white people need to understand that not everything needs to be created for them or even needs to be consumed by them. white people needing to take whatever they can get out of an artist of color’s work is little phenomenon i like to call the colonialism of art. taking, for example — ocean vuong and how white tumblrites erased the discussions of race and immigration and imperialism through the vietnam war in favor of "soft gay yearning" when only a small part of his work reflects that.
taking, for example — mitski and her song your best american girl and how people keep talking about the first verse as the most emotional. i know that for me, as a daughter of immigrants, the line i cried at was when she sang "your mother wouldn’t approve of how my mother raised me, but i do, i think i do.“ how people keep glossing over the fact that the song is equally a message to her mother and every time she’s felt like she needs to connect herself with whiteness. how white people keep forgetting that it’s a song that would be sung to them as a critique of them and how they bring whiteness into their relationships in favor of her singing about not being quite enough — which in itself is a critique of whiteness.
taking, again, mitski’s song strawberry blond, which white people (yes, even the ones who aren’t actively on tiktok) turned into some meme about about a cow while completely ignoring its message about race. i feel like only other people of color and i are talking about how ironic and absolutely disrespectful to turn an artist’s work about race and their experiences in a white society while being white yourself. no person of color would do something like that while knowing the implications of the song on someone else’s experiences because they know how serious it is.
this is why i say that white people shouldn’t listen to mitski. it’s because they dilute her work and so many others’ works critiquing or telling about shared experience into something that they can feel ok with consuming (at which point the message is virtually useless) while still ignoring the fact that maybe the fact they don’t feel comfortable consuming it is because it isn’t for them.
white people can reblog but i’m not in the mood to hear your little comments, in the tags or otherwise.
Tik Tok and Instagram have a 1-minute limit on videos, Twitter has a 280 character limit… just maybe this has caused an uptick in people with short attention spans and and difficulty reading between the lines. Because if it does, it shows.
It also has greatly impacted people’s ability to think critically or to think at all, in my opinion. If you constantly just read slogans like “Make-up is empowering!” or “Sex work is work!” without finding out the reasons WHY some believe this, then how are you going to have a discussion with a person (or a group of people), who disagrees with you? That’s why so many mainstream “feminists” will scream about “choice” and “bigotry” and unfollowed and/or block you, when you ask them to defend their position. They’ve no arguments, because asking questions, discussing them with others, maybe finding out that you actually have been wrong and need to adjust your views, etc. is absolutely not encouraged in our culture nowadays.
bisexual people can make a post about bisexual history without even mentioning pansexuality or mspec and somehow people in the notes will still get angry and go on about how pansexuality is still valid. they clearly don’t actually care about bisexuals or their history, all they care about is keeping this single view of what they believe bisexuality should be and get upset at any history which discredits that
the way privilege is talked about at least in the united states is often divorced from historical power structures. it has also been corroded by neoliberalism. this is why mtv can make ironic commercials about white priv for some coin and be praised for some reason, as if the social reality of white supremacy from which white priv stems doesn’t kill people daily, and if all we do is merely “check” it, that means racism is over. what we know as privilege are societal results of power, thus white supremacy –> white privilege and so on. people are taught about privilege without being taught about supremacy/power and without learning the historical reasons and timeline behind why realities like white supremacy have been produced. you’ll see people compartmentalize privilege politics, treating them like checklists, which is how we get the erroneous idea of black men and white women being “equal.” even on tumblr you’ll see people say “white privilege is why white people aren’t brutalized by police in the capacity that black people are” when that’s a case of white supremacist capitalism at play, not privilege. there’s a reason why people are more comfortable with privilege politics rather than analyzing how we interact with and utilize power. talking about how white people’s identities have been made possible through white supremacy is a lot less fun to talk about than having workshops dedicated to whites checking their privilege and whatnot.
the american obsession with ur love being Witnessed is so sick like public airport confessions of love and restaurant proposals and everyone clapping when you kiss in movies that is so wrong and disgusting i don’t want a love that only feels real when there are witnesses present i want a quiet love i want to be kissed around the corner i want to feel content with my love when i am alone
Slavoj Žižek for Abercrombie & Fitch’s 2003 “Back to School” Catalogue
trying is enough. you didn’t just stop or quit. you put in effort. how much doesn’t matter. what matters is that you did at all when you could have chosen not to. you tried. and it’s okay if you didn’t succeed. it’s okay if it didn’t go the way you planned. it’s okay if you didn’t get what you were hoping for. because in every failure, every mistake, every regret, every heartbreak, every mishap, there’s a lesson. where there’s a lesson, there is growth. and where there’s growth, there is light. even in the most negative, dark, hurtful situations.