I feel alone whenever my GF enters a “tired” episode
TLDR - GF is good being on her own. Whenever she tells me she is moody/tired she likes her own space. This moody/tired episode can last quite some time. I want to try to be there for her physically and emotionally but I feel like she doesn’t give me the opportunity to.
My GF and I (F) live 15-20mins away from each other. We see each other once a week (if possible) and sometimes if I am lucky, I’ll get to see her more than once a week. She’s been busy working 5 days a week and doing online schooling 2 days a week. She is an introvert and with work, it really drains her. She is the type to need to sleep for a couple days to regain her energy.
At the beginning of COVID, we went through a rough patch. She was unemployed for the first 3 months of the quarantine period. Just like a lot of “distanced” couples, we utilized technology to keep in touch. Here is the problem. Unlike me, my GF is not the type to be glued to her phone. I’m on my phone 24/7 and will respond ASAP. She’s told me that I’m the only person she texts regularly. Prior to dating me, she would possibly respond to her friends’ messages every couple of days (unless it was something urgent). She values her own space and time a lot. Her being so good on her own is something that effects me.
As the quarantining period went on, I felt her being more and more distant from me. Eventually we talked less and that’s when I confronted her about the problem. Fast forward to June and we talked everything out. She told me that at the beginning of quarantine she just got so used to being on her own (she lives with family) that she kinda didn’t know how to do this whole “distanced-dating” thing. She just forgot how to be in a relationship while she spent all that time away from me.
It’s hard when our relationship relies so much on texting/FaceTiming and when those things start to diminish, I start to freak out. Every time I’ve told her how I feel sad whenever she is tired or in a mood, she just tells me that I have to understand that she’s incapable of doing anything whenever she is tired. It sucks because I miss her so much and not talking to her just kills me on the inside. Whenever she is tired and sad I just want to be physically there for her but she pushes me away. I can’t even be with her through the phone. She just closes me off whenever she feels a tad bit negative and it’s making me so sad.
I love her so much and I don’t want to lose her. But this is something that I personally have been struggling with and that’s being there for someone I love so dearly when they are so emotionally closed off when they’re feeling sad/tired. I want to be able to give her her space and not overthink the whole situation. Anyone got some tips as to how I can handle myself?
It’s amazing how a disagreement within a marriage can take away the “Bless you” when you sneeze, the “Everything okay” when you hear a thump or fall. Steal away the “I love you” that day. Deprive you of a kiss that’s filled with the medicine you need to fight through the evil of the day.
How do two people who sacrificed sleep just to hear each other breath on the other end of phone reach the point where that same breathing irritates ones very being? How?
How is it that someone you once felt physically sick when they weren’t in your presence, presence sickens you? How?
Why does the affection feel forced because one or the other wants to be able to say they fullfilled the Love Language quota for the day. Why?
What happened to effortless love? Huh? When the love bank was filled not by forcing an action but by loving your companion so much that you instinctively just made the cup runneth over.
If I would’ve known I’d feel so dismissed and that I’d bring so much dissatisfaction, man, I would’ve bottled up the butterflies, taken more pictures of the “looks”…..you know the ones that made you feel so special, that “I’m enough” feeling. I would’ve delighted in his arms longer.
I watch new love happen for others, consistent love remain for some, and I wonder how to steal the feeling from them, just a little bit. I just want a little bit to numb my running thoughts and pain from not doing or being enough.
This level of the game is tough, because you analyze your steps, realize your mistakes, and wonder how much damage is done. I’ve heard about this stage, but never thought I’d be living in it. Us? Naw, our love is stronger than that. You see, he blesses me when sneeze, comforts me when I fall, tells me he loves me at the most random moments and kisses me so passionately he makes me invincible. Our love is stronger than The Motions. At least I pray it is😔
Sokai Day 4 7/8 AU Day (Destiny 2 AU)
Sebastian’s first known relationship was with Gossip Girl costar Leighton Meester. The relationship lasted for just over 1 year from 2008 to 2010
His next relationship was a 9 month relationship from 2011 to 2012 with actress Diana Agron
Sebastian’s next relationship lasted just over 1 year from 2012 to 2013 with Once Upon a Time costar Jennifer Morrison
He then dated Russian actress Margarita Levieva for a year and a half from 2014 to 2016
Sebastian is currently dating Spanish actress Alejandra Onieva as of 2020
We do that Bird Call 🐦 📞
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