There is a difference between loneliness, heartache, and depression. Depression is an epidemic sweeping the world right now, especially amongst the last and present generations. (Gen Y and Z). So many people are diagnosed and medicated for it, and most teenagers claim they have depression. Of course, it isn’t uncommon for teenagers to have it. The raging hormones and other issues, on top of the solutions thrown at us from social media, make it almost impossible not to be depressed.
However, so many people confuse loneliness or heartache with depression. I have watched girls older than I am posting pictures of themselves crying, talking about how depressed and empty they feel. This all changes once they catch a man’s eye. All of a sudden it’s a sweet romance that “will never end.” Then the inevitable happens, and it ends. Then the cycle starts all over again.
In this blog, I want to explain that loneliness and heartache are not depression; they are simply emotions that have very simple solutions. Both are emotions I have dealt with and sometimes still deal with, so believe me, I know what it is like.
Personally, I have a very hard time making friends. Most people who share my interests and are willing to put up with my crazy self… are boys. Boys that develope crushes on me, and the friendship goes downhill, very fast, since it’s hard to catch my eye. This has caused me to feel lonely. I feel lonely when I do actually want to go out and do something fun, then realize I have no one close enough to where I live to actually do something with. It’s lonely when I want to go on trips and have no one willing to do so with me. It’s lonely when I want to talk to someone (outside of my family) and have no one. Believe me, this was my teenage years up until I was eighteen.
Loneliness happens to everyone. It’s inevitable; there are going to be times when we feel alone. It is in those moments, I believe, that we truly know God. Those are the times when we should be putting our happiness into His hands, instead of relying on others. Those are the times when we can feel Him the most. This isn’t depression. Loneliness is not depression. It is a state that can easily change, if we take the time and effort to change it, that is.
Heartache is fun. So much fun. I don’t know about you all, but I physically feel heartache. It sucks. I have this ache in my chest that won’t go away, no matter how many bottles of soda I guzzle down, no matter how many songs I listen to distract me. It hurts, it really does. I am certain we will all experience this in our lives. Heck, even Disney princesses felt heartache at least one time during the course of the movie. Sure, for them it always worked out while some of us… are stuck. However, again, This is not depression!
Did you know a person can have heartache and still be happy? You may not feel, well, jolly as you go about your business. But if you rely on God, the joy that comes with it will get you through it. It is once again choosing to rely on God, and not on our own strength. Placing our happiness in His hands, instead of on the shoulders of those around us.
I will testify to this. I cannot say I have things figured out; as of late I have been rather a mess and hurting over someone. I suffer from depression (the actual mental disorder) on top of this. However, the difference is; I have lasting joy. Why? Because while I’m in love with someone I cannot have at the moment, I have also fallen deeply in love with my Savior. I long for Him, and I love Him in ways I didn’t know were possible. This love of Him, and the want to serve Him, gives me joy, and it is a joy I carry with me everywhere I go. It gets me through the heartache, the depression, and anything else. There are times when I fall into severe bouts of depression, and my prayer life falters (sometimes crumbles) and I lose sight of who it is I am focused on. But I know that He will receive me with open arms, and I know I could never stray away from Him for long at all.
Happiness is a surface emotion. It isn’t deep, and it isn’t always there. Joy, however, makes all the difference. Joy is the solution to loneliness, and it is the key to getting through heartache. Joy that lasts, and that joy is only found in one person; Our loving Lord and Savior.