I dipped into knowing ourselves and using that knowledge to navigate our futures. Even our day-to-days.
I dipped into advocating for ourselves and never settling… for less than what we need. At the risk of losing who we are.
Lemme drill down into all that a little more from our personal experience.
We’ll start like this:
We’ve been turned down by jobs that would’ve been completely wrong for who we are. We’ve worked at jobs that were completely wrong for who we are. And, thankfully, we’ve turned away work that was completely wrong for who we are.
It’s been the same deal for our volunteer efforts on behalf of organizations. We’ve been turned down by organizations that would’ve been completely wrong for who we are. We worked for organizations that were completely wrong for who we are. And, thankfully, we’ve turned down offers by organizations that were completely wrong for who we are.
Before we were married, we committed ourselves to people who were wrong for who we are. We committed ourselves to people who were toxic. We were turned away by people who were wrong for who we are. And, thankfully, we avoided people who were completely wrong for who we are.
Okay so what’s the big deal about those experiences?
Quality of my life.
Quality of Kimmer’s life.
Quality of our lives together.
Because when you jam a square peg into a round hole… things don’t traditionally go well. In fact, chaos often ensues. And not in a good way.
Because the straight-up best times in my life, in her life, and in our life together are and always have been with people and jobs and efforts that lined up with who we are.
One more time:
The best times in our lives.
And always have been.
That lined up with who we are.
Because when it all lines up based on us, based on her, based on me… we are our best selves. We are absolutely badass.
And during those times people or jobs or different efforts we undertook didn’t line up with who we are…
It was an absolute mess.
It was chaos.
And we were diminished.
No joke. They tell you that thing about For Better Or Worse for good reason.
You wouldn’t believe the number of people or jobs or efforts that suck the life right out of you. That suck the life out of the relationships most important to you.
So yes. HECK yes.
Knowing who you are is key.
Navigating your life based on that knowledge is absolutely your way forward.
And always always always advocating for what you need?
That’s your future.
life is so wild but the universe really be out here guiding me and encouraging me
P.S. idk when I’ll find my true mans but I know I will when the time is right and when I’m actually ready. Until then I’m just actively working on myself.
Does it pass the Bechdel Test?
How many female characters (with names and lines) are there?
Four (57.14% of cast).
How many male characters (with names and lines) are there?
Positive Content Rating:
General Episode Quality:
Starts slow but ends delightfully.
MORE INFO (and potential spoilers) UNDER THE CUT:
officially ripped the bandaid off and I’m truly alone relationship wise, no “situationships” or anything
P.S. that shit hurted
I’m trying really hard to be the best version of myself, but there’s one thing that’s holding me back and it’s a bandaid that I really don’t want to rip off even tho I’m constantly getting signs that show me it is time.
P.S. i haven’t worn a bra (with the exception of sports bras at the gym) in over 2 years
Remember that time Tahani was like “What if we just out-Karen the entire universe?”
and then everyone else was like “lit”
Okay idk who needs to hear this but GET IT TOGETHER, GIRL. You cannot be sitting here, scrolling through tumblr and eating a 75% air bag of chips when you have a WORLD TO CONQUER, A DAY TO SEIZE, A LIFE TO LIVE. “buT iTs qUaRaNtInE ⁱ CaNT dO anYtH-“ bitch shut up. You have a device. You can read. Learn a new skill, get fitter, even just clean your room. Anything that makes you feel like you’ve bettered yourself. Nobody becomes their best self overnight. It’s small steps. And now, more than ever, is the best time to take them. I believe in you. Now go drink some water you dehydrated queen.
Am I seeing DOUBLE? 🧨😳
Pretty things I’ve heard people say irl
What are you DOING today to be BETTER?!
sometimes life is just holding onto your best self as society tries to corrupt you.
No, I am not dead. I just fell tremendously ill, was hospitalized, and then just got lazy.
It is the last month (technically the last 2 weeks) of the year. And since 2019 went just slightly above average, I decided to make this December sort of my ideal capsule mini-2019. Before 2020 hits, I want to already be on my way towards my best life. I don’t want to start on January 1st. I want to already be there and step into 2020 well equipped and ready to live the best year yet.
Half way through December, and yes I have failed so far. But, not anymore. Starting today, I’m making the next 15 days my ideal mini-2019 so I can welcome 2020 already feeling my best. And, as a part of this, to make myself accountable and stuff, I’m going to write a little post of all my daily wins everyday leading up to the new year.
I’ve written down all the little things that would make my day an ideal one. I’m not talking the heavyweight stuff. Just little things like waking up at a consistent time everyday, spending 10-12 hours studying, spending some time everyday being active and in nature, developing the habit of meditation. These are a few of the little things that would leave me feeling good at the end of the day. Make a list of some of your must-do’s, and figure out a solid chunk of time in your day for these things, and try and do it every single day. And don’t forget to include at least one self-care item everyday to make sure you find your balance in each day.
All the best to anyone who’s joining me in this, and a lot of luck to myself lol.
See you tomorrow night.
I hope today helps you feel like your best self!
i visualised my best self and started showing up as her.