seem to think it foolish, even superstitious, to believe that the world could still change for the better. and it is true that in winter it is sometimes so bitingly cold that one is tempted to say, ‘what do i care if there is a summer; its warmth is no help to me now.’ yes, evil often seems to surpass good. but then, in spite of us, and without our permission, there comes at last an end to the bitter frosts. one morning the wind turns, and there is a thaw. and so i must still have hope.” yeah….. Crying….
Wild concept but sometimes other people in the room want to enjoy things too and – bear with me – maybe other people are more important than your convenience
Can any ableds explain to me why some people just straight up refuse to put subtitles on. Like. What does anyone gain from this. How does making it harder for me to understand what’s being said benefit you
please know you are doing your best. if you feel like you’re struggling, like you’re not doing enough, not being enough, not getting anywhere. if you feel unhappy, unmotivated, unproductive. it’s hard. and that is ok. you are doing your best. it’ll look different to what everyone else is doing but that doesn’t matter. you are doing amazing because you are being you.
Fun fact: Executive Dysfunction can and will make you just flat out hate yourself for not doing important things but still won’t allow you to do them because fuck you I guess
One of the things I remember from my childhood is that I was what they’d call a “sensitive child”. A lot of things bothered me and I was prone to feeling bad physically and emotionally, and when I would voice my complaints, my parents and adults around me would often tell me to “stop suffering”, and when I pointed out that without the cause of my suffering stopping, I can also not stop suffering, they’d say “then suffer quietly”.
And I did.
I went through a lot of different hells on my own, without having a single adult I would trust with my feelings, and of course there are many reasons for this, but one of it was the fact that I’ve been taught not to complain if something was hurting me.
And you know what? Fuck that.
As a traumatised adult, I would like to tell y'all who are out there suffering right now, DO COMPLAIN! DO SUFFER LOUDLY! LET THE WORLD KNOW WHAT’S AILING YOU AND LET THE PEOPLE WHO CAN HELP YOU! There is no virtue in bearing your cross in silence, there is no value in not bothering someone else’s status quo just so your suffering doesn’t inconvenience them, and don’t let anybody tell you otherwise!
It’s ok to ask for help, it’s ok to point out if you’re hurt, it’s ok to have different or more extensive needs than others and if people try to shame you for that, the shame is really on them. Your comfort, your feelings, your safety matters as well, and even if taking care of you or changing some things for your sake is inconvenient for your loved ones, they’d surely rather have you safe and happy than a wreck lost to the status quo.
Do the relationships between letters change over time or are they static? Do they age?
Answer:
They definitely develop some, like I (the letter, not used as pronoun) used to think he was straight before he and H got together, but I don’t think they age. It’s weird to watch them develop over time because it’s like seeing people you’ve always known become someone else, even though they don’t exist outside of your head.
Yelling at me for not hearing them and/or having to wear my headphones is the funniest example of this like.. Cool your audio processing works right but are you nice to people (hint: no)
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