take a deep breath, sweetheart. you did the right thing, i promise you. i’m sure you did your best to try and improve the relationship, you tried to reason with them and ask them to treat you right, but they wouldn’t treat you with respect and so you took care of yourself by blocking them.
blocking toxic people is good. protecting your mental health is good. ending toxic relationships is good. what you did was brave, and i’m proud of you for having the guts to stand up for yourself. you deserve to be treated well, and enforcing your boundaries takes a lot of courage but it’s the right thing to do. you did a really good job, sweetie, no matter how awful it feels to have done that.
keep breathing, and try to distract yourself with something that makes you feel good. here’s the happy tag on my other blog, please go look at some puppies and let yourself smile.
stay strong and don’t back down if the friend retaliates, okay? you gave them a chance to do better, and now you have to protect yourself. that’s the right choice. you don’t need them. it’s not too much to ask to be treated right.
I am so happy for you!!! <3 <3 <3
It’s cleaning time again only instead of using just the faucet I decided to try the shower head instead. I left him like this for 20 mins while I cleaned out and scrubbed his cage.
I feel like Africa is playing in his head
Something I find incredibly cool is that they’ve found neandertal bone tools made from polished rib bones, and they couldn’t figure out what they were for for the life of them.
Until, of course, they showed it to a traditional leatherworker and she took one look at it and said “Oh yeah sure that’s a leather burnisher, you use it to close the pores of leather and work oil into the hide to make it waterproof. Mine looks just the same.”
“Wait you’re still using the exact same fucking thing 50,000 years later???”
“Well, yeah. We’ve tried other things. Metal scratches up and damages the hide. Wood splinters and wears out. Bone lasts forever and gives the best polish. There are new, cheaper plastic ones, but they crack and break after a couple years. A bone polisher is nearly indestructible, and only gets better with age. The more you use a bone polisher the better it works.”
50,000 years. 50,000. And over that huge arc of time, we’ve been quietly using the exact same thing, unchanged, because we simply haven’t found anything better to do the job.
i also like that this is a “ask craftspeople” thing, it reminds me of when art historians were all “the fuck” about someone’s ear “deformity” in a portrait and couldn’t work out what the symbolism was until someone who’d also worked as a piercer was like “uhm, he’s fucked up a piercing there”. interdisciplinary shit also needs to include non-academic approaches because crafts & trades people know shit ok
One of my professors often tells us about a time he, as and Egyptian Archaeologist, came down upon a ring of bricks one brick high. In the middle of a house. He and his fellow researchers could not fpr the life of them figure out what tf it could possibly have been for. Until he decided to as a laborer, who doesnt even speak English, what it was. The guy gestures for my prof to follow him, and shows him the same ring of bricks in a nearby modern house. Said ring is filled with baby chicks, while momma hen is out in the yard having a snack. The chicks can’t get over the single brick, but mom can step right over. Over 2000 years and their still corraling chicks with brick circles. If it aint broke, dont fix it and always ask the locals.
I read something a while back about how pre-columbian Americans had obsidian blades they stored in the rafters of their houses. The archaeologists who discovered them came to the conclusion that the primitive civilizations believed keeping them closer to the sun would keep the blades sharper.
Then a mother looked at their findings and said “yeah, they stored their knives in the rafters to keep them out of reach of the children.”
Omg the ancient child proofing add on tho lol
Sometimes the most mundane solution is the right one,
aka “it’ ain’t that deep”
There was that discovery of weird little gold spirals somewhere in Europe a few years back and archaeologists we stumped until one day someone was like “oh lol that’s fancy embroidery thread, we still use that today”. It’s super cool how experts support other experts, we stan interdisciplinarity!!!!!!!!
Inter-discipline knowledge exchange and experimental archeology is my JAM!
I remember how for ages certain old Roman hairstyles were just assumed to always be wigs until they showed an actual hairdresser and she was like “no that’s totally possible with ancient tech.”
Janet Stephens! Her Youtube channel is here. I love how she rechecked the Latin word that was being translated as “hairpin,” saw that it could mean “needle” or “pin” in other contexts, and decided to try out the possibility that those hairstyles were actually being *sewn* into shape.
This is a nice tweet.
In Judaism we have a saying that goes roughly “if you’re merciful towards the cruel, you end up being cruel to the merciful.”
A simple concept that mature adults understand, which is frequently obscured by the blinding twin suns of wealth and privilege.
So I say this as someone who used to drink too much, who has been sober for a few years: when Anne and I got married, we asked everyone who was coming to our wedding to pay attention to their consumption of alcohol, so they didn’t get drunk and sloppy and potentially cause a scene. Nobody caused a scene, but holy shit did a few of our friends get LOADED.
Maybe your brother is asking everyone who is coming, the same way we did, to just make choices that honor the expense and time that is going into the wedding?
He’s as smart and capable as anyone around him, but he doesn’t believe it, so he works extra hard to show the adults around him that he deserves their respect.
And he’s awkward as h*ck. Oh, so very awkward.
Wow this really took a turn in the second half.
Main Street in Stockton, California. 1960 mage from a postcard scan by ForwardLook at Panoramio. The back of the card reads: “Main Street, Stockton, California - One of Stockton’s Main Downtown Busy Streets” Pretty useful info.
This morning’s bedhead is not well rested.
Which do we believe?
If anyone here has ever wondered, and you probably have not, how i choose scans, you might imagine I look for the highest quality museum scans. I do. However, these are very often not available leaving us to catalogs and private photos.
Here we have a common problem at DR. Both of these scans are inferior. The lower on is superior in resolution but looks pushed in the contrast and the upper one is simply pretty bad.
All of this is well and good, we like to see everything we can from our hero and will accept less than stellar scans in order to view unseen work.
But the color, oh, the color…
How are we supposed to make a judgement on the color? We already know flash photography and museum lighting greatly affect the perception of Rothko’s colors. Without some in context museum shot of this 1961 painting, we are in the dark.
I have no answers but offer this:
I have posted both of these scans originally not even realizing they were the same painting, as the colors were so off. I believe the answer is somewhere in between the two but favors the upper blue and pink version. I arrived here two ways, and here’s my mild detective work:
The source of the upper scan originally is unknown to me, but I have seen an even lower res small scan that looks similar in color. It is much more muted in contrast,but that makes sense because the upper scan looks very pushed in terms on contrast, something people often do online to make up perhaps for low light monitor calibration. Seeing the same color scheme in two scans, for me, helps verify a color palette. This is by no means flawless but it does mean two people took a photo that looks similar.
The lower scan is something I would normally believe as it came from a book on Rothko, but there are caveats. The book is old and contains a few paintings I have seen really good scans of. Case in point, a work displayed at SFMOMA and recently sold through Soethby’s has given us some really well taken versions of that painting. In the same book the lower scan came from, that painting is exceedingly dark compared to everything else I have seen, leading me to believe that the photography or likely the quality of the printing of that book had a certain color profile that is not accurate.
This is a tough one and of course, I don’t really know. But there’s the evidence as I can gather it so far. The top scan, in terms of color, is the more accurate, if overly bright.
A collection of Disneyland concept art. Most of them should be obvious—image 7 is from a proposed Garden of the Gods attraction, circa 1960s. Image 2 is a sea serpent design for the Submarine Voyage. The last image isn’t concept art, it’s from the 1982 EPCOT Pictorial Souvenir (I couldn’t find a place for it so I’ll just put it here).
Image 6 I’m not sure actually: it could be anything from a poster sketch to parade art. Late 1960s/early 1970s?