As heteroromantic asexual I don’t get sexually attracted to anyone, and maybe I just don’t know what I’m missing but have you ever been asexually turned on like holy shit you’re just crazy about the whole person’s physique and their hair and their voice and their movements and their charisma and just any physical contact or just intimate situations make your heart race and you either can’t breathe or you’re hyperventillating and shaking and sweating and just DAMN SENSORY OVERLOAD, I fucking love a THRILL
Hey I usually try to stay positive, or at least light heartedly negative, in my posts but I wanted to talk about this.
I just reblogged a post wherein I added my experience with asexuality and religion, but I just kinda want to add to it
Basically what I said is that there is a cultural pressure to get married and have babies and… that’s it. Nothing more nothing less, literally. A lot of christian folk despise anyone who isn’t cishet and that doesn’t stop when it comes to asexuality.
I am out to two queer friends. That’s it. I can’t imagine how much of a hellscape my life would be if I was fully out to the people around me. People around me see a straight christian girl, and I hate it, but it’s what keeps me safe. I honestly can’t wait for when I get the hell out of dodge.
Some people might not get this. Like “oh, you’re ace? That’s a basically like celibacy on crack, religious people must love that.” Nope. Nopety nope nope. They do not. Refer back to “cultural pressure to get married and have babies”. (Not saying that you can’t be ace and still want children and marriage and all the such, it’s just not what I want)
A lot of ace people are told that there is something wrong with them or they “just haven’t met the right person yet”. And you know what? It is decidedly not fun to constantly have yourself or you sexuality degraded and invalidated.
I don’t mean to offend religious people with this (unless you’re a raging bigot, then you can go fuck yourself right off a cliff) this is my view based on personal experience, but I do at this point in my life bare a lot of resentment towards christianity for the way I was brought up and the culture I am currently living in. I am constantly surrounded by sexism, racism, homophobia and general bigotry that is largely influenced by religion.
I know there are churches who accept queer people and that is absolutely amazing, but that doesn’t help me in my situation.
What I have to get me through things is my one friend, the internet, and the knowledge that I can one day get away from all of this and be myself.
When I was 15 I overheard a conversation about how much sex people thought me and my then-boyfriend were having. I was mortified.
Now at 27 people assume that my mostly asexual polycule are fucking all the time? I don’t bat an eyelash.
Character growth? XD
Rose Nylund from Golden Girls is asexual. And there’s not shit else there is to say about it.
She said that before she was married she never really thought about sex. And when she lost her virginity, she didn’t really understand sexual desire. And she calls Blanche a “hypersexual bitch,” which i cannot wait to fucking call people whenever I’m upset too. 😂
It shouldn’t surprise me that spongebob is asexual, but like, learning that he is canonically asexual, and has been since the creator announced it back in 2002, stating that he is neither gay or straight but in fact asexual, has me fucking shook. I’ve never been the biggest fan of spongebob bc I just didn’t like animated shit as a kid, but like, I’ve never felt more fucking validated. Knowing that one of the most fucking popular kids’ character that’s as old as I am, is fucking ace, has me up the rails.
My psych professor: *talking about how everyone will experience sexual attraction and it’s part of life*
Do I actually have a crush on this girl or is she just the first pretty girl that came along after I figured out my sexuality
My boyfriend just sent a picture of him from the shoulders up and said “I’m naked,” and my asexual ass said “Hi naked, I’m dad.”
Sonia knows what’s up.
I’m kinda getting real sick of allosexuals telling it me really doesn’t fucking matter that a character is asexual. Common sense will fucking tell you it’s because representation matters, so the people being represented fucking care and it matters to them. Like, please stop fucking telling me it doesn’t matter. Or it’s just a fucking character. I’m really fucking sick of hearing it. And of course, once again, it’s Xavier.
He called me to his room to show me the YouTube animated pilot, Hazbin Hotel, but I’d told him I’d already watched it because so many people kept telling me to. And he asked me what I thought about it, and I told him it was pretty interesting and that I liked that Alastor, the radio demon, was asexual. And before he could try to tell me that he wasn’t like usual, I told him that the creator confirmed that he was asexual last year on National Coming Out Day. I only even found that out cause when I finished watching it and realized there was only one episode, I went to tumblr for something to do and came across a post on my dashboard with Alastor on an ace flag, so I googled it to see if it was just a head canon or actual canon, and it’s actual canon.
As usual, Xavier seemed annoyed I’d bring it up and told me he didn’t see why it mattered. And I told him it mattered simply because it did. And he just continued to repeat that it didn’t matter. You’d think by now, with him knowing I’m ace, knowing how important any kind of representation is to me esp pan or ace rep, with him knowing how important representation is in general since he’s also a poc, he’d stop being an ass about it and telling me it’s not important or he doesn’t see why it’s important and so on. It’s important simply because it fucking is. Like. I’m so tired of explaining it. I don’t understand why, even if there wasn’t a valid reason for it, why something can’t just be important or matter because it’s important to someone in your life. It’s both important to me and a lot of people and just important for a lot of reasons. And I’m just so tired of people trying to tell me why it’s not.
I hate that I always forget things like this. I’ll forget my nana is homophobic until we’re just hanging out and she says some real fucked shit and it’s like a slap in the face. I forget that Xavier has his own fucked up beliefs and cares little about how I feel about my identity and representation until I get excited coming across new characters that represent parts of me I’m used to never seeing and he just dismisses it as unimportant or tries to tell me that they’re not ace or whatever other identity. It’s just endlessly frustrating.
Friendly reminder that your label is valid. Nobody can challenge that. Nobody can disagree.
You are valid. Your label is valid.