There’s an art to making terrible tumblr themes. Pick unreadable fonts, low contrast and tiny boxes that don’t fill the screen. Bonus points for getting rid of heart buttons and confusing navigation. Finally try to avoid having your posts shared by anyone or your posts will show up consistent and readable in the dashboard.
The way it moves!! Majestic!!! Mythical beast!!
I love moths, for the beautiful beasts they are. Also, I hate moths, for how they eat my food and my clothes. Actually, I love moths especially because of that.
Anxiety is like being tied to a table with a blindfold on and there is a knife hung above your stomach. You know the string will eventually break, you just don’t know when and you can’t see it happen. You just have to wait for the sound of the string breaking and inescapable pain of the knife plummeting through your stomach.
My reaction would be more like: I know at the back of my head there’s something deadly that I can’t see which might eventually kill me, but that hasn’t happened yet and either I’ll figure it out in time or there’s no sense in worrying about it anyway.
I seem to have this natural awareness of people’s helplessness. Was chatting with a few people in a pub and suddenly felt how one of them was distressed because the other person was oblivious of insulting them. On the one hand I could jump in being understanding and becoming their new best friend, on the other hand I didn’t really care for the drama.
I don’t particularly care if I die tomorrow except it’ll probably be an uninteresting death like being hit by a car because I miscalculated how fast it was going. Like, if I were immortal I could do so many fun things without considering the consequences of fatal injuries.
I have the capability to be extremely patient which apparently makes me a good listener. But sometimes I wonder, why bother? What do I get in return? I feel like I’m not seeing the point these days. Being nice is not paying off. And being an ass is actually kinda fun.
The Langley, Virginia, Starbucks is one of the busiest in the world. Located inside the CIA compound, it is also the most secretive.
The baristas go through rigorous interviews and background checks and need to be escorted by agency “minders” to leave their work area. There are no frequent-customer award cards, because officials fear the data stored on the cards could be mined by marketers and fall into the wrong hands, outing secret agents. [x]
I wanna do one of those “if you’re lgbt put your orientation, sign and favorite tool in the tags” but I know most of The Gays have never touched a tool on their life. I’ll be left with 15 lesbians, one gay dude and a handful of bisexuals and they better all be tagging screwdrivers
Eh. Doing it anyway.
If you’re lgbt put your orientation, sign and favorite tool in the tags”
Because you can’t fit into society without it. Imagine a situation, I’m your surgeon, you got a serious surgery coming up and I gotta talk you through some details. Now which way would you prefer, the one where I calm you down, assure you that I’ll do everything in my power to help you and save your life, OR I’ll say that I’m a good surgeon, but I wouldn’t really give a shit if you die or not and that the whole thing is just a way for me to train my expertise? Pretty sure that 99% percent of people with take the first option.
If there was a god.
[God creating people with ASPD.]
“See that cute innocent child? Ruin his life.”
Jesus, why the fuck would yo-
“Also, make him socially awkward.”
What?! why are you doing thi-
“Give him a reptiles brain and replace a majority of his empathy with mayonnaise.”
God, look we can’t replace his frontal lobe with mayonnaise.
“Well, what can you do?”
Well.. We can decrease the activity in the frontal lobe and pour in lots of trust issues.
Regret is the feeling of when you are caught by the police and you wish you could turn back time to have avoided this consequence.
Guilt/Remorse includes the acknowledgment of doing something wrong and you feel bad about the consequences.
Ex: You steal a woman’s ring to pawn and you know it isn’t right (guilt). When you discover that the ring was an engagement ring and that the couple can not afford another, you wish you could turn back time to prevent the harm you caused them (remorse).
Guilt and remorse I do not feel (In general- folk with ASPD do not feel guilt or remorse).
Regret Is a bit tricker.
The closest to the feeling of regret that I can define, is a thought process. This process is usually a inner conflict if whether my actions were the best course to take- in other words “Did I get from point A to point B?” If not- “What could I have done differently to get to point B?”
It’s a confusing and inner monologue of arguments.
It’s not exactly regret, but instead a critical thinking process.
I can acknowledge something that I did was not right to societies standards, but I don’t get that gut feeling of ‘oh no I’ve done something wrong.’ It’s more of ‘fuck- if I did a,b,c actions, I would not be facing this possibly avoidable consequence if I did x,y,z actions.”
I have felt regret, but in the sense of that I got caught.
I have almost brutally beat the living hell out of someone and I don’t feel a twinge of regret.
The only thing I do regret about this situation is that the person didn’t learn their lesson and is still breathing- but I mean what are ya gonna do. The world keeps spinning.
Shoutout to the imaginary person or creature that used to run alongside the car when you were a kid. It was so good at parkour.
I had a shadow dancer. A creature that was around the size of an auroch that would jump to shadows, and was made of shadows itself.
For me, it was my white dragon.
It’s always so irritating when people want an explanation to what I say. Like you know I’m right just accept the information I’ve shared with you.
Whilst I’m inclined to agree, there’s two reasons an explanation may be worth the effort. First off you can be wrong no matter how certain you are based on statistical performance or ego. Further more you may value that they take in your statement and thus benefit from delivering it in whatever way best allows them to agree with it - be that a thorough explanation or a perceived emotional component.
Alyssa (via ecmshock )
That’s when you find out who your true friends are. Seen it happen more than once. So many people will be easily pulled away from you that you’re baffled how superficial they are and how little they trusted you in the first place.
Literally everyone will ask if you broke your leg(s). Everyone. Even people you don’t know. Theyll ask a lot and think you’re extremely fragile.
bruises show up within the first day of rolling around, and they can really suck
people will try to grab your chair if they think you’re struggling and it can be hard not to snap at them for it
static electricity is a huge issue. You will probably either continuously shock your leg when you’re rolling around or do what I did today and zap someone so hard as you pass that both of you nearly keel over
people will call you out as a faker if you do anything even remotely fun ever on your wheelchair. Wheelies? Obviously your legs are fine lol not like you have to go down fucking curbs /s
puddles are the worst and if there’s a curb with a puddle all around and you have some ability to walk its a better idea to just stand up and navigate the chair than to fall backwards into said puddle
weird looks from people are inevitable, especially from people who don’t like you
bus drivers will often push your chair and give you advise you don’t want to hear, even if you tell them nicely you can push yourself. Its really hard not to get mad at them for it
no wheelies in school. Though if you do it in the elevator when no one else is with you you can’t really get caught.
speaking of wheelies, always be ready to throw at least one arm behind you in case you fall. They say tuck your chin in but its easier and more reliable to throw your hands back and keep your neck up so you don’t hit the floor. Sore arms are way easier to put up with than head injuries
don’t even bother to try and roll back up curbs. You will either be there for an hour or fall backwards. I managed to do both.
90% of classrooms that aren’t special ed are not very wheelchair accessible.
people will automatically assume you’re faking something if you’re not considered dumb enough in their standards to fit in with disabled students (aka high class ableism at its finest)
people are going to give you weird looks if you don’t suddenly start sitting with the other disabled kids
standard backpacks usually dangle way too much to keep on you easily, so try to pack light
built in storage on wheelchairs cannot sufficiently carry books
don’t try to hold an umbrella. Period. Especially not with your teeth. It doesn’t work.
don’t try to give the bus driver your ticket while you’re stuck on the ramp. And speaking of, its easy to start falling down the bus ramp so be careful, and when in doubt throw on the breaks
and finally if you’re like me pray to god you don’t go nonverbal when someone is trying to push you and you don’t want them to because it is hard to get them to stop if you can’t speak
able-bodied people can and should 1000% reblog this, some of these things I’ve seen on tips about using a wheelchair but a lot of these weren’t things I’ve seen
Sucide is really self defence cause you are killing the person trying to kill you
This made my mind boggle just a little bit as it tried to make sense of it - from the perspective of logic it’s certainly true as much as it is pointless in terms of what self defense means so long as the person is aware of the fact they are choosing to do this to themselves.
Sounds like me. Most likely because I don’t realize it. And even when I do I wouldn’t see the point of a big and messy showdown.
I would actually find it more entertaining to override whatever decision is being made. Stop the train in time, change the switch, go faster.
I really think hospitals and doctors that work with pregnancy and pediatricians need to make more literature available for how to, ya know, work with kids? Because the more conversations we have about spanking (and how it’s ineffective and harmful and does more bad than good), the more I realize that a lot of people don’t know the alternatives. Or like, anything about child development or where misbehavior stems from.
So, as someone who went through childhood development classes in college, works with kids for a living, and knows multiple people who specialized in childhood education, here are some pointers when you are working with kids:
1. Model emotional response for kids. Children are learning how to recognize and respond to their own emotions. All the way up through high school, children’s brains are still developing, and the emotions they are learning to process become more complex. So with really young kids, the easiest way to help them with this is to model emotional self awareness and self care.
- “Oh wow, mommy is feeling angry because the cat made a mess. I’m going to clean this mess and then go sit in my room in the quiet for a short break so I feel better.”
- “You know, I am feeling very sad about not going to the park because it is raining. I bet some hot chocolate and a book would make me feel better.”
- ”Huh, I’m feeling kind of cranky and hungry, but daddy won’t be home for dinner for another hour. I bet I’ll feel better if I eat a little piece apple while we wait.”
2. Understand what causes child frustration and work to preempt it.
- -Transitions (from one activity to another, getting in the car, etc) can be stressful, especially if the activity or location they are leaving is fun. Give kids a warning when this is going to happen. With young kids, give them about 5-15 minutes of warning (”10 minutes until we are going to leave the park and go home. Do your last thing.”), with older kids, just give them a time frame. (We are can play at McDonalds for 30 minutes, but then we have to go grocery shopping, ok?)
- Not being able to communicate what they want to is frustrating. Babies can learn simplified baby sign language months before they are verbal. Kids may not know the words for what they are trying to say. Be patient and help them find the right words. On a similar note, don’t ignore kids. If you really can’t respond to their question right away because of something else, at least tell the “Yes, I heard your question. I’ll answer you as soon as I’m done talking on the phone.”
- Not being able to make choices or having too much choice can be overwhelming. Give kids a limited, reasonable selection of choices. “Do you want apple slices or juicy pears on the side for lunch?” is much better than “What do you want with your sandwich?” or just giving them apple slices. “Do you want to give grandpa a hug or a high five?” is better than demanding they hug grandpa right away.
3. Understand that kids are people to. They will get hungry, tired, an annoyed just like adults do. Sometimes you have to be flexible and give them time to self care. Talk to them, explain things to them, let them be people and not just dolls. “Because I said so” is really unhelpful for a growing kid. “We can’t buy Fruit Loops today because we are already getting Frosted Flakes. We only need one cereal at a time.” is going to do you a lot more favors. “Don’t pick up the glass snow globe. It belongs to grandma and can break easy. She would be sad if we broke it on accident.” is better than “don’t touch that.”
And look, no parent is perfect. No baby sitter, no teacher, no care taker is going to be awesome all the time. And no kid is going to be perfect. They will cry and have tantrums, and not be able to tell you what they need, and be stubborn sometimes. Sometimes they need space, or quiet time. Sometimes they need attention and validation.
But kids learn from every interaction they have, so adults need to make the effort to show all the love, and patience, and empathy, and thoughtfulness we want them to learn.
This is great, but it still doesn’t explain how to punish a child that has misbehaved. What are ways to make the child learn consequences in a way that doesn’t create more problems?
I think in some level “punishment” is the wrong approach. The goal is to have happy functional children that will become happy functional adults. So after misbehavior, the goal should be to take steps to not repeat that misbehavior again. This depends a lot on the behavior in question, what caused it, the kids age, etc.
Like, a 5 year old melting down in the grocery store because they are bored and tired is “misbehavior”, but what they need is to be removed from the stressful situation and maybe some emotional modeling so they can express their discomfort more appropriately next time.
A 13 year old who has lied about their grades is “misbehaving”, but why are they doing it? Are they truly struggling and embarrassed to tell you? Maybe their punishment is that they need more help on homework or they have to go to tutorials.
A 7 year old who pushes her sister over on the playground and laughed is misbehaving, and she probably needs a time out and to talk about how her actions have hurt others and practice apologizing.
Like, there are lots of ways to address misbehavior that isnt hitting a kid, ya know?