Opening Up To People - 17/06/2021
What helps me open up to people about my Mental Health and Emotions:
Feeling like they won’t judge me for it.
That they won’t look at me differently for telling them.
That they'll be able to offer some reassurance / advice / just listen / words of understanding / empathy.
They won’t trivialise my struggles / feelings.
They won’t invalidate my emotions.
They won’t see me as weak or not coping.
They won’t make dismissive comments.
They ask questions to gain a better understanding and show they’re interested in knowing how I feel / what I'm going through.
They don’t automatically pass me off saying go to counselling / helplines etc. These are obviously incredibly helpful and there's always a time where this advice is important but sometimes you just want to talk things through with some you can trust. Of course if you don’t feel you can talk to anyone then therapy and helplines are crucial and incredibly important.
They show empathy and understanding but don’t pity me / feel sorry for me.
They give realistic and helpful advice or ideas on how I can help myself.
They thank me for opening up or telling them things.
They recognise the importance of small achievements of how things feel for me.
They really hear what I’m saying which is actually different to just listening.
They understand and see me for who I am.
They are honest with me about it being okay for me to open up to them.
They show kindness in their approach when I open up.
They ask me how I really am in a way that isn’t just a polite ‘How are you?” They want to know if I'm not okay. They want a real answer.
I feel like I can trust them which is obviously hard to explain but it’s sometimes just a feeling.
I often find it harder to open up verbally face to face. I am better at expressing myself through writing. I have people in my life who I can talk to in person about things but it can still be hard for me.
They support me through the tough times and celebrate the good / achievements. This is important I feel.
These are just a few thoughts on what makes me feel like I can open up and talk to people about more personal things. I will write about this in more detail about specific topics like opening up about Grief, Anxiety, Self Harm, OCD and others. I feel like somethings are more difficult to open up about than others for me.