The duality of “If you even imply that being aro or ace condemns someone to a sad and lonely life I will fucking fight you”
“being aro and ace is the most isolating thing I will ever experience”
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“The thing is that when other people imply that being aro and ace must condemn someone to a sad and lonely life, they are seeing aromanticism and asexuality as the root of the problem.
They think that not having that ‘special someone’ in your life means it’s not worth living.
they’re showing pity for something they think you’re missing out on
When I talk about feelings of isolation caused by being aroace‚ I’m talking about the way our (western) society is structured, about how people drift off into their bubble, about how the older you get the less and less time everyone has in their day, and how your role as a friend automatically becomes lesser compared to other relationships.
I’m thinking about how certain emotional and physical connections are suddenly reserved for romantic relationships.
About the conversations I can’t really participate in and I sit there awkwardly knowing they find it weird that I’m not opening up.
I’m thinking about all the times I get hit out of nowhere with a throwaway line, reminding me that people think there’s something wrong with your soul if you don’t love like they do.
That they think a life like yours isn’t worth living. That’s the kind of isolation I’m thinking about.
Not me missing out on having a romantic partner.
okay done now sorry I’m feeling gloomy”