The gardener did not even introduce herself to the new au pair. She barely acknowledged her at all. Simply treated her as if she’d always been there. The others just assumed they’d already met, which, if she were honest, was how the au pair felt when she first saw the young woman.
im going to come out and say it: isolating is a self-destructive behavior. it might not be as obvious and immediately self-destructive as say, impulsive spending, drug use or risky behaviors, but it gradually decays relationships and can deepen your mental health issues. often, our impulse is to retreat from others and responsibilities for “self care” or to “work on ourselves” and obviously sometimes we need mental health breaks, but there’s a line you cross from “taking a break” to full on neglecting your relationships with others and your social needs that can be incredibly damaging to yourself and others over time