Shouting at the void in hopes in screams back
So I recently binged read the “top” of r/idontworkherelady in reddit and I see similarities in entitled peoples behavior, I just thought I’d share this and maybe someone knowledgeable will see it
The list goes as this
-refusing to acknowledge they’re are wrong when pointed out that a person does not work in the establishment. (Even when a manager tells them)
-insists that person works here
-insists upon logic that you’re wearing a uniform or they they have seen you work there before
-repeats the phrases “you’re lying” “you’re just lazy” (especially after saying “I don’t work here”)
-customers are important to the point they’re basically like “king” or “slave master”
-bodily harm and invading of personal space is acceptable
- bodily harm and invading personal space is acceptable when they talk back to you.
“I hit her because she shouted back at me!”
“She didn’t respond so I hit her with a shoe.”
-lying about knowing higher-ups
-threatening calling the cops
-over-all shitty behavior
there wasnt much praise.. /follow through in my early life.. so i found …in connecting with people .. friends and dating, I put a lot of faith in the things that were said..specially when they made me feel happy…. but would get confused when there wasn’t follow through, or consistency… but i thought thats how it was supposed to be since it happened so often from the people i spent the most time with(who i learned all kinds of modeling from), early on…naturally it became ingrained: believing that things SAID to me meant someone cared….. then people wouldn’t DO the things they said, or BEHAVE the total opposite… i didn’t understand..a few years ago when I got into working with children, I found how important and valuable follow through is, in particular bc it has to do with trust.. of course some super shitty shit had to happen first, but NOW I pay a good lot of attention to how people act… Yes, their words still matter.. to a degree, but the bit I focus on most .. is what do they DO after those words or perhaps even before..the words are said.. and what is the intention…. Yes, their words still matter.. to a degree, but the bit I focus on most .. is what do they DO after those words or perhaps even before..the words are said.. and what is the intention….. then… i think about consistency..
It took in all honesty most my young life to figure out how it REALLY is true, ACTIONS speak louder than WORDS..
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Gonna send this to a maybe friend. But I needed advice. Please if you have time, thoughts ?
You know I’ve been trying to feel better about my feelings, maybe hoping that my still feelings of anger would just subside and go away cause emotions are like that. But pain isn’t like that. I just keep thinking about what you said, with not wanting to suck up to me in giving me the apology that I wanted because you’re not that kind of person. But part of me still feels like you don’t get it.
Part of me wants to just get over this and be friends again. But another part of me is still hurt. I keep thinking about how the last conversation we had before you said those terrible things to me, you told me you were having problems with your ex-girl. And you told me you had to call me back and you literally ran all the way to her dorm just to straighten things out. Then u called me back.
I just keep thinking about that, how for someone you’re with, you could do that for but not for a friend, a “best” friend at that. You say you’re not that person but your actions showed otherwise.
Part of me is still figuring out where I want you to be in my life. I would like to have what we had before but im not entirely the same person you used to know. I’ve changed a lot and learned to embrace my complexities and limitations. And part of me can clearly see that you’re going through a lot of changes too. And trying to grow. But I just can’t say I trust you rn. I just don’t want to be another crutch to you because you’re missing the intimacy you used to have with me and may just want your friend back. I don’t deserve that.
Too many people believe that simply saying sorry one time should suffice when you have hurt somebody’s feelings or crossed a boundary. And often people apologize to give themselves peace of mind. We think healing works like legal fees, like if you hurt somebody’s car, you have to pay the damages once then its over. But the truth is, there no one itemized way to heal emotional costs. Healing takes time. And part of making amends is putting in the action to rebuild trust and reaffirm boundaries to apologizing more than once never hurt.
And for me, its not just about an apology from which I’m bothered. It’s also about the lack of not even asking me or wanting to discuss at all what kind of actions and behaviors are preferred when things like this happen. You say it’s not a waste if you learn from your mistakes, but you never shared what you learned outside of needing to be “a little bit more understanding.” I don’t need little, I’m a big girl.
I’m always open to discussion. I’m always open to change. But are you?
Let me know.
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