The one where Cas is clearly Dean’s Alpha, any idiot can see that.
In which Dean and Cas use their words, and their bodies, in varying combinations
I’ve had a lot on my mind the last four days. You told me to talk to you when I’m not okay.
Last night, I did. I told you how I don’t like my life, minus you of course. How I hate that my job entails me sitting at a computer doing nothing for a majority of the day. How I just wish things were different. How I look at everything good in my life and feel like I’m faking how I’m feeling even though no one but me knows.
You went into fix it mode: write out goals, find a new job, let’s go do something together because a huge part of your problem is that you’re inside.
I told you flat out: goals don’t work for me as I honestly can’t be one hundred percent positive that I’ll even be alive in a year, that I won’t be able to find a job that pays good like this one.
You continued to give me options, asked me what I wanted to do as a career. I’m not sure. Then you told me that I needed to figure that out, and walked away.
I called you back because I wasn’t done talking, and I needed you to know that I’m not okay.
You told me that if I didn’t like my job, find a new one, see where I can go with this one, figure out what I want to do as a long term career. And that you’re sorry that I feel stuck with the company I’m at.
I said quite gently that that wasn’t what I said I felt.
You apologized, said that we’ll discuss it later when you’re not so tired, because you had a slight panic attack four hours before.
I simply turned over in bed, and put my back to you.
You asked if you upset me.
I lied and let you know that you hadn’t. That I was just tired. Threw out an I love you, too.
I woke up this morning to find that you had stayed up all night. So much for being too tired to talk to me.
What’s the point in even trying to talk to you when you get distracted by the animals or when you don’t even listen to what I’m saying?
As far as you know, if you ask today, I’m doing fine.
So, it was my first time someone ever said ‘I love you’ to me. But I replied to it by texting,” Wait, I am not ready yet.”
Well I knew we added each other at first to be in a relationship, but I wanted to know her well. So I didn’t said much at first. We talked for two days and then it was 14 February, ‘ The Valentine’s Day’ , the day of couples. The first thing I asked her on that day was if someone had asked her out for a date. She said no. Then I asked her that what would you do if I ask you out to be my date. As we were far away from each other and there is nothing much we can do on chat, she replied that we could talk more or that she will send me cute stickers or something like that. I thought it was the right time and also it could help me know her better, so I asked her out to be my date only for valentine’s day.
We talked more on that day and shared cute stickers as far as I remember. I found out that she was really sad because she had a break up a few days ago and that she didn’t eat properly since her breakup and wanted to die and there was a lot more, but lets keep this description for the next chapter.
To be continued…….
Want your voice heard but you’re feeling ignored? Watch the interactions of these terns.
Reminded me of a client who gets so disturbed when her husband can’t hear her questions when he’s engaged in an activity whether watching sports, shaving, or working. Like the seabird, she gets in his face but is still ignored. She feels devalued and it upsets her.
Have you experienced this selective hearing in your relationship???
#communication (at Naples, Florida)
Funny Communication Gap Game - Abservetech Private Limited
The Pandemic has caused a complete disruption for businesses. This disruption caused a lot of confusion in the minds of the customer. A buying decision is made only when the customer is confident and thus Business Communication is the need of the hour.
I never realize that I’m saying something mean to someone when it’s not intentional. Even if they tell me that I hurt them I don’t get it.
And I tend to think that because something’s true, then it’s all right to say it. It isn’t; people don’t wanna hear it.
Although I know that, I cannot stop myself from saying exactly what’s on my mind.
There’s no filter. People are so sensitive.
Tbh, I don’t have the will nor patience to walk on eggshells around others to avoid hurting their fucking feelings.
I’d rather avoid them completely. It works just fine.
I cannot keep people away for too long, though. It’s just not possible.
I often think about leaving towns and cities, and just living by myself in a cabin in the woods. Away from everyone. Peacefully.
I might end up doing that.
yo, can someone help me out here?
ok so ive been texting this guy i have in one of my college classes. since schools online and we dont do zoom for this class ive never actually met him or talked to him. the only interaction we have is through text. the only reason we have each others numbers in the first place is because we had to work together on an assignment.
anyway we text on and off. its no big deal, just casual conversations about class or something.
my problem is idk if hes flirting with me, if he wants to be friends, or if he doesnt really wanna talk to me at all. i have no interest in being involved with him in any way at all, but he initiates all the conversations and keeps them going and i dont wanna be rude because im stuck working with this dude for the rest of the semester. its just that sometimes he seems interested in me in some way (idk what way tho) but then he abruptly ends the convo by just liking one of my messages.
this isnt a big deal but it is a bit irritating, mainly because it feels like hes always in control of the convos and whatever the hell kinda relationship this is and i dont have any say. like, i get that people dont always wanna talk but im not the one who starts talking, i just go off what im given. i also get that i can control if/when i reply. i mainly reply because i dont wanna be rude, but also because im bored and curious as to how the convo will go. but i still feel powerless when a conversation is supposed to be equally balanced if that makes sense
i also feel like i might be making this a bigger thing than it is, idk
if anyone has any advice on what to do, if anything, that’d be great, id appreciate it
Health Communication and Social Media – Covid-19
Rising the use of social networks is one of the most far-reaching effects of the COVID-19 pandemic. Apart from conventional newspapers, which are the primary generators of social networking in crisis situations, person identities have arisen sponsored by social networks, which have had a similar effect on more niche communication media. This is the premise of the study presented, which focuses on health connectivity and is based on a simulated ethnography approach using social indicators. The goal is to understand the relationship between the general public and digital media , in particular through interaction measurement. In this respect, a quantitative analysis has been carried out that explains this problem over a span of six months on three social networks: YouTube, Twitter and Instagram, with a population made up of specialist health media vs healthcare practitioners. The results point to a new communications model that opens up a new space for agents whose content has a degree of engagement comparable to and even exceeding that of digital media specialized in health communication. The conclusions show that the crisis of the pandemic has accelerated the transformation of the communication sector, creating new challenges for the communication industry, media professionals, and higher education institutions related to market demands.
Without a question, the study of the present realities of connectivity is concerned with the perception of any phenomena as a result of its effect on social networks. If the most common activity in the 20th century to locate information was to sit in front of a TV, purchase daily newspapers, or listen to radio newsletters in the 21st century, it is more common to type search words into an internet browser on any device — smartphone, mobile, computer. Social networks have become constant networking channels that link almost half of the world’s people , making them more solid and in direct competition with the networking and journalism as players in the information-communication process.
Their influence and dissemination around the world have turned ‘homo videns’ into 'homo socialis,’ and the importance of these events needs the attention of modern communication processes. The phenomenon impacts half of the world ’s population. According to the We are Social Report, a total of 3.8 billion people are linked to social networks, with an annual average increase of 13 per cent from 2017, which means an average of 363 million new users of social networks each year. If the January 2020 study reported an improvement of 7 per cent in the use of the Internet in global terms relative to the previous year, i.e. 298 million new users, the rise of active users of social networks grew by 9.2 per cent compared to the previous year, which suggests that 321 million additional users connect on the networks.
Thus, if the 20th century was characterised by the great communication empires and news organisations that controlled the information world — Murdoch, Reuters, Havas, Associated Press, EFE — in the 21st century, the mastery of data falls to the major technology firms. The health crisis has brought to light the hegemony of those who have perfected the flow of knowledge across the major media networks, subdued the communications sector, overwhelmed by a saturation of knowledge, and expected a revolution in the advertising business model. As behemoths of big data and gatekeepers faced with an avalanche of false news that started to circulate on the internet thanks to COVID-19, great technology firms responded. Conscious of their ability to reach and effect, the seven most important corporations in the sector — Facebook , Google, Twitter , YouTube, Microsoft, LinkedIn, and Reddit — published a joint statement on 17 March 2020 in favour of a mutual commitment to eradicate misleading and deceptive knowledge and to endorse the content of health-related government channels and authorities around the world. In these seven giants, it is important to remember that Google owns LinkedIn among its various platforms, the YouTube network, and Microsoft acquired LinkedIn in 2016, so that the amount in concentration is currently limited to just five big corporations.
The rapid growth of Web 2.0, which has been converted to 3.0 with the advent of artificial intelligence and big data, by the use of algorithms that optimise the media menu of consumers, contributes greatly not only to dramatically transforming the consumption of content in all fields and in all domains of expertise, and especially health-related information, but also to amplifying the abibiology. Its ability to attract viewers simply de-thrones the conventional media in the fight for viewers or in the sale of the written word. Although it is true that the simplicity with which information is conveyed in these contact spaces makes them the target of false news and hoaxes, it is no less true that their ability to access viewers has resulted in the emergence of skilled, specialist outlets whose function as information providers has been beneficial and genuine. Thanks to social networks, skilled staff from multiple sectors have had the ability to deliver vitally valuable knowledge to the population, in place of some other institutional agency or communication media, and in a more straightforward way. Here lies the importance of the present study, which analyses some of the key profiles of health communication since the COVID-19 pandemic, as far-reaching social trends and valid alternatives to the flow of information – communication since times of crisis.
In the context of the study of social networks , new related concepts have arisen that give philosophical support and abstract meaning to the phenomena, in order to clarify the number of users that the networks pull together around individual profiles. The exacerbated desire to seek information when confronted with a crisis situation produces an inconceivable anxiety for awareness, and this makes it easier to connect with health providers who have a presence through social networks. Commitment, as a semantic interpretation of the phenomena, means a massive follow-up of particular profiles and, from a psychological point of view, an immersive and co-creative experience as a reaction to a stimulus (in this case, the COVID-19 crisis) with respect to an entity, i.e. a profile that becomes a communication – information referent.
One of the most important emerging topics identified in the literature on social media is, without a doubt, interaction as a psychological incentive that results in the act of following. Its research takes us closer to the model of connectivity that comes from the online world. This model is particularly interesting in a situation that sees the inflexion point of a new contact domain in the exchange of producer-consumer and medium-audience positions.
The engagement research has been interpreted from a number of viewpoints as a multi-dimensional concept that describes various forms of commitments and has become particularly relevant with the spread of connexions across social networks. According to Barger and Labrecque, four separate degrees of participation can be formed in social networks, taking into account the level of involvement of the user: (1) the observer — content is consumed but there is no interaction or purpose to follow; (2) the follower — content is consumed and the following profile that produced it begins, with the first degree of interaction seen as the follow-up active user moves to a second level of participation in which not only does the user ingest content posted and follow the profile, but also regularly engages with likes, retweets / reposts and comments; and (4) advocate — this is a higher level of involvement in which, apart from following and engaging, content is generated and posted that supports the profile or company that is being followed. It is in the sense of the last two forms of interaction that the present analysis examines the study of audiences in social networks and the creation of metrics, with indices focused on the features of each social network being analysed.
One of the key findings confirmed by the study proposed is that the transformation of the media flow into digital and global operation, available to all actors, suggests that conventional connectivity is no longer unique and this has been illustrated more than ever by the health crisis brought on by COVID-19. The condition has been reflected in the key role of social networks as alternate or parallel spheres for the exploration of knowledge and the consumption of material, as previously discussed in other works. The evidence from this analysis supports this notion, leading us to believe that, considering the fact that the specialist contact channels analyzed were involved in social networks, with an average number of 121,252 tweets, the followers’ attitude displayed an average similarity of 149 points below that reached by health professional profiles with half the number of tweets released. YouTube evidence also confirms this observation and pattern, but it is more prominent: relative to the number of videos posted by health-based contact channels, 20,483, with an average of four comments, the health professional profiles, amid the 72-fold decline in the number of videos released (281), earned an average of 300 comments.
Pérez-Escoda, A., Jiménez-Narros, C., Perlado-Lamo-de-Espinosa, M. and Pedrero-Esteban, L.M. (2020). Social Networks’ Engagement During the COVID-19 Pandemic in Spain: Health Media vs. Healthcare Professionals. International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health, 17(14), p.5261. viewed 29 October 2020.
[A white fortune cookie paper with black text on the front and red lucky numbers on the back. Front: Soon you will receive a letter from a loved one. Back: 4, 6, 16, 25, 28, 30]
Reader x Henry Cavill, Reader x co-star named Dan
Warning: This tale is for 18+ readers ONLY!!! Mentions of flashbacks: (rape, anal sex, non-con sex, abuse), severe bruising and injury, mentions of suicidal thoughts, depression, humiliation, and some fluff to make us feel better. Smut comes later on in the story… Several chapters down the road… I promise!!!
If ANY of the warnings upset you or make you uncomfortable, DO NOT read below the cut! go find something else to read in this case.
If you are okay with reading those things then enjoy the tale below the cut.
Feedback and reblogs are appreciated. I do not own Henry nor do I have any personal knowledge of him besides what is common knowledge amongst the Cavillary. Any mistakes and typos are mine, story is not beta-tested. GIF I got from the tumbler search thingy.
When the two of you get back, you quietly shrug off your jacket and shoes and hand the jacket to Henry to hang up. He turns and looks down at you. You’re staring at the floor, shoulders sagging and looking as broken as he is sure you’re feeling. He reaches out gently and caresses your arm. “What do you want or need right now, Kitten. How can I help comfort you?” he asks.
You look up at him with
glassy, sad and bewildered hazel eyes. He always loved your eyes. They always
held so much expression, and they were unique, like his. Yours seemed to hold
every color. The outer edges of your irises were a dark blue fading to gray,
the middle of your irises were a mix of green, amber and blue with little
flecks of brown and the inner edge around your pupil was a dark brown. Your eyes
would change color, he noticed, depending on your moods and what you wore or
the background behind you. Sometimes your eyes looked blue as the oceans near
his childhood home, sometimes they were a stormy grey, other times green as the
fields back home in the springtime. Right now, though, they held only sadness
and pain and bewilderment. They looked pale blue and damn near broke his heart.
Je veux que ça soit simple.
Que tu me dises ce dont tu as envie.
Je veux de la communication.
Je veux être rassurée. En confiance.
Je veux être libre. Et savoir que tes sentiments sont réels, vrais, stables, ancrés.
J’ai ma gorge qui me démange.
Il faut que tout cela sorte.
Je veux te faire l’amour.
Et si tout doit s’arrêter avant que tout cela ne soit réalisé alors je me pardonne et je vais de l’avant.
COMMUNICATION - Alex Firstov
“I’d come to realize that all our troubles spring from our failure to use plain, clear-cut language.”
― Jean-Paul Satre
Gift Giving, as a love language, has a bad reputation just now, both as a reaction against materialism and because takes less effort than the other four to fake.
By ‘fake’, I mean a thoughtful and well-chosen present takes time and consideration (or lucky coincidence) to find, but an Expensive Present can be picked out with little consideration and then the giver can make a big deal out of how they got the recipient Such A Nice Thing and guilt the recipient for not being Appropriately Grateful …
But really, any love language can be used against someone.
The five love languages are Quality Time, Acts Of Service, Kind Words, Affectionate Touch, and Gift Giving
Quality Time: wanting to be in proximity to the other person; seeking out pleasant things to do together; seeking opportunities to communicate when separated. “Want to hang out?”
Acts Of Service: doing something that makes the other person’s life easier and more pleasant; taking care of something the other person wants done, such as common chores; helping them with something difficult or time-consuming or boring. “Let me take care of that for you.”
Kind Words: saying nice things to and about the other person; complimenting their skills, inviting and participating in conversation about their interests, verbally expressing appreciation for their presence. “Nice job, you worked really hard on that.”
Affectionate Touch: hugs are a classic for this one, but it could be leaning against someone in a shared seat, ruffling their hair, patting them on the shoulder, or other small gestures. “Do you need a hug?”
Gift Giving: noticing things that are to the other person’s tastes and acquiring them; remembering things the other person has mentioned wanting or needing; being inclined to forgive debts if they can; making things for the other person. “No, you don’t have to pay me back, it’s my treat.”
There is often overlap. Giving someone a massage, for example, is an act of service that involves affectionate touch and quality time. Someone whose love language is gift giving, faced with loved ones who actively do not want More Stuff, might decide to arrange an outing together (quality time) or do a chore for someone else (acts of service) as a gift.
A deep and healthy relationship involves a mix of love languages rather than being based on just one thing.
Quality Time: pushing company on another person; asking in a hurt voice “why don’t you want to spend time with me?” if the other person expresses that company is unwanted; monopolizing someone’s time so that they don’t have opportunities to interact with different people.
Acts Of Service: purposefully doing things ‘for’ someone that the other person would rather do for themselves; expecting exorbitant gratitude for every single action. “You know, you could be more grateful for all the things that I do for you! You’d be helpless without me looking after you!” Alternately, demanding the other person constantly do things for them. These can overlap.
Kind Words: lavish praise and flattery when the speaker wants something; passive-aggressive compliments and ‘suggestions’; giving the silent treatment when displeased. Dramatically serenading someone or reciting poetry at them can fall under this if it’s being done to show off how romantic the singer/reciter is, rather than because the one being serenaded/recited to actually enjoys it. Constantly asking for praise and reassurance can be a deliberate manipulation of this love language, but can also be a non-malicious sign of insecurity.
Affectionate Touch: clinging and refusing to let the other person break contact; alternately, depriving someone of touch unless they comply with demands. I reblogged a great post a few years ago about how this was used in Tangled, with Gothel rebuffing Rapunzel’s attempts of physical affection except after giving a signal that it was “allowed”.
Gift Giving: lavish and expensive presents selected to show off the gift-giver rather than based on how much the recipient will like them, usually to create a sense of debt (in direct contrast to the basic concept of giving a gift) or further the giver’s reputation to an audience. (Like sending their spouse flowers at work so the spouse’s coworkers will think they’re romantic.) Going the other way, constantly helping themselves to the other person’s possessions without permission or apology, because “we’re so close you won’t mind me borrowing this”, and not returning things they ‘borrow’.
Quality Time: “You’re so needy, wanting other people around you all the time.” (That said, I think this love language probably has the best reputation right now.)
Acts Of Service: “Doing one little nice thing for someone does not entitle you to their affection.”
Kind Words: “Talk is meaningless if you don’t back it up with action.”
Affectionate Touch: “You have no respect for personal space.”
Gift Giving: “You can’t bribe someone into liking you.”
Sometimes people are uncomfortable with a love language, and this can lead to conflict, distrust, and other interpersonal friction, even without anyone being actively manipulated. For example, I do not like being touched, so I would be unlikely to become close to someone who has affectionate touch as their primary love language.
This started out as just me being a grump about how gift giving gets a bad wrap as “shallow” and “manipulative” and how that’s frustrating for me as someone for whom that’s my primary love language, but I think this rant is bringing up some good points about writing relationships, so:
You can create drama between characters by using the different love languages.
Exacerbate a miscommunication between the Teenage Protagonist and the Well-Meaning Parent Who Just Doesn’t Understand by having one suggest they hug it out (Affectionate Touch), trying to reconcile, while the other party thinks they’re trying to deflect or ignore the issue of how they never spend more than a few minutes together anymore (longing for Quality Time).
Two coworkers get assigned to a project together. One makes friendly overtures (Kind Words), but the other is short-spoken in response. Sure, they’ll bring the coffee every day (Gift Giving, Acts Of Service) but they aren’t interested in chit-chat. The Kind Words coworker thinks they’ve gotten stuck with a grump who doesn’t care about solid teamwork. The Gift Giving coworker thinks they’ve gotten stuck with a chatterbox who doesn’t care to focus on the task at hand.
A group who often exchange Acts Of Service among themselves end up with a fiercely independent new member who thinks the rest are being condescending for offering help and needy for asking for it. (Like when Toph first joined the cast in Avatar The Last Airbender. Katara suggested some ways Toph could help out, to try and help her feel more included in the group; Toph interpreted Katara as pushy and bossy; Katara interpreted Toph’s attempts to prove that she wouldn’t be a burden on the group - itself an intended Act Of Service - as a refusal to perform mutual Acts Of Service, and therefore a rejection of Katara’s overtures of friendship.)
Also, any of the love languages can set up a “friendliness mistaken for flirting” scenario.
The Pandemic has caused a complete disruption for businesses. This disruption caused a lot of confusion in the minds of the customer. A buying decision is made only when the customer is confident and thus Business Communication is the need of the hour.
Do You Deliver A Good Vocabulary With A Punch? At Home? At Work? With Friends? Good Advice From English
“As I appear on the stage and start to pour my effective vocabulary and punches into the audience, the good show begins,” said English Tang (鄧英敏), one of the most celebrated masters of ceremonies in Hong Kong. He continued, “Speaking well requires skill and an eye for detail. It is composed of 4 elements: substance, reasonableness, orderliness and vividness. If your words do not live up to any good substance, they will be dismissed as poppycock! The points expressed must be reasonable. When they are not, nobody would place any faith in what you said. Controlling a conversation properly is also important and so you need a list of orderly points to be presented. Somewhere, things must be attractive and vivid while you convey in words. There are no un-interesting things, only un-interesting people.”
Tang, after graduating from high school, worked in Hong Kong Television Broadcast as an actor in 1974. He said, “I did not act too well at that time but I was very well-spoken, smart and funny. Both my boss and tutor told me I should be a master of ceremonies. I listened to them and became the host of TV shows. That changed my life. Now, I am an old broom which still sweeps clean. Its incredible! I have been doing the job for more than 40 years.”
I asked, “I know you wrote books on the art of using language with fluency and aptness. I wonder if you could provide some practical tips for us in our day-to-day life?” English was very ready, “Firstly, let me tell you what to do in a workplace. Always be sweet but not too sweet. You have to talk warmly, supportively and responsibly. Responsibly means being honest and helpful. The truth may sometimes disturb your superior or colleague but you still have to communicate sincerely. In the long run, you may not gain their full liking but surely their respect and trust.”
I looked into more, “How about at home?” English chortled, “Getting along with family members and handling relatives do not need a good speech. One should convert his speech ideas into caring behaviours. Let them feel that you are always ‘staying-in-the-loop’, ‘ready-to-talk’ and ‘willing-to-help’. My mother-in-law is in her 90s. She used to live in Kowloon City with a domestic helper. I did not really talk to her on a daily basis. She recently fell sick and I immediately invited her to live with our family. She has limited mobility and I push her in a wheelchair to catch some rays in the balcony. She did not utter a word of strong affection but simply shows a smile of appreciation of kindness.”
I was amazed, “How do you talk well to friends?” English paused a while, “There are 2 types of friends: friends and business friends. Someone suggested this: a friendship founded on business is better than a business founded on friendship. Pure friendship is for fun and not for any ulterior motive. If you make friends for a concealed reason like monetary exploitation, you will be a traitor. Be easy with friends. You talk as much or as little as they want you to. You should not discuss religion, politics or personal life unless your friend is totally comfortable. When you talk to someone and the conversation often dies down, it may imply you are not cheerful enough. For business friends, the gist is not sweet talk but sincerely helping each other.”
True eloquence consists of saying all that should be said will be effectively said, without irrelevance or long-windedness. Do not be afraid to lose a friend if your talking does not work. Some ‘friends’ will forgive your clumsy style and accept you provided that you fit their expectations. The great meaning of conversation is communication and not communality—it is sometimes wonderful to shut yourself down and stop talking to anyone for days, at least not talking just to please a friend or secure a relationship.
【English Tang’s talk show - Acknowledgement: Cupid Producer】https://youtu.be/NB0K_EoINAg
【Interview of Mr. Chow Yung Fat by English Tang - Acknowledgement: friend of Mr. Tang】 https://youtu.be/FVospSoNjmE
【English Tang’s music video - Acknowledgement: Double One Production Co. Ltd】https://youtu.be/Gi9v8RjTS4k