all those myths and legends you hear about uni professors being patient and understanding regarding human plight are true.
i was literally just feeling bad today and she totally gets it.
I once had a one-day hospital stay and confessed to my professor that I felt like I’d lost a whole week to exhaustion, and asked whether I could have an extension on my paper: she asked how long I wanted, and when I left it to her, she gave me five days “to give you back the week you lost.”
I once had a professor give me an extension that went all the way up to the day she had to submit my grades to the university all because I told her I was struggling
I think what a lot of people forget about uni/college is that YOU are paying to be there, and that gives you a lot more control over the whole situation than you think. Particularly if you’ve come directly from school and you still have the mentality that these people are adults who are supposed to tell you what to do because you’re a child. Most uni professors think of you as fellow adults who are paying for a specialised service from them, and will want to treat you accordingly (though they usually do keep in mind that many of you are very new to adulting and may need more guidance than more experienced adults)
Also want to add: they cannot help if you don’t ask. If you just don’t do your assignments or show up without speaking to them, you will fail. If you are having a tough time, find the professor you trust the most (or your advisor) and ask them to help you find solutions to your problems.
they cannot help if you don’t ask
One of my students contacted me recently about turning in her final paper- she wanted to know how late she could turn it in, because she was sick and couldn’t make it to campus. She’d turned in the online copy already, and because I knew she couldn’t make it in, I just printed it for her. Problem solved, no points missing for being late. I couldn’t have done that if she didn’t ask! Yes, some profs are jerks- but many are not. Lots of us just want to help.
Also, a double in STEM and humanities: science teachers always come off as scary and unapproachable, they’ll say “no excuses” “no exceptions” to the lecture, but I PROMISE the majority of them are only doing that because STEM classes have ALOT of students and unlike humanities a lot of them don’t actually care about the material and are only there to please family or to get a high paying job. If you reach out to them yourself, they’ll know that you’re serious about the course and that you aren’t underperforming because you don’t care but because you need help. I’ve braved many scary STEM professors who actually ended up being very nice down to earth people who are willing to compromise. Always reach out cuz the worst they are allowed to say is no.
my professor once said that they usually don‘t care about dates. Give them your paper within a week? nice. Within 3 years? nice. It‘s your responsibility and as long as you talk to them, it‘s all fine. Believe me, they know what uni is like and they‘re usually helpful af
When I was admitted to hospital last year for my mental illnesses, one of my profs went ahead and submitted a deadline extension request for me because I was too all over the place to do it myself. I didn’t even ask her to, she just did it after not hearing from me for a couple days. Uni is hard, but profs can be so soft.
yup. One of my profs told us that if we ever have problems we should come to her. one of my friends isn‘t even studying anymore but she still goes to my prof when she needs life advice